Do You Have These 6 Limiting Beliefs?

You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.” ― Stephen Richards, Think Your way to Success: Let Your Dreams Run Free

6 Limiting Beliefs That You Should Change Today

go do somethingWhen we are kids there is no such thing as a limiting belief. Everything is possible. There’s a fat guy that brings us presents once a year. There are superheros that fly around with capes fighting crime. And becoming a professional wrestler is a legitimate career option. But then something curious happens.

The world begins to tell us otherwise. Somewhere around 11 or 12 years old we begin to see the boxes shaping that society would like us to fit in. The fat man in the red suit is long gone. Superheros are now for kids. And wearing a suit and tie is suddenly a better option than the wrestling outfit. These boxes our so drilled into our culture that most of the time we forget to even ask if they’re real boxes or not. Are they there? Or are they made up by someone else? These boxes are limiting beliefs, and they don’t have to be your reality just because they are someone else’s. These are six limiting beliefs that you should change today.

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I am not smart enough.

Yes you are. You’ve just had someone or something lead you to believe otherwise. Sure, we all have some sort of genetic level of intelligence that has been gifted to us. But that represents a very small margin of our overall intelligence. Being “smart” is a product of learning, studying and practicing a small handful of things, and becoming the best you can be at them. When you become really good at just a few things, you become incredibly valuable to a person or a company that needs those talents. You don’t have to be a genius. You just have to be the smartest guy or girl in the room at something. I’m too inexperienced.

So is everyone else. Some of the wealthiest entrepreneurs in the world are in their 20′s. They were young and ambitious enough to not care if they had experience or not. The only way you gain experience is to jump in with both feet, and being inexperienced is a blessing. You get to approach problems with a naive eye, which can lead to solutions that more experienced people wouldn’t have thought of. Own your inexperience, and know that creativity and hard work will make up for what you lack in years.

It’s too late for me.

Some of the most popular authors in history never wrote a novel until they were in their 60′s or older. Some of the most successful entrepreneurs never tasted success until they failed well into their 40′s or later. The only time it’s too late for you is when you’re six feet under. If you’re not there yet, it’s not too late. Start now.

I can’t be happy until…

You can’t be happy until you stop thinking like this, and just choose to be happy. If you allow your happiness to depend on an object or a person, you are letting something outside of your control dictate your happiness. Take that control back. You will wake up happy every single day when you wake up grateful for what you do have, instead of wanting something more. It is a choice. Choose happiness.

This is who I am.

This is who you are…this very second. Who you are a minute, a day, a year from now has yet to be decided. We are evolving beings, constantly being shaped by our experiences, our knowledge (see point #1), the people around us, and our approach to growth. Who I am today is very different from who I was a year ago, and dramatically different from who I was 10 years ago. Much like happiness, you can choose to allow your life and experiences to wash over your, leaving you much the same. Or you can choose to allow them to shape you, to drive you into the next and better version of yourself.

I’m too busy.

I’m too busy…to workout…to start my side business…to give my time…to be a parent. No excuse in the world has been used more than “I’m too busy” and it’s the biggest scapegoat ever invented. If you truly believe you are too busy to pursue your dreams, ask yourself what time you wake up. Ask yourself how much time you spend on social media. Ask yourself how much time you spend clicking refresh on your email. Ask yourself how much time you spend watching your favorite television shows. Ask yourself how much time you spend watching the evening news or reading your favorite websites. When we are honest with ourselves, we realize we are not too busy. We just haven’t made our dreams a priority in our schedule.

The boxes we are nudged into by society are invented by someone else. The people in this world that find enormous success, incredible happiness, and love the lives they live recognize that these boxes are not real. They shatter these boxes, and all of the sudden the world is a wide open playground, ready to be explored. The boxes are limiting beliefs. But they are only limiting if you believe they are there. That can change today.

Michael W

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What’s Holding You Back?

Too often, people get stuck in a state of over-thinking, the result is that they never reach a decision.”
― Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

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Limiting Beliefs – Are They Holding You Back? by Kim DeYoung

image2You have the best idea, great marketing strategies, and effective systems in place, but you still feel stuck. You can’t get any momentum. If this is the case, limiting beliefs may be holding you back…

My definition of a limiting belief is something that you believe to be true about yourself (that really is not true) and it prevents you from moving forward as you’d like.

These limiting beliefs have been internalized, often times from childhood. You believe them to be as true as the sky is blue and the grass is green. That’s how you function in the world. It’s not until you challenge that belief and focus on a more conscious level that you can see it isn’t in fact true at all.

Let me share with you an example of a limiting belief that held me back for years.

I am a big believer in collaboration…but that wasn’t always the case. When I was a little girl, I was constantly told how important it was that I be independent and self-sufficient. My father loved telling me all the great things I could do as an independent woman from travel to business adventures.

As great as many of his messages were, they ironically held me back. For many years, I was so focused on him being right, which meant I must be independent, and not let others in to provide support. I was a one-woman show, as if to be anything less would have been a disappointment. I even had an old boyfriend tell me he felt like I could live on a deserted island!

Now, as I’ve gotten older and wiser, I’ve been able to examine how this belief doesn’t serve me and let it go. That means I can now delegate, partner and reach out to others.

When you work on your personal growth you will undoubtedly see your business grow exponentially. I know for myself I have experienced this time and time again. Every single time I clear through some of my own issues, I surge forward. It’s as if the limiting belief was a noose around my neck holding me back.

Here are some limiting belief examples that can really affect women in business.

Have you ever found yourself thinking…?

– I don’t know enough.

– I can’t do this.

– Who would want what I have to offer?

– I can’t earn as much as I’d like.

– I’m not motivated enough.

– I’m not as good as the next person.

– I don’t really deserve to make money.

Identify your limiting beliefs.

I’ve found that the first step is tuning in to your unconscious mind and listening to what it’s telling you. For example, many of us struggle with the belief that we can’t earn money because we haven’t earned it in the past, that’s a limiting belief. The result of this belief is most likely you’re going to make it a reality by not earning money this time around either.

Many times we are unaware of our limiting beliefs. My friend Gina Bell of Networking Masters and JV Mavens gave some great advice on identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs.

Gina shared that although we can’t always control the negative inner chatter, we can recognize it for what it is. She recommended writing or journaling as a great way to flush out the limiting beliefs that we might not realize exist in our own mind.

Shift your limiting beliefs into supporting beliefs.

Once you’ve identified any limiting beliefs, that awareness allows you to shift the energy into beliefs that serve you. You can shift the energy that was sitting in that negative belief into something new – something more positive and supportive. The thing that I found so empowering was the realization that when it comes to beliefs, we get to choose them

Gina provided four tips to shift your limiting beliefs:

– Tip 1: Surround yourself with people who already believe in you.

– Tip 2: If you find it difficult to overcome certain beliefs, hire a mentor or coach to guide you through the process.

– Tip 3: Protect your new beliefs by limiting contact with “dream stealers.” Dream stealers are those negative people who are just waiting to burst your bubble.

– Tip 4: Commit 100% to developing whatever knowledge or skills you need to develop and strengthen your believability to the point where “Success is a done deal.” Go the extra mile.

These tips really do work. Thinking back on my last year in business, they’re precisely the things that helped me shift away from my limiting belief and let go of my need to be a one-woman show. I now realize that my business doesn’t need to be all about me.

When I first launched my business, it was MY brand; I was putting myself out there in a public place. Now, after lots of personal growth work, I am comfortably delegating to a very committed team of amazing people who support me behind the scenes. I’ve brought on “experts” to share their brilliance and offer a broader range of information to my community. I am collaborating with other special mom entrepreneurs with the vision that together we can do something much more amazing than any of us on our own. I see that the real gift is – not my independence – rather how I can use my gift of being a natural connector to harness the power of so many other wonderful women.

As I’ve cleared up limiting beliefs, taken action regardless of my fears, opened up to new possibilities and stepped up, doors have opened. We’ve been hearing a lot lately about the Law of Attraction, that our thoughts create our reality. We have the power to change the quality of our thoughts and re-tell our story.

If you’re not getting what you want and your external world is not the way you want it, then I encourage you to examine what might be holding you back and let go of limiting beliefs. You’ll be amazed at the results.

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Kim DeYoung is the original metromom—a driven, evolving woman committed to her family, her career and achieving success on her own terms. Also known as the “Get It Done Girl”, Kim is the dynamic and creative force behind Metromom.com and The Metromom Entrepreneurs Association. Metromom is a comprehensive resource for the busy mom entrepreneur, providing solutions on marketing, money, mindset and motherhood.

Metromom is more than just a brand. It’s a tangible extension of Kim, reflecting her passion to give women the information and hands-on support they need to take action. At its core is the power of connection, like-minded women connect online to provide each other with support, great ideas and business opportunities. Kim also regularly connects her community with leading business, mindset and motherhood experts.

Kim never regrets leaving a career in the fashion industry to design a work/life balance on her own terms and she’s thrilled to help other women do the same. It is now with complete clarity that she combines her experiences in business, coaching, implementation, connection and parenting to offer women the resources and support they need to achieve the lifestyle they desire.