Which type of mindset do you have?

2024-07-05 ~ adminlife

Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, in her insightful book *Mindset: The New Psychology of Success*, explains that there are two types of mindsets: a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. These mindsets shape how we view our abilities and personality.

A fixed mindset is the belief that our character, creative abilities, and intelligence are static traits that cannot change. People with this mindset think their basic abilities are inherent and will not improve beyond a certain point.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Individuals with a fixed mindset strive to appear intelligent because they do not believe their intelligence can grow. They fear looking unintelligent, thinking that once labelled as such, they will always be seen that way. Common fixed mindset thoughts include:

Either I’m good at something, or I’m not.
I can’t learn now; it’s too late.
There’s no point in trying if I’m going to fail.
I always struggle with…
I’m a procrastinator.
I’m not creative.
It’s hard for me to lose weight.

In contrast, a growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can develop with time and experience. People with a growth mindset think they can become smarter, and that their efforts directly impact their success. They understand that persistence is key to learning.

Those with a growth mindset see their basic abilities as just the starting point for their potential. This mindset fosters a love of learning rather than a constant need for validation. Common growth mindset thoughts include:

I can always become better at something through practice.
I can learn whatever I want or need to, exactly when I need to learn it.
I see failures as opportunities to learn, reassess, and improve.
I can always do better if I put in the effort.
Determination and effort determine my outcomes.
I enjoy learning and growing and see it as a lifelong pursuit.

A key difference between these mindsets is how they handle challenges. A person with a fixed mindset will often avoid challenges out of fear of failure and may shirk responsibilities. Conversely, someone with a growth mindset embraces challenges, finding them engaging and valuable for learning. They overcome obstacles and move on to greater achievements.

Another important difference is in handling mistakes and feedback. A person with a fixed mindset is embarrassed by mistakes, often blaming others or becoming defensive when criticized. In contrast, someone with a growth mindset views mistakes as learning opportunities. They are open to criticism, seeing it as a way to improve and do better next time.

If you recognize a fixed mindset in yourself and want to change, you can. It requires practice, determination, awareness of your thoughts, and anticipating your reactions to situations. With effort, you can develop a more open, growth mindset that leads to success in all areas of life.

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Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

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The Champion and the Explorer: Competitive vs. Creative Mindsets

2024-06-28 ~ adminlife

Have you ever noticed how some people thrive in fast-paced environments, constantly striving to be the best, while others flourish in open-ended situations, exploring new ideas and possibilities? These contrasting approaches reflect two fundamental mindsets: competitive and creative. While they may seem like opposites, both play a crucial role in our lives and can be harnessed for success, depending on the situation.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

The Competitive Mindset: Championing Your Drive

Imagine a runner sprinting towards the finish line, lungs burning, pushing their body to the limit. This embodies the competitive mindset. It’s about setting goals, focusing on winning, and constantly seeking to outperform others. People with this approach are driven by a desire for excellence and recognition. They excel in structured environments with clear objectives.

Strengths of the Competitive Mindset:

Motivation: Competition ignites a fire within, pushing individuals to train harder, study longer, and constantly improve.
Goal Setting and Achievement: Competitive individuals are adept at setting achievable goals and developing strategies to reach them.
Resilience: Facing setbacks is inevitable in any competition. Competitive thinkers are determined and bounce back from failures, using them as stepping stones for future success.
Focus and Discipline: Maintaining focus and discipline is essential for surpassing the competition. Competitive minds excel at staying on track and resisting distractions.

The Competitive Mindset: When It Can Hinder You

While the competitive spirit can be a powerful motivator, it can also have downsides. Here are some situations where it might not be the best approach:

Stifling Creativity: The intense focus on winning can limit exploration and experimentation. The fear of failure might prevent individuals from trying new, potentially risky ideas.
Toxic Comparisons: Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and hinder personal growth.
Win-Lose Mentality: This mindset can damage relationships and create a hostile environment where collaboration is difficult.

The Creative Mindset: Embracing the Explorer

Now imagine an artist staring at a blank canvas, a writer lost in a world of imagination, or an inventor tinkering with a new idea. This exemplifies the creative mindset. It’s about exploration, innovation, and the joy of creating something new. Creative thinkers are drawn to open-ended problems and enjoy the process of generating unique solutions.

Strengths of the Creative Mindset:

Problem-Solving: Creative individuals are adept at approaching problems from different angles, fostering innovative solutions.
Open-mindedness: They embrace new ideas and perspectives, leading to a richer understanding of the world.
Curiosity and Experimentation: Creativity thrives on a natural curiosity and a willingness to experiment with new approaches and ideas.
Adaptability: The ever-changing nature of creative pursuits allows individuals to readily adapt to new situations and challenges.

The Creative Mindset: When It Can Hinder You

The freedom and exploration of the creative mind can sometimes lead to challenges:

Maintaining Focus: With so many possibilities, it can be difficult to maintain focus on a single project and see it through to completion.
Fear of Judgment: Sharing creative work can be intimidating. The fear of rejection might prevent individuals from putting their ideas out there.
Disorganization: The free-flowing nature of creativity can sometimes lead to disorganization and a lack of structure, making it difficult to manage projects effectively.

Finding the Perfect Balance: Championing Your Creativity and Exploring Your Competitive Drive

The good news? You don’t have to choose between these mindsets. The most successful individuals possess elements of both. Here’s how to strike a balance:

Embrace the Challenge, then Explore: When faced with a problem, start by analyzing what’s already been done (competitive thinking). Then, use that knowledge as a springboard to explore unique solutions (creative thinking).
Collaborate with Different Thinkers: Surround yourself with people who complement your strengths. A competitive thinker can benefit from a creative teammate who pushes boundaries, and vice versa.
Celebrate Both Victories and Discoveries: Acknowledge the thrill of winning a competition, but also recognize the joy and satisfaction of discovering something new and creative.

By understanding the strengths and weaknesses of both competitive and creative mindsets, we can leverage them to achieve success in all areas of life. So, the next time you approach a task, remember: you can be both the champion striving for victory and the explorer venturing into the unknown.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books and many more at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

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Strategies to Reclaim Enthusiasm

2024-05-15 ~ adminlife

Life’s spark can sometimes dim, leaving you feeling unmotivated and unenthused. This lack of enthusiasm, whether due to self-doubt or simply a monotonous routine, is a common experience. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to reignite your passion and rediscover joy in life.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Identifying the Root Cause

The first step is introspection. What factors are hindering your enthusiasm? Is it a lack of confidence holding you back from pursuing your goals? Perhaps unrealistic expectations led to disappointment and discouragement. Understanding the root cause empowers you to address it directly.

Building a Positive Routine

Our daily habits significantly impact our well-being. If you currently feel lost and adrift, revamping your routine can be transformative. Focus on creating a morning routine that fosters positivity and energy. Instead of immediately reaching for your phone upon waking, prioritize activities that set the tone for a productive and optimistic day. Preparing the night before can streamline mornings, leaving you feeling more in control.

The Power of Positivity

Surrounding yourself with positive influences is crucial for regaining enthusiasm. Negative people have a contagious effect, draining your energy and optimism. Actively seek out individuals who uplift and inspire you. A supportive network fosters a sense of empowerment and encourages you to embrace opportunities.

Seeking Professional Help

Sometimes, a lack of enthusiasm stems from underlying conditions like depression. While mild cases may respond to the strategies mentioned above, seeking professional help is crucial for moderate to severe depression. Therapy can equip you with tools to manage these conditions and rediscover your zest for life.

Remember, periods of diminished enthusiasm are a normal part of life. The key takeaway is that you are not powerless. By implementing these strategies, you can reignite your passion and reclaim a fulfilling and joyful life.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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How to stop yourself compromising in your life

2024-05-10 ~ adminlife

Do you find yourself constantly saying ‘yes’ to others people’s requests? Are you running errands for others because you can’t say ‘no’? Looking back on your life and earlier decisions, have you followed a route – career or personal – that was contrary to your desires just because it was required of you? If you responded yes to the above, you, like hundreds of millions of other people in the world, have a stronger than usual drive to please others over yourself. It is a common ‘malady’ (for lack of a better description) that, if left untreated, can lead to discontent later in life. However, there is a way to control the drive to please, and the first step toward overcoming it is to understand its origins. To be aware of how it began. Once this is determined, the remaining stages will be easy to complete.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

During your adolescent years, you may have developed a need to satisfy everyone. Not during childhood, as most youngsters appear to prefer to do the opposite of what is expected of them. Fitting in, or being with the in-crowd, is especially vital throughout the key prepubescent and adolescent years. At this point, you most likely did things because you wanted others (the cheerleaders, the varsity squad, the cliquish clique) to like you. What counted most (at the time) was that you were well liked, regardless of who you were. This erroneous belief persisted throughout your college years and into your professional career.

Now that you understand the source of this “pleasing” problem, you will be in charge and have more power to say ‘no’ to requests in which you would ordinarily compromise on what you want in order to be ‘loved’ or just to please someone (or everyone).

What do you do today about the concessions you’ve made in the past? It’s not worth crying over spilled milk, therefore the best option is to accept that you’ve sacrificed in certain areas of your life and try to locate a silver lining in the cloud of ‘regret’. Try to identify a hidden benefit or value that you obtained by making the ‘wrong choices’. Surely you profited from it in some way. You may have learnt a new skill, realized something valuable about yourself, or made new friends; identify these. No matter how tiny or inconsequential they appear to be, they helped form you into the person you are today, and that is vital.

The French proverb “The art of pleasing is the art of deceiving” is true: you deceive them as well as yourself. Stop putting others’ needs ahead of your own. Be conscious of the source, be aware that you have the ability to say ‘no’, and be aware of the rewards of your previous acts. Once you become aware of these, you will learn to be adaptable, and new opportunities will surface that will strengthen and empower you.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line books stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Navigating Life’s Journey

2024-04-24 ~ adminlife

In the singular journey of life, individuals are often confronted with the formidable challenge of discerning their true desires and aspirations. The pursuit of a meaningful existence necessitates a deep understanding of one’s passions and the determination to realize them. This exploration is not merely beneficial; it is imperative for personal fulfillment.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Uncovering Your Passions: The Foundation of a Purposeful Life

The quest for a fulfilling life begins with introspection. It is essential to pose pivotal questions to oneself:

What ignites your enthusiasm?
When do you feel the most content?
Which activities bring you a sense of joy and fulfillment?

The answers to these inquiries are the bedrock upon which you can build a life of satisfaction and achievement.

Strategies for Self-Discovery

Catalogue Your Passions

Identifying what you are passionate about is a critical step toward happiness. Reflect on the moments that elicit joy and excitement, and document them. This list will serve as a guide in your journey toward self-discovery.

Investigate Diverse Interests
- Begin by compiling a comprehensive list of interests.
- Delve deeper into these interests through exploration and experimentation.
- Embrace the process of learning about yourself; the more you understand your inclinations, the clearer your path forward becomes.

Embrace the Learning Curve

Failure is an intrinsic element of life’s journey. It is imperative to recognize that setbacks are natural and to utilize them as opportunities for growth and development.

Seek Guidance and Support

The pursuit of one’s life goals can be greatly enhanced by the support of a mentor or coach.

Identifying a Mentor or Coach
- Determine the attributes you value in a mentor or coach.
- Assess your financial capacity and available resources.
- Conduct thorough research to discover local or online resources.
- Engage with potential mentors to ascertain their suitability.

The essence of a fruitful mentorship lies in open communication and trust in the mentor’s counsel.

Define Your Objectives

With a clearer understanding of your desires, it is crucial to establish precise goals.

Goal-Setting Principles
- Aim for attainable yet challenging goals.
- Ensure your goals are explicit and actionable.
- Document your goals to reinforce commitment and focus.
- Monitor your progress and adjust your strategies as necessary.
- Take daily actions, no matter how small, toward the realization of your goals.

Cultivate a Supportive Network

The path to achieving your ambitions can be arduous, and the presence of a supportive network can be invaluable.

Building Your Support System
- Determine the specific forms of support you require.
- Do not hesitate to solicit assistance when necessary.
- Maintain transparency and honesty with your network.

The endeavour to discern and pursue what you desire in life is a complex yet rewarding process. Dream ambitiously, commence with manageable steps, and surround yourself with a network of support to enhance your journey toward personal accomplishment.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks books at many on-line books stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author

Photo by Clarisse Meyer on Unsplash