We’re aren’t born insecure, but we’re sure good at becoming insecure. Our insecurities rob us of happiness and limit us in numerous ways. Insecurities can prevent us from enjoying life to the fullest. They can prevent us from becoming all that we can be.

Every normal person has at least a few insecurities, but insecurities can be minimized with effort.

Manage your insecurities and get more control over your life with these techniques:

1. Gently attack your areas of insecurity. The best way to deal with insecurities is to eliminate them. So, come up with a plan and begin executing it. Suppose that you have a lot of social anxiety. You might spend some more time each week in public places. Then, you might introduce yourself to one new person each week, and so on.
   • It’s not necessary to overwhelm yourself. Just take one small step toward overcoming your insecurities each week.
2. Remember that no one cares. All insecurities come from a fear of being judged in some way. If you can realize that most people don’t really care about what you’re doing, you’re free. Your insecurities will vanish in an instant.

3. Talk to someone you trust. The people you trust will tell you the truth, and the truth is just fine when it comes to insecurities. When you’re struggling, reach out to someone that cares. They can provide the support you need to move forward with your life.

4. Visualize a positive outcome. We only feel insecure when we imagine a negative outcome. Imagine a positive outcome instead and you’ll feel a lot better. When you’re feeling insecure, close your eyes and visualize good things happening. Make a habit of this. Use your imagination for your benefit.

5. Read biographies of Abraham Lincoln. Abraham Lincoln is the most popular US president. But he wasn’t always successful or popular. He failed at nearly every significant thing he attempted. He was a little odd looking. But he became one of the greats in the end.
   • If anyone had a reason to be insecure, it was Abraham Lincoln. He still did well.

6. Your insecurity is largely hidden from the world. When you’re feeling insecure, only the people that know you the best can tell. The rest of the world doesn’t have a clue. Many people feel insecure, and then they feel embarrassed that everyone can tell they’re insecure. It’s not true.
7. Remember your best moments. Use your past to your advantage. Remind yourself of your best moments and greatest triumphs. Do this every morning and evening. Step back into those situations and remember how it felt to be so successful.
8. Just say, “So what?” You can choose to ignore your insecurities and act boldly in spite of them. No one ever said you have to allow yourself to be limited by your thoughts. It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be.

Address the things in your life that make you feel insecure. Imagine being successful and comfortable with those things instead. Work on viewing yourself and your insecurities from a new perspective. Everyone is too busy with their own insecurities to worry about yours. Be determined not to allow yourself to be held back.

You can book your 15-minute “Get to know you” call by clicking on the blue button below:and we can talk about how we can work together to hep you become more successful by removing your insecurities.

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

P.S. What is holding you back from achieving the success in your life and career? For many people it is their Limiting Beliefs. Once you understand and remove your old limiting beliefs and replace them with new empowering beliefs, success becomes that much easier.

Check out my basic Limiting Belief, self-paced program at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below. This program will get you started on identifying 14 of the most common limiting beliefs, you will probably be familiar with some of them, and will give empowering beliefs to replace them in your life if you have them.

After completing the course, you will be at the starting point of your success journey.

 

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Wouldn’t it be nice to have a little extra boost of willpower when you need it most? It would make it so much easier to stick to our plans and reach our goals instead of giving in to temptation. Well, you’re in luck. I’m about to share five different tips and strategies with you that help you get that extra boost of willpower whenever you need it. Let’s dive in and explore these willpower “power-ups.”

Take It One Task at A Time

The best way to strengthen willpower is to focus it on one task at a time. It’s tempting to get motivated and start to change everything all at once. I get it. It’s just not the most successful strategy. Instead, focus on one change at a time and use all your willpower to take it from new behavior to well-established habit before moving on to the next change. Your willpower efforts will strengthen many times over when you focus them on one thing at a time.

Find An Accountability Partner

It’s much easier to do what you set out to do when you know that someone is watching. When you know you have to report any mishaps or slip-ups to this person, you’ll think twice about giving in to temptation. An accountability partner works even better when both of you have the same or similar goals and can hold each other accountable.

Track Your Progress

Often change comes in small increments, and it can be hard to see progress. Track it in a journal, a spreadsheet or any other way that makes sense to you. Revisit it often and see how far you’ve already come. There’s nothing like it to keep you going.

Use Willpower to Create Habits

Use your willpower strategically to create new habits and routines. Once something starts to become a habit, it takes less and less willpower to keep it up. Keep working on what you want to change one thing a time until it becomes routine and so no longer requires willpower.

Remind Yourself of Your “Why”

There’s nothing better than motivation to boost your willpower. The best way to stay motivated is to continually remind yourself of why you’re doing what you’re doing. The “why” is the reason that you want to accomplish your long-term goal. Define it, digging deep to find the things that genuinely motivate you. Then remind yourself regularly of your big “why.” Put it on a sticky note, create a vision board, or put up other reminders of it all around you. Look at them, read them, and consume them anytime you need an extra willpower boost.

Willpower is in limited supply during the day. By planning your day and then making sure that you are motivated to continue your plan you can become successful.

Contact me to book a 15-minute “Get to know you” call by clicking on the blue button below

And we can discuss how we can work together to build up your motivation and willpower to help you become more successful in your life.

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

P.S. if you have thought about working with a Life Coach but have always thought it was too expensive or took too much time, I have created a Self-paced course that may be of interest to you.

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Although my parents and society impressed their beliefs on me as a child, I have the final say over what I believe as an adult. The only beliefs that I entertain are those that are self-nurturing.

I know that beliefs can drive behaviour. Therefore, I critically analyze my thoughts. I see the world in a positive light. I only entertain ideas that are in line with who I truly am.

I nurture my self-esteem. I deserve success and happiness, and I have the tools to achieve them. I can easily recall times when I have been successful. I hold the feeling of winning close to my heart.

I know that I can achieve greatness just by being myself. There are many things that I can do better than anyone else. I cultivate and nurture my talents.

I am confident because I know my strengths. I am insulated against self-doubt.

I choose to believe in myself, even during challenging times. My sense of self is anchored in my knowledge that I am worthy of love and success. It comes from within.

Like anyone else, I make errors, but I turn them into learning experiences. Although I look to the future, I also take time to recall my past successes.

Today, I choose to release any lingering self-doubts. I realize that my performance can soar higher and higher as I continue to believe in myself. I take full advantage of life’s many learning experiences.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. When has the fear of failure kept me from trying?
2. What bearing does my past performance have on my present potential?
3. How would my life change if I constantly visualized success?

You now have some advice, tips and reflections to help you to believe in your own abilities so that you can keep growing in your life.

If you still think that this is something that you will need help with, you can contact me at michael@coachmichaelw.com

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

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Each experience presents the opportunity to learn something new. Whether positive or negative, my experiences are learning moments. I learn from both my successes and my mistakes. Even undesirable outcomes are positive in my mind, because I always learn something.

My commitment to learning fuels constant growth. Everything I learn makes me more competent and effective. My victories make me stronger. My failures make me stronger, too. I am making the most of my time by learning from all of my experiences.

I am curious and love to learn. I enjoy learning about things that can impact my life in a positive way. I admire lifelong learners, and I want to learn for the rest of my life, too.

My goals determine what I need to learn. I focus my free time on gathering information and learning skills that help me achieve my goals.

I avoid ending my day until I learn something useful. I am always learning and growing. I view myself as a learner. I feel proud when I learn something new.

Today, I am making the most of my day. I am extracting the lesson from each and every experience I have today. I am growing into a more capable person.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What could I learn that would assist in the attainment of my goals?
2. What can I learn from today? From the last year? From my entire life? What are the lessons I have failed to recognize?
3. What mistakes do I continue to repeat? Why?

You now have some advice and tips to help you to keep growing in your life..

If you still think that this is something that you will need help with, you can contact me at michael@coachmichaelw.com

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

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The purpose of a life coach is to help you create a life that fulfills you. Many people have touted the benefits, saying that their life coaches have changed their lives for the better.

If you’re wondering about hiring a life coach, consider these benefits:

1. You can finally decide what you want to be when you grow up. Life coaches are great at getting you to actually choose what you want for your life. You’ll get to design your ideal life to maximize your fulfillment.
   • You’ll raise your standards. Many of your challenges likely result from having standards that are too low. You may be too quick to settle, taking jobs that are beneath your capabilities or getting into relationships that don’t serve you. Your boundaries may be weak and undefined.

• • A life coach will help you overcome these challenges.

3. You’ll be held accountable. If you decide on your own to start working out each morning and then you don’t follow through, you can tell yourself that you’ll start again tomorrow. On the other hand, a life coach will keep you to the task.

• • One reason this strategy works is because most of us find letting others down to be painful. And most of us don’t like being in “trouble.”

4. Your life will become more balanced. We all tend to emphasize certain things and fail to give others enough emphasis. A life coach will force you to give adequate attention to all the areas of your life.
5. You’ll be forced to stretch yourself. Have you ever noticed that some people never change? They’re the same today as they were ten or more years ago. Life is about learning and applying that learning to get better results. If your life is always the same, you’re either not learning or not applying what you’ve learned.

• • Your life coach will get you to do all of those things you should be doing and want to be doing, but can’t quite get yourself to do.

6. You’ll work through your challenges with an expert to support you. Dealing with challenges can be intimidating. Having an expert in your corner can make all the difference. Two heads really can be better than one. Sometimes all we need is a little encouragement and support. It can be a great way to get unstuck.
7. You’ll have someone that is just as excited by your successes as you are! Have you ever done something that fills you with pride, only to find out that your family, friends, or significant other seems less than impressed?

• • Having someone cheer your successes creates momentum. Momentum allows you to accomplish even greater accomplishments.

8. You’ll solve challenges you didn’t even realize you had. Typically a coach is hired for a specific reason. But through the process of coaching, you’ll find that there are other issues that might be just as important. There’s no place to hide with a good life coach.

Life coaching can be a great idea if you feel that you’re stuck and truly want to change. Do you recognize yourself in the points listed above? Have you been trying to change your life but been unable to? If so, a life coach is likely to make a huge difference in your life.

On the other hand, if your life is right where you want it, a life coach might not be what you’re looking for.

Consider your desires and your ability to bring them about on your own. If you feel you could use some help, seeking the help of a life coach might be one of the best decisions you’ve ever made.

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

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P.S. if after reading this article, you want to investigate using a Life Coach yourself, contact me at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com for a 30-minute strategy session where you can learn more about how we can work together to help you achieve your life’s goals and start living the best year of your life.

P.P.S. If you want to read how you can get a fresh start on your life an goals, this book may be very useful:

A Fresh Start Is Possible When You Know What to Do

There are times in your life that you just want to press pause, delete everything and start over with a new page.

It is possible to do this.

Getting a fresh start first involves knowing what you want out of your life. What goals do you have for your professional and personal lives that you really want to achieve that will make you satisfied and energized?

Once you have those goals prioritized, then you can start to make the necessary changes to get that fresh start with a new job, new city or new relationship or make a fresh start right where you are but with some changes.

This book will help you with making those changes that are necessary for you to get that fresh start that you want.

 

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