A Foolproof Formula for Believing in Yourself

2021-12-06 ~ adminlife

What does it take to succeed? You might think you need lots of money and powerful friends. However, there’s a more significant factor that’s free and within your reach.

Believing in yourself may be your most valuable resource. It has a powerful impact on your behaviour and experiences. It’s a mindset that gives you motivation and helps you to reach your goals.

You deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Try this foolproof formula for increasing your faith in yourself.

Building Your Confidence

When you’re feeling unsure, remind yourself that confidence is a skill you can develop. You might need to fake it sometimes, but gradually you’ll accept and trust yourself more.

Try these tips to build confidence:

Review your achievements. It’s easy to forget how far you’ve come. Give yourself credit for your major accomplishments and the incremental progress you make each day.
Set goals. Keep adding to your track record by creating specific and compelling goals for the short and long term. Making an effort is just as important as the end results.
Change your inner dialogue. How do you talk to yourself? Choose words that lift you up and inspire you to try harder.
Continue learning. Maybe you need additional resources and qualifications to pursue your passions. Take courses online, read books, and talk with others about their areas of expertise.
Think positive. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude and hope. Start your day with a smile, and savour small pleasures.

Taking Care of Yourself

Your daily choices reflect how much you value yourself.

Adopt habits that protect your physical and mental well being, such as:

Exercise regularly. Physical activity reduces stress and increases hormones that help you to feel calm and happy. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise each week.
Eat healthy. It’s easier to have confidence when your energy levels are high, and your blood sugar is stable. Enjoy a diet rich in nutritious whole foods, including plenty of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Avoid excess salt and sugar.
Sleep well. Your body and mind need 7 to 8 hours of restful sleep each night. Stick to a consistent bedtime and keep your bedroom dark and quiet.
Manage stress. How do you deal with daily tensions? Learn constructive coping strategies. In addition to working out, you could develop a daily self-care practice or listen to soft music.

Reaching out for Support

Believing in yourself also means being realistic. Relying on others can sometimes be a sign of wisdom and strength.

Try these strategies:

Advocate for yourself. Mutually supportive relationships are based on healthy boundaries and asking for help when you need it. Communicate tactfully and directly and allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Network actively. Build a strong system of personal and professional contacts. Join clubs and go to places where you can meet others who share your interests. Nurture your relationships by staying in touch and being willing to communicate on a deeper level where you share your thoughts and feelings.
Find a mentor. Working with a trusted advisor is a great way to gain guidance and valuable feedback about your career path and other aspects of your life. Look for someone you can relate to and be respectful of their time. You can start with someone you know or ask your contacts for introductions.
Be generous. Giving to others can increase your regard for yourself in many ways. In addition to making yourself more popular, you’ll see proof that you have strengths that can make a positive impact on the world and your community.

Believe in yourself and your abilities! Love yourself for who you are and create the life you want.

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To your success

Michael

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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Why You Procrastinate and How to Overcome It

2021-12-01 ~ adminlife

You procrastinate because the thought of taking a certain action makes you feel bad. There are lots of actions that give us that “Ugh” feeling when we even think about doing them. The unpleasant action could be going to the gym, doing your taxes, making an unpleasant phone call, or scrubbing the toilet.

So, procrastination isn’t really an issue of laziness. It’s an emotional issue. Your brain predicts that you’re going to experience a negative emotion and does its best to help you avoid it.

However, you don’t have to allow your emotions to guide you. They’re merely suggestions you can choose to follow or reject. It’s not easy to take an action that feels uncomfortable, but it can be done.

Even if you procrastinate, you’ll eventually feel even worse about not taking the appropriate action! Why not save yourself some time and drama and just do it now?

Sometimes it’s okay to procrastinate, but there are other times that it would be best to take action immediately.

So, what can you do to mitigate procrastination?

Try these tips to overcome procrastination:

Focus on the physical sensation. When you think about doing the thing you don’t want to do, it creates a feeling in your body. Notice where you feel that negative sensation. How would you describe it?
- Focus on the area of your body where you feel the sensation and see what happens to that physical sensation. See how long that feeling lasts.
- Once you see how this feeling dissipates in a short time, it will be easier to handle it or even disregard it in the future.
Find an easier way to do the task. Maybe there’s a better or easier way to do what needs to be done. Some tasks are just so big they’re intimidating to even consider.
- Can you do a little each day until it’s done?
- Is there a special tool you can rent?
- Rent a dumpster?
- Hire someone else to do it?
Promise yourself a reward after the task is complete. Maybe all you need is an ice cream cone, a massage, or a new book to inspire you to get busy and take action. A reward can be a powerful motivator.
Think of how great you’ll feel after completing the task. There are few feelings better than completing a dreaded task. It’s such a relief to put it behind you.
- Instead of focusing on how awful it will be to do it, focus on how awesome you’ll feel when it’s done.
Start small. Plan to work on it for just five minutes. Promise yourself that’s all you have to do and then you’ll give yourself a break. You might find that it’s easy to continue after you get started.
- Getting started can be the most challenging part of accomplishing just about anything.
Get help. Do you know someone that can help you? Having some company can make unpleasant tasks more tolerable. Find a friend to help, and you’ll get done twice as fast. Better yet, find five friends and make a party out of it! Unpleasant tasks are less miserable when you have company.
Be tough. There are some tasks that simply have to be done even if you don’t want to do them. Summon your inner gladiator and overcome your resistance. Just get it done.

Everyone has the urge to procrastinate. One thing that separates successful people from the masses is the ability to overcome this urge.

We procrastinate because the thought of doing the task is unpleasant. There are ways to minimize the discomfort of performing a task. Seek out these ways.

Focus on the benefits of taking action, get your work done, and give yourself a little reward. You’ll feel great when it’s over.

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To your success

Michael

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9 Signs That You’ve Found Your Purpose

2021-11-21 ~ adminlife

Do you know your purpose? Most people don’t, and a few think they do, but are incorrect. However, there are several signs that you have probably found your purpose. It might be something that’s right under your nose that you’ve never considered.

Once you’ve determined the purpose for your life and begin living it, it feels like everything falls into place.

Have you found your purpose? These signs may enlighten you:

The time flies by. When you’re spending time pursuing your purpose, it’s hard to figure out where the time went. There are only a few activities that allow you to seemingly escape the passage of time. It’s an amazing feeling to find something that’s so easy to work on when other things can be so painful.
You feel calm. There’s a sense of relaxation and focus when you’re living your purpose. You can just feel that you’re doing the right thing and living your life the way it was meant to be lived. There’s a peace that comes from living your purpose that’s hard to describe until you experience it yourself.
- How do you feel when you wake up in the morning and know you have to face another day at work? Do you feel good about it? Or do you feel annoyed and stressed?
Money isn’t the driving force. You’re not drawn to your purpose by the financial rewards. However, there are often great financial rewards for living your purpose. You’re interested, motivated, and enjoy that subject. That’s a great recipe for providing a lot of value.
It feels natural. Living your purpose feels right. It’s a similar feeling to finding your perfect partner. It’s a very comfortable feeling.
You gain energy by doing that thing. Your purpose creates energy within you. It doesn’t drain you. When you spend your day doing something you don’t like, you feel exhausted by the end of the day.
You’re more willing to take risks than usual. When you feel less stress in your life, you’re willing to take on more risk. When you’re doing something that’s important to you, you’re willing to be braver.
Luck is on your side. There’s no scientific explanation for it, but you seem to be a lot luckier when you’re living your purpose. When you spend your time doing things you don’t like to do, your luck seems to go in the toilet. Think about your life, and you’ll find this to be true.
You spend less money. There are just a couple of reasons to spend money:
- You can purchase something you need, like food or water.
- You can purchase something you really want, like a TV set.
- You can purchase things to make yourself feel better. The more miserable you are, the more likely you are to overspend as a way of boosting your mood. When you’ve found your purpose, you’ll find that you spend a lot less, because you’re more content.
You care less about what others think. We’re all sensitive to varying degrees about the opinions of others. But, when you’re engaged in your purpose, you are free of this concern. What you’re doing feels so right that you’re not interested in what others think about what you’re doing. You feel free.

You feel lost and discontent when you’re not living your purpose. It’s hard to describe, but something just feels off. Finding your purpose and building your life around it is the most satisfying and enjoyable way to live.

If you haven’t found your purpose yet, don’t give up. There’s still time to discover it and live the life you were meant to live!

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To your success

Michael

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Why You’re Still Waiting to Get Started on Your Dreams

2021-11-18 ~ adminlife

Do you tell yourself that you’ll get started on your big plans at some future date? You can start a business after the kids graduate from college? Or, maybe you’ll just wait until Memorial Day to begin your exercise program. We’ve all done it. There always seems to be a good reason not to get started right here and now.

Are you sure you know the real reason you’re waiting? If you’re waiting to begin pursuing your dreams, you’re likely just procrastinating!

Consider these excuses. Is one of them yours?

You’re waiting for the perfect time. Are you waiting for the stars to align and the heavens to tap you on the shoulder and give you permission? You’ll be waiting for a long time. The time will never be perfect to get started on something significant, so just get started.
You’re waiting for something else to happen first. Maybe you’re waiting for the kids to move out or for the mortgage to be paid off. Or you’re waiting until your next promotion. Or you’re waiting until your parents pass away.
You’re waiting until you have more money. Regardless of your budget, there’s something you can do to get started today. Even if it’s just doing research and learning new skills, you can do something. There’s never enough money. You’ll find the money you need along the way.
You’re waiting for Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year. So many people wait until Monday to start a diet, or the first of the month to begin an exercise routine. There’s nothing magical about any date on the calendar. The calendar is a man-made invention. There’s no reason to be bound by it.
- Will you get more accomplished if you start today or wait three weeks?
You’re waiting until you know more. Some people believe they need to know every shred of information related to their quest before they can get started. This simply isn’t true. It’s a procrastination technique. You don’t need to know a lot to begin.
You don’t really think you’ll be successful. It makes sense that you won’t get started if you believe you can’t be successful. This is a sign that you might need to start with a smaller objective. A perfect goal is one that you believe you can achieve that also excites you.
- In this case, address the underlying issue instead of stalling.
You’re afraid you will be successful. Many people are afraid of success. They’re comfortable with their current situation even if they don’t like it. They would rather have predictable misery than uncertain success. There’s no way to predict 100% what your life will be like if you’re successful.
- Focus on the positive aspects of achieving success. List out all of the benefits and visualize yourself enjoying those benefits.
You’re scared. If you’re honest with yourself, this is the most likely reason you’re postponing the pursuit of your dreams. Whether you dread the feeling of being hungry on a diet, sweating on a treadmill, or making a fool out of yourself with a failed business, you’re simply afraid.
- Make yourself more afraid of doing nothing. Imagine how terrible it would be to waste your life. Think about how awful it would be to never test yourself or to never have a chance of living your dreams.

In most cases, it’s better to get started immediately, rather than waiting for just the right time to get started. Even a little progress is better than no progress. Have faith in yourself and jump in with both feet.

You can’t be successful if you don’t get started. Your dreams are waiting for you.

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To your success

Michael

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8 Effective Ways to Handle Insecurities

2021-11-14 ~ adminlife

We’re aren’t born insecure, but we’re sure good at becoming insecure. Our insecurities rob us of happiness and limit us in numerous ways. Insecurities can prevent us from enjoying life to the fullest. They can prevent us from becoming all that we can be.

Every normal person has at least a few insecurities, but insecurities can be minimized with effort.

Manage your insecurities and get more control over your life with these techniques:

Gently attack your areas of insecurity. The best way to deal with insecurities is to eliminate them. So, come up with a plan and begin executing it. Suppose that you have a lot of social anxiety. You might spend some more time each week in public places. Then, you might introduce yourself to one new person each week, and so on.
- It’s not necessary to overwhelm yourself. Just take one small step toward overcoming your insecurities each week.
Remember that no one cares. All insecurities come from a fear of being judged in some way. If you can realize that most people don’t really care about what you’re doing, you’re free. Your insecurities will vanish in an instant.
Talk to someone you trust. The people you trust will tell you the truth, and the truth is just fine when it comes to insecurities. When you’re struggling, reach out to someone that cares. They can provide the support you need to move forward with your life.
Visualize a positive outcome. We only feel insecure when we imagine a negative outcome. Imagine a positive outcome instead and you’ll feel a lot better. When you’re feeling insecure, close your eyes and visualize good things happening. Make a habit of this. Use your imagination for your benefit.
Read biographies of Abraham Lincoln. Abraham Lincoln is the most popular US president. But he wasn’t always successful or popular. He failed at nearly every significant thing he attempted. He was a little odd looking. But he became one of the greats in the end.
- If anyone had a reason to be insecure, it was Abraham Lincoln. He still did well.
Your insecurity is largely hidden from the world. When you’re feeling insecure, only the people that know you the best can tell. The rest of the world doesn’t have a clue. Many people feel insecure, and then they feel embarrassed that everyone can tell they’re insecure. It’s not true.
Remember your best moments. Use your past to your advantage. Remind yourself of your best moments and greatest triumphs. Do this every morning and evening. Step back into those situations and remember how it felt to be so successful.
Just say, “So what?” You can choose to ignore your insecurities and act boldly in spite of them. No one ever said you have to allow yourself to be limited by your thoughts. It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be.

Address the things in your life that make you feel insecure. Imagine being successful and comfortable with those things instead. Work on viewing yourself and your insecurities from a new perspective. Everyone is too busy with their own insecurities to worry about yours. Be determined not to allow yourself to be held back.

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To your success

Michael

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