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Plan For Success

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“Just identify the very first physical action you need to take, and do it.”
― Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

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The Essence Of Planning For Success by Kozen Huseyin

image4Success is an interesting topic to look at. Everyone has a different idea for what true success is. The first point is actually to figure out what success means to you. The second point is to fully understand the power in planning, and the next more important step of taking action. As you read this article, discover the essence of planning for success.

As you read every word of this article, you are about to discover:

* What is your definition of success?

* Why planning is essential for success

* The #1 key you need to know right now

* What is your definition of success?

What is success? Is success a journey? Is success making a million dollars in a year? Do you count every day a success that you are above ground? Every person has a different definition, and our definitions can serve us or not.

What is your definition of success? No other person can give you an impression of what success actually is – only you can, based on your experiences in life. We can paint that vision and make that vision happen.

* Why planning is essential for success

So you now have a vision for success. If you keep a vision a vision, it will not become your reality; you will not take the essential actions. First we have to steady our horses; it is time to do an essential part of getting to success.

First, don’t make success a journey, success should be lived daily. It is our daily distinctions of success that ultimately will help us look over the years and say – yes it is a successful life.

To make that happen, you need a plan. It doesn’t have to be hundred pages. In fact some people have managed to do it on a napkin or a small piece of paper. From there more and more of the plan become unraveled to you.

* The #1 key you need to know right now

So, what happens at this point? You have an ideal, a vision. You do your plan, and like all others, you have an option. The option is doing more planning, seeking a perfect plan or you can start.

People in the masses will start planning, and from planning will stay in planning. As time goes by action becomes more and more difficult. So the best thing that you need to do right now, is to take action.

You don’t just want action, you want smart action. This is important, because daily we hear of people working hard, and never getting far. If others have achieved what you want to achieve, so can you.

It is only through action in the right direction that success can come to you. Just how much do you want positive change?

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Decisive Decision-making

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“A weak man has doubts before a decision; a strong man has them afterwards.”

-Karl Kraus German philosopher (1781 – 1832)

If you want to be successful in today’s world you need to be able to make decisions easily and decisively.

The article below sets out some methods to make decisive decisions. A life coach can help you to overcome the problems that yo may have in this area of your life.

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Success Demands Decisive Decisions – by Ken Keis

image4Every day we are all faced with numerous decisions. Some decisions are mundane, such what we are going to wear; other decisions are life-changing or life-threatening.

As a society we celebrate others’ abilities to make decisions quickly. Could you imagine having indecisive firefighters, police, doctors, and airline pilots? Of course not!

But every day, we meet individuals who not only frustrate us; they lose credibility with us when they can’t make a decision.

If you want to be successful and a leader individuals will follow and respect, you MUST have the quality and character of being decisive AND of making a decision, period. By the way, was that last statement written in a decisive manner?

Everyone reading this article is a leader. Yes, everyone! You are a leader at some level with someone. It could be at home as a significant other and/or parent. It could be at work, as a volunteer. And certainly, you are responsible for the leadership of your own life-fulfillment and your purpose. Your success is linked to your ability to make decisions. No exceptions!

In his classic book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill conducts analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced significant failure. Lack of decision was one of the major causes.

Procrastination, the opposite of decision, is something almost all of us must overcome.

And one more dynamic of decision-making must be mentioned:

“Successful individuals (everyone I reviewed) had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and changing these decisions slowly. People who fail to be successful, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions very slowly, if at all, and of changing these decisions quickly and often.” Napoleon Hill

Your success is dependent on your ability to make decisions and your ability to stand by them and not go back often to change them. This does not mean you will never reverse a decision but, if you do, frequently, you will not be respected or trusted by others. They will just wait for you to change your mind, again!

You cannot be a decisive decision-maker if your decisions are mostly based on public opinion. Yes, we all should seek feedback and others’ opinions at times, but if you can only make decisions when influenced by others, you will have no desire of your own.

Every group of individuals will have some kind of opinion. But opinions are a cheap commodity. If you run your life via committee, you are destined for disaster. Decisions in the end must always come from the decision-maker. You must be able to keep your own counsel and be clear about your values, be confident in your decisions, and be healthy mentally, emotionally, and physically to make decisive decisions.

Example. Just under a year ago I was elected to the board of our children’s private school. I must admit we inherited a mess. The previous board would not make any difficult decisions. They procrastinated. They wanted to be liked and popular instead of leaders called upon to make decisive decisions. The result was moral, emotional, and financial bankruptcy.

The new board (all but one of the previous board resigned) is a decisive decision-making group. To save the school meant making difficult and, in some cases, very unpopular decisions including laying off staff, firing incompetent staff, and changing the entire way the school was being lead. If we had listened to popular opinion, we would not have made those difficult decisions — and would no longer have a school.

Of course, the individuals with the loudest negative opinions left our school. But we stood by our decisions. No popular opinions were going to change what we felt was the right leadership decision. Our group did our research, gathered the facts and reviewed them, then decided, quickly.

The results have been miraculous. The atmosphere in the entire school has never been more positive. The staff communicates and cares for one another and is supportive and open. This week the Ministry of Education auditors did a complete review of our school and stated it is one of the best that they have ever audited.

The new school situation was achieved in less than six months of decisive decisions, which overcame more than five years of procrastination, decisions by popular opinion, and simple neglect.

Being indecisive drains your energy and leaves you weak, both emotionally and physically. A mind-made-up brings tremendous extra energy and power.

So how decisive are you? Has your success been compromised by your indecision or decisions that you make and change quickly?

If I asked your close colleagues and friends, what would they say about this characteristic in you?

Making decisions and being decisive is a choice. I have found in many years of coaching others that a significant percentage of individuals do not know where to start. Their whole life has been around reacting to others’ opinions and being burdened by their own lack of decisions.

If that is your case, your most important decision is to learn how to make decisions that fit you and your purpose and path.

To help you on this path, let me suggest three options.

Many individuals want to figure out the formula to make the right decision every time, but that is not a realistic objective.

  1. You want to ensure that you limit and avoid the wrong decisions. To do this, you need to make value-based decisions, not content-based decisions. You first must establish, confirm, and own your core values. If you cannot verbalize or list the core values that influence your decision-making — at once, with absolutely no hesitation — you will not be able to make consistent, decisive decisions.
  2. Your confidence level will highly influence your ability to make and keep your decisions. To maintain your position (decision), your self-worth must be strong and high.
  3. Your stress and health level with affect your ability to make sound and grounded decisions.

Many years ago, when I was introduced to CRG, three powerful assessments helped me with my decision-making abilities. If you want to improve your decisiveness, those assessments can help you, as well.

  • The Values Preference Indicator will help you determine your top values and assist you to compare the values you might think are important to those that are really important.
  • The Self-Worth Inventory will help you determine your confidence and self-esteem in six primary categories. Confidence is situational; there can be areas in your life where you are very decisive and other areas where you are not. The SWI will help you to determine this.
  • The Stress Indicator and Health Planner with take you through an evaluation of five critical health and stress areas in your life. If you can’t decide whether or not to take these assessments, what does that tell you about your decision-making?

Successful individuals, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions quickly.

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This Week’s Action Steps

Demanding Decisive Decisions

  1. Lack of decision-making is one of the major causes of failure.
  2. How do you make decisions: slowly or quickly?
  3. After you make a decision, do you keep it or do you constantly change or reverse your decisions?
  4. Do you rely on others’ opinions to make your decisions or do you keep your own counsel?
  5. Are you able to make unpopular decisions and feel comfortable when you do so?
  6. Are you clear about your core values, required for decisive decisions? If not, take the Value Preference Indicator to confirm your core values.
  7. Do you doubt your decisions and constantly second-guess yourself? If so, take the Self-Worth Inventory to establish you confidence level, in six categories. Also review where you hold your ground and where you do not — and why.
  8. Is your overall health and stress level effecting your decision-making? To confirm this, take the Stress Indicator and Health Planner to establish your health and stress in five areas of your life. Determine whether your physical and mental condition is affecting your decision-making.
  9. Own the fact that your success is determined on your ability to make decisive decisions.
  10. Develop the habit of making decisions, establish your core guidelines, take your own opinion seriously, and take others; opinions second — or not at all. If you are already thinking about excuses why you can’t, I think you have a clear outline of your condition.
  11. Just do it! Get started now. There is absolutely no honor or value in procrastination.

Until next time, keep “Living On Purpose”,

Ken Keis

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Ken Keis is an internationally known author, speaker, consultant, & President of CRG. Many professionals herald CRG as the # 1 global resource center for Personal/Professional Development.

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Leadership Skills You Must Possess

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“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” —Jack Welch

Being a leader takes some skills and a willingness to learn. A life coach can help you to understand the leadership skills you need.

The article below discusses leadership and the skill set required.

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The Good Leadership Skills A Leader Must Possess – by Amy Twain

image3There are so many things that a leader should need to improve or develop; he needs to be able to deal and understand other people’s problems and help them. We’re all born and raised from different places, countries, cultures and traditions; thus we have to accept them, learn from them, adjust and respect other people. A leader should be communicative, adjust with his peers and colleagues, he should have the capacity in influencing and persuading individuals to do things positively. We have to bear in mind that leaders are not born, they’re made. A leader must be able to see the big picture so that he should be able to have a clear idea about what his team want to do and what kind of achievement or outcome they will expect.

If you’re the leader of a team, even if your team has only one other person, you have to quickly develop a brand new set of skills in order to establish or resolve what these skills are, and you have to consider the beginning of these high performing teams. Leaders should always need to set a good example for their followers. Both leadership training and leadership skills are very significant; and it is necessary for today’s youths to develop and enhance their leadership skills. But these days, only quite a few of our youths take up training programs in leadership skills and such leadership training would help you in understanding and adjusting things in both workplace and even at our homes.

Opportunities for developing and enhancing your leadership qualities and leadership skills are not only limited to certain youth groups. You can also improve your leadership skills even at places such as social service organizations or your local churches. The best thing about being a leader either in your relationships or work life is that you would be able to practice or make use of your skills and persuade and influence other people towards a common goal. As a team leader, you would be able to teach individuals some essential morals and values and promote the excellent and best principles of team work.

Good leaders must always be enthusiastic and interested about the cause or work. He is someone who will never hesitate to roll up his sleeves and get messy if the work or situation calls for it! An effective leader has exemplary character and integrity, and should be dependable, thus he has to be trusted and he must certainly be polite, truthful, honest and also approachable. Only a confident leader would set the direction and guide or lead the group or team in the right path. If you act or do things purposeful and orderly, your team or your followers would look for reassurance and security.

A considerate leader never tries to compare himself with others, but he compares with what he has achieved, his goals and triumphs. And last but definitely not the least, a great leader must remain calm and be tolerant during tough and problematic circumstances in trying to solve it.

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Why is Life Coaching Successful?

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“Share your aspirations only with those who will support you, not those who will respond with doubt or lack of interest.” ― Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

Can you measure the success of life coaching? Why does life coaching work for a client? These and other questions are answered in the article below.

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Understanding Why Life Coaching Is Successful – by Feroce

Accounts of the effectiveness of executive coaching have proven returns on investments of more than 500%. No like studies have been done regarding life coaching and quite honestly, a human life has fewer valued metrics than business so that anyone could measure coaching. However coaching executives have little more to do with business than coaching people on their lives does – even executive coaching in essence comes down to life coaching – so there’s no reason to imagine the ROI in life coaching, if it were calculable, would be any different. In truth when it comes to coaching, clients’ lives change impressively. I have seen it over and over again. How does is it possible? One could compose novels on the topic, but here I will expand on a few high-level reasons.

Life coaching essentially works for one reason: because the client desires it to work. Life coaching is firstly about the intent and goals of the client. This is one huge contrast between coaching on the one hand and advising on the other: your consultant can succeed in large part without your dedication to what he or she is doing, because he or she is the one doing it. Coaching is carried out by you- with a difference.

Coaching works in an impressive way because a good coach meets several human basic needs:

  1. The overpowering power of commitment and accountability, like when a person wanting something works harder for it because of a promise to another.
  2. The aching for a friend or partner on one’s path, particularly during difficult times.
  3. The odd but true need for authorization to change, especially when you know doing so will mean a loss of understanding by, or even growing away from, old friends.
  4. The desire to be and feel understood.

Coaches use many tools and methods in order to assist in the client’s desire for change. Coaching is a career built on a foundation of layers. Methods can be acquired from psychological development, business strategy and motivational theory, for instance. Yet life coaches and business coaches collectively have a few tools that the professions from which we’ve adopted do not.

Personal Life Combines Diverse Methods and Professions

Personal life coaching is a job that utilizes the most effective techniques of its forerunners, which include:

  • Sport’s psychology
  • A psychoanalyst’s position of unconditional positive respect and a mediator’s listening skills of non-judgmental awareness
  • Mentoring
  • Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
  • Organizational growth
  • Spirituality
  • Marketing
  • Philosophy
  • Self-starting skills
  • Personal development and change
  • Motivational theory
  • Existential Philosophy and Psychology
  • Leadership
  • Strong business coaching skills including planning, setting goals, reverse-energy strategy and maneuvers based on the goal, analysis, follow-up and accountability
  • Holistic healing and the like
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy

The Strong Points of Coaching is in Its Dedication to Your Expanded “Knowingness.”

Once the client’s intentions are already strong, there is one reason for the effectiveness of life coaching- as it does seem to be more effective in generating measurable results than similar person (centered fields such as psychotherapy)- it could possibly be from the power of commitment. In this case, a client’s commitment to the coach through him or herself is, to work with the coach to thrive through awareness. It is the awareness of her “self”, her self-limiting thinking, her relationships, her career and her situation. Personal power is attained through greater awareness.

The strength of commitment is planted from social support of people adapting to who they say they are and doing what they say they’re going to do. Plainly speaking, personal coaching takes your own natural honesty and good will to embellish it for your benefit.

Tightly related to devotion in the success rate of coaching, is this fact- coaching is a united effort. Coaching is two people united and working towards the same goal. Just imagine the strength that can be reigned in with two or more wills trained on the same object! Also, the other person’s will is what keeps you accountable to your own.

Coaching succeeds because it’s Supported by Responsibility

Even though therapy and coaching may use exchangeable skills at times, they hold to different means and goals – including the setting of goals in the first place. When you see a therapist, you probably won’t set any measurable goals (often with legitimate reasons). At the most specific, you may say you desire something such as comprehension of who you are, to feel better, or to have more “balance” and quality in your lifestyle. You don’t usually go to a therapist when you are healthy and want personal growth or to be more successful.

All the same, without the presence of goals you will be missing any vision of where you are going, you will have no way to measure and hold yourself accountable. In addition, the easygoing nature of the psychotherapeutic relationship calls on most therapists to try not to hold you to any goals. However sociologists and business experts who work in goal theory know that all of this is a concoction that allows one to be unable to meet one’s goals. If you’re seeking a coach, being unsuccessful isn’t one part of your plan.

But then if you pay for the services of a personal trainer, the difference between sitting at home doing nothing and sporting a new figure, washboard stomach, or cardiovascular fitness is simple. You already know that you should be at the gym every day and your trainer is already there preparing your workout for you. You hire a personal coach or a trainer because you realize that you may not have the conditioning or tools to get there by yourself. However you do know you have the persona and sense of honor that will not allow you to let others down – nor yourself, once you have made a commitment “publicly” to your coach or trainer.

Coaching can give you that power that can virtually guarantee results you just can’t get any other way. Or, if you can get the results somewhere else you’re likely have a long, drawn out wait (and experience a great deal more frustration).

Coaching Offers Clearness and Visibility in Transformations

Coaching aid clients in being able to see and then realizing what they really want to do in their lives and careers, professions and businesses.

Most people find that that is the hardest part and many of us don’t even have an idea of what we want to do or we don’t know how to get there. We may even demand a little help in bringing out the fearlessness we already have. Yet if it’s anxiety that keeps us from seeing that we already know where we want to be, a coach is a loyal friend and confidant in facing and overcoming the fears that we conceal.

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Powerful Words When Life Coaching

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“If not now, when?” – Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

Life coaches ask lots of questions to help you to find your blocks and develop those areas that are holding you back from being successful.

Here are 7 words that coaches should be using and what you should be asking yourself.

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The seven most powerful words in Coaching by Jaco Beukes

Seven small words are so powerful, it can and will change your life!

There are not many words that have the power to unlock possibilities and help people fulfill their potential. But these seven words are crucial to any coach or ambitious person’s toolkit. If you know how to use them effectively, they can be a brush in your hand in front of an open canvas. However, if you use them incorrectly they will create a barrier between you and the person you work with…

Coaching requires many questions to be asked to the person you work with, and this is an art! Before discussing particular effective words, I want to share a few thoughts on questioning itself. This is to ensure that the environment in which the questions are asked is optimised…

1. Know why you are asking specific questions. Your aim is to help clients think through their circumstances and generate possibilities that will help them to reach their goals. This means that you do not need to know everything and should not ask questions to merely satisfy your own curiosity, but rather to help them come up with what will help them move forward.

2. Make sure that you establish good rapport with your clients before you start with in-depth questioning. If in-depth questions are asked before a suitable level of rapport has been established, your questions may actually cause the client to close off instead of open up.

3. Always ask open questions, questions that cannot be answered with only a “yes” or “no”.

4. Really listen to the speaker, do not use the time to think of what you’ll say next. Let them determine the direction of the conversation.

Once you have created rapport and the right context, the following seven questioning words can be particularly powerful: what, why, how, when, where, who and if. Let’s look at each in turn:

What

This is probably the word that any good coach will use most frequently. It could be used to elicit information, help clients to think through the possible consequences of their actions and assist them in defining their goal. A very strong addition to what is the little word ‘else’. By asking what else continuously, clients are helped to generate countless possibilities from which they could then choose the most appropriate action.

Why

This word should be approached with caution. If it is used wrongly, someone might react defensively, e.g. why did you do that? These questions will then form a barrier between the coach and the client. It is therefore much better to change into a “what” question, e.g. what were the consequences of this action? Or what made you decide to take this action? However, when used to test or increase motivation, why-questions can be very effective. For instance when someone talks about their goal and you want to help them to make it into a strong and compelling reason to follow their dream, ask: why do you want this so much?

How

This word could help people to take action, by thinking through the steps they will need to take to turn their dreams into reality. Asking a question like: how will you go about achieving your goal? will help clients to think through the actions they need to take next. Another powerful how-question would be to ask: how will you know when you’ve reached your goal? This question will help clients to become very clear on what needs to happen and what specific elements are required. This will make it easier for them to recognise when they have achieved their goal.

Who

This word can be used to achieve two major outcomes. Firstly it can help people to find out who they can ask to support them or who could help them reach their goals. Secondly a who-question could help clients to realise their own responsibility for achieving their goals. This question, whose responsibility is this, can help clients to really take ownership of what needs to be done. This could be a powerful experience for clients when they really take ownership of the goals for their life.

If

This word is used to help clients see possibilities and unlock their creativity, e.g. if you were to do this, what would happen? If you knew the answer, what would you say? If a miracle happened and everything was how you would like it to be, what would your life look like?

When

After someone has decided on their action plan, this word is probably the most effective word that could be used. This word transforms dreams into goals. The word “when” can change an idea into a specific action. When someone has made plans and seem excited about doing it, just ask: when will you do this?

Where

Although this question is not often used, it could be a real gem, especially when it is asked not to determine a specific place, but rather a direction or consequence. For instance asking someone: where will this lead? Could help them to realise the consequences or possibilities of their actions and could motivate them to take action as soon as possible. So, if you asked this question after someone said they would clean their garden, they could respond with the following answers: I will not be embarrassed to have friends over anymore; I may even invite my neighbours over… I think we could actually become good friends… This question could thus generate a lot of possibilities and subsequent excitement about the future.

These seven words are powerful, they could change your practise and they could help to change people’s lives. So use them with precision and care and see how they will help people to unlock their amazing potential.

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