5 Ways to Tell You’re Headed in the Right Direction in Life

2022-03-09 ~ adminlife

People tend to wonder if their life is headed in the right direction when things aren’t going well for them. That presupposes that people enjoy a sense of ease when life goes well for them. They don’t feel the need to question their life when things are going well.

They flow with events and don’t hesitate because things work.

A life without direction is like a ship without a rudder. If rudderless ships can go in circles, then who’s to say people won’t follow the same journey?

But whether you’re steering a little or a lot in life, some key indicators tell you without a doubt that you have the right direction.

How can you tell your life is in the right direction? Here are five signs:

Things fall in place for you. When you’re going in the right direction, it seems as if the universe is sending you everything you need to get to your destination.

- People come into your life at just the right moment, opportunities come your way, and you get accepted to programs or schools that you never thought you’d ever be able to join. Sometimes, these coincidences even look kind of magical.

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Things that happened in the past don’t bother you anymore. Significant life changes can make us feel like giving up on our dreams. Losing a job or breaking off a relationship can be enough to make us feel like we’ve made the worst mistakes of our lives.

- But when you’re heading in the right direction in life, the past doesn’t bother you anymore. You feel like the mess of your life was worth it, even if it took years for you to perceive it that way.
- Things that don’t interfere with your life don’t seem to matter to you. And old grudges create no pain at all. You easily let go.

You don’t let setbacks hold you back. You bounce back quickly from failure or rejection. You keep going, even when it seems like everyone else has given up.

- Life will have its ups and downs. The difference is, you don’t get tied down with the emotional turmoil of setbacks. Instead, you learn from them and carry on for the good times ahead!

What other people say bothers you less. It bothered you when your friends would tell you that you were making a mistake. But now you don’t care what they think. You’re on your life path, and you expect to find like-minded people there.

- When you’re on the right track, you don’t feel a strong desire to seek others’ approval. You don’t strive to receive confirmation from others to ascertain the validity of your actions.
- You may allow feedback from others, but you’re not overly interested in their opinions and preferences. You are more invested in what you know works and what feels right to you, and you’re more confident in your choices and decisions.
- You are likely to take more risks and adopt more unconventional approaches to pursue your dreams. You strive to be deliberate in your pursuit of success instead of simply reacting to the circumstances in your life.

You tend to build things up instead of destroying them. When your life is in the right direction, you experience a more significant presence and intensity to your purpose. You dream bigger and bolder, pursuing those dreams with more enthusiasm and desperation.

- You are more comfortable owning up to your failure and figuring out what to do next.

When people make significant changes in their lives, they often resort to nitpicking their flaws to grow at a faster pace. They scour their past and scrutinize everything they have ever done in hopes of finding something to apologize for or second-guess. But when you’re on the right track, you don’t need to second-guess yourself.

You simply plow forward, focused on what’s in front of you and on growing closer toward your goals. It’s the pursuit of your purpose—not your perfection—that matters most. And that’s precisely how you know you’ve gone in the right direction.

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How To Minimize Stress In Your Life

2022-03-022022-03-02 ~ adminlife

Everyone gets stressed. Its a part of life. How we deal with our stress will help shape our emotional health. This article shows simple keys on how to deal with stress appropriately. Use these simple tips to minimize stress in your day to day living.

Lower your expectations and you will suffer less disappointment. Try seeing everything as already perfect and accept things as they are, then you can strive less and relax more.

Learn to say NO. Next time someone asks you to do something, before the word “yes” slips out, pause, say you can’t give an answer just yet – you’ll get back to them. This technique gives you time to think. Now you can choose to say NO, calmly, politely and kindly.

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Do one thing at a time. SLOW DOWN! If you are racing, so is your heart! Write yourself a list, prioritize your tasks and work through your list methodically. You need to enjoy what you are doing, not just the results of your efforts.

Stop trying to fall asleep. So many people go to bed desperate to fall asleep as quickly as possible, and then suffer the frustration of wakefulness. Quit struggling – you need to relax before you can sleep! Be thankful that you are warm, safe and cozy, be glad that your body is resting. Breathe deeply, slowly, gently and listen to your heart beating peacefully.

Laugh more! Get serious an about humour. Laughter is seriously healing. The special chemicals released when we laugh are nature’s finest form of natural medicine. When you’ve suffered a stressful day, make sure you “suffer” some serious humour in the evening. Watch a comedy show or film, one you know will produce copious laughter, to counter the stress you’ve endured.

Treat yourself to a catnap and don’t feel guilty. When your body is pleading for rest, “40 winks” works wonders but only if you don’t feel guilty about this.

Get out in the fresh air! Drab office, the whir of computer hard drives the drone of your boss’ demands. Get outside during your lunch break, find a patch of green, some flowers, even wander around a garden centre! Lose yourself in nature and feel your tensions dissipate, for a while at least.

Live in the now. The past is gone, you can’t change it. The future is mysterious and seductive, but only with you in your dreams. What you need is with you NOW so make the most of it. Be creative and give everything you’ve got to NOW.

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Is a Neutral Mind Better Than a Positive Mind?

2022-02-23 ~ adminlife

Being positive and optimistic might not always be the best choice. First, it’s impossible to have a positive mindset 100% of the time. Second, there are times when it’s best to have a more neutral approach.

Learning to navigate the ups and downs in life is one of the challenges of life. It can be easier to live with calmness, composure, and level-headedness.

Just because you’re capable of strong emotional responses doesn’t mean it’s a good idea all the time. You’re capable of eating nothing but chocolate for a week, too.

The great basketball coach, John Wooden, once said that he hoped people wouldn’t be able to tell if his team had just won or lost a game by their demeanour.

The ancient Greek philosophy of Stoicism has become quite popular over the last few years. In a nutshell, a major component of Stoicism is the idea that people should be indifferent to their successes, failures, pleasure, and pain.

Consider these ideas to remain calm, composed, and present:

Practice meditation daily. Meditation is the perfect way to practice being calm, composed, and focused. When you meditate, your mind wants to wander. You feel physically and psychologically uncomfortable. Meditation isn’t for sissies.

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Watch TV shows and movies that elicit emotional responses and learn to view them objectively. Part of the reason TV and movies are so attractive is due to their ability to alter your emotions. That’s what these media are designed to do.
- This is another great way to practice being stoic. Watch, but constantly remind yourself that it’s only a movie. Try to keep your emotional responses subdued.
Observe your thoughts and emotions with curiosity. Once we feel an emotion, our tendency is to focus on it and take an emotional ride. Instead of magnifying your emotions, study them like a scientist would. Notice how your thoughts change when your emotions change.
Be practical. What’s really happening? Be logical and objective. For example, if your pool pump goes down, then you either need a new pump or the current one needs to be fixed. That’s it. All of your emotional gyrations have zero effect on the situation. They only make you less capable and miserable.
Realize that nothing is permanent. The stock market, weather, good times, or bad times – none of them last. It only makes sense to avoid big emotional swings.
- Enjoy and be grateful for positive experiences, knowing that life cannot always be just like this. When you encounter troubled times, keep in mind that these, too, will pass on and make way for good times again.
Understand how little control you have over the world. Aside from your decisions and direct actions, there’s not much you can do to change what’s going on around you. Other people are nearly impossible to control in any meaningful way. If it’s going to rain, it’s going to rain. Why get emotional if it doesn’t help?

Negative and positive experiences and emotions can both be disadvantageous. When people win, they tend to celebrate. Clinging too tightly to past wins can inhibit further growth and success. It’s hard to move forward when you’re stuck in the past.

Negative experiences can suck the life and motivation out of people. They can also inhibit progress. With a neutral mind, neither positive nor negative experiences have a great impact on you. Each day is another day to make progress and move forward.

Having a neutral mind isn’t about approaching life like a robot, completely devoid of emotion. It’s about tempering your emotional responses and learning to be emotionally okay with any outcome.

This is an effective way to continue to make progress in life. You’re not thrown off by either positive or negative experiences. You go with the flow, but you avoid a flood, and you’re able to keep going and moving toward your goals.

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7 Ways You Can Suffer if Your Life is Out of Balance

2022-02-23 ~ adminlife

It’s very challenging to achieve balance in life. Some believe it’s impossible to have a balanced life if you’re committed to succeeding at the highest level. Maybe that’s true, but most people don’t need to become a billionaire or a movie star to consider themselves successful.

Success and a balanced life can coexist. However, you can’t afford to waste any of your time.

A life that’s out of balance includes some degree of suffering:

When your life is out of whack, you can spend too much money. If you’re working hard day after day, it’s common to think that you deserve to enjoy your life, so you whip out your wallet. Unfortunately, it’s easy to outspend your income. The pleasure you get from spending money also doesn’t last for long.
- On the other end of the spectrum, if you’re not paying enough attention to work, your income is likely lower than it could be.
- Putting too much or too little attention on work can have negative financial implications.
If your life is out of balance, you’re likely to exercise too little, eat poorly, and suffer from excessive amounts of stress. You can also suffer from insomnia. Your health is one of the first things to go downhill when your life is out of balance.

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Your relationship with your friends and family can suffer. One of the other casualties of an out-of-balance lifestyle is your relationship with other people. Whether it’s your spouse, partner, children, friends, or other family members, your relationships can suffer.
- Consider the consequences of damaging your relationship with your spouse and children. Are the other things you’re spending time on worth it?
You don’t have time for the things you enjoy. Do you love to watch football? Go out with the ladies for dinner on Thursdays? Whittle totem poles in the garage? An out of balance life lacks the time necessary to enjoy your hobbies and other enjoyable activities.
Your mood suffers. Are you cranky, intolerant, angry, or feeling hopeless? Your life might be out of balance. People with an out of balance life often resent the time that people and unrelated activities require.
- It’s not easy to feel good when your life is out of whack. A consistent bad mood is a terrible burden to carry, for you and everyone around you. Everyone suffers when a family member is miserable.
You lose the ability to focus. A lack of sleep, horrible diet, no exercise, and no social life can tear down your ability to focus your attention productively. As your mind and body wear down, you can’t stay on task as well.
- You’re also spending too much brain power focused on other things. If you’re eating dinner with your family, but lost in your thoughts, you’re not focusing on sharing a meal with your family.
You either won’t take or can’t enjoy a vacation. If you can’t, or won’t, make time for a vacation, your life is out of balance. This can be a great test to determine if your life is under control. Do you think your life is unbalanced? Plan a vacation and see what happens!

Is your life out of balance? What changes can you make in order to bring it back into balance? It can be a real challenge to maintain balance in your life, but the consequences of failing to be balanced can be severe.

Remember how important your health, relationships, and happiness are to you. Where would you be without them?

Take action today to bring your life back into balance! You’ll be so glad you did!

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Michael

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Do You Need A Life Coach For Personal Development?

2022-02-16 ~ adminlife

There comes a point in everyone’s life where we are stuck. Our lives need a serious makeover. Some define it as “being in a rut” or “caught in a funk”. Some don’t even bother to put a voice behind it, just hoping it will go away. The lucky ones find a path to shore, while many of us are still treading in deep waters. So how do you know when to call for help?

The first indication you might need help is if your life is not producing the desired outcomes you want. There are signs all around you telling you something is wrong. Usually it begins with your inner monologue. Humans have an uncanny ability to create thought patterns which are self-defeating. When things are not going well in our external environment, it is turned internally as a repetitive voice for failure. These thoughts become validated when something else goes wrong. At some point in the pattern, giving up hope seems a viable option. This is when you call for a little help. When you can recognize you can’t do it alone.

A life coach restores hope with learning tools and resources you may have never considered. The defining ability a life coach offers for personal development is an optimal support system. Having someone to guide you back into the right lane can be a saving grace in your life.

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Another reason to have a life coach is help you do a self-inventory. A life coach can sit down with you and identify problem areas in your life. They have the professional qualifications to assist in developing a realistic plan for your personal development. It is with encouragement and a total dissection of every part of your world a life coach makes impact.

Over time our behaviours become learned and some behaviours need to be unlearned. Especially behaviours which have scooted our lives into wrong directions. Sometimes we are not aware of the self-defeating behaviours which hinder our personal growth. A life coach knows techniques for positive reinforcement in learned processes. They help you with a self-assessment and follow up with a self-help plan. Every life coach has different approaches to their instructions. Some life coaches focus on certain areas, such as business coaching or financial plans. There are others who help you to find your life purpose or spiritual destiny.

It is okay to reach out for help when you find yourself lost in the tides. The first step is acknowledging the need. The second step you must take is to find a life coach who is applicable to your individual situation. You must keep seeking avenues for personal development. Your mind and your life patterns should always be renewed. Learning new ways of doing things, or new ways to think about yourself is essential for personal growth. A life coach can throw you a lifeline. Better yet, a life coach can restore a vital part of yourself you forgot all about through your strife: a vision for your life.

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