The Flaws That Make You Unsuccessful

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Do these excuses sound familiar?

  • Tomorrow I will start my diet

  • Next week I will get my project started.

  • I can’t do this, I am not good enough

You are not alone if these are relatable. People struggle with one or more of these fatal flaws on a daily basis. You don’t have to let any of them stop you from being a success.

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Procrastination. This is one of the more common fatal flaws. No matter your good intentions of starting something, you can always seem to find something else to do. Procrastination leads to a cycle of excuses and self-doubt.

  • Some methods you can use to reduce procrastination are to set and stick to a deadline. Write down what needs to be done and when you will do it. Break down the goal into small and manageable steps.

  • To keep you on track, find an accountability partner. Keep focused on the task at hand by eliminating distractions. Get yourself started by starting with the most straightforward task.

Perfectionism. Society celebrates perfectionism, but trying for perfectionism is just a form of self-sabotage.

  • People who are perfectionists are their own biggest critics. No matter how hard they try to do something, they are never satisfied. This leads to feelings of frustration and self-doubt.

  • To deal with perfectionism, you first need to learn how to accept imperfection. Don’t focus on the outcome, focus instead on the process. Set realistic goals and don’t be afraid of making mistakes.

  • Focus on making progress not perfection, no one is perfect. Find a role model whole accepts imperfection. You need to stop making comparisons to others and celebrate your own accomplishments no matter how small they may appear.

Fearing failure. When you start doing something new, it is natural to feel fear or anxiety. If you let fear take control, you can be prevented from taking any risks and actually achieving your goals.

  • Dealing with your fear of failure. Identify what you are afraid of and understand that part of the process is failure. Build you confidence by setting realistic goals and making a plan to achieve them.

  • Seek support from role models who have overcome failure. At some point, everyone fails. Learn from your mistakes and don’t be afraid to take any risks.

  • Start small, work your way up and be prepared to suffer some setbacks. Persevere through the difficult times you will encounter.

No motivation. When the goal or task is difficult, it is easy to lose your motivation. When this happens, it makes it harder to achieve the goals you set.

  • Staying motivated involves finding out those things that drive you. Make a plan using the SMART goals method. These are goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant  and Timely.

  • Seek support from others and work with an accountability partner. Find a role model to help you create a positive mindset. Focus on what you have attained not on your failures and persevere through the difficult times.

These four fatal flaws can stop you from becoming successful. When you identify any of these flaws in yourself, and can take the steps to overcome them, you will be well on your way to achieving your goals

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Eliminate a Negative Self-image

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How you perceive yourself is your self-mage. You could be thinking that you are intelligent, or lazy, bad with money, likeable or even eccentric. These self-beliefs can be either liberating or constricting.

You can be limited in your success as well have your decisions influenced by your self-image. If you believe that you are bad at talking with strangers, you may avoid many social situations. You may miss the opportunities to meet a new life-long friend or the recruiter for your dream job, or even the love of your life.

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You can change your self-image and make enhancements to your life.

Identify and change your bad habits. You are not perfect, no one is. You probably have things that you do that could use a little work. Address your shortcomings., get in shape, be more patient or even just be a better friend.

  • Perfection is not possible, just focus on making progress.

List your good points. You should do this every morning and evening. Start with a long list and then add at least one item each morning and evening. Keep reminding yourself of those things that you are good at and appreciate about yourself. Review the list to keep you feeling good about yourself.

Follow your morals. You know what is right and wrong. It is hard to feel bad about yourself when you live by your own values. When you stray from these values is when you feel guilty and displeased.

  • List the behaviours that you will no longer accept
  • What are the qualities that are most important to you? Set your standards and don’t violate them.

Help others. Help a neighbour or volunteer each week. Do this without expecting anything in return. This strategy alone can improve your self-image.

  • Find an organization in your city and make a positive difference in a person’s life. You will get as much benefit from this as they do

Experience your success. You should feel good about any success you have. Make it easy to succeed by setting small goals then go out and accomplish them. This could be saving a small amount of money each month or going to the gm regularly. Prove to yourself that you can be a consistent success.

Be around people who like you. You can easily increase your self-respect by spending time with those people that already think you are great. The unkind, unsupportive and the negative people should be avoided.

Do what you enjoy. Do things on a regular basis that make you feel good. You can then carry those feelings into other areas of your life. The more positive emotions you have and the more time you spend feeling these emotions, the better you will feel.

Don’t try to be perfect. You are going to feel very unhappy in your life if the only way you can feel good about yourself if you need to be perfect. It is not possible to be perfect. You should try for things that are controllable like improvements and effort.

Be nice to yourself. When you treat yourself well, you believe that it is deserved. Treat yourself kindly as you would a good friend. Take care of your basic needs like sleeping and eating as well as having a good social life. Buy yourself those things that you need.

Having a negative self-image has repercussions in every part of your life. Do you think highly of your own life? Enhancing your self-image is time well spent. Achieving more than you think you deserve is difficult, so believe that you deserve to have a lot. You will be able to enjoy more of your life’s desires.

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Develop More Conscientiousness to be More Successful

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Is the greatest predictor of success being intelligent or hardworking? They are great attributes to possess but you can still find people who have those qualities but are not successful. You may have a friend who is intelligent but isn’t doing well in their life.

It is also possible that you may know someone who is working at three jobs but is still having a struggle to be successful. A manual job is hard work but the people working these jobs are not usually viewed as being successful.

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If you do want to be successful, conscientiousness is a key factor. You know what needs to be done and, when you are conscientious, your intention is doing it well. Your life could be a lot easier if you could be more conscientious.

Being conscientious is the trait that you are taking care of your business at a high level. The people that you know that are conscientious are usually successful beyond the prediction based on their intelligence and skills.

When you practice becoming more conscientious you will become more successful.

Consciousness is important. This is an important trait to have and when you understand the importance of it to your future, you will have fuel for your motivation. The first step to developing your higher level of conscientiousness is understanding.

Be punctual. Taking more responsibility for your time is s good way to start building conscientiousness. Make an agreement with yourself when you have to be somewhere at a certain time. When you are not running late, life becomes a lot easier. The people that are waiting for you will also be a lot happier with you.

Make a plan for your day and follow it. This is the core of building conscientiousness. Before you begin your day, have a plan so you will waste a lot less time and you will be able accomplish more. Just put your head down and start to follow your plan.

Finish your tasks. If you are conscientious, you will be great at finishing what you have started and avoid leaving a task unfinished. Be a finisher and push through any resistance you encounter. Don’t stop the task until it is done.

Create a plan to reach the goals you set. Having goals for the day is the best way to build your plan for the day. You can plan your day to help you achieve the goals you set. You are demonstrating conscientiousness when you are working on your long-term objectives.

Don’t react. Respond and avoid reacting when making decisions. Make thoughtful choices by taking some time and you will avoid a lot of challenges that are really unnecessary.

Get rid of distractions. Obstacles to focus come from distractions during your day. If you are becoming conscientious, you have to focus on what you are doing. Make things a lot easier on yourself by controlling your environment. Create the environment around you that is the most distraction-free.

Do your best. Do whatever you are doing the best you can. This is a big part of becoming conscientious and you will have an easier way to live.

You can develop conscientiousness even though you may not have been born conscientious. This is some good news as there are many qualities that are difficult, maybe impossible to make better such as your intelligence. Start to build your conscientiousness today. You have the power to develop it now.

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Aspirations – What Are They?

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Do you have a goal you want to achieve in your future? If you have hopes and dreams, you have aspirations. You have a sense of purpose and direction for living with these big picture goals. But you need to know, having goals and having aspirations are not the same thing.

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Aspirations are more long-term and geared to the future, while goals are actions you need to take to get you to your destination. Look at it as looking back on your career and knowing that you were able to meet your goals, that is an aspiration. When you get a new position in six months, that is a goal. They have different, separate functions but they do work together.

Aspirations Breakdown

You will have more meaning and focus in your life when you have aspirations. There are various types of aspirations you start to look for when you start to dream about your future. People’s aspirations give them a different outlook on their lives. Some, like being a good provider are simple while others aim to be a lot higher like becoming rich and famous.

We try for two types of aspirations – intrinsic and extrinsic. They have some common themes that are indicators of s sense of purpose in our lives. The breakdown here will help you to understand which of the two types that you tend to focus on.

Intrinsic : these aspirations will satisfy your well-being. These are usually centred around relationships, your contributing to your community, health and your personal growth. An example of a social aspiration would be to make friends and build your relationships and volunteer. There are also family aspirations and skill aspirations where you develop a new skill.

Extrinsic: These types of aspirations are for achieving an instrumental outcome in your life. An extrinsic aspiration would be that you are physically attractive, wealthy or being popular. A financial aspiration when you were growing up would be to have a million dollars. If you wanted to be popular when in high school, you had popularity aspirations.

Your career aspirations can be both intrinsic and extrinsic. There are certain things that you want to accomplish like having a certain salary and image. These have parts of personal growth and community contributions mixed together.

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Staying Motivated

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You are losing interest in your project and you are only halfway through. You know that your motivation is going to be gone and you are helpless to stop it. You can try the following to help you stay motivated and stay on track through the rest of your project.

Visualize your success. You need to see yourself accomplishing your task to your satisfaction by the end of the project. This is important since what we tell ourselves will happen and will happen exactly as we tell ourselves. If your thoughts are about failure, you are already likely to fail. If you visualize yourself at the finish line and the project successfully finished, you are more likely to succeed. Keep the images in your head positive and just keep going.

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Stop worrying. While this is easier said than done, the more you worry, the more you derail your motivation, energy and enthusiasm that you had for the project. To stop worrying, you need to take a critical look at what you are doing and ask if there are things that you could change. If there are things that can be changed, change them, if not, let them go. You don’t get caught up in worrying if you are motivated, you make it a habit of looking to the future.

Be consistent in action. Staying motivated means setting positive goals and taking consistent action. When neglected, motivation drops. You want to make sure that you keep the energy on the project going where it will do the most good. You need to make sure that you are always moving forward. You need to check your motivation daily and do what needs to be done to keep those levels high. If you are taking the weekend off from work, you should take a few minutes to think about your project. You just need to remind yourself that you are excited about going back to work on Monday. This will keep your motivation and interest high even if you are not working.

Who are you around? Check to see who you with if your motivation is still not good. You may have too many negative influences in your life. Try surrounding yourself with positive people and highly motivated people. Their positive energy will rub off on you.

Keep your environment positive. Motivation thrives in a positive environment. You can listen to motivational music, use positive affirmations, read or listen to motivational materials. These will help you to get back into your project. When you continue to feed yourself a diet of motivational material you will continue to stay motivated.

It doesn’t have to be an impossible task to stay motivated. You will stay on track if you pay attention to some details that will help you get to the finish line of your task. You will get where you want to go when you are mindful of what you are doing and having lots of positive influences.

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P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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