“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”

~ Judy Garland

When you meet someone do you show that you have self-confidence or do you come across as someone who is not too sure of themselves?

The article below gives some advice on how to show self-confidence to the outside world.

Convey Self Confidence – Gain Respect – by Ian Russell

Has anyone ever said to you… push your shoulders back, puff your chest out, get your chin up – if so you have heard a few of the popular expressions people use to stimulate someone into making a good impression. These expressions indicate how important our bearing and body language are in imparting who we are to the world. If you are fortunate enough to have been brought up in a family with the means to enroll you in deportment and elocution lessons, these would have taught you how to carry yourself with elegance and poise thereby conveying an air of self-confidence to those around you. It is more likely, however, that the majority of readers, and indeed the writer, did not reap the benefits of lessons in etiquette. While you don’t have to speak like Queen Elizabeth to convey confidence, body language and intonation is important and here is why.

There is a lot of truth in the old saying that first impressions count. In fact, within just 5 seconds of meeting someone we will already have formed a judgement that will affect our behaviour towards them. It definitely isn’t easy getting ourselves noticed in this hectic modern world and when this is applied to a job market which is progressively more competitive, making the right impression can make or break your chances of having a successful interview or business deal.

Where to start? In a moment we will look at what not to do, but firstly let’s make ourselves aware that self-confidence is a form of strength and that is why it is so attractive to others. Bearing that in mind, try to portray yourself in a way that avoids you looking inhibited or vulnerable. Some examples of this type of body language are: hanging your head, slouching your shoulders, or avoiding direct eye contact. These particular actions imply to others that you have a problem with self-belief. Whether it’s for an interview or a business deal, you don’t have to be Einstein to see that people won’t believe in you as an ‘investment’ if the investment does not believe in itself. Correspondingly, in your personal life people will immediately pick up on the signals you give. Given that, what should be your plan of action?

The opposite of the examples given above should be first on the list – holding your head high and standing with your shoulders back are both confident gestures. But the most important signal of them all is eye contact. Maintaining eye contact while speaking and listening generates a sense of familiarity, resolve and sincerity between yourself and the other person. If I told you that a recent survey asked a group of venture capitalists what they looked for in a successful pitch and that the top answer mostly came back as eye contact, would you then take it seriously?

In order to install it as a natural aspect of your personality you will need to maintain an air of confidence at all times. This applies in every situation whether easy or stressful. It is a popular belief that you see the true measure of someone when the chips are down and in my own experience I have found that is usually the case. In stressful situations some people panic and rather than looking for a solution to the problem in a rational and composed way they will blame others and look for the easy way out. To be an effective leader who commands respect from their inferiors you must deal with stress in a positive and confident manner, if you can’t do this then perhaps being at the front is not for you. By remaining calm under pressure you are far more likely to project the right image to others.

What you display needn’t necessarily be the same as what you feel – even if your apparent demeanour is not a true reflection of what is going on inside, you will still convey the appropriate signals to encourage those around you. That is the remarkable thing about confident body language. All it takes is a simple gesture to inspire confidence and respect in those around you.

Michael

Michael is a certified Life Optimization coach as well as a Law of Attraction and Law of Attraction Wealth coach.
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“Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Self-confidence. We all want it and many believe that they don’t have it. This is just not true. You can have all of the self-confidence that you want just by doing some simple things to take you out of your comfort zone and by some slight alterations of your beliefs. Continue reading the article below for more on increasing your self-confidence level.

Self-Confidence Can Be Increased With Practice

How we perceive ourselves will determine our confidence. Being afraid to try or being confident in your abilities derives from our understanding and acceptance of the experiences we all go through in life. Some people can better recognize their abilities and are able to achieve their goals when they are compared to other people

we sometimes believe that self-confidence is something that other people have, a lot like we are not rich. However we are all created equal and we all have the inner power to achieve anything. This inequality comes with our ideas of what we already have and we fail to recognize this in a positive way.

When things don’t go as expected, don’t be to hard on yourself. This will help to overcome the lack of confidence you feel. Enjoy life, don’t deprive yourself of this experience. Refrain from making excuses as to why you have not reached your goals. Change your mindset and think of the positive things in your life and how you achieved them.

Some people believe that they are limited by their experiences. That doesn’t mean that we can’t learn and grow from our experiences and change how we perceive ourselves. We all have certain talents, beauty and skills within us along with the power to use them or disregard them. Life has more to offer than mediocrity once we recognize our potential.

Self-confidence and how we can improve it is achieved only when we dare to step out of our comfort zone and do new things. Sometimes we fail to recognize that simple things like just reflecting on our past achievements can help us to improve our level of confidence.

Self-confidence can be built up in a number of ways. Developing your verbal skills through public speaking and writing will help to increase your sense of self. We sometimes fear public speaking but once you take the steps to overcome this fear, you will discover that your confidence is increasing and you can do even more things that used to be difficult. This will work for any fear that you have. When you make up your mind to defeat the fear you open up a world of possibilities.

Recognize that life holds endless possibilities and you just need to be open to them, you can take control of your life and become a strong, confident person who can accomplish anything that you try.

Michael

Michael is a certified Life Optimization coach as well as a Law of Attraction and Law of Attraction Wealth coach.

To discuss what a life coach can do for you and your motivation, and to schedule a session with Michael, use the contact form below.