Mistakes That Limit Your Success

2023-03-01 ~ adminlife

All the struggle stress and possible disappointment may make it seem that success is not worth the effort. Success, while not easy can be simple. The first thing you need to do us to avoid the mistakes that limit your success. By understanding and avoiding these mistakes you can reach new levels of achievement.

Take control of your success

There are many things in your life that can hold you back from being successful.

Some are external and there isn’t much you can do about those. But the ones that do the most damage are the internal ones.

Your self-talk and limiting beliefs are the two main things that can hold you back.

You can try to fix these by yourself or you can work with a Life Coach.

This short video talks to these points and offers you a solution.

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These success limiting mistakes need to be avoided.

Habits that aren’t effective. There are habits that you have that can help you to achieve success and habits that can stop your success no matter what your definition of success is. Are you living in a way that daily moves you closer to success? To guarantee success, what habits do you need to have?

Success takes time. Little things done over a long period of time makes the difference for great success.

Goals that aren’t clear. You won’t know if you are successful if you don’t have a goal. You need a target to aim for. Successful people have goals that are reviewed on a regular basis. Unsuccessful people don’t really know what they want.

No plan. Are you living by default without a plan or direction? If so, you may struggle and be living reactively. You are constantly putting out fires or are passive. You need to put a plan in place that will move you forward.

Being busy not productive. If your thinking is flawed, you may mistake working or being active for 8 hours as being productive. You will find that, as stated by the Pareto Principle, 20% of your options will contribute to 80% of your success. People will move to the easier and more comfortable activities. These will only provide a limited return on the time you spend on them.

Busy is not progress. You need to choose those activities that will provide you with the greatest effect.

No consistency. Champions are extremely consistent. While you may not want to plan your day down to the minute, and live the same day over and over, but being successful requires that you be much more consistent than most people will actually demonstrate. You need to spend time every day on reaching your goals.

Not dealing with discomfort. To make progress you need new behaviours. On some levels, new behaviours are uncomfortable. You are only comfortable when you repeat your past behaviours. But this will keep your life at a standstill. To be successful you need to be able to deal with any discomfort and move yourself forward.

To get past discomfort, you can use various methods like breathing exercises, prayer or meditation or yoga. Just because you are uncomfortable doesn’t mean that you can’t do something.

Failure to learn from mistakes. To be successful you need to fail. The most successful people have failed the most. While it is common to want to avoid failure, this is a mistake. While it isn’t an objective to fail, to attain any success, it is expected. The first attempt is only the starting point. To make improvements, failure is necessary.

While failure is an undesired result, it allows you to make a better attempt when you try again. When you constantly improve you will be successful.

Concerned with things that can’t be changed. Many things in life can’t be changed or altered. This is true of things in the past. Let go and focus on those things that you can change or alter.

While success can be elusive, when you can avoid the more common mistakes it is a lot easier to find. A main part of success is avoiding mistakes. Create your goals and then build the habits that will support those goals. Success can be simple when you can deal with your discomfort and learn from any mistakes.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

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To your success

Michael

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P.P.P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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Finding Your Drive and Ambition When None Is Present

2023-02-22 ~ adminlife

For success, critical components are drive and ambition. Successful people are constantly looking to improve themselves as well as their skills and their circumstances. When life is hard or things aren’t going as expected, a person needs to have a lot of drive and ambition to keep themselves working.

If you are bored and get discouraged easily by any obstacles, you may have no drive. You see little point in the struggles of life. You may even try to destroy yourself with drugs or alcohol or spend too much time watching television and never really accomplish anything of value.

Take control of your success

There are many things in your life that can hold you back from being successful.

Some are external and there isn’t much you can do about those. But the ones that do the most damage are the internal ones.

Your self-talk and limiting beliefs are the two main things that can hold you back.

You can try to fix these by yourself or you can work with a Life Coach.

This short video talks to these points and offers you a solution.

Self-talk video

You can contact me to book the call mentioned in the video at

https://calendly.com/michael-coach/strategy-session

These may be examples of extreme cases of no drive and ambition, everyone loses motivation from time to time.

There are some things that you can do to regain your motivation and help to increase your drive.

Develop a growth mindset. If you have a growth mindset, you believe that with time, effort and practice you can grow. If you have a fixed mindset, you think that you are limited and can’t grow or change even with hard work and practice.

Reading books and articles about successful people and how they overcame the obstacles confronting them can help you to build a growth mindset.
Even if you make mistakes and are criticized you can still practice thinking positively about yourself.
Your motivation can be boosted with a growth mindset which helps you improve with time and effort and practice.

Don’t procrastinate. For many people, a major cause of low motivation or a lack of success is procrastination. You may have some tasks that you put off because you dread doing them. Procrastination is self-destructive. It stops you from seeing the opportunities to achieve your life goals.

You can stop procrastinating by writing down all of the tasks you want to achieve and then rank them. Start with the highest priority task. Before moving on, complete the first task. Keep doing this until all of your priority tasks for the day are completed.
To get yourself started if you are finding it difficult, set a timer for 20 minutes. You then start on the highest priority task.
When you feel motivated, you will feel a lot less stressed about accomplishing your goals.

Thinking you are motivated. It seems counterintuitive to artificially create motivation since it is a feeling. This could be through wearing clothes that boost your confidence or listening to motivational music before an important meeting.

Thinking that motivation is a feeling may enable you to trick yourself into behaving motivated. This can boost how you feel so that can be more productive and driven.

Think of why you are struggling. If you are lacking motivation, you may spend more time focusing on why you can’t do something instead of why you can succeed.

If you feel unmotivated to exercise, you could be telling yourself that after work, you have no energy, so you shouldn’t bother as you wouldn’t enjoy it anyway.
You believe that you shouldn’t work out as there is no point since you won’t enjoy it.
You should reframe the situation. Think about the reasons you should work out even though you don’t feel motivated right now. Exercise has always helped you to think and your results have always been positive. You need to push yourself to get yourself to the gym.

To be successful in life you need drive and ambition. Like most of us, you have trouble maintaining a high level of these two attributes.

You can increase your productivity and bring your dreams to life. You can do this by cultivating your growth mindset. You also can trick yourself into being motivated and avoid procrastinating. Think of the counterintuitive arguments for your poor motivation as well.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S You can subscribe to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

P.P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Staying Positive When Everyone Around You Is Negative

2023-01-25 ~ adminlife

You are surrounded by negativity. It isn’t any wonder though. Social media and reality television tell you how to think and act. You can easily get caught up in all the doom and gloom.

You feel drained and negative thoughts will fill your mind when you are immersed in negativity daily.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

You can consciously decide to eliminate or reduce the negativity. You can take practical steps each day to immerse yourself in positivity.

When there is negativity all around you, there are some strategies that are available to keep you staying positive.

Don’t take things personally. It is very easy to get yourself wrapped up in what other people think of you or say about you. That is their opinion, nothing more. It is a reflection on them if they are hostile towards you. Don’t let it bring you down.

When you find that you are taking things personally, observe what you are thinking. When you observe your thoughts, you can catch yourself before you get yourself too caught up in them.
Look at the situation from both sides and see if you can understand the other person’s actions.
Is there a way to challenge your beliefs to see if they are true?
Don’t worry about what others think, just focus on yourself.

Don’t compare yourself. You will destroy your mood when you compare yourself. Your talents and your gifts are unique to you so it is pointless to compare yourself to others.

You need to embrace what makes you unique and then take advantage of those distinctive traits and features.
Focus on what you want to achieve and focus on the journey.
Everyone has different backgrounds, stories and experiences. Even if it looks like someone has it all together, they may be fighting their own personal battles.

Be with positive people. People who are negative are contagious. Their negativity will rub off on you if you stay around them long enough. Positive people are also contagious. To uplift your mood, you need to spend time with them.

Find people who will make you feel good and will uplift you. You should feel happy and positive when you are around them.
When you have things in common and similar interests, your conversations and experiences will be more enjoyable.
Going to events, seeking out new hobbies and volunteering will help you to find new friends.
Just because people seem different from you, don’t write them off, be open-minded. Embrace people’s differences and keep an open mind.

Look after your physical and mental health. It is crucial that you take care of your physical and psychological health. It is hard to stay positive if you are not taking care of yourself. Ensure that you are eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising regularly.

Ask for professional help if you are struggling with mental health issues.
Eat a balanced diet and consult a nutritionist to get a comprehensive diet plan.
You should try to get around eight hours of sleep a night. At least one hour before bedtime, disconnect from your electronic screens. You are more susceptible to stress and anxiety if you are not getting enough sleep.
Get exercise as exercising releases mood boosting endorphins. Small amounts of exercise can make a big difference in your mental health. Try for at least 30 minutes of daily exercise. Walking, swimming, cycling or any activity that you enjoy is good.

What is your passion? It is much easier to stay positive when you are passionate about something. Pour yourself into something that you are passionate about.

You are more likely to remain engaged and see the world in a positive light when you are passionate about something.
You will have a sense of purpose which is linked to feelings of happiness and well-being. When you immerse yourself in your passion, you have more purpose.
Your resilience increases when you are passionate about something. It is a lot easier to bounce back when you suffer a setback. This gives you a powerful reason to keep going even when things are rough.

Practice gratitude for what you have. The good things in your life are easy to take for granted. When you take time to think about your blessings, it is hard to stay negative. Reflect on the good things each day, no matter their size.

Life is appreciated more
You will be a lot more happier as gratitude and happiness go hand in hand. Grateful people are 25% more content than people who don’t practice gratitude.
You are more resilient when you practice gratitude. It is a lot easier to bounce back from difficult times when you are grateful for all the good things in your life.

Don’t despair if you are surrounded by negativity. There are lots of things that you can do to keep yourself positive. Take things slowly and be grateful for all the good things in your life. Seek out positive people to be around. Keep an open mind when you follow these tips, with just a little effort on your part, you will feel better in no time.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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Setting Effective Daily Goals Quickly

2023-01-11 ~ adminlife

You find it easy to set exciting goals, but you lose track along the way to achieving them. You want to lose weight, or get a promotion but even though you really want to achieve these goals, you find yourself not being successful and end up back where you started. Your key to success may be setting daily goals.

Keep your long-term goals but guide yourself to your destination by using short-term goals. There are many benefits to daily goals that you can use.

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These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

The benefits of daily goals

They can keep you focused. With your daily responsibilities, it is easy for any personal priorities to get buried. You can remember your purpose with the help of short-term goals. You can keep sight of your dreams while continuing to work to earn a paycheck and be able to take care of your family,

They break down bigger goals. Big projects can be overwhelming. Using daily action plans can make them less daunting. When you use them, you can pick out a couple of steps that are worthwhile and can complete each day. When you continue to build some momentum, you will be able to continue moving towards your goal.

You create a sense of urgency. If you have a year to accomplish something, what happens? You will tend to procrastinate. You can move yourself forward with tighter deadlines.

Adapt to change quicker. You may have to change or modify your goals or strategy at times. When you are working in 24-hour blocks, you can solve any conflicts before they become a lot more serious.

Daily goals usage

Your values are clarified. Your goals are more satisfying and more compelling when they align with your core values. Think about what you really do want out of your life.

Your strengths are better used. Take advantage of your skills and talents when you design your goals. Determine what you are good at and what you like to do. You can aim towards targets that are more realistic for you when you understand your own abilities.

Positive thinking. Rather than trying to avoid something, identify what you want to do. You will be more motivated and have less anxiety when you use positive statements.

Taking control. Your desired end is from an outcome goal while the steps you take to get there are from process goals. You may encounter obstacles if you are trying to become an Olympic athlete. You can still choose a sport, look for a coach and begin your training.

Write things down. Your plans become more concrete when you write them down. A pen and paper is best, but you can use a computer application.

Distractions can be avoided. When you adjust your habits and your environment, you can maximize your productivity. You can reduce the times you check your phone, keep your desk clean and turn off the television.

Take some breaks. Downtime is important. Find a routine that will work for you. Move around and shift your attention during your time off.

Learn. You can learn how your performance can be enhanced from your setbacks. Take responsibility and focus on the the things that you can do differently the next time you are in that situation.

Reward yourself. When you feel like you are in a slump, you can renew your enthusiasm by giving yourself an incentive. Pick something that you are willing to work for, either a small or large treat.

Seek help from others. Ask others for support and some constructive feedback. You can also find an accountability partner, someone who is trying to achieve a similar objective is best.

Keep yourself healthy. Keeping fit will help you to protect your physical and psychological health. Eat well, exercise and get at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep to help you manage stress.

You can be happier and more productive just by having goals. Make this an ongoing process to help transform your life. Set daily goals and keep trying to reach them daily.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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Your Stress Level and Your Environment

2023-01-04 ~ adminlife

You spend a lot if time in your home and workplace and if there is a lot of conflict created in those areas, your stress levels can increase.

If your work or living area is cluttered, you will spend a lot of time just looking for items. When you do this you are taking time away from getting your work done or spending time with your family. Improving your organizational skills can be a good first step in reduce the stress in your life.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts atThese are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

There are companies that can help design a more efficient office. Many people are taking this concept into their homes as well. You will be more productive and have a better sense of peace when the places you use give you a sense of balance. Your stress levels can be lowered as well.

There are some people who believe that all of this is nonsense and the companies are just trying to make money. While this may be true in some cases, but there are still many people who, having made the transformations in their office or homes, have noticed the differences in their environments.

The design industry has many fads. These fads appear and disappear which can make the detractors think that their beliefs are true. Consider the interest in Feng Shui which was popular before and seems to have disappeared now.

How well you can tolerate stress is another factor to consider. Some people can only handle a minor amount of stress while others have a higher tolerance. If you can handle a large amount of stress, your environment isn’t going to make much of an impact. Working in a well designed environment may have a small impact, they can usually work just about anywhere.

For those people that have trouble with stress, a well designed environment may be very helpful. The cost of a well designed work or home office will be worth it if their outlook and their productivity are improved. A company has to make the decision on the office redesign based on their employees tolerance for stress. It may be hard to convince them to spend the money if it may not make a difference to the work output.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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