Ways To Value Yourself

2024-08-23 ~ adminlife

How much do you respect your interests, your body, your emotional health, or your success? How much disrespect and poor behaviour are you willing to tolerate from others? If you do not value yourself enough, your life will never be as great as it could be.

When you fail to value yourself sufficiently, you are much more likely to suffer from depression and self-destructive behaviours. Would you smoke or stay in an abusive relationship if you valued yourself highly? One of the most effective ways to enhance your life overall is to value yourself more.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Understand the Importance of Valuing Yourself at a Higher Level

Treat Yourself Like an Important Person

If you were raised to be a nice person, you probably treat strangers better than you treat yourself. You are more encouraging and understanding toward your friends than you are to yourself.

At the end of the day, you are responsible for the quality of your life. It only makes sense to treat yourself like you are an incredibly important person because you are.

Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others

Another way to value yourself is to stop comparing yourself to other people. This type of comparison is unfair because everyone is unique. Who is to say the other person should not be more like you instead?

Cultivate Your Unique Qualities

Spend time on yourself and become an even more unique individual. Spend time cultivating and growing the parts of you that are special. When you honour the parts of you that are unique, rather than attempting to hide them, you are truly valuing yourself.

Be Assertive

Your needs and opinions matter. Value yourself by expressing your needs and opinions. Take control of your life, make a plan, and turn your dreams into reality. You are not honouring yourself when you are passive.

Have a Worthy Objective

Choose a course for your life. Have a big goal that is worthy of your time and energy. Small goals are for small people. You are not a small person, so have worthy goals in your life.

Take Care of Your Body

You cannot live without your body. Give your body the care it requires. Get enough sleep. Eat healthy food. Exercise. See your doctor regularly.

Only Maintain Healthy Relationships

Maintaining unhealthy relationships is not honouring your value. If you value yourself, you will only have positive relationships in your life. Remove the people from your life that are not up to the standards someone like you deserves.

Follow Your Heart

Your ambitions are valuable because you are valuable. Avoid allowing others to talk you out of chasing your dreams. Honor yourself by taking your desires seriously.

Use Your Time Wisely

Avoid meaningless distractions. Your time is far too important to not leverage intelligently. Demonstrate the value you place on your time by utilizing it with intention.

Focus on Your Strengths

Let go of your weaknesses. The most successful people focus on and maximize their strengths. Put your attention where it matters. Ruminating on your weaknesses is not a way to value yourself.

Uncommon Strategies to Elevate Your Self-Worth

Practice Radical Self-Compassion

One uncommon strategy to value yourself is to practice radical self-compassion. This means forgiving yourself for past mistakes and understanding that you are a work in progress. Imagine how a loving parent would treat a child who is learning to walk. They would offer encouragement, patience, and understanding. Treat yourself with the same level of compassion.

Engage in Self-Reflection

Another unique approach is to engage in regular self-reflection. Set aside time each week to journal about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This practice can help you understand your true self better and align your actions with your values.

Invest in Personal Development

Investing in personal development is a powerful way to value yourself. Attend workshops, read books, or hire a coach to help you grow. This investment shows that you believe in your potential and are willing to put in the effort to become the best version of yourself.

Create a Personal Mission Statement

Develop a personal mission statement that encapsulates your core values and long-term goals. This statement can serve as a guiding star, helping you make decisions that are in alignment with your true self. It is a powerful reminder of what you stand for and aspire to achieve.

Celebrate Small Wins

Often, people wait for significant achievements to celebrate. However, valuing yourself means acknowledging and celebrating small wins. Whether it is completing a project, sticking to a healthy habit, or simply getting through a tough day, take a moment to recognize your efforts and accomplishments.

Conclusion

The average person is kinder to other people than he is to himself. Valuing yourself is about more than just treating yourself well. It is also about how you act toward the things that you value.

If you value honesty, you are valuing yourself when you display honesty. If you are fascinated with the piano, you value yourself when you pursue that interest.

Be your own best friend and greatest cheerleader. Give yourself the priority and concern that you deserve. As an adult, no one will ever look out for your interests as well as you can.

By implementing these uncommon strategies, you can elevate your self-worth and lead a more fulfilling life. Remember, you are an incredibly important person, and it is time to start treating yourself like one

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Self-Blame and Self-Criticism Is Not Healthy

2024-07-29 ~ adminlife

Self-blame refers to a person’s tendency to consider themselves at fault, especially when things don’t go as well as planned, even if the cause or events were beyond their control. A pattern of self-blame leads a person to feel constantly guilty and inferior.

Although the tendency to self-blame can make a person seem humble and unassuming, it can also inhibit them in becoming more creative and wanting to strive to do better.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

People who have a persistent habit of blaming themselves for anything that goes wrong will usually avoid taking the initiative. This is because they prefer to stay inconspicuous so they won’t receive extra (negatively perceived) attention, and in doing so, hope that others will have similar expectations of their capabilities.

Self-blame is also correlated with being self-critical

Being self-critical is the act of telling ourselves negative and destructive thoughts, such as being inadequate, shameful, or a failure. We almost all have a tendency to be self-critical to some degree.

However, the problem begins when this becomes a habit; a negative, self-reinforcing loop. This is because constant self-criticism causes a person to become stuck with negative thoughts and emotions about themselves. They feel guilt and shame to the extent that they no longer feel any desire to achieve. If left unaddressed, this inaction can lead to depression or other mental health issues.

Self-criticism deprives an individual of being able to look at their own efforts or abilities objectively. It robs them of being able to engage in healthy self-reflection, which would allow them to be more accepting of any past mistakes.

A little bit of self-blame and self-criticism is okay

We can get away with a little bit of self-blame and self-criticism occasionally. However, if we continually beat ourselves up and start to do it more often than not, then we may not be able to stop and do an objective reality check.

Remember, your mind is incredibly powerful. If you continually feed it with self-blaming and self-criticizing words, those words will get louder and more believed and ingrained. In turn this can increase your risk of developing anxiety or depression.

Self-blame and self-criticism can be beneficial to some degree

They do help us ‘get real’ about ourselves. Sometimes we may be a little guilty of believing our own press. Some critical self-evaluation allows us to identify and accept our imperfections and take conscious steps to improve them. However, if self-blame and self-criticism become the norm, it can paralyze us into inaction.

Consequently, you will be hindered from achieving your full potential. Therefore, it’s important to keep self-blame and self-criticism within healthy levels. Simply, it should be a feedback mechanism, not a tool for consistent self-deprecation.

Steps To Keep Your Self-Blaming and Self-Criticism In Check

Focus your criticism on your behaviour

Behaviours can be changed. This is why when your inner voice starts to be critical, it is time to address your behaviours. Be careful not to criticize your attributes, as you can’t always change them, or need to. Your attributes are a part of your uniqueness.

If you blame yourself for not being super-intelligent, you run the risk of drowning in frustration and depression. If instead you more correctly blame or criticize your habit of spending too much time on your smartphone instead of studying, then chances are you can find ways to rectify the behaviour, and therefore change the result.

Know the difference between taking responsibility and self-blaming

Instead of being quick to blame or criticize yourself, try to assess the situation first. It is important that you look into every aspect of yourself, and see how your actions, inactions, and the words you have left unspoken, affected the entire outcome of the situation. Accept your mistakes and come up with ways on how you can improve yourself as well as the situation in the future.

Challenge your self-critical inner voice

When your inner voice tells you that you are lazy, not worthy or inadequate, challenge these thoughts. Start by creating a journal of the things that you like about yourself, and your strengths. Creating this type of journal will help you appreciate yourself more and criticize yourself less.

If you work on improving yourself, your skills, abilities, and behaviour you will find it easier to get rid of your negative self-critical inner voice.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P. P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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The Power of the Mind: How Focus Can Change Your Life

2024-07-24 ~ adminlife

The mind’s power is immense, and you can use it to achieve anything you want. Here, we will show you how to tap into the power of your mind and zoom in on the things you want in order to transform your reality. We will also cover how to stay focused and motivated while avoiding distractions.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

How to Use Your Mind to Change Your Reality

Learn How to Use Your Mind Positively

The mind is a powerful tool that can help you manifest your desires. Focusing on your goals and taking inspired action are the first steps toward turning abstract thoughts into reality.

Get Clear About What You Want: Understand your goals. What do you want to achieve? Once you are clear about your objectives, focusing on them becomes easier.
Visualize Your Success: See yourself achieving your goals and living the life you desire. Imagine taking inspired action every day.

Believe in Yourself

Self-belief is crucial for achieving your goals. Doubts can stifle your progress, but believing in yourself can propel you forward.

Make a Firm Decision: There is redemptive power in making a steadfast decision to change your life. You can save your life when you make a firm decision to transform it.

Take Action

Taking inspired steps toward your goals will yield results and change your life.

How to Stay Focused

Distractions are ubiquitous, making it essential to stay focused if you want to progress. As world-renowned film director George Lucas said, “Always remember, your focus determines your reality.”

What you focus on will determine the quality of your life. If you concentrate on the problematic aspects of your life, they will grow. Conversely, focusing on the positive aspects will multiply them.

Steps to Stay Focused

Simplify Your Goals
- Strip Down to the Essentials: Having several life goals is beneficial, but focusing on multiple goals simultaneously can be overwhelming. Analyze your goal list and prioritize the most important ones.
Prioritize Your Objectives
- Make a List: Identify your objectives and pick the essential ones. For instance, if improving your finances is a priority, get clear on how much you need to make and the actions you will take to achieve this goal.
Reduce Your Task List
- Focus on Three Vital Tasks: Successful entrepreneurs like Alex Hormozi focus on three essential tasks each day. Instead of creating extensive task lists, they prioritize the most critical activities.

The Importance of Taking Action and Making Progress

Taking action and making progress toward your goals helps keep you motivated. Progress is essential for maintaining high motivation. It could be small steps or large ones; the key is to keep moving in the right direction. Albert Einstein said, “Life is like riding a bicycle; to keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

Tips for Taking Action and Making Progress

Avoid Overthinking
- Just Start: If you overthink, take a deep breath and begin. It does not have to be perfect; starting is the most crucial step.
Break Down Your Goals
- Small, Manageable Steps: Breaking down significant goals into smaller, manageable steps can make them less daunting and more achievable.
Focus on the Process
- Enjoy the Journey: Concentrate on the process rather than the destination. For example, if your goal is to write a book, focus on writing a set number of words each day.

The Benefits of a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset can significantly impact your ability to achieve success.

Take More Risks
- See Possibilities: A positive outlook allows you to see opportunities instead of obstacles, making you more willing to take risks.
Increased Resilience
- Persevere Through Setbacks: A positive mindset helps you view setbacks as temporary, encouraging you to keep pushing forward.
Attract Better Opportunities
- Positive Attraction: A positive mindset attracts positive people and opportunities.
Focus on Achievements
- Avoid Dwelling on Failures: A positive mindset helps you focus on your goals rather than past failures or negative thoughts.

The power of the mind is unfathomable. When you focus on what you want, you can achieve anything. The key is to take action and make progress towards your goals. A positive mindset is essential for success.

So, if you want to achieve your goals, start by making a conscious effort to change your perspective. Set small goals, reduce your daily workload, and zoom in on the process. When you do this, success will follow.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

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The Champion and the Explorer: Competitive vs. Creative Mindsets

2024-06-28 ~ adminlife

Have you ever noticed how some people thrive in fast-paced environments, constantly striving to be the best, while others flourish in open-ended situations, exploring new ideas and possibilities? These contrasting approaches reflect two fundamental mindsets: competitive and creative. While they may seem like opposites, both play a crucial role in our lives and can be harnessed for success, depending on the situation.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

The Competitive Mindset: Championing Your Drive

Imagine a runner sprinting towards the finish line, lungs burning, pushing their body to the limit. This embodies the competitive mindset. It’s about setting goals, focusing on winning, and constantly seeking to outperform others. People with this approach are driven by a desire for excellence and recognition. They excel in structured environments with clear objectives.

Strengths of the Competitive Mindset:

Motivation: Competition ignites a fire within, pushing individuals to train harder, study longer, and constantly improve.
Goal Setting and Achievement: Competitive individuals are adept at setting achievable goals and developing strategies to reach them.
Resilience: Facing setbacks is inevitable in any competition. Competitive thinkers are determined and bounce back from failures, using them as stepping stones for future success.
Focus and Discipline: Maintaining focus and discipline is essential for surpassing the competition. Competitive minds excel at staying on track and resisting distractions.

The Competitive Mindset: When It Can Hinder You

While the competitive spirit can be a powerful motivator, it can also have downsides. Here are some situations where it might not be the best approach:

Stifling Creativity: The intense focus on winning can limit exploration and experimentation. The fear of failure might prevent individuals from trying new, potentially risky ideas.
Toxic Comparisons: Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and hinder personal growth.
Win-Lose Mentality: This mindset can damage relationships and create a hostile environment where collaboration is difficult.

The Creative Mindset: Embracing the Explorer

Now imagine an artist staring at a blank canvas, a writer lost in a world of imagination, or an inventor tinkering with a new idea. This exemplifies the creative mindset. It’s about exploration, innovation, and the joy of creating something new. Creative thinkers are drawn to open-ended problems and enjoy the process of generating unique solutions.

Strengths of the Creative Mindset:

Problem-Solving: Creative individuals are adept at approaching problems from different angles, fostering innovative solutions.
Open-mindedness: They embrace new ideas and perspectives, leading to a richer understanding of the world.
Curiosity and Experimentation: Creativity thrives on a natural curiosity and a willingness to experiment with new approaches and ideas.
Adaptability: The ever-changing nature of creative pursuits allows individuals to readily adapt to new situations and challenges.

The Creative Mindset: When It Can Hinder You

The freedom and exploration of the creative mind can sometimes lead to challenges:

Maintaining Focus: With so many possibilities, it can be difficult to maintain focus on a single project and see it through to completion.
Fear of Judgment: Sharing creative work can be intimidating. The fear of rejection might prevent individuals from putting their ideas out there.
Disorganization: The free-flowing nature of creativity can sometimes lead to disorganization and a lack of structure, making it difficult to manage projects effectively.

Finding the Perfect Balance: Championing Your Creativity and Exploring Your Competitive Drive

The good news? You don’t have to choose between these mindsets. The most successful individuals possess elements of both. Here’s how to strike a balance:

Embrace the Challenge, then Explore: When faced with a problem, start by analyzing what’s already been done (competitive thinking). Then, use that knowledge as a springboard to explore unique solutions (creative thinking).
Collaborate with Different Thinkers: Surround yourself with people who complement your strengths. A competitive thinker can benefit from a creative teammate who pushes boundaries, and vice versa.
Celebrate Both Victories and Discoveries: Acknowledge the thrill of winning a competition, but also recognize the joy and satisfaction of discovering something new and creative.

By understanding the strengths and weaknesses of both competitive and creative mindsets, we can leverage them to achieve success in all areas of life. So, the next time you approach a task, remember: you can be both the champion striving for victory and the explorer venturing into the unknown.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books and many more at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

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The importance of action in self-help

2024-05-06 ~ adminlife

Self-help is more than just recognizing one’s own circumstances and how they developed. It does not conclude with the image of a better option. Self-help is primarily psychological, but this does not imply that it takes place solely on a theoretical, “thought level.” Genuine self-help approaches need a great deal of thought and contemplation, but they also necessitate action in order to achieve one’s goals.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Any good self-help experience is built around action.

Many people appear skeptical of self-help techniques because they believe they are solely dependent on ideas. True, positive thinking techniques and other thought-based strategies are popular ways to achieve personal contentment. However, even these totally “mental” processes necessitate concrete activity in the form of directed thought. Every episode of self-help focuses on taking action.

That is also why many attempts at self-improvement fail. Most of the time, before we can take action, we must first comprehend who we are and why we behave the way we do. Many people become overwhelmed or “burnt out” as a result of this intensely introspective process.

There’s also the issue of habit. Individual constraints are, for the most part, the result of undesirable behavioural habits that have accumulated over time. One of the most common issues is procrastination and other “lazy” behaviours. Even the most well-intentioned self-help practitioners may encounter a challenging situation early in their path. They must overcome the “habit hump” before taking action. Their inherent propensity to avoid such effort can be an impediment to success.

However, it is a barrier that must be overcome. Nothing changes unless someone takes action. Regardless of one’s understanding of the need for change, things will continue as usual unless changes are implemented.

In fact, taking the first steps toward self-help but failing to follow through can exacerbate the situation. That’s because increased knowledge of the need for change, combined with inaction, can be stressful and anxiety-inducing.

Intellectualizing one’s situation continuously and procrastinating instead of taking action is the antithesis of self-help. However, so many people do this that some begin to question the fundamental validity of self-help procedures. They observe so many people who appear to have embraced self-help techniques without making any noticeable changes in their life. What those bystanders don’t comprehend is that failure to act on the knowledge received is what is preventing success, not the approach itself.

Action is important, and anyone who wants to successfully engage in self-help must discover a means to overcome the “habit hump” that inhibits it

There is no “one size fits all” answer to that issue…

However, there are other options for completing the task. One popular strategy is to promote accountability by sharing your intentions or goals with others. This tends to spark a natural desire to get things started. Others find that reading, watching, or listening to highly inspiring items can provide the “bump” they need to get started.

The good news is that, regardless of how the first wave of action is initiated, the new active habit will eventually replace the previous pattern of procrastination. When one sees this happening, they will be able to fully optimize the value of their chosen self-help technique.

Do you have a plan? Have you taken the first measures toward creating a brighter future? Do you understand your goals and know what you’ll need to accomplish them? If so, you are in an ideal situation to have a genuinely transformative experience. Now all that stands in your way is the final component of the self-help equation: action.

Find a means to take action. Consider your goals and follow their motivation. Seek out encouragement and energy wherever you can get it. Get the ball rolling as soon as possible. Once you start taking action, you may work toward your goals, and the habit of taking control of your life and destiny will undoubtedly outnumber your previously held “instincts” for inaction and procrastination.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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