Create a Better Attitude

2020-06-062020-06-06 ~ adminlife

Have you ever been around someone who has a bad attitude? It seems no matter what you try to say or do, this person won’t be happy. They put everything and everyone down. You probably have tried to avoid this person as much as possible. If you have been told you have a bad attitude, people may be trying to avoid you. Use the following tips towards getting a better attitude.

No Benefits to Being Negative
It’s odd that people choose to welcome negativity in their lives. It could be because there are so many negative stories in the news that it removes all hope from people. But, when was the last time you used negativity to your favor or saw anyone else do it? Being negative doesn’t help any situation.
Being Positive is Less Stressful
When you are happy with your life, you tend to have less stress. Also, handling any stress you do have becomes much easier. You are likely to have a can do attitude which leads to solutions faster. When you get caught up in a negative mindset, you look for ways to shoot any ideas down. This takes a much longer time to solve problems (if ever) which can cause you to be stressed out.
Be Grateful for What You Have
Life is short, and people should recognize what they have and be grateful for it. If you have a decent job and a great family, be grateful for that. There is always room for improvement, but you also have to take a step back and realize things could be worse.
Force a Smile
Studies have shown that simply forcing a smile has the potential to change your mood and hence, your attitude. Your brain picks up on the change and takes the steps to turn your mood around.
Don’t Block Others from Being Happy
If you have the power to make other people’s lives miserable, why would you do this? If you insist on keeping up your bad attitude, why should other people suffer? That is completely your problem. Besides, when you make others happy you tend to become happier yourself. Haven’t you ever seen A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens?
Consider Loving Yourself More
People who have bad attitudes usually don’t have a high opinion of themselves. If you give yourself permission to love yourself, you will find amazing transformations will come your way. In fact, you can’t love others until you love yourself.

ACTIONABLE STEPS

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Read A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens. The story shows how going through life with a bad attitude leads you to loneliness. Scrooge had all the money he ever needed but was miserable most of his life. It’s only when he changed his attitude and gave away large sums of his money to make others happy did he become happy.	Start a hobby you’ve been putting off. When you get involved with a hobby, it can help you relax your mind and focus on something that makes you happy. Over time, this will help you take on a better attitude, and you will be more pleasant to be around. People will want to hang out with you.	Align yourself with a group of people who have a good attitude. This may take some time to find the right group of people, but keep searching. You can look for clubs and meet-ups online, or you can simply go to events in your local community. If you find a group that contains a lot of negative people, move on. An alternative would be to try and turn around the negative thinkers. You’ll only be able to do this if you adjust your attitude first.

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Be Accepting Of Yourself While Striving For Greatness

2020-02-122020-02-18 ~ adminlife

There is absolutely no way for you to be successful and reach your goals until you accept who you are. You have to like yourself and what you do before anyone else will. The world detects how you feel about yourself and often simply shares the opinion you have about who you are. Be yourself and free yourself in the process. You are an individual who is unique. Your talents and abilities, your intelligence and interests, your opinions and tastes, make you who you are. There is no need to hide a part of yourself or alter a part of yourself for the sake of conformity. True success is about freedom and all truly successful people are individualists who have, more or less, accepted and glorified who they are. You should do the same.

At the same time, being yourself does not mean glorying in mediocrity. You need to be the very best version of yourself possible. This means that you have to work at being you. You have to put the time into self-improvement. Acceptance is not an excuse for laziness, cowardice or fear. Life is a privilege. It is a gift. The gift and the privilege of life is that you get to be yourself, the best self you can possibly be. Use the gift, take advantage of the privilege that you’ve been given. Don’t squander the chance. Let your own unique light shine forth. This is the light that will illuminate the path to real success in life. It will also be the light that attracts other people to you.

The Success Brain Course

As we are all trying to be more successful in our lives, both personal and business, we need to have a success mindset. It is hard to be successful when your own self-talk is against you and your mind is not aligned with your goals.

If you want to be more successful and live the life you deserve, then you need to have a Success Brain.

While this may sound easy, unless you know what you need to accomplish, you could end up wasting your time and energy.

This course “The Success Brain” can help you to understand those areas of your own mind that are holding you back while helping you to develop a truly success brain and mindset that will guide you in your life to really become more successful.

Accepting Rejection – The Cornerstone of Perseverance

2019-01-242019-01-24 ~ adminlife

We learn at an early age that we don’t get everything we want. In other words, we have had to deal with rejection since then. This makes you think that people accept rejection easily. The exact opposite is usually true.

People start to develop an invisible shield against rejection. They may show anger or resentment to the people who are serving up the rejection. But, in many cases, it can show who is resilient and who is likely to continue until they get what they want.

No one likes to hear negative comments about themselves. People take it personally. However, knowing the reason for rejection can help change your direction. You can correct the aspects that made people reject you in the first place.

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This won’t work with everything. For instance, if a person you are attracted to does not return the favor, it may be difficult or impossible to turn this around. Then again, there are numerous stories of people who persevered even when they were rejected time and again, and won the love of their lives.

Another instance where you may face rejection is during a job interview. Many candidates will pass this off as incompetence on the part of the interviewer, and there are certainly cases where this is true. But, you should always try to evaluate the reasons why the interviewer did not choose you. You’d be surprised at how few people even ask for the reasons. Interviewers won’t typically volunteer this information. Many will feel you don’t care if you don’t ask.

In many cases, rejection is not personal. You may not have the necessary skills when seeking a job, or you may not have enough experience, etc. In other cases, it may be somewhat personal, but it may be in your best interest to get rejected. For instance, if you don’t have an aggressive personality, do you want to pursue a career that requires one? If you are in sales, you need to have this driving personality to succeed.

Use rejection to your benefit. People who accept rejection and don’t give up are usually the ones who eventually get that acceptance. Sometimes, the very fact that you are persevering is what turns the tables from rejection to acceptance. Whose to say that next opportunity is not the one that will accept you? You won’t know unless you continue on your quest.

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Consider Doing a SWOT Analysis on Yourself

2019-01-092019-01-09 ~ adminlife

When people create case studies on businesses, they often include a SWOT analysis. SWOT is an acronym for Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats. If you can do this for business, why not consider doing one for yourself? It can help you gain insight about yourself and reinforce the idea of believing in yourself.

The concept of SWOT is usually diagrammed in quadrants or squares, representing each of the words of the acronym. It’s up to you as to which squares to place each of the words. By convention, the upper-left square is for Strengths, while the lower-left square is for Opportunities. The upper-right square is for Weaknesses, and the lower-right square is for Threats.

Fill up each quadrant with appropriate items relating to the heading of the quadrant. To take this a step further, ask family and friends to help you fill up the quadrants. After you have them all filled, you can evaluate them to see what needs improvement.

Don’t let the negative aspects (Weaknesses, Threats) trip you up when creating your analysis. You are listing them to gain perspective in areas that you need your focus. In fact, some weaknesses you may not want to tackle because it doesn’t interest you. Threats are merely items to be aware of and may help you try to overcome them.

The key to success is to be as honest as possible with yourself about all the items included in the analysis. If you aren’t, it isn’t going to help you much, and you may focus on the wrong items to improve. Further, you may not be as strong in some areas as you believed, which can lead you on the wrong path as well.

A representative SWOT analysis will give you a great foundation for your life, both personally and professionally. You can use it as a tool to advance your goals. You will learn about yourself and who you are. Don’t rush this process. You want it to be as representative of yourself as possible. It’s better to take several days or even weeks than to try to list items for the sake of filling up the quadrants.

Once you feel comfortable that you have the right items for your analysis, you can use it to help you believe in yourself. It’s all there for you to reference, and it can help you to refine your goals and tasks further.

To your success

Michael W

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Challenges Are A Great Learning Experience

2017-10-032017-11-07 ~ adminlife

Most people get nervous when they try new activities or challenges. Some people get so anxious and apprehensive about it that they attempt to avoid trying any new activities or challenges whenever and wherever possible. Unfortunately, that approach helps to limit their growth as an individual because it’s trying new activities and challenges that really help you to grow as an individual, achieve your truest potential, and really make the greatest impact on the world. Additionally, you also receive the best benefits (fame, fortune, recognition, etc.) from making the greatest impact on the world, but that only comes from growing as an individual through trying new activities/challenges.

When you try a new activity or challenge, you are stepping outside of your comfort zone to learn something new and improve your skill set. You are looking to improve yourself by going through the experience and learning the process. Chances are high that you will make some mistakes along the way; the process of making mistakes is also a learning experience. Some people shy away from making mistakes out of fear or because they are afraid they will be embarrassed or ridiculed for making them, but in truth, making mistakes is part of the learning process that helps us to grow as individuals and to better ourselves. This is how we learn to achieve our truest and greatest potential.

Virtually no one achieves their greatest potential just doing the same tasks day after day, not experimenting with or experiencing anything new. Sometimes, you have to step outside of doing the ordinary, comfortable things in order to see things from a new light or perspective that enables you to find a better way to do the same, ordinary things or even to create something new that can make life better for many.

By trying new challenges/experiences, you can learn a new skill set, plus you learn more about yourself and your ability to handle and rebound from difficulty when you likely make a mistake or two during the process. Life doesn’t go smoothly that often; part of adjusting to and making the most out of life is to be able to overcome difficulties and still producing at a high level. Going through new challenges and experiences can help you to gain a new perspective on things, learn to overcome difficulties or challenges (especially unexpected ones), and boost your self-confidence to where you are confident you can handle unexpected difficulties and be able to achieve your greatest potential.