Self-confidence Secrets

2016-02-28 ~ adminlife

“Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Secrets To Gaining Self-confidence

When entering unfamiliar situations, most people feel a little bit shy. There are some people though that have such a low value of self-esteem that they cannot function when they are in strange or unfamiliar circumstances. They really need to work on their self-confidence levels so that they can move forward as well as explore other areas of interest in their lives. Here are some ideas that can help these people gain self-confidence. Pass them along to those people that could use them as well as using them yourself to boost your own self-confidence.

The first thing to do is to get to know yourself. Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses will help you to deal with other people effectively. When you know your positive strengths, you can connect with others socially a bit more easily. By discovering your strengths and using them, you can offer others more than just your good company.

You need to step outside of your comfort zone as well. Staying where we are most familiar is very comfortable. If you don’t push your limits, however you will stagnate and people may not want to be with you. Get out and meet new people and try new things. Join new groups and develop new skills. By doing these thing you will find that your confidence levels increase and you will also discover new ways to express yourself.

By completing the things on your “To do” list will help your confidence. Start with the simple things that are easy to complete. As you cross them off of you’re list you will realize that you are good and can accomplish things by yourself. You don’t have to rely on others which will move you out of their shadows and into the light. Finishing things by yourself will also help build up your reputation as a “doer” which will also boost your self-confidence.

You need to appreciate the person you are. Understand what makes you unique and figure out how to use these traits. Somethings that you may feel are annoying may actually be acceptable to some people. When you are confident with who you are and the skills that you have then you will be moving towards gaining the self-esteem that you have always desired. Use the traits and characteristics you have to your advantage.

Remember to love yourself, by doing that you can accept yourself and this will help you to build your self-confidence to new and higher levels.

To your success
Michael W

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Eliminate Bad Days – Follow These Tips

2015-10-14 ~ adminlife

“I take nothing for granted. I now have only good days, or great days.” – Lance Armstrong

Never Have a Bad Day Again

You have good days and bad. Wouldn’t it be great if you could eliminate most of the bad days from your life? You have the ability to make good days the norm.

What constitutes a good day is debatable. Maybe each day you’re alive could be considered a good day. It’s up to you.

What has to happen for you to label a day as “good”?

Eliminate bad days with a few strategies:

1. Refuse to have a bad day. There are many opportunities to have a bad day. You might be running late or your car decides to break down. Someone might speak unkindly to you or you spill mustard on your pants.

Having a bad day can be a lot like eating a piece of cake you know you should ignore. Just because it’s there doesn’t mean you have to bite.

Avoid letting a few minor mishaps ruin your day.

2. Choose to be happy, or at least content. In spite of whatever is going wrong, choose to be happy. If you can’t find any happiness, at least be content. You can choose to have a good day or a bad day. Release your expectations and try to see what’s good in each situation.

3. Spend time with someone you love. Few activities can bring your perspective back to reality more effectively than spending time with a loved one. The stress, worry, and anxiety seem to melt away.

4. Be on time. Being late creates stress. The stress begins once you realize you’re going to be late. It rarely ends until the day is over. If you’re late for one activity, you can be late for everything afterwards, too. Give yourself plenty of time to keep your schedule intact.

5. Have a morning routine. If your morning starts well, you’ll find the rest of your day goes well. A morning routine is an effective way to get the day off to a positive start.

An effective routine can include what time you wake up, a review of your to-do list, wearing the clothes you laid out the night before, affirmations, exercise, and anything else you enjoy in the morning.

Build your routine slowly and ensure it enhances your day.

6. Try doing less. Having too much to do creates many challenges that get in the way of having a good day. Reduce your schedule to the most important 3-5 tasks.

Stick to the important and urgent tasks. Reschedule the rest.

7. Complete your most important task. There are few things more frustrating than a stressful day that accomplishes little. Give yourself the gift of knowing that you completed at least one important task. That’s more than most can claim. Complete it as early in the day as possible and give yourself time to accomplish even more.

8. Be grateful. When life is wearing you down, remember all the great things in your life. Give yourself a few minutes to list all the positive people and circumstances in your life. Are you healthy? Do you have friends and family? Your life is probably much better than you think!

Consider listing those things that fill you with gratitude as part of your morning routine. Your attitude will be primed to have a good day.

Having a good day is relative. The worst day for a middle-class American might be a great day for a child in a third-world country. Only you can assign a quality label to your day. Make the conscious decision to have a great day.

Michael W

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Having A Positive Mindset Changes Lives

2015-02-20 ~ adminlife

“Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will” ― Jack Welch

Building up your self-confidence takes time and effort, that is why many people don’t do it.

Here is an article that you can view as well as a second article that outlines why a positive mindset is critical to your life.

How Does Having A Positive Mindset Change Lives by Debra Ashton

When it comes to goal setting, it is essential that you have a positive mindset.

It is this positive mind set that will see you through all the expected and unexpected obstacles that crop up along the way. Having faith in your abilities is also essential when it comes to taking the necessarily actions on your path to success.

Hence, we see this everyday in people who are considered headstrong and determined. Their self-belief carries them along. Self motivation can be a brilliant thing as long as they can keep their feet on the ground.

A negative mind set is associated with low self-esteem and low self-confidence. Examples include fear of failure. Or self doubts which renders the individual paralyzed and unable to make even simple decisions.

Help would be needed to turn this around. Whether that helps is in the form of self-help or assisted help from a qualified or experienced counsellor. This would be up to the individual.

Knowing help is need is the first and major obstacle when you are trying to create a positive mindset.

Having defined a step-by-step action plan is essential. Not only will you see where you are going. You will also be able to see where you’ve been. With every successful and completed step, no matter how small, would be an enormous boost the individuals’ self-esteem and self-confidence. With each actualized goal, the momentum builds and the individual is motivated onwards to the next step. Then it’s onto the next goal, and the next.

It’s a bit like a baby learning to walk. First the baby has to learn how to crawl before she can stand, and then learn how to balance when standing before she can walk, and learn how to walk without holding onto things before she can run. Baby steps. One step at a time. One task at a time. One goal at a time. Keeping focused is a must.

It is inevitable that there will be set backs along the way. But they would not seem so dramatic when compared to a row of successes. Gradually the negative mindset would be transformed into a positive mindset, raised self-esteem and raised self-confidence.

This is very powerful stuff. It can and has turned lives around for the better.

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Debra Ashton

An avid consumer of business and personal development information for over a decade. Now sharing what I’ve learnt with others.

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Are You Self-confident?

2015-01-242015-01-24 ~ adminlife

“There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King.” – Orison Swett Marden

We all want to have confidence in ourselves. We like the idea that we can complete things and be more in control of our future.

The article below talks about 5 myths of self-confidence.

5 Myths about Self-Confidence – by Bosschat

People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving anything that they want to in life, or dealing with any situation that they may have to face. They have an aura of self-confidence and self-assurance, which is apparent to others. People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.

In contrast, there are many people who are talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.

Myth One: People are born with Self-Confidence

Nothing could be further from truth. Self-confidence, like other skill, can be learnt and built up. All that you need is the right guidance and a belief in yourself.

Myth Two: Only Good Looking People are Self-Confident

Some people blame their low self-confidence to their lack of good looks. They don’t realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. The only way they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.

Myth Three: Only Talented People are Self-Confident

In fact, talent and self-confidence are not inter-related. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is. Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. So, don’t worry about lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.

Myth Four: Self Confidence is directly proportional to Praise Received

There is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence. But you can’t simply depend on the praise lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident.

We should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or swim. It does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?

Myth Five: Only Self-Confident People Can Afford to Take Risks

This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can’t do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don’t get it they end up losing their self-confidence.

It’s clear that there is a lack of understanding. Self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person’s beauty or looks. It flows from a person’s self-belief, and this belief can be built. All that a person needs to do is to debunk myths that self-confidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have

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Michael

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Success Points – Three Factors

2015-01-182015-01-18 ~ adminlife

“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”
― Albert Einstein

Success comes to people in many ways. However many people rely on the wrong three factors to success and thus are not really successful.

The article below gives three real factors to achieving success.

Key Points to Success – joy74

People think of success as a product of fate, coincidence or luck. Most individuals just leave it up to these three known factors without knowing the real secret behind. The three enumerated reasons for success are actually not the true factors making a person successful. Truly there’s more to that which is in fact far more realistic.

If you are tired of being a loser in life, then spare a little of your time reading these key points to success to finally achieve whatever you have considered as success. As we know, there are different ideas of success that various people are thinking of. Many are thinking about obtaining a success within family, success in financial aspect, success in career, success in relationships and more.

If you try to research on past and present people writing about success, you will notice that all of them are pushing the idea of achieving success despite apparently impossible odds. This is because these people have seen the true secrets behind success in which keeping a positive attitude is one.

Create Positive Vibes

Keeping a positive attitude is very essential in creating positive vibes within you. With a positive atmosphere, you will think of everything as possible. You will learn to convince yourself that nothing will ever be impossible. You will simply boost your being optimistic which is really a huge help to get you closer to success.

If you are so fixed with having success in your life, you will never be scared of trying to do things as long as you have that positive attitude. Here, you are focusing your mind that the result to your actions is positive. Or if a certain plan is not successful, it will never pull you down. Instead, you will accept it as a challenge and a lesson.

Set Up Your Self Confidence

Gaining self confidence is very much related to having a positive attitude. Self confidence lets you face the challenges and give you more willingness to implement your plans to succeed. People who are afraid to try to do things or take chances are those who lack confidence. And 99% of these people can never embrace success in life.

Self confidence is one which enables you to grab every idea that your mind dictates pertaining to success. It is also one which will give you the will and the courage to grab every opportunity that comes along the way. Gaining self confidence is such a very crucial part of following the road to success.

Strong Mindset

Being focus and concentrated with achieving success is as important as those two factors explained earlier. Without a fixed mindset, you tend to lose your track and get lost from the way to success. You will get confused. Many will get discouraged. A number will give up and totally surrender from fighting for success.

However, before working on your mindset, don’t ever forget about improving self esteem. The higher you value yourself, the more you believe that you can do all these. Thinking of your goals and thinking that you have all the capabilities to reach them really involves improving self esteem.

To have a strong mindset, you first need to identify exactly what is it that you want to succeed. You need to closely determine what is success for you and what aspects in life do you really want to become successful with. Write this down and always think of it. Convince yourself that you really can obtain it.

You can tell yourself “I will have this” thousand times. By this, you are creating a fix and strong mindset towards your goal. All may sound simple to you, but everything requires patience, commitment, dedication and sacrifice. Surely sacrifice is quite a heavy word to hear but if you will have that fixed mindset, you will certainly carry it as light as cotton.

Have these key points to success, and you shall never worry about becoming successful in life!

Joy Nev shares her love and passion in enhancing self esteem. You can be sure that her tips and advices will work wonders with your personality development! Join her and get her popular free report on “Key Points to Success!” available at http://www.mindforchange.com.

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