What’s easier: Working toward your goals alone through trial and error, or seeking the guidance and direction of someone who’s been there and done that?

The answer is obvious. When you seek the advice of someone who has been through it all before, you can then avoid the same mistakes and focus your time and energy on what truly works. That’s the power of a life coach.

Imagine yourself with a set plan and just the right advice. Coaching may shave years off the time it would have taken you to reach your goals otherwise!

Here are the top 7 reasons why you need a life coach:

1. Builds confidence. You know you’re under the guidance of someone successful and that your goals are attainable.
2. Guided plan. Sure, you can draft up a plan by yourself, but when you write out your plans with the help of a coach, you know you’re getting a realistic plan that works! Your coach will know shortcuts and can help you stay accountable as well.
3. Coaches can help you cope with current conflicts and tensions in your life. They can also give you tips on how to avoid similar situations in the future.
4. Personal attention. Coaching allows you to get one on one attention so you can be personally guided along your chosen path. If you run into struggles, your coach will be there to provide much needed support and suggestions.
5. Dealing with challenges. Things will not always go according to plan. When you hit a snag, your coach can help you overcome the challenge and steer you back into the correct direction. You can feel comfortable knowing that you’re receiving expert guidance.
6. You can decide how you’d like to use your coach. Do you want help with short-term goals or long-term goals? Perhaps you’d like both.
7. Your coach likely has a great deal of enthusiasm for their work, which will naturally rub off on you. Sometimes it may be difficult to keep up your drive, but thankfully, inspiration is one of the main reasons why coaches exist.

Finding a Coach That’s Right for You

There are a few tips you should keep in mind when searching for a coach that will mesh well with your personal style. The first concern is that your coach should have certain credentials and experience. It depends on the field you’re in, but ensure you do your homework when it comes to checking up on your coach.

See if you can find testimonials and reviews about potential coaches. Ask around and try to talk to someone else who has been coached by this person. After all, a good referral is always more trusted!

Communicate with your potential coach and see what his or her communication style is like. Ask yourself whether or not you think you’d get along well with this person. Some people might think the coach is fabulous, but if you don’t think you’ll personally communicate well, then it may not be a good fit for you.  

Make sure your coaching sessions will be conducted in a format that you find comfortable. Ask yourself whether you’re the type of person that needs to meet face to face. Nowadays with technology we can communicate in many different ways. Coaching sessions can take place over the phone, email, video conferencing, or in-person.

In the end you should be proud of yourself for seeking expert help. Follow these strategies to find a great life coach for you and jump-start your journey into the life you desire.

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You are losing interest in your project and you are only halfway through. You know that your motivation is going to be gone and you are helpless to stop it. You can try the following to help you stay motivated and stay on track through the rest of your project.

Visualize your success. You need to see yourself accomplishing your task to your satisfaction by the end of the project. This is important since what we tell ourselves will happen and will happen exactly as we tell ourselves. If your thoughts are about failure, you are already likely to fail. If you visualize yourself at the finish line and the project successfully finished, you are more likely to succeed. Keep the images in your head positive and just keep going.

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Stop worrying. While this is easier said than done, the more you worry, the more you derail your motivation, energy and enthusiasm that you had for the project. To stop worrying, you need to take a critical look at what you are doing and ask if there are things that you could change. If there are things that can be changed, change them, if not, let them go. You don’t get caught up in worrying if you are motivated, you make it a habit of looking to the future.

Be consistent in action. Staying motivated means setting positive goals and taking consistent action. When neglected, motivation drops. You want to make sure that you keep the energy on the project going where it will do the most good. You need to make sure that you are always moving forward. You need to check your motivation daily and do what needs to be done to keep those levels high. If you are taking the weekend off from work, you should take a few minutes to think about your project. You just need to remind yourself that you are excited about going back to work on Monday. This will keep your motivation and interest high even if you are not working.

Who are you around? Check to see who you with if your motivation is still not good. You may have too many negative influences in your life. Try surrounding yourself with positive people and highly motivated people. Their positive energy will rub off on you.

Keep your environment positive. Motivation thrives in a positive environment. You can listen to motivational music, use positive affirmations, read or listen to motivational materials. These will help you to get back into your project. When you continue to feed yourself a diet of motivational material you will continue to stay motivated.

It doesn’t have to be an impossible task to stay motivated. You will stay on track if you pay attention to some details that will help you get to the finish line of your task. You will get where you want to go when you are mindful of what you are doing and having lots of positive influences.

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The impact of the self-talk that is constantly going on inside your head is dramatic. Your actions and emotions are determined by the conversations you have with yourself. There are different types of self-talk.

General Self-talk

Raise your awareness. You have been talking to yourself for many years that your self-talk has become so natural that you may not really understand what you are saying. You must become aware of what you are saying about your life.

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Pattern disruption. A tool for making life changes is self-talk. Your fear of numbers may have been caused by receiving a bad grade in a math class and has been reinforced. Now you can take many online courses to help you in any type of math.

Take some action. When you are giving yourself your internal speeches, include a call to action. You should focus on attainable goals.

Do a reality check. Check to see if your self-talk is actually a reflection of what is actually going on around you. The difference between being a failure in the kitchen and just burning one slice of toast is huge.

Talk to others. It is valuable to get feedback from others. What do you colleagues and your partner say about you and ate your impressions the same?

Consistency. Before you accept a message, you usually have to hear it many times. With practice, your self-talk will get wiser.

Be your own friend. You don’t speak as harshly to your friends, or others, than you do to yourself. Talk to yourself as you would talk to a close friend. You should be truthful and supportive to yourself.

Motivation Self-talk

Strengthen yourself. In situations were you need endurance and confidence, motivational self-talk works best. You can increase your confidence and belief in your worth and your abilities with a good pep talk.

Identify your hot buttons. What words invigorate you? Call yourself a superhero and remind yourself how awesome you are.

Keep it short. You stay on track easier when you use single words or short phrases. You won’t be distracted by any doubts and you will be better able to focus on your assets.

Instructional Self-talk

Begin early. A great opportunity for instructional self-talk is at the start of a new project. During the important starting phase is a good time to coach yourself.

Be specific and precise. Break down your tasks into specific parts. For public speaking, you could use: make eye contact, get your pacing correct and be enthusiastic.

See your success. See yourself achieving the results you want.

Reassuring Self-talk

Acknowledging your feelings. You can manage your tense moments and have more comfort by having a soothing self-talk. Even if you feel afraid, you will have the best results if you accept your emotions.

Create some distance. People will perform better under stress if they call themselves by their name or replacing the word you instead of using the word I. When you are under pressure this is one way to restore objectivity.

Focus on the positive. Your life challenges won’t disappear just by using self-talk, but you can respond in a more constructive manner. Concentrate on doing better in the future instead of replaying and criticizing yourself for any past mistake.

Start moving yourself in a positive direction with your self-talk. Learn what the thoughts that are going through your head are saying, and if they are negative, change them into a stream of encouragement. You will enjoy more success in your life and reduce stress, and enhance your self-confidence with the right self-talk.

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To your success

Michael

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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An obstacle is a stumbling block. It tries to prevent you from achieving your goals. To move forward in life, you have to overcome the barriers.

Setting goals is one side of the coin, but you also need to achieve them. Obstacles usually come around when you’re at that point of execution. It is when you’re busy working on goals that you encounter obstacles. And at that point, it becomes painful.

The truth is, almost everyone can agree that success comes with challenges. Those challenges usually present themselves as puzzles you need to solve. And when you solve them, you’re almost guaranteed to succeed.

How can you overcome any obstacle in life? These tips will help you:

1. Maintain a positive attitude. Your attitude is the foundation of your character. If you want to succeed, it’s important to acquire a positive attitude.

• • A positive attitude motivates you to keep working even if it’s hard. Negative thoughts and feelings, on the other hand, destroy motivation. What can you do? Perceive obstacles as opportunities for growth.
  • In life, you will face many obstacles. When they come up, decide to face them head-on.

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2. Take your time before you act. When you first encounter an obstacle, you might be tempted to panic, rush, or give up. But if you have the patience and the wisdom to look for where you might have erred in your previous actions, you can find a solution that works for you.

• • Learn from each of your mistakes and be forgiving as well.
  • Rushing could worsen the situation. Take the time you need, and you might be able to figure out a solution.

3. Get back in control. Sadly, it’s easy to lose control of our emotions during times of adversity. When that happens, it could lead to decisions that could worsen an already bad situation.

• • It’s crucial to maintain your composure to make the best decisions possible. How can you do it? Identify and eliminate the root of your anger. Doing that will allow you to stay in control when you face a challenge.

4. Take a step forward and commit yourself. Commitment is the key to success. Although it might not be easy, you have to take the first step towards your goal so you can move on and achieve success.

• • If you don’t keep moving forward, you won’t get anywhere with your goals, no matter how close they are.

5. Divide your goals into manageable chunks. Break your goals down into smaller, more manageable pieces, and you’ll be able to achieve them without feeling overwhelmed.
   • This also means that you’ll have more time to work on each of the smaller goals, and you won’t feel the urgency of getting all the way there in one go.

• • You could create a checklist based on your goals. When you have a checklist, it means you can always ensure that everything is in order before you move on to the next small step on your list.

6. Prepare to handle any future risks. The best way to overcome obstacles is to reduce their chances. Under normal circumstances, solving an initial block leaves you with valuable feedback.

• • To prepare for future risks, take time to review the feedback you’ve received.
  • For example, if you encountered obstacles in your first few tries, maybe you need to change the course of your actions. There’s less chance that you’ll experience other risks when you do that.

7. Maintain motivation with rewards. Many people quit before they reach their goals because the going gets tough. To keep going despite challenges, you’ll need high motivation. You can find inspiration by setting up rewards that mean something to you.

• • Consider how long you’ll have to work to achieve your goal and the after-achievement benefits.
  • As you plan these rewards, emotionally think of them. Make them something that will excite you.

You can overcome any obstacle in life if you know your goal, work on your attitude, take your time before making decisions, keep yourself in control, take a step forward, and commit yourself to achieve that goal.

Then, divide the action steps into manageable chunks, prepare to handle any future risks, and maintain a high motivation so you can keep going despite challenges.

Follow these steps and reap the rewards!

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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Where does self confidence come from? How do we get it? Why don’t I have it? The answer to all of these questions can be answered with one word – you! Self confidence starts with you, your perception of yourself, and what other people think about your actions or behaviour.

For some of us, a lack of self confidence only affects our high ambitions. You might have always wanted to get up on stage, or to be a professional singer or actor for example. Perhaps your life dream is to travel the world, visit different countries or cities, but you don’t have the self confidence to do it. For others, the problem of self confidence is much closer to home – in the office, business meetings, public speaking events or presentations.

Self confidence issues affect most of us at some time, and we can usually find ways of getting around the problem. Avoidance is one tactic we often use – if we can get out of an intimidating situation we’ll make up excuses not to take part. However, there are times when we can’t get out of it, or we really don’t want to. If a lack of self confidence is preventing you from doing trying something new, or from succeeding in your working life, it’s time to do something about it.

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The starting point in improving your self confidence is understanding what causes the problem. Low self esteem, not believing in yourself or your ability, feeling inadequate compared to your colleagues or friends or maybe some kind of trauma from your childhood are all contributing factors. By examining the reasons for your low self confidence, you’re halfway there!

Taking positive action to overcome your fears is the next step to help boost your self confidence. A simple way to do this is by taking on small challenges. You have allowed your brain to associate certain events or actions with fear, so you’ve already pre-empted the outcome of these situations. By taking a small step towards conquering this, you’ll find that the result is most likely not as bad as you think – in fact, you’ll probably be surprised about how good you feel and your self confidence will instantly increase.

When you’ve completed your first small challenge, congratulate yourself on achieving your aim. A small reward can often help. You’re already on the right path to improving your self confidence, so you’re ready to take it to the next level. This doesn’t need to be a huge task; you don’t want to undo all the good work. Building up your self confidence takes time, and while you might want to leap ahead, it can be a good idea to take things slowly at first. Steadily increase the risks you’re taking to get your self confidence to where you want to be. Risk taking does not, of course, mean jumping off a bridge, but the perceived risk of something happening as a result of your actions is usually the biggest barrier with self confidence.

Self confidence problems are common for most people, and there are excellent resources to learn to deal with these issues, but if you do have severe difficulty facing certain situations you should seek professional help

To work together to help you develop and build your self-confidence, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

 

 

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