Where does self confidence come from? How do we get it? Why don’t I have it? The answer to all of these questions can be answered with one word – you! Self confidence starts with you, your perception of yourself, and what other people think about your actions or behaviour.

For some of us, a lack of self confidence only affects our high ambitions. You might have always wanted to get up on stage, or to be a professional singer or actor for example. Perhaps your life dream is to travel the world, visit different countries or cities, but you don’t have the self confidence to do it. For others, the problem of self confidence is much closer to home – in the office, business meetings, public speaking events or presentations.

Self confidence issues affect most of us at some time, and we can usually find ways of getting around the problem. Avoidance is one tactic we often use – if we can get out of an intimidating situation we’ll make up excuses not to take part. However, there are times when we can’t get out of it, or we really don’t want to. If a lack of self confidence is preventing you from doing trying something new, or from succeeding in your working life, it’s time to do something about it.

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The starting point in improving your self confidence is understanding what causes the problem. Low self esteem, not believing in yourself or your ability, feeling inadequate compared to your colleagues or friends or maybe some kind of trauma from your childhood are all contributing factors. By examining the reasons for your low self confidence, you’re halfway there!

Taking positive action to overcome your fears is the next step to help boost your self confidence. A simple way to do this is by taking on small challenges. You have allowed your brain to associate certain events or actions with fear, so you’ve already pre-empted the outcome of these situations. By taking a small step towards conquering this, you’ll find that the result is most likely not as bad as you think – in fact, you’ll probably be surprised about how good you feel and your self confidence will instantly increase.

When you’ve completed your first small challenge, congratulate yourself on achieving your aim. A small reward can often help. You’re already on the right path to improving your self confidence, so you’re ready to take it to the next level. This doesn’t need to be a huge task; you don’t want to undo all the good work. Building up your self confidence takes time, and while you might want to leap ahead, it can be a good idea to take things slowly at first. Steadily increase the risks you’re taking to get your self confidence to where you want to be. Risk taking does not, of course, mean jumping off a bridge, but the perceived risk of something happening as a result of your actions is usually the biggest barrier with self confidence.

Self confidence problems are common for most people, and there are excellent resources to learn to deal with these issues, but if you do have severe difficulty facing certain situations you should seek professional help

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We’re aren’t born insecure, but we’re sure good at becoming insecure. Our insecurities rob us of happiness and limit us in numerous ways. Insecurities can prevent us from enjoying life to the fullest. They can prevent us from becoming all that we can be.

Every normal person has at least a few insecurities, but insecurities can be minimized with effort.

Manage your insecurities and get more control over your life with these techniques:

1. Gently attack your areas of insecurity. The best way to deal with insecurities is to eliminate them. So, come up with a plan and begin executing it. Suppose that you have a lot of social anxiety. You might spend some more time each week in public places. Then, you might introduce yourself to one new person each week, and so on.
   • It’s not necessary to overwhelm yourself. Just take one small step toward overcoming your insecurities each week.
2. Remember that no one cares. All insecurities come from a fear of being judged in some way. If you can realize that most people don’t really care about what you’re doing, you’re free. Your insecurities will vanish in an instant.

3. Talk to someone you trust. The people you trust will tell you the truth, and the truth is just fine when it comes to insecurities. When you’re struggling, reach out to someone that cares. They can provide the support you need to move forward with your life.

4. Visualize a positive outcome. We only feel insecure when we imagine a negative outcome. Imagine a positive outcome instead and you’ll feel a lot better. When you’re feeling insecure, close your eyes and visualize good things happening. Make a habit of this. Use your imagination for your benefit.

5. Read biographies of Abraham Lincoln. Abraham Lincoln is the most popular US president. But he wasn’t always successful or popular. He failed at nearly every significant thing he attempted. He was a little odd looking. But he became one of the greats in the end.
   • If anyone had a reason to be insecure, it was Abraham Lincoln. He still did well.

6. Your insecurity is largely hidden from the world. When you’re feeling insecure, only the people that know you the best can tell. The rest of the world doesn’t have a clue. Many people feel insecure, and then they feel embarrassed that everyone can tell they’re insecure. It’s not true.
7. Remember your best moments. Use your past to your advantage. Remind yourself of your best moments and greatest triumphs. Do this every morning and evening. Step back into those situations and remember how it felt to be so successful.
8. Just say, “So what?” You can choose to ignore your insecurities and act boldly in spite of them. No one ever said you have to allow yourself to be limited by your thoughts. It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be.

Address the things in your life that make you feel insecure. Imagine being successful and comfortable with those things instead. Work on viewing yourself and your insecurities from a new perspective. Everyone is too busy with their own insecurities to worry about yours. Be determined not to allow yourself to be held back.

You can book your 15-minute “Get to know you” call by clicking on the blue button below:and we can talk about how we can work together to hep you become more successful by removing your insecurities.

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

P.S. What is holding you back from achieving the success in your life and career? For many people it is their Limiting Beliefs. Once you understand and remove your old limiting beliefs and replace them with new empowering beliefs, success becomes that much easier.

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Wouldn’t it be nice to have a little extra boost of willpower when you need it most? It would make it so much easier to stick to our plans and reach our goals instead of giving in to temptation. Well, you’re in luck. I’m about to share five different tips and strategies with you that help you get that extra boost of willpower whenever you need it. Let’s dive in and explore these willpower “power-ups.”

Take It One Task at A Time

The best way to strengthen willpower is to focus it on one task at a time. It’s tempting to get motivated and start to change everything all at once. I get it. It’s just not the most successful strategy. Instead, focus on one change at a time and use all your willpower to take it from new behavior to well-established habit before moving on to the next change. Your willpower efforts will strengthen many times over when you focus them on one thing at a time.

Find An Accountability Partner

It’s much easier to do what you set out to do when you know that someone is watching. When you know you have to report any mishaps or slip-ups to this person, you’ll think twice about giving in to temptation. An accountability partner works even better when both of you have the same or similar goals and can hold each other accountable.

Track Your Progress

Often change comes in small increments, and it can be hard to see progress. Track it in a journal, a spreadsheet or any other way that makes sense to you. Revisit it often and see how far you’ve already come. There’s nothing like it to keep you going.

Use Willpower to Create Habits

Use your willpower strategically to create new habits and routines. Once something starts to become a habit, it takes less and less willpower to keep it up. Keep working on what you want to change one thing a time until it becomes routine and so no longer requires willpower.

Remind Yourself of Your “Why”

There’s nothing better than motivation to boost your willpower. The best way to stay motivated is to continually remind yourself of why you’re doing what you’re doing. The “why” is the reason that you want to accomplish your long-term goal. Define it, digging deep to find the things that genuinely motivate you. Then remind yourself regularly of your big “why.” Put it on a sticky note, create a vision board, or put up other reminders of it all around you. Look at them, read them, and consume them anytime you need an extra willpower boost.

Willpower is in limited supply during the day. By planning your day and then making sure that you are motivated to continue your plan you can become successful.

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Michael

 

 

 

 

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Although my parents and society impressed their beliefs on me as a child, I have the final say over what I believe as an adult. The only beliefs that I entertain are those that are self-nurturing.

I know that beliefs can drive behaviour. Therefore, I critically analyze my thoughts. I see the world in a positive light. I only entertain ideas that are in line with who I truly am.

I nurture my self-esteem. I deserve success and happiness, and I have the tools to achieve them. I can easily recall times when I have been successful. I hold the feeling of winning close to my heart.

I know that I can achieve greatness just by being myself. There are many things that I can do better than anyone else. I cultivate and nurture my talents.

I am confident because I know my strengths. I am insulated against self-doubt.

I choose to believe in myself, even during challenging times. My sense of self is anchored in my knowledge that I am worthy of love and success. It comes from within.

Like anyone else, I make errors, but I turn them into learning experiences. Although I look to the future, I also take time to recall my past successes.

Today, I choose to release any lingering self-doubts. I realize that my performance can soar higher and higher as I continue to believe in myself. I take full advantage of life’s many learning experiences.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. When has the fear of failure kept me from trying?
2. What bearing does my past performance have on my present potential?
3. How would my life change if I constantly visualized success?

You now have some advice, tips and reflections to help you to believe in your own abilities so that you can keep growing in your life.

If you still think that this is something that you will need help with, you can contact me at michael@coachmichaelw.com

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

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Each experience presents the opportunity to learn something new. Whether positive or negative, my experiences are learning moments. I learn from both my successes and my mistakes. Even undesirable outcomes are positive in my mind, because I always learn something.

My commitment to learning fuels constant growth. Everything I learn makes me more competent and effective. My victories make me stronger. My failures make me stronger, too. I am making the most of my time by learning from all of my experiences.

I am curious and love to learn. I enjoy learning about things that can impact my life in a positive way. I admire lifelong learners, and I want to learn for the rest of my life, too.

My goals determine what I need to learn. I focus my free time on gathering information and learning skills that help me achieve my goals.

I avoid ending my day until I learn something useful. I am always learning and growing. I view myself as a learner. I feel proud when I learn something new.

Today, I am making the most of my day. I am extracting the lesson from each and every experience I have today. I am growing into a more capable person.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What could I learn that would assist in the attainment of my goals?
2. What can I learn from today? From the last year? From my entire life? What are the lessons I have failed to recognize?
3. What mistakes do I continue to repeat? Why?

You now have some advice and tips to help you to keep growing in your life..

If you still think that this is something that you will need help with, you can contact me at michael@coachmichaelw.com

To your success

Michael

 

 

 

 

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