Want to Increase Your Personal Magnetism? Pay Attention to Your Body Language

2019-02-272019-02-27 ~ adminlife

When you enter a room full of people that you don’t know, and you see some people with their arms crossed, do you approach those people? How about people that look your way and smile? If you said no to the first question and yes to the second, it’s because of a subconscious force at play: body language.

Paying attention to your body language is a crucial aspect of increasing your personal magnetism. People inherently pick up on those signals without much of a thought. They don’t say to themselves, “this guy has his arms crossed so I am not going to approach him.” They simply move on.

There are plenty of books, guides, and seminars that can help us learn more about our own body language. But some of the basics have already been covered; don’t cross your arms if you want people to approach you and make eye contact as often as possible and be sure to smile. These are three of the major ways to improve your body language to make yourself more approachable.

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Another way to learn how to use body language to your advantage is to observe people who you are naturally drawn to. Pay attention to the kinds of movements they use as they speak to you. Are they crossing their arms or are they using their hands to express themselves? Perhaps they give you the occasional touch on the shoulder when making a certain statement. Are they focusing their eyes on you and giving you their undivided attention? These are all traits of charismatic people and can be used to increase your magnetism.

Take a look at how others are reacting when you speak. Are they distracted or are they hanging on your every word? If they are checking their smartphones every couple of minutes, you may have some work to do. If they ask you to repeat what you said often, this too is a sign that you should hone in on your body language signals.

Start with small changes. Don’t try to incorporate every change in body language all at once. It will seem too contrived and will not be effective. Continue to observe others you find charismatic and try to incorporate the actions that they use when talking to people. If you are consistent with your changes, they will become second nature over time and people will definitely start being more drawn to you.

To your success

Michael W

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Steps you Need to Take Before Taking Massive Action

2019-02-242019-02-24 ~ adminlife

Many people get an idea and then immediately start taking action. The problem is, a lot of these folks never finish what they start. They have a great many unfinished projects, but not the staying power to make their goals happen in the real world. To ensure you don’t end up as one of these people, there are certain things you should do before you start taking massive action. While taking these steps won’t guarantee that you will make your dream a reality, they certainly give you a much better chance of success!

Make a commitment

No goal will ever be reached without a firm commitment. Know going in that there will be tough times, setbacks and sacrifices you need to make to reach your goal through massive action steps. Decide if it’s worth the hard work it will take before you get started.

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Do your research

Many things you want to tackle are going to need some research before you can determine a plan or strategy. Stay focused as you do the research necessary, but do allow a few tangents if you feel they would be valuable in helping you determine how to best go about taking massive action to meet your goal. You may need to have a time frame in mind of how long you will research, however. It can feel safe to stay in this phase instead of stepping outside of your comfort zone and taking action. Many people never get past this stage, so keep that firmly in mind as you begin.

Make a plan

Once you’ve done your homework, it’s time to create a plan of attack. What should you do first? What’s a reasonable timeline for completing your goal? Will going about it this way or that be better for you. Definitely take the advice of others who have come before you, but remember that just because you do it differently than they did doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong. Use your instinct to plan out your strategy since only you can decide what’s best for your life.

Write down your goals and objectives

It’s fine to think about your goals and objectives–I mean, you have to start somewhere. But don’t stop there. Write down your goals and objectives in as much detail as possible and keep the paper handy. You will need to refer to it before making decisions about future actions or when you get off track and need to remind yourself of why you started the project to begin with.

To your success

Michael W

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5 Hacks To Boost Your Confidence Today

2019-02-142019-02-14 ~ adminlife

Having self-confidence will give you not only success in your endeavours but also respect from your peers, counterparts, subordinates and superiors. When you have a lot of self-belief, you will enjoy lots of success in your personal and professional lives. When you fail in the target that you have set for yourself, it impacts your confidence to a great extent. It does take a lot of time to start getting a person in believing in him again after he has had a bad experience. Here are 5 simple but effective hacks that you can try to improve your self-confidence and self-belief.

Personal grooming

One of the most simple but powerful tips to boost your confidence is to dress up well and be well-groomed, wherever you go. Wear smart formals to the office and ensure that your clothes are well-matched without a wrinkle on them. When you dress smartly, you automatically start to feel confident about yourself.

Perfect your breathing

Life will give many opportunities to feel stressed, nervous and anxious. You should be careful that you never succumb to these pressures. If you believe in your abilities, you won’t bow down to these nervous situations. All you need to do at this stage is to practise simple breathing exercises. When you feel bogged down, upset or nervous, take a break from your work and relax through breathing in and out through your stomach. Calm down the palpitations that race from your heart and knock your eardrums down. Once you have calmed down, think about the situation and take appropriate decisions. When you are calm, you are more likely than before to take the right decisions. With more right decisions come more success, thereby improving your self-confidence to a large extent.

Motivational pep-talks

When you feel a low phase, look into the mirror and give yourself a pep-talk. Remind yourself of your potential and few incidents from the past where you did a commendable job. Appreciate yourself for achieving your goals within the allocated timeline. List down your strengths and tell yourself why you are the best man to do the job. These small, pep–talks go a long way in increasing your self-belief.

Improve your body language

Start walking upright and always look into the eyes of the person/people you are speaking to. When you are addressing a gathering, spread your arms wide while speaking, as this will make you look confident and approachable at the same time. Work on your stage presence and have eye contact with all the people in the gathering, when you speak. You also need to sound bold and clear if you want to be audible to everyone hearing you.

Move away from negativity

An important tip to remain self-confident is to stay away from negativity. If your friends or colleagues keep doubting your beliefs and tell you not to push yourself too hard to achieve your objectives, you need to stay away from them. Like positivity, negativity too is contagious. Their negative vibes might dampen the energising thoughts in your mind. Stay with people who are creative, confident about their actions and always learning something new in their lives to become better people.

To your success

Michael W

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Using Affirmations For Self-Belief

2019-02-132019-02-13 ~ adminlife

One of the famous authors, Robin Sharma, says that anything that is done for 21 continuous days becomes a habit for you. Improving your self-confidence, not just results in success in your work, but also helps you realise your true worth. It makes you understand yourself better as a person. Being positive at all times helps to improve your self-esteem phenomenally. These affirmations listed below help you remain positive at all times. These affirmations are certain mantras/rules which make you convinced about the decisions that you take in your life.

Failures are stepping stones to success

This is the first affirmation that you need to tell yourself every day. Regardless of your effort and skill, you may fail in your efforts, and things may not go as planned. You should understand that life is never a bed of roses and that you have to experience the thorns if you want to enjoy the beauty of the roses. When you keep repeating this mantra, you will start seeing failures as experiences or opportunities that gave you some important lessons to remember throughout your lifetime.

I love challenges, and I am cut out for it

When a job gets monotonous and dull, it doesn’t push you to perform well. Your creativity is killed when your job doesn’t have challenges. So, whenever you find challenging situations, you shouldn’t get intimidated by them. Instead, you should welcome these challenges with open arms and show them how prepared you are to meet them with confidence. Tell yourself every day that you are made to meet challenges and that you love them. As the great Paulo Coelho said, “The ship is safest when it’s in port, but that’s not what ships were built for”.

I trust my decisions

This is one of the most important affirmations that you should repeat at regular intervals to feel confident and motivated at work. When you trust your decisions, you will do a better job than before at work because the onus rests with you. Sometimes, your decisions may turn out to be incorrect, but even at those times, it is important never to give up. There can be no place for regrets in your life. Think well, take a decision according to the situation and trust your instincts. More often than not, a decision taken this way proves to be correct, thereby boosting your self-confidence.

Where there is a will, there is a way

This is quite an inspiring affirmation, indeed! In simple words, this affirmation tells us that it is absolutely in our control to do or not do something. Many of us don’t admit our mistakes or take ownership of our wrong decisions. We always try to blame other people or situations. We always try to make excuses. However, your self-confidence will get a boost only with results, not with excuses! When you keep telling yourself this affirmation, you keep reminding yourself that if you are passionate about something, you will do it, beating all odds. You will only need to have the “want” to work towards your dreams, to make them a reality.

To your success

Michael W

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Common Misconceptions about Self-Discipline – Debunking Myths about an Overrated Concept

2019-02-102019-02-10 ~ adminlife

Many people overrate self-discipline because they have so many misconceptions about it. Consequently, many people tend to feel intimidated by people who exhibit signs of self-discipline. These people are perceived as being serious or boring, but these perceptions are just some of the many other misconceptions about this concept. Here are some of the common misconceptions about self-discipline.

Self-discipline is boring

For most people, it feels good to be able to do whatever one wants at any time. However, self-discipline is all about knowing what you should or should not do and employing prudence in this knowledge. As kids, most people found teachers who followed up on their activities to be boring, and the same is the case with grown-ups who lack self-discipline.

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However, self-discipline is the opposite of boring. People who are self-disciplined do not necessarily live boring lives; they have fun when it is the right time to. Having fun in the right doses is not only genuinely enjoyable, but self-disciplined people find it easier to really indulge in fun because there is usually a highly likely case that they have less to-do items on their lists than those who are not.

Self-discipline is difficult

Being independent makes many people feel entitled to doing whatever they want whenever they want to. This freedom makes it seem very difficult to desist from doing something especially when there is nothing stopping you. However, many people eventually find out that it is much easier to be self-disciplined as time goes by.

Case scenario: an outgoing college student has the time of his/her life and blows his/her college money travelling and socializing, and another outgoing college student who resists the urge and clears tuition fees. The former student will have a difficult time trying to get the money to pay for college, but the latter will have a higher chance of getting a job and a reliable source of income to party once in a while. Self-discipline makes a person organized and ensures there are little uncertainties about one’s future.

Self-discipline is not for everyone

Self-discipline is not a genome that is unique to only few people; it is a practice that begins with a good judgment and decision. Anyone can be self-disciplined, and all it takes is practicing self-control in one simple aspect and observing the resulting benefits. Many people are fascinated by how much they can achieve by being self-disciplined that they take it notches higher to cover almost all aspects of their lives.

Conclusion

The only reason why self-discipline is overrated is because there are many misconceptions about it. Contrary to many people’s beliefs, being in self-control of one’s actions is an empowering feeling that is fun, very rewarding, and amazingly easy. Anyone can be self-disciplined; it all starts with one simple decision and being dedicated to it.

To your success

Michael W