Five Tactics to Terminate Overthinking

2023-07-28 ~ adminlife

Ever found yourself stuck in a loop, replaying the same scenarios or thoughts over and over in your mind? You’re not the only one. Many of us get caught in this mental hamster wheel from time to time. But let’s be real, it’s not just unproductive—it can be downright harmful if it becomes a regular gig.

So, let’s dive right in and discover five ways to stop overthinking dead in its tracks.

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Spot the Overthinking Culprit

First things first, we need to know when we’re overthinking. It’s like spotting a pickpocket in a crowded place; once you know what you’re looking for, you can stop it before it causes any damage.

For instance, some folks start overthinking when they’re under pressure at work or dealing with a personal issue. For others, it’s more like a general feeling of anxiety or stress that triggers it.

Once you’ve identified the thoughts or situations that kick-start your overthinking, you’re one step closer to nipping it in the bud.

Unleash the Power of Pen and Paper

When your mind is a whirlwind of thoughts, jotting them down can be a lifesaver. It’s like emptying a cluttered room; suddenly, you can see things more clearly.

Not only does writing help clear your head, but it can also help you spot any negative thinking patterns or self-doubt. If overthinking is your frequent flyer, keeping a journal to track your thoughts and progress can be your personal air traffic controller.

Time Out!

Once you’ve identified what’s causing your overthinking, it’s time to hit the pause button. Give yourself some time to chill before tackling the issue.

Think about it: Would you rather make decisions with a clear mind or while you’re in a state of panic? Exactly.

So, take a break, do something you enjoy, go for a walk, or listen to some calming tunes. Or, why not try a warm bath or some deep breathing exercises? The point is, find your zen before you address the problem.

A Problem Shared is a Problem Halved

Ever heard this old saying? Well, it holds true when you’re overthinking. Sometimes, talking to someone else about your problem can provide a fresh perspective.

Just make sure it’s someone who’ll listen without judgment and who you trust to be honest with you. If you’re comfortable, you might even consider talking to a professional, like a therapist or counselor.

Starting the conversation might feel a bit tricky, but remember, honesty is the best policy. Express how you’re feeling and ask for their thoughts on the situation. And remember, listen without judgment, just as you’d want them to do.

Be Here, Now

Finally, learning to focus on the present moment can be a game-changer. Instead of dwelling on the past or fretting about the future, concentrate on the here and now.

This mindfulness can help you see thoughts as just thoughts, rather than getting tangled up in them.

Stop the Overthinking Train

Overthinking can be a tough nut to crack, but with these tactics, it’s definitely doable. By recognizing the triggers, writing things down, taking a time-out, talking to someone, and practicing mindfulness, you can derail the overthinking train.

Remember, if overthinking is a regular visitor, keeping a journal can be a powerful tool. And, always give yourself time to relax before addressing the triggers.

So, are you ready to put the brakes on overthinking and take back control of your mind? Let’s do this together.

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Does Success Scare You?

2022-06-22 ~ adminlife

To many people, the thought that some people may be afraid of success sounds very odd. People can understand fear of failure, but having a fear of success sounds very preposterous.

Why would a person not want to be successful? How about you?

A common block to being successful consistently is a fear of success. People will achieve 90% of a goal and throw it away at the last moment.

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There are many symptoms and components in the fear of success.

The many causes of the fear of success.

The fear of change. You are programmed to avoid change even if your life is less than ideal. Even if you are really dissatisfied with your life, you are still surviving.

Your brain is thinking about what could happen if there are changes in your situation. For your brain, alive but miserable is a lot better than possibly being happy but you could end up dead.

A fear of having greater responsibility. With success comes responsibility. You usually have to become much more responsible if you want to experience more success. More is expected from you when you are more successful.

When you start a business that becomes successful, you may now have employees relying on you.
A real estate empire may sound really great, but now there are tenants, debt and taxes that you have to deal with.

You have a fear of standing out. Many people do not like attention, while some love it. When you are successful you are noticed and there will be people that will dislike you. They may have feelings of jealousy and being mediocre in their lives.

You may feel that you would rather just blend into the background than be in the spotlight.

People that fear success have many common characteristics and symptoms.

They self-sabotage. This is experienced by many people. You are making great progress but suddenly things start to fall apart. You start to make mistakes and poor choices. You can usually see this happening to others but it is more difficult to see in yourself.

Goals keep changing. You change your mind on your goal just as you are close to being successful. With these constant changes you will never make any progress. You need to choose a goal that appeals to you and stay with it.

They procrastinate. A common signal that you are afraid of being successful is a sudden lack of motivation. One of the primary destroyers of making progress is procrastination.

Manage your fear of success with these techniques.

Find the cause. Find out what you are actually afraid of and determine the cause of this fear. Once you understand your enemy, you will have a chance to work around it.

See how your thoughts and behaviour are changed by your fear. What is your fear actually doing to you? What symptoms do you have? How do these affect your thinking and behaviour?

Don’t avoid your fears, face them. When you avoid your fears you are heading towards failure. Develop a plan and a strategy to work around your fear. Become resilient to fear by giving yourself a pep talk or ask a friend for help. Do what is necessary to keep making progress.

If you don’t know why you can’t achieve success, consider that you may be afraid of success. Do any of the symptoms resonate with you? What do you think of your success in life up to now? Have you been underachieving?

When you consider the source of your fear, a fear of success can make sense. Making sense of something doesn’t make it the most desired option. Achieve the greatness that you deserve by overcoming your fear of success.

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Amazing Self-talk in 5 Minutes

2022-06-15 ~ adminlife

The impact of the self-talk that is constantly going on inside your head is dramatic. Your actions and emotions are determined by the conversations you have with yourself. There are different types of self-talk.

General Self-talk

Raise your awareness. You have been talking to yourself for many years that your self-talk has become so natural that you may not really understand what you are saying. You must become aware of what you are saying about your life.

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Pattern disruption. A tool for making life changes is self-talk. Your fear of numbers may have been caused by receiving a bad grade in a math class and has been reinforced. Now you can take many online courses to help you in any type of math.

Take some action. When you are giving yourself your internal speeches, include a call to action. You should focus on attainable goals.

Do a reality check. Check to see if your self-talk is actually a reflection of what is actually going on around you. The difference between being a failure in the kitchen and just burning one slice of toast is huge.

Talk to others. It is valuable to get feedback from others. What do you colleagues and your partner say about you and ate your impressions the same?

Consistency. Before you accept a message, you usually have to hear it many times. With practice, your self-talk will get wiser.

Be your own friend. You don’t speak as harshly to your friends, or others, than you do to yourself. Talk to yourself as you would talk to a close friend. You should be truthful and supportive to yourself.

Motivation Self-talk

Strengthen yourself. In situations were you need endurance and confidence, motivational self-talk works best. You can increase your confidence and belief in your worth and your abilities with a good pep talk.

Identify your hot buttons. What words invigorate you? Call yourself a superhero and remind yourself how awesome you are.

Keep it short. You stay on track easier when you use single words or short phrases. You won’t be distracted by any doubts and you will be better able to focus on your assets.

Instructional Self-talk

Begin early. A great opportunity for instructional self-talk is at the start of a new project. During the important starting phase is a good time to coach yourself.

Be specific and precise. Break down your tasks into specific parts. For public speaking, you could use: make eye contact, get your pacing correct and be enthusiastic.

See your success. See yourself achieving the results you want.

Reassuring Self-talk

Acknowledging your feelings. You can manage your tense moments and have more comfort by having a soothing self-talk. Even if you feel afraid, you will have the best results if you accept your emotions.

Create some distance. People will perform better under stress if they call themselves by their name or replacing the word you instead of using the word I. When you are under pressure this is one way to restore objectivity.

Focus on the positive. Your life challenges won’t disappear just by using self-talk, but you can respond in a more constructive manner. Concentrate on doing better in the future instead of replaying and criticizing yourself for any past mistake.

Start moving yourself in a positive direction with your self-talk. Learn what the thoughts that are going through your head are saying, and if they are negative, change them into a stream of encouragement. You will enjoy more success in your life and reduce stress, and enhance your self-confidence with the right self-talk.

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7 Ways You Can Suffer if Your Life is Out of Balance

2022-02-23 ~ adminlife

It’s very challenging to achieve balance in life. Some believe it’s impossible to have a balanced life if you’re committed to succeeding at the highest level. Maybe that’s true, but most people don’t need to become a billionaire or a movie star to consider themselves successful.

Success and a balanced life can coexist. However, you can’t afford to waste any of your time.

A life that’s out of balance includes some degree of suffering:

When your life is out of whack, you can spend too much money. If you’re working hard day after day, it’s common to think that you deserve to enjoy your life, so you whip out your wallet. Unfortunately, it’s easy to outspend your income. The pleasure you get from spending money also doesn’t last for long.
- On the other end of the spectrum, if you’re not paying enough attention to work, your income is likely lower than it could be.
- Putting too much or too little attention on work can have negative financial implications.
If your life is out of balance, you’re likely to exercise too little, eat poorly, and suffer from excessive amounts of stress. You can also suffer from insomnia. Your health is one of the first things to go downhill when your life is out of balance.

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Your relationship with your friends and family can suffer. One of the other casualties of an out-of-balance lifestyle is your relationship with other people. Whether it’s your spouse, partner, children, friends, or other family members, your relationships can suffer.
- Consider the consequences of damaging your relationship with your spouse and children. Are the other things you’re spending time on worth it?
You don’t have time for the things you enjoy. Do you love to watch football? Go out with the ladies for dinner on Thursdays? Whittle totem poles in the garage? An out of balance life lacks the time necessary to enjoy your hobbies and other enjoyable activities.
Your mood suffers. Are you cranky, intolerant, angry, or feeling hopeless? Your life might be out of balance. People with an out of balance life often resent the time that people and unrelated activities require.
- It’s not easy to feel good when your life is out of whack. A consistent bad mood is a terrible burden to carry, for you and everyone around you. Everyone suffers when a family member is miserable.
You lose the ability to focus. A lack of sleep, horrible diet, no exercise, and no social life can tear down your ability to focus your attention productively. As your mind and body wear down, you can’t stay on task as well.
- You’re also spending too much brain power focused on other things. If you’re eating dinner with your family, but lost in your thoughts, you’re not focusing on sharing a meal with your family.
You either won’t take or can’t enjoy a vacation. If you can’t, or won’t, make time for a vacation, your life is out of balance. This can be a great test to determine if your life is under control. Do you think your life is unbalanced? Plan a vacation and see what happens!

Is your life out of balance? What changes can you make in order to bring it back into balance? It can be a real challenge to maintain balance in your life, but the consequences of failing to be balanced can be severe.

Remember how important your health, relationships, and happiness are to you. Where would you be without them?

Take action today to bring your life back into balance! You’ll be so glad you did!

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To your success

Michael

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Own the Day and You Own Your Life

2022-02-02 ~ adminlife

Each passing day can seem inconsequential, but the totality of your days is your life. So, each day matters a lot. If you can get the most out of each day, you’re going to have an amazing life!

However, conquering the day doesn’t happen by accident. It requires focus and intention.

Learn how to master the day and in turn, your life:

Realize the power of each day. A day doesn’t seem like much. You’ve experienced plenty of long days where it seemed you accomplished nothing. It’s true that a single day might mean a lot, but a small amount of progress each day can result in a dramatically different future.
- Realize the power and potential of each day and be determined to make the most of it.

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Have a plan for the day. Have a detailed plan for the day and for the week before you even think about going to bed at night. When you wake up, grab your list of to-do items and get busy as soon as possible.
- There’s an added bonus to planning out your day the night before. Your brain has a chance to think about your list of items as you sleep. Your brain will predict the challenges you’re likely to face and have a few solutions in mind.
- Try it and you’ll find that your day goes much more smoothly.
Wake up earlier. If you want to own the day, get started early. Successful people tend to get up pretty early. How successful do you want to be? A successful person doesn’t scramble around in the morning trying to find a pair of clean socks. Start your day as early as possible and grab it by the throat.
What are you going to do for the next hour? Ask yourself this important question each hour. Whether your objective is to write a report, return phone calls, or enjoy your favourite movie as much as possible, identify what you’re trying to accomplish and focus on doing it. Keep your mind on the identified task.
Take breaks. You can get more accomplished each day if you take planned breaks. Working nonstop leads to slowing down later in the day. You’ll ultimately accomplish more if you take a break every couple of hours.
Remove distractions. Distractions will prevent you from owning the day and from owning your life. There’s no reason to rely on your will power to avoid the distractions in your environment if you have the ability to remove them instead.
- Avoid trying to be tough and stoic. Just remove the distractions to the best of your ability.
You had a good day, but it could have been even better. Figure out what you could have done differently. Make a new plan for tomorrow and include this knowledge.
- Reviewing your day is a pivotal part of developing your approach to life. So many people simply repeat the same mediocre days over and over. Mediocre days lead to a mediocre life.

Are you getting the most from each day of your life? Do you have a plan for the day? For the week? What are you committed to accomplishing today? What time did you get up today?

An amazing life is the result of amazing days. Spending your day focused on activities that lead to accomplishing your goals qualifies as an amazing day. An amazing life can be yours, but you have to create it one day at a time.

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