Does Success Scare You?

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To many people, the thought that some people may be afraid of success sounds very odd. People can understand fear of failure, but having a fear of success sounds very preposterous.

Why would a person not want to be successful? How about you?

A common block to being successful consistently is a fear of success. People will achieve 90% of a goal and throw it away at the last moment.

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There are many symptoms and components in the fear of success.

The many causes of the fear of success.

The fear of change. You are programmed to avoid change even if your life is less than ideal. Even if you are really dissatisfied with your life, you are still surviving.

  • Your brain is thinking about what could happen if there are changes in your situation. For your brain, alive but miserable is a lot better than possibly being happy but you could end up dead.

A fear of having greater responsibility. With success comes responsibility. You usually have to become much more responsible if you want to experience more success. More is expected from you when you are more successful.

  • When you start a business that becomes successful, you may now have employees relying on you.
  • A real estate empire may sound really great, but now there are tenants, debt and taxes that you have to deal with.

You have a fear of standing out. Many people do not like attention, while some love it. When you are successful you are noticed and there will be people that will dislike you. They may have feelings of jealousy and being mediocre in their lives.

  • You may feel that you would rather just blend into the background than be in the spotlight.

People that fear success have many common characteristics and symptoms.

They self-sabotage. This is experienced by many people. You are making great progress but suddenly things start to fall apart. You start to make mistakes and poor choices. You can usually see this happening to others but it is more difficult to see in yourself.

Goals keep changing. You change your mind on your goal just as you are close to being successful. With these constant changes you will never make any progress. You need to choose a goal that appeals to you and stay with it.

They procrastinate. A common signal that you are afraid of being successful is a sudden lack of motivation. One of the primary destroyers of making progress is procrastination.

Manage your fear of success with these techniques.

Find the cause. Find out what you are actually afraid of and determine the cause of this fear. Once you understand your enemy, you will have a chance to work around it.

See how your thoughts and behaviour are changed by your fear. What is your fear actually doing to you? What symptoms do you have? How do these affect your thinking and behaviour?

Don’t avoid your fears, face them. When you avoid your fears you are heading towards failure. Develop a plan and a strategy to work around your fear. Become resilient to fear by giving yourself a pep talk or ask a friend for help. Do what is necessary to keep making progress.

If you don’t know why you can’t achieve success, consider that you may be afraid of success. Do any of the symptoms resonate with you? What do you think of your success in life up to now? Have you been underachieving?

When you consider the source of your fear, a fear of success can make sense. Making sense of something doesn’t make it the most desired option. Achieve the greatness that you deserve by overcoming your fear of success.

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Amazing Self-talk in 5 Minutes

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The impact of the self-talk that is constantly going on inside your head is dramatic. Your actions and emotions are determined by the conversations you have with yourself. There are different types of self-talk.

General Self-talk

Raise your awareness. You have been talking to yourself for many years that your self-talk has become so natural that you may not really understand what you are saying. You must become aware of what you are saying about your life.

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These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Pattern disruption. A tool for making life changes is self-talk. Your fear of numbers may have been caused by receiving a bad grade in a math class and has been reinforced. Now you can take many online courses to help you in any type of math.

Take some action. When you are giving yourself your internal speeches, include a call to action. You should focus on attainable goals.

Do a reality check. Check to see if your self-talk is actually a reflection of what is actually going on around you. The difference between being a failure in the kitchen and just burning one slice of toast is huge.

Talk to others. It is valuable to get feedback from others. What do you colleagues and your partner say about you and ate your impressions the same?

Consistency. Before you accept a message, you usually have to hear it many times. With practice, your self-talk will get wiser.

Be your own friend. You don’t speak as harshly to your friends, or others, than you do to yourself. Talk to yourself as you would talk to a close friend. You should be truthful and supportive to yourself.

Motivation Self-talk

Strengthen yourself. In situations were you need endurance and confidence, motivational self-talk works best. You can increase your confidence and belief in your worth and your abilities with a good pep talk.

Identify your hot buttons. What words invigorate you? Call yourself a superhero and remind yourself how awesome you are.

Keep it short. You stay on track easier when you use single words or short phrases. You won’t be distracted by any doubts and you will be better able to focus on your assets.

Instructional Self-talk

Begin early. A great opportunity for instructional self-talk is at the start of a new project. During the important starting phase is a good time to coach yourself.

Be specific and precise. Break down your tasks into specific parts. For public speaking, you could use: make eye contact, get your pacing correct and be enthusiastic.

See your success. See yourself achieving the results you want.

Reassuring Self-talk

Acknowledging your feelings. You can manage your tense moments and have more comfort by having a soothing self-talk. Even if you feel afraid, you will have the best results if you accept your emotions.

Create some distance. People will perform better under stress if they call themselves by their name or replacing the word you instead of using the word I. When you are under pressure this is one way to restore objectivity.

Focus on the positive. Your life challenges won’t disappear just by using self-talk, but you can respond in a more constructive manner. Concentrate on doing better in the future instead of replaying and criticizing yourself for any past mistake.

Start moving yourself in a positive direction with your self-talk. Learn what the thoughts that are going through your head are saying, and if they are negative, change them into a stream of encouragement. You will enjoy more success in your life and reduce stress, and enhance your self-confidence with the right self-talk.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

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To your success

Michael

Michael W

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Amazing Self-talk in 5 Minutes

~ adminlife

amazing self-talk

The impact of the self-talk that is constantly going on inside your head is dramatic. Your actions and emotions are determined by the conversations you have with yourself. There are different types of self-talk.

General Self-talk

Raise your awareness. You have been talking to yourself for many years that your self-talk has become so natural that you may not really understand what you are saying. You must become aware of what you are saying about your life.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

podcast

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Pattern disruption. A tool for making life changes is self-talk. Your fear of numbers may have been caused by receiving a bad grade in a math class and has been reinforced. Now you can take many online courses to help you in any type of math.

Take some action. When you are giving yourself your internal speeches, include a call to action. You should focus on attainable goals.

Do a reality check. Check to see if your self-talk is actually a reflection of what is actually going on around you. The difference between being a failure in the kitchen and just burning one slice of toast is huge.

Talk to others. It is valuable to get feedback from others. What do you colleagues and your partner say about you and ate your impressions the same?

Consistency. Before you accept a message, you usually have to hear it many times. With practice, your self-talk will get wiser.

Be your own friend. You don’t speak as harshly to your friends, or others, than you do to yourself. Talk to yourself as you would talk to a close friend. You should be truthful and supportive to yourself.

Motivation Self-talk

Strengthen yourself. In situations were you need endurance and confidence, motivational self-talk works best. You can increase your confidence and belief in your worth and your abilities with a good pep talk.

Identify your hot buttons. What words invigorate you? Call yourself a superhero and remind yourself how awesome you are.

Keep it short. You stay on track easier when you use single words or short phrases. You won’t be distracted by any doubts and you will be better able to focus on your assets.

Instructional Self-talk

Begin early. A great opportunity for instructional self-talk is at the start of a new project. During the important starting phase is a good time to coach yourself.

Be specific and precise. Break down your tasks into specific parts. For public speaking, you could use: make eye contact, get your pacing correct and be enthusiastic.

See your success. See yourself achieving the results you want.

Reassuring Self-talk

Acknowledging your feelings. You can manage your tense moments and have more comfort by having a soothing self-talk. Even if you feel afraid, you will have the best results if you accept your emotions.

Create some distance. People will perform better under stress if they call themselves by their name or replacing the word you instead of using the word I. When you are under pressure this is one way to restore objectivity.

Focus on the positive. Your life challenges won’t disappear just by using self-talk, but you can respond in a more constructive manner. Concentrate on doing better in the future instead of replaying and criticizing yourself for any past mistake.

Start moving yourself in a positive direction with your self-talk. Learn what the thoughts that are going through your head are saying, and if they are negative, change them into a stream of encouragement. You will enjoy more success in your life and reduce stress, and enhance your self-confidence with the right self-talk.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

book now

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

Michael W

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Your Inner Critic Needs to be Silenced

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You have an inner critic that seems to be focused on making you miserable. Your life can be much simpler and more enjoyable if you can silence your inner critic. If you really listen to this critic you will be amazed that it can be so negative.

You listen to your critic as if he was an expert. This could not be further from the truth.

Look at your inner dialogue differently

Be dispassionate when listening to your inner critic. Listen for a minute and notice all of the things that you hear. Before too long you will realize that your inner voice is not really sane. Imagine you are sitting next to someone who lets their inner voice out and rambles on about unrelated things.

  • You would probably be looking for an exit if you were sitting next to this person. We speak to ourselves this way. You need to realize that you are listening to a type of person that you would probably avoid in real life. You listen to this self-talk a lot even though you shouldn’t take it seriously.

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These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

What would you tell a friend? If one of your friends were in a similar situation as you are, what would you say? You would probably say things that are a lot different than what you are saying to yourself.

  • When you are listening to your inner critical dialogue, ignore all of the criticism and focus on being gentle as if you would be to a friend.

Think about past successes. It is believed that to overcome one negative experience you need ten positive experiences. Take time each day to remember everything amazing that you have accomplished.

  • It can become a habit when you do this regularly. When a negative thought arises, you can immediately change it to something positive.

Write down your inner self-talk. Don’t just listen to your inner critic, write down what was said. When you read it aloud, it will seem less credible.

Test the criticism. Does this negative self-talk have any supporting evidence? Are there any past times when this statement proved false?

  • How would this situation appear if you were more positive? What are the gains you could have from the current situation?

Think about today. Today the past has no value and tomorrow is not predictable. Make the most of today and don’t worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself.

Show gratitude. Being grateful is the easiest way to uplift your mood and make your self-talk more positive. You should make a list of all the things that you are grateful for.

You get very little from your inner critic. You would never be a good friend to someone who spoke the same silly talk that your self-talk was about. If they were your friend, you would never take them seriously and probably stay far away from them.

Using these tips will help you to keep your inner critic under control. You will begin to develop the habit of talking positively to yourself which will help your self-confidence and success to rise to new levels.

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To your success

Michael

Michael W

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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A Gratitude Mindset

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Reach Your Goals

When you focus intently on reaching a long-term goal, it is easy to believe that you won’t be happy until you actually reach the goal. Long-term goals are important but you should not pursue them at the expense of your daily life. A great benefit in reaching your goals is to be grateful for what you have already and what you have already achieved.

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You Are Happier

Your brain works differently when you have feelings of gratitude. You are much happier and a lot more content when you are fully aware of all of the wonderful things that you already have in your life. You believe that more good things will come into your life in the future when you are happy and feeling good about what you have in your life.

 

Lowered Stress

You will have a life filled with stress when your life is filled with struggle to always be better. You want to reach all of your goals and unlock your inner potential, but you also need to balance this desire with showing gratitude for everything that you have accomplished and for what you already have in your life. It is easy to believe that you aren’t good enough when you are always pushing yourself to keep going forward. You will enjoy your journey to your goal and reduce your stress level when you focus on being grateful for today.

 

More Optimistic

You will ensure that you are dissatisfied with life when you believe that the grass is greener on the other side. When you think this, you feel that you will never achieve the life you want. You may also think that you will never attain your dreams and just give up. You can enjoy your life now and look forward to a better future once your goals are achieved when you have a gratitude mindset.

 

While it doesn’t take a lot of your time and any extra effort to obtain a grateful spirit, it makes a huge difference in your life. Keep a note of all of the things that happen during your day that you are grateful for. You may also keep a gratitude journal that you can record your daily observations of gratitude. If you feel that your focus on your goal has been excessive and you are not appreciating what you have already, give using a journal a try.

 

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

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Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

 

Book the call now.

 

To your success

 

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

Confidence and Life Coaching

 

 

 

 

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