6 Ways to Cultivate Optimism Each Day

2023-06-16 ~ adminlife

It could come as a shock to you to learn that optimism is not a natural trait. Being optimistic or pessimistic refers to how you view yourself and the outside environment. When you see them as manifestations of your attitude, it is much simpler to believe that you can alter them. You must practice it every day for it to become a habit, just like with any new behaviour.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

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Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Write in a journal

You can process events and gain new insight into them by journaling or maintaining a diary. It promotes self-analysis and records perceptions into your way of thinking and acting. You can record your day’s events in writing and include not only the bare facts but also your method, what you did to make it happen, and what you did correctly. Not least of all, how it made you feel as you were doing it. Don’t simply note the positive events (a promotion, a successful presentation or meeting), also note the negative ones and consider what went wrong, how you handled it, and what you could have done differently.

Laugh

Consciously look for the humorous aspects of situations and record them. If the technology failed and you were forced to present without the slide deck, if the power went out, if a fire drill took place in the middle of your important meeting, etc. What may appear to be a catastrophe at the time may actually be seen as a comedy of errors in hindsight.

Letters to the future

Describe the future you want in a letter or journal post. What type of work do you do? Are you an independent business owner? What did you discover? What’s different now? Visualizing your ideal future self can be a strong motivator.

Maintain a kindness log

Keep a page in your journal where you record thoughtful actions. Note any instances when you or another person has shown kindness. Opening a door for someone or giving them priority in the coffee line are both small gestures that may make a big difference. You’ll be shocked at how rapidly they accumulate, and your growing list will alter your view on events.

Express gratitude

Someone who has been genuinely kind to you deserves a letter, email, phone call, or visit. This person should not be a member of your family. Express your gratitude to them for what they did or said and how it touched your life.

Select optimism

Make the decision to adopt and sustain a positive perspective. Every morning do this when you wake up. Make the decision that today will be a wonderful day. In life, everyone will experience some level of hardship. Being upbeat will make it simpler to recover from the terrible times and to take pleasure in and be assured of the wonderful occasions.

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To your success.

Michael

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Successful People Characteristics

2022-11-02 ~ adminlife

Typically, people associate success with money, power and fame. If you have all of these things you could still be unsuccessful. If you do not have wealth, power and fame, people could still consider you as being successful.

A person may have a very solid business and career, which gives him a great job and be well-respected by his coworkers but still not be in the top 10% of successful money earners. All of this does not mean that the person is not successful.

There are many ways that a person can achieve success in their lives. They don’t have to have a high income or a prestigious job.

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Here are some personal success traits to consider.

Forgiveness is important to successful people. A truly successful person knows that forgiveness is not just something they should do. For them forgiveness is natural. If they are offended by someone, they know that to keep moving forward, they know that forgiveness will help them.

They will forgive the offender and continue to move forward with their lives rather than hold a grudge or let the offence affect them negatively.
By forgiving others, they no longer have many negative emotions which enables them to focus on getting closer to their goals which makes them more successful.

They understand when they need to stay with or leave an endeavour. They know when to continue doing what they are doing or when to try something new.

A successful person stays with the projects that they are passionate about. They don’t become frustrated or feel burned out due to boredom. They move on when they no longer enjoy what they are doing.
They will determine which projects to continue and which ones to abandon using their intuition and gut instinct.
This method is usually correct because of their experience in recognizing when the work they are doing is no longer worthwhile for them to continue.

Failure is not feared, it is welcomed. Failure is understood not to be harmful by a successful person. Failure of giving up is the only type of failure to be avoided. They understand that failure means that they are not doing something right. It helps them to continue to learn and to grow.

They figure out what is needed to improve and continue with their progress when they experience loss.
Being an overnight success is impossible. It requires hard work, patience and time to become successful.

Their habits help them to succeed. Living a balanced life of eating nutritious food, exercise and sleep is essential. A successful person has healthy habits that help them to keep their health and vitality.

The work they are doing now is necessary to be successful later. They understand that it isn’t necessary to overwork and burn out in the drive to succeed.

While having money and power is very helpful, they aren’t necessary to achieve success. You don’t have to make a lot of money or be famous to be successful.

Having good habits and positive behaviours are the key to success. Doing this, whether you are rich or poor and you will achieve success.

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Michael

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The Flaws That Make You Unsuccessful

2022-09-14 ~ adminlife

Do these excuses sound familiar?

Tomorrow I will start my diet
Next week I will get my project started.
I can’t do this, I am not good enough

You are not alone if these are relatable. People struggle with one or more of these fatal flaws on a daily basis. You don’t have to let any of them stop you from being a success.

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Procrastination. This is one of the more common fatal flaws. No matter your good intentions of starting something, you can always seem to find something else to do. Procrastination leads to a cycle of excuses and self-doubt.

Some methods you can use to reduce procrastination are to set and stick to a deadline. Write down what needs to be done and when you will do it. Break down the goal into small and manageable steps.
To keep you on track, find an accountability partner. Keep focused on the task at hand by eliminating distractions. Get yourself started by starting with the most straightforward task.

Perfectionism. Society celebrates perfectionism, but trying for perfectionism is just a form of self-sabotage.

People who are perfectionists are their own biggest critics. No matter how hard they try to do something, they are never satisfied. This leads to feelings of frustration and self-doubt.
To deal with perfectionism, you first need to learn how to accept imperfection. Don’t focus on the outcome, focus instead on the process. Set realistic goals and don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
Focus on making progress not perfection, no one is perfect. Find a role model whole accepts imperfection. You need to stop making comparisons to others and celebrate your own accomplishments no matter how small they may appear.

Fearing failure. When you start doing something new, it is natural to feel fear or anxiety. If you let fear take control, you can be prevented from taking any risks and actually achieving your goals.

Dealing with your fear of failure. Identify what you are afraid of and understand that part of the process is failure. Build you confidence by setting realistic goals and making a plan to achieve them.
Seek support from role models who have overcome failure. At some point, everyone fails. Learn from your mistakes and don’t be afraid to take any risks.
Start small, work your way up and be prepared to suffer some setbacks. Persevere through the difficult times you will encounter.

No motivation. When the goal or task is difficult, it is easy to lose your motivation. When this happens, it makes it harder to achieve the goals you set.

Staying motivated involves finding out those things that drive you. Make a plan using the SMART goals method. These are goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely.
Seek support from others and work with an accountability partner. Find a role model to help you create a positive mindset. Focus on what you have attained not on your failures and persevere through the difficult times.

These four fatal flaws can stop you from becoming successful. When you identify any of these flaws in yourself, and can take the steps to overcome them, you will be well on your way to achieving your goals

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

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To your success

Michael

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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Eliminate a Negative Self-image

2022-09-07 ~ adminlife

How you perceive yourself is your self-mage. You could be thinking that you are intelligent, or lazy, bad with money, likeable or even eccentric. These self-beliefs can be either liberating or constricting.

You can be limited in your success as well have your decisions influenced by your self-image. If you believe that you are bad at talking with strangers, you may avoid many social situations. You may miss the opportunities to meet a new life-long friend or the recruiter for your dream job, or even the love of your life.

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You can change your self-image and make enhancements to your life.

Identify and change your bad habits. You are not perfect, no one is. You probably have things that you do that could use a little work. Address your shortcomings., get in shape, be more patient or even just be a better friend.

Perfection is not possible, just focus on making progress.

List your good points. You should do this every morning and evening. Start with a long list and then add at least one item each morning and evening. Keep reminding yourself of those things that you are good at and appreciate about yourself. Review the list to keep you feeling good about yourself.

Follow your morals. You know what is right and wrong. It is hard to feel bad about yourself when you live by your own values. When you stray from these values is when you feel guilty and displeased.

List the behaviours that you will no longer accept
What are the qualities that are most important to you? Set your standards and don’t violate them.

Help others. Help a neighbour or volunteer each week. Do this without expecting anything in return. This strategy alone can improve your self-image.

Find an organization in your city and make a positive difference in a person’s life. You will get as much benefit from this as they do

Experience your success. You should feel good about any success you have. Make it easy to succeed by setting small goals then go out and accomplish them. This could be saving a small amount of money each month or going to the gm regularly. Prove to yourself that you can be a consistent success.

Be around people who like you. You can easily increase your self-respect by spending time with those people that already think you are great. The unkind, unsupportive and the negative people should be avoided.

Do what you enjoy. Do things on a regular basis that make you feel good. You can then carry those feelings into other areas of your life. The more positive emotions you have and the more time you spend feeling these emotions, the better you will feel.

Don’t try to be perfect. You are going to feel very unhappy in your life if the only way you can feel good about yourself if you need to be perfect. It is not possible to be perfect. You should try for things that are controllable like improvements and effort.

Be nice to yourself. When you treat yourself well, you believe that it is deserved. Treat yourself kindly as you would a good friend. Take care of your basic needs like sleeping and eating as well as having a good social life. Buy yourself those things that you need.

Having a negative self-image has repercussions in every part of your life. Do you think highly of your own life? Enhancing your self-image is time well spent. Achieving more than you think you deserve is difficult, so believe that you deserve to have a lot. You will be able to enjoy more of your life’s desires.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

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Michael

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Your Inner Critic Needs to be Silenced

2022-06-02 ~ adminlife

You have an inner critic that seems to be focused on making you miserable. Your life can be much simpler and more enjoyable if you can silence your inner critic. If you really listen to this critic you will be amazed that it can be so negative.

You listen to your critic as if he was an expert. This could not be further from the truth.

Look at your inner dialogue differently

Be dispassionate when listening to your inner critic. Listen for a minute and notice all of the things that you hear. Before too long you will realize that your inner voice is not really sane. Imagine you are sitting next to someone who lets their inner voice out and rambles on about unrelated things.

You would probably be looking for an exit if you were sitting next to this person. We speak to ourselves this way. You need to realize that you are listening to a type of person that you would probably avoid in real life. You listen to this self-talk a lot even though you shouldn’t take it seriously.

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What would you tell a friend? If one of your friends were in a similar situation as you are, what would you say? You would probably say things that are a lot different than what you are saying to yourself.

When you are listening to your inner critical dialogue, ignore all of the criticism and focus on being gentle as if you would be to a friend.

Think about past successes. It is believed that to overcome one negative experience you need ten positive experiences. Take time each day to remember everything amazing that you have accomplished.

It can become a habit when you do this regularly. When a negative thought arises, you can immediately change it to something positive.

Write down your inner self-talk. Don’t just listen to your inner critic, write down what was said. When you read it aloud, it will seem less credible.

Test the criticism. Does this negative self-talk have any supporting evidence? Are there any past times when this statement proved false?

How would this situation appear if you were more positive? What are the gains you could have from the current situation?

Think about today. Today the past has no value and tomorrow is not predictable. Make the most of today and don’t worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself.

Show gratitude. Being grateful is the easiest way to uplift your mood and make your self-talk more positive. You should make a list of all the things that you are grateful for.

You get very little from your inner critic. You would never be a good friend to someone who spoke the same silly talk that your self-talk was about. If they were your friend, you would never take them seriously and probably stay far away from them.

Using these tips will help you to keep your inner critic under control. You will begin to develop the habit of talking positively to yourself which will help your self-confidence and success to rise to new levels.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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