Creating Your Ideal Self

2022-04-13 ~ adminlife

What would it take for you to start living your ideal life? It doesn’t have to difficult to achieve.

Here are some steps you can follow and start living your dream lifestyle.

Where do you want to go?

What do you see as your ideal life? What goals do you have? You need to know where you are going so you can define your ideal life. When you know what you want, you will be able to create your ideal life.

Define the person who can quickly reach your goals.

When you know what type of life you want, you need to start thinking about the type of person who can make this life happen.

What do you need to do to go from your present state to where you want to be quickly?
What would this person be like?

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What are the habits of your ideal self?

You need to consider many different things and areas. Here are some suggestions.

How often does this person brush their teeth? Does he floss after every brushing? When does he floss?
When does he go to bed and when does he get up? Does he read when in bed? What types of material does he read? Does he read regularly at other times during the day?
Describe his morning routine.
Does he work out and for how long and how often? What is his workout routine? What is his weight and what does he eat?
Does he journal daily?
When waiting in traffic, what does he think about?

What are the traits of your ideal self?

There is more to a person than just their habits. Here are some traits you should consider.

What does your ideal self wear, drive, their hairstyle?
What attitudes does he hold towards dating? Would he easily approach an attractive stranger? Would he only date one person or many at a time?
Is he calculating, bold or cautious?
Is he a giving, selfish or practical person?
What about spiritual or religious feelings?
What values and beliefs does he hold?
Does he have specific skills?

You can ask about anything at all. Think that you are creating a movie character.

Use the SWISH technique

This NLP technique is powerful for encouraging you to start behaving like your ideal self.

Create a clear visual of your ideal self. Include all of the habits, characteristics and the qualities the ideal should have. There should be no background for this image, only a blank screen with your ideal self image standing in front of the screen looking out at you.

When you are not behaving like your ideal self, quickly bring up the ideal self image and start to immediately behave as the image would.

Start

From the characteristics and habits that you have listed, pick a couple of the easier ones and start to include them into your life. After they have been incorporated, pick a couple more from the list and repeat until the list has been exhausted.

Find Supporting Evidence

Draw attention to yourself and your actions when you are behaving like your ideal person.

Journal

A journal helps you to keep track of how you are progressing. You also get into the habit of focusing on those parts of your life that are important. You will stay motivated when you are aware of how far you have progressed.

Get started today in becoming your ideal self as you will experience joy and greater life satisfaction.

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P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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Things That Can Ruin Your Life and How to Avoid Them

2022-04-06 ~ adminlife

No person ever sets out to ruin their lives. It’s impossible to find someone that will make a New Year’s resolution to ruin their life.

Children don’t daydream about how much they’d love to become alcoholics in the future. Students don’t attend classes on how to go bankrupt.

Couples don’t dress up, spend so much money on a wedding, and show up at the altar while planning to get a divorce a few years later.

The point is, nobody plans to fail. But failure happens whether we like it or not.

And our failures are the result of our choices. We often don’t willingly make choices that we know will cause us to fail.

So, how can we avoid making poor decisions that will end up ruining our lives? These ideas can help:

Stop entertaining the idea that your actions don’t have consequences. You may think you’re doing it for fun, but your actions have consequences.
- For example, if you fail to pay your bills, you may get chased down by a debt collector. If you tell a lie, you may upset others. If you smoke, you may eventually develop emphysema.
- Whatever happens, every action you take has a consequence. And you can’t change the consequences or pick and choose what will happen.

- Your actions either lead you to your goals or lead you away from your dreams. It’s the difference between winning and losing.

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Live within your means. It is always better to plan and make smart financial decisions. Today, many people have no problem living beyond their means because they believe that it’s okay.

- Unfortunately, this will only lead to a difficult financial situation in the future. The social media lifestyle causes a lot of people to get carried away with the allure of a lifestyle they know they can’t afford.

- To avoid this trap, focus on what matters the most in your life. Many older people today are paying for things they accepted years ago. They still have mortgages, kids, and day-to-day costs that they have trouble covering.

- They scrimp on health care and end up sick for a long time.

Break any forms of addiction, including drugs, pornography, or shopping. Habits like these have a very negative impact on your life. The sad reality is, many people suffer some form of addiction today.

- Addictions lead to feelings of loneliness, and they don’t fill your life with good things. Some even cost your life. People find it challenging to break addictions because they feed them.

- It doesn’t take a single day to form a habit – it usually requires repetition to develop one. An alcoholic doesn’t become one by drinking one beer. The more he drinks, the stronger the addiction becomes.

- Eventually, he has no choice but to keep drinking. That’s the case with most addictions. Anything that is a drug or habit-forming has the potential to ruin your life.
- The solution? Stop feeding them.

Avoid assuming that you’re the only one going through your painful situation. Sometimes we gravitate towards others who share our problems, but it’s all too easy to think no one else exists out there who’s struggling like us.

- The truth is, you’re not alone. And thinking you’re alone is usually just an excuse you give yourself.

- Instead of making such assumptions, why not reach out? Talk to others and tell them what’s going through your mind. You might discover that they’re going through something similar. Once you’ve connected with those around you, you’ll be able to realize you’re not alone.

There are so many things that can ruin our lives. And sometimes, we only need to look at the path others ahead of us have set to realize what a mistake we make to live a certain way. And that’s okay, because this isn’t the end. We haven’t given up. We’re only getting started.

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Stop Negative Self-Talk Quickly with These Steps

2022-03-30 ~ adminlife

One of the most critical mindset shifts you can make in your life is to eliminate negative self-talk. Although everyone seems to understand the importance of this shift, most people still struggle with it.

Negative, destructive self-talk disrupts your productivity and life goals. You have countless negative conversations happening inside your head throughout your day, and these negative statements can leave you feeling frustrated, angry, defeated, or depressed.

It is normal to want to solve all of your problems, but self-criticism doesn’t help.

If you catch yourself engaging in this type of negative self-talk, you can learn how to quickly switch gears and redirect your thoughts to more positive ones.

This process can take practice, but you will notice a positive difference in your thoughts and mindset if you try a little each day.

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So what can you do starting today to help halt negative self-talk? These tips will help:

Take a deep breath. People resort to beating themselves up because they feel overwhelmed, have too much to do, or don’t know how to change their thoughts. If this is you, take a deep breath

- It helps you momentarily slow down your thought process and realize that you are not in a position to change everything. Instead of thinking about how you can change your circumstances, try to focus on the things you can control at this moment.

Acknowledge your thoughts. Regardless of your negative self-talk stage, it’s important to acknowledge it. It’s very natural (and healthy) to have negative thoughts. Try not to ignore them. Instead, take them as a signal from your mind that change is needed.

- For example, if you’re feeling defeated, allow yourself to take a moment to give in to those feelings and realize that it’s normal to feel disappointed in yourself and your abilities. Once you have admitted your feelings, you can refocus on what matters in your life.

Identify the cause. Take a minute to think about what’s behind your negative thoughts.

- Are your complaints and negative self-talk rooted in your inability to practice your strengths, talents, and abilities?
- For example, if you have fantastic communication skills but keep letting your negative self-talk overshadow that fact, it’s time you learned to harness your talents.
- There’s a good chance you’ll realize that your fears and negative feelings were all in your head.

Create a routine. Building a pattern enables you to take less time, thoughts, and energy in negativity. Working through your negative self-talk is the best way to get past your toxic feelings.

- And you’ll have an easier time working through them if you wake up to a planned day, with not much to think about with regards to how you’re going to start your day. After all, negative self-talk overwhelms you with unnecessary stress.
- If you rise at the same time, have the same breakfast, and exercise at the same time daily, you don’t have much to overthink and get yourself worked up.

Consciously work to silence your thoughts. Your mind can power through negative thoughts by itself, but your mind doesn’t want to. You have to give it a helping hand. When you notice you’re about to indulge in negative self-talk, snap out of it.

- Make a conscious effort to let the thoughts pass without acting on them. The more you practice this, the better you’ll get at controlling your negative thinking.

Your mindset is the driving force behind all of your actions, so it’s imperative to learn how to shift your thoughts when negative self-talk begins. You have the power to change your life by changing the way you think about yourself!

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7 Tips That Will Help You Overcome Any Obstacle in Life

2022-03-23 ~ adminlife

An obstacle is a stumbling block. It tries to prevent you from achieving your goals. To move forward in life, you have to overcome the barriers.

Setting goals is one side of the coin, but you also need to achieve them. Obstacles usually come around when you’re at that point of execution. It is when you’re busy working on goals that you encounter obstacles. And at that point, it becomes painful.

The truth is, almost everyone can agree that success comes with challenges. Those challenges usually present themselves as puzzles you need to solve. And when you solve them, you’re almost guaranteed to succeed.

How can you overcome any obstacle in life? These tips will help you:

Maintain a positive attitude. Your attitude is the foundation of your character. If you want to succeed, it’s important to acquire a positive attitude.

- A positive attitude motivates you to keep working even if it’s hard. Negative thoughts and feelings, on the other hand, destroy motivation. What can you do? Perceive obstacles as opportunities for growth.
- In life, you will face many obstacles. When they come up, decide to face them head-on.

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Take your time before you act. When you first encounter an obstacle, you might be tempted to panic, rush, or give up. But if you have the patience and the wisdom to look for where you might have erred in your previous actions, you can find a solution that works for you.

- Learn from each of your mistakes and be forgiving as well.
- Rushing could worsen the situation. Take the time you need, and you might be able to figure out a solution.

Get back in control. Sadly, it’s easy to lose control of our emotions during times of adversity. When that happens, it could lead to decisions that could worsen an already bad situation.

- It’s crucial to maintain your composure to make the best decisions possible. How can you do it? Identify and eliminate the root of your anger. Doing that will allow you to stay in control when you face a challenge.

Take a step forward and commit yourself. Commitment is the key to success. Although it might not be easy, you have to take the first step towards your goal so you can move on and achieve success.

- If you don’t keep moving forward, you won’t get anywhere with your goals, no matter how close they are.

Divide your goals into manageable chunks. Break your goals down into smaller, more manageable pieces, and you’ll be able to achieve them without feeling overwhelmed.
- This also means that you’ll have more time to work on each of the smaller goals, and you won’t feel the urgency of getting all the way there in one go.

- You could create a checklist based on your goals. When you have a checklist, it means you can always ensure that everything is in order before you move on to the next small step on your list.

Prepare to handle any future risks. The best way to overcome obstacles is to reduce their chances. Under normal circumstances, solving an initial block leaves you with valuable feedback.

- To prepare for future risks, take time to review the feedback you’ve received.
- For example, if you encountered obstacles in your first few tries, maybe you need to change the course of your actions. There’s less chance that you’ll experience other risks when you do that.

Maintain motivation with rewards. Many people quit before they reach their goals because the going gets tough. To keep going despite challenges, you’ll need high motivation. You can find inspiration by setting up rewards that mean something to you.

- Consider how long you’ll have to work to achieve your goal and the after-achievement benefits.
- As you plan these rewards, emotionally think of them. Make them something that will excite you.

You can overcome any obstacle in life if you know your goal, work on your attitude, take your time before making decisions, keep yourself in control, take a step forward, and commit yourself to achieve that goal.

Then, divide the action steps into manageable chunks, prepare to handle any future risks, and maintain a high motivation so you can keep going despite challenges.

Follow these steps and reap the rewards!

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Michael

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Add Purpose to Your Life With These Strategies

2022-03-16 ~ adminlife

A person without a purpose is usually not happy or content. They are constantly looking for excuses to justify not doing anything with their lives. They don’t have any direction because they think the world owes them something.

And they explain everything wrong with their life by trying to find a way out. That does not mean it’s intentional. No one sets out to live a life without any purpose. They are driven by their circumstances or by someone or something else.

You know you lack a sense of purpose when you don’t feel satisfied with what you have and are always looking for more, even though you don’t realize it.

So how can you break that cycle of a lack of purpose? Try these strategies:

Take a well-deserved break. Having a break from your daily life can do wonders for your mood. Often, when you don’t feel like doing anything, you might be burned out or just stressed. A break helps recharge your batteries and gives you a new perspective.

- Give yourself a mental health day. On the said day, decide to let go of what you think you’re supposed to do and focus on what makes you happy.
- Many people believe that success is just outside our comfort zone. That may be true in some circumstances. But when you’re in a cycle of a lack of purpose, a good break is just what you need to recharge your batteries.
- Taking a break can allow you to discover your true purpose in life. You will then feel motivated to do more.

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Follow things that interest you. Many people have interests they’d like to pursue but don’t. They ignore those interests because it seems like a waste of time.

- The truth is that stringing together your hobbies and interests can help you discover your purpose.
- For example, if you love video games, try to build an online video game store using Shopify and start selling video games.
- If you love jewellery, start a jewellery business online. If you love photography, create your own photography business. And if you love graphic design, design business cards, brochures, and other materials.
- That’s not to say your purpose needs to relate to money. But it should relate to something you’re passionate about. You want a purpose that excites you.

Admit that you’re stuck. The thing with getting stuck in a cycle is, you don’t notice it. The feelings slowly build up, and before you know it, you’ve become apathetic. You begin to feel like everything you do is just killing time.

- Then those feelings turn into depression, anxiety, and discouragement. Regardless of how hard you try, the cycle keeps repeating itself. Don’t blame yourself for feeling like you do.
- The loop won’t change until you recognize it for what it is. And once you do, you can break it for good.

Follow artistic endeavours. Many people turn to art as a way of expressing their feelings. Writing poetry, painting, or sculpting can help you unlock feelings you were too afraid to feel.

- When you express those emotions, you’ll break that cycle and feel more passionate about things in your life again.
- Exercising your artistic side also helps because physical activity makes you feel better, giving you more purpose.
- The goal isn’t to sell your works of art or make a name for yourself but to enjoy yourself.

Don’t hesitate to speak to others. The pandemic has made it difficult to move freely and interact with friends and loved ones. If you’re feeling isolated, try reaching out to someone, even if only by phone.

Finding your purpose is essential to living a life that pleases you.

It’s not at all uncommon to get lost in life by your circumstances. And while feeling this way can be discouraging, it doesn’t have to be. There are always ways out of it by finding purpose in your life!

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Michael

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