Expect to Be Successful – 8 Steps to Follow

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“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” ― Vince Lombardi

If you expect to be successful, you will be successful. Success is a matter of belief in your abilities. See what the author has to say about the 8 steps to success in life.

Eight Steps to Success in Life – Can You Expect to Be Successful? – By Kevin J. John

Every day you have to face up to an increasing number of challenges, just keeping your head above water is hard. Can you really expect to be successful? The answer is yes you can – and the more you expect success the more likely you are to achieve it!

An extensive study of successful people has shown that one of the important factors in their success was not their opportunities early on in life or the difficulties they faced. It was something much simpler. The difference was whether they expected to be successful or not.

Let me repeat that important point. People who expect to be successful are more likely to be successful.

What you think is what you are

One of the eight steps to success in life is to maintain a positive attitude. This is especially true when it comes to your expectations of success. If you expect to be a successful person, you will spend the majority of your time thinking of yourself as successful. What you think about is what you become.

Consider two people. The first person fully and confidently expects to be successful in life. The second person fully expects to fail. We’ll start them off with the same opportunities and problems to overcome…

If you expect success you will encounter the same challenges as the other person, but you won’t get put off by the problems you encounter. The successful person views problems as learning opportunities or at worst, nothing more than minor delays on the way to inevitable success.

On the other hand, if you expect failure, you’re going to find it very discouraging every time something goes wrong. Problems you encounter are just going to reinforce your expectations of failure. Problems are seen as roadblocks and major pitfalls as you struggle to maintain your status quo. Very soon, you’re going to be falling behind that person with higher expectations of success.

Improve your success quotient

The chances are you expectations of success vary from day to day and with the different goals you are trying to achieve in your life. If you are attempting something that you are confident is going to be easy for you, you will have a high expectation of success and a very good chance of being successful.

On the other hand, if you are tackling a really daunting task, your expectations of success will be much lower…

The important thing is your average expectation of success. If you expect to succeed at most things and just fail occasionally you are likely to have a successful life. If you expect to fail at most things and just occasionally succeed, your life will be correspondingly less successful.

Wherever you are now, if you want more success in life you need to work on improving your expectations of success. Applying the principles of the eight steps to success can help you to raise your expectations of success and make you more successful.

Would you like to learn more about eight steps to success in life?

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Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills needed to achieve the success that they want.

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Are You Self-confident?

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“There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King.” – Orison Swett Marden

We all want to have confidence in ourselves. We like the idea that we can complete things and be more in control of our future.

The article below talks about 5 myths of self-confidence.

5 Myths about Self-Confidence – by Bosschat

People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving anything that they want to in life, or dealing with any situation that they may have to face. They have an aura of self-confidence and self-assurance, which is apparent to others. People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.

In contrast, there are many people who are talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people are victims of the several myths that surround self-confidence.

Myth One: People are born with Self-Confidence

Nothing could be further from truth. Self-confidence, like other skill, can be learnt and built up. All that you need is the right guidance and a belief in yourself.

Myth Two: Only Good Looking People are Self-Confident

Some people blame their low self-confidence to their lack of good looks. They don’t realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. The only way they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.

Myth Three: Only Talented People are Self-Confident

In fact, talent and self-confidence are not inter-related. There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is. Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. So, don’t worry about lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.

Myth Four: Self Confidence is directly proportional to Praise Received

There is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence. But you can’t simply depend on the praise lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident.

We should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or swim. It does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?

Myth Five: Only Self-Confident People Can Afford to Take Risks

This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can’t do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don’t get it they end up losing their self-confidence.

It’s clear that there is a lack of understanding. Self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person’s beauty or looks. It flows from a person’s self-belief, and this belief can be built. All that a person needs to do is to debunk myths that self-confidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have

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What is Success?

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

We can all learn from this article. Success is personal as well as something that you need to find and keep working at.

What A Duck Taught Me About Success! – John Jacobsen

In a very small village lived a wise old prophet. The prophet spent his last years sharing wisdom, answering questions and giving advice to the people in the village. The people truly respected and loved the prophet because his advice was always helpful and his answers always precise.

One day a young boy from the village decided to trick the prophet by asking a question that would be impossible to answer. The boy found a small live duck, concealed it behind his back and slowly approached the prophet. In a mocking voice the boy asked, ‘Prophet, I hold a duck behind my back. Tell me; is the duck dead or alive?’ The prophet paused for a moment and gazed into the boy’s eyes. In a whisper he responded, ‘If I say the duck is dead, you will show me its live body. If I say the duck is alive, you will quickly choke it, and then show me its dead body. Therefore, I tell you the duck is neither alive nor dead. The duck is whatever you decide it will be.’

I heard that story many years ago, and it made a strong impression on me. It reminded me that each of us have the power to decide our own fate and destiny. For each of us, our potential for success is like the duck in this story.

‘Your success will be whatever you decide it will be.’

For many people success is a very personal but subjective type of thing. I understand the personal part; however the subjective part must be made more objective or concrete so you can recognize your success when you arrive there. Without some type of objectivity as to what your success will feel, sound, taste, smell, and look like, you won’t know when you’ve succeeded, or if you’ve already unknowingly succeeded. It’s similar to trying to kick a field goal without knowing where the goal post is. Simply put, you cannot be successful unless you first define and understand what success means to you.

The dictionary defines ‘success’ as the achievement of something desired, planned or attempted. Although that definition is accurate, it does not touch upon our own individual visions. What are your measurements for success? What does success man to you? How will you know whether you are or are not successful if you have not yet defined what success means to you? Do you know what must specifically happen in your life, job, career, marriage or business for you to feel totally successful?

Some people use money as a measuring stick for success. If they have an abundance of money, they consider themselves successful; if their finances are in shambles, they consider themselves failures. Others believe that if money is your only motive for success, then you are already a failure. Some people feel very successful if they own a new car or a large house. Others may live in a modest apartment and use public transportation and they, too, feel successful because they are content where they are. Someone else may feel successful if he or she is the president of a large corporation. Others may be happy and fulfilled working in the mail room. In Hollywood, you’re considered successful if your name is in the gossip columns and not in the phone book.

To begin to define your own version of success, you can start by asking yourself two important questions:

1. What must specifically happen in my life for me to feel totally successful and completely fulfilled?

2. How will I know when I have achieved it?

Stop now and write out your answers to these two questions. It may take some time and serious thought; however they are the foundation for the rest of your life.

Answering these questions reveals your personal criteria. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers; your criteria is simply a measurement of what is important to you and a measurement of your values. Compare your criteria with your current life situation, and that assessment designates whether or not you’re a success, or at least if you’re on the right track. In my life, I feel fulfilled and successful when the following five areas are in balance:

1. I must have a very happy family life by feeling totally connected to my wife and children.

2. I must experience physical, emotional and mental health with vibrant energy.

3. I must be engaged in a labor of love.

4. I must feel that I am serving others.

5. My business must be prosperous.

These ‘success posts’ are my criteria for success. I strive to keep them constantly flourishing, and am happy to report that 85% of the time they are at the levels I desire. What could be more satisfying than knowing you are living up to the dream inside you? What could be more important than discovering your talents and developing them? What could be more fulfilling than doing what you love every day?

You were born to win! Success can be learned; it leaves clues and it has a formula. These clues and formulas of success are alive within you.

‘However, your definition of success or criteria must precede all of this.’

The moment you chose, define and more importantly ‘crystallize’ your vision, you will discover that it’s much easier to arrive— if you knew where you were going ahead of time. The duck is behind your back; what are you going to do with it; let it live or let it die?

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About the Author

John Eric Jacobsen is the Co-founder and President of Jacobsen Business Seminars, Inc. John has
consulted for more than 1,000 companies and addressed more than 1,000,000
people in 5,000 talks and seminars throughout the US. As a keynote speaker and
seminar leader, he addresses many people each year. http://jacobsenprograms.com/

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