How Positive Delusions Can Help You to Reach Your Goals

2024-01-12 ~ adminlife

The Art of Overestimating

Picture this: You’re standing on the edge of a cliff, staring down at the sparkling blue ocean below. You’ve never dived off a cliff before, but you’ve seen others do it, and you’re convinced you can do it too. You’re not a professional diver, but you believe in your ability to pull it off. That’s a positive delusion.

You might be thinking, “Isn’t that just being overly optimistic or even self-deceptive?” Sure, you could see it that way. But the fascinating thing is, science backs up this seemingly irrational behaviour.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Research shows that people who overestimate their abilities, who dive headfirst into new endeavours with a ‘can-do’ attitude, actually perform better than those who approach the same tasks with a more realistic or pessimistic mindset.

So, if you believe you can nail that presentation, learn to play the guitar, or even dive off a cliff, you’re more likely to succeed than if you were filled with self-doubt.

The Magic of High Expectations

Here’s the deal. If you expect the best, you’re more likely to roll up your sleeves and get stuck into learning that new skill. With high expectations – even unrealistically high ones – you’re boosting your chances of success.

Doesn’t that sound like a good deal?

Let’s look at some ways you can harness the power of positive delusions to your advantage:

Positive delusions kindle hope. When you tell yourself, “I can do this. Things will get better,” you fuel the hope needed to keep going. Yes, there’s a chance things might not improve, but if you believe they will, you’re stacking the odds in your favour.
- If you were a pessimist, you’d be stuck in a rut, right? Would that make you more likely to succeed?
High expectations spur action. Whether you’re keen to learn salsa or start a conversation with someone you fancy, you can only take the first step if you believe something good will come of it.
- Would you be as motivated if you expected failure?
Remember, we all harbour delusions. Our understanding and interpretation of past experiences are far from perfect. Much of what we believe to be true is, in fact, a delusion. So why not make it a positive one?
Curb your negative self-talk. Negativity is a dream killer. It squashes your spirit, motivation, and future prospects. Don’t let it gain momentum. The moment it rears its ugly head, shift your focus.
Envision your future self. Think about your goals and the person you need to become to achieve them. What qualities do you need to cultivate? Now, visualize yourself already possessing those traits.
Visualize success. Picture yourself overcoming every hurdle and achieving your goals with confidence. This is one of the most effective ways to use positive delusions to your advantage.
Believe in the power of positive delusions. Being practical and realistic has its place, but it can also be limiting. Overestimating your abilities and being optimistic can yield incredible results in the long run.

There’s a time and place for realism, but it might not be as frequent as you think. Overestimating your abilities and the likelihood of your success can significantly improve your results.

So, why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt more often and see how it transforms your life? If it doesn’t work out, you can always revert to your old ways.

Choose what works over what makes logical sense. Conduct an optimism experiment on yourself and see the results. You might just surprise yourself.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. I am offering a free, no obligation Wheel of Life consulting and exercise session for three people each day. You can book the session at https://calendly.com/michael-coach/focused-program-45-minute

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The Journey Matters More Than the Destination

2024-01-10 ~ adminlife

We’ve all dreamt of winning the lottery, or maybe being granted three wishes by a magic genie. But let’s be honest, wouldn’t that take away the thrill of the chase? Sure, we’d love a bigger house, a swanky car, or maybe even to conquer Mount Everest. But wouldn’t these achievements feel hollow if we didn’t have to lift a finger to attain them?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The crux of the matter is that our goals are more than just shiny trophies or fancy titles. They represent a journey of self-discovery, growth, and resilience.

The Thrill of the Chase

Imagine this: A magic genie grants you all your wishes. You’re now rich, can play the piano like a pro, have a successful business, and are married to your dream partner. Sounds perfect, right? But hold on a minute. Don’t you feel something’s missing?

The thrill of working towards these goals, the joy of overcoming obstacles, the satisfaction of personal growth – all of these are missing from this picture. Simply put, things we don’t work for don’t hold the same value.

The Post-Goal Blues

Ever felt a strange sense of emptiness after achieving a long-pursued goal? Whether it was landing your dream job, graduating from university, or finally visiting Hawaii, the euphoria soon gave way to a surprising ‘blah’ feeling.

This might seem strange. After all, you got what you wanted, right? But it’s the journey towards the goal, filled with challenges, learning, and growth, that gives us a sense of purpose and satisfaction.

The Struggle is Real (And Rewarding)

The real kicker? It’s not just about winning. It’s about the blood, sweat, and tears that go into the journey. The thrill of overcoming a challenge, the satisfaction of pushing past your limits, the joy of surprising yourself – these are what make the journey worthwhile.

Personal Growth: The Unsung Hero

Sure, having a successful business is exciting. But isn’t it the journey that truly matters? Learning new skills, perfecting your sales pitch, and becoming a better version of yourself – these are the real rewards.

The path to achieving big goals forces us to grow and evolve. And isn’t that the real appeal?

The Learning Curve

When we struggle, we learn. If a new car is simply handed to you, you lose the chance to learn how to earn, save, and invest. Challenges force us to learn, whether through study or through trial and error.

The Magic Wand vs The Sweat of Your Brow

Picture this: You’ve achieved all your goals, but without any effort. They were simply handed to you. How does that make you feel? Would you still be the same person if you could lose 50 pounds by waving a magic wand instead of changing your diet and working hard at the gym?

Achieving goals gives us more than just the end result.

Our goals give us a chance to struggle, grow, and feel accomplished. They boost our self-confidence and self-esteem.

While having things handed to us might be nice, it lacks meaning. So, ditch the wishes for good luck. Instead, wish for strength and determination. Remember, the goal isn’t the end game. It’s the journey that truly matters!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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How To Stop Reliving Past Mistakes

2024-01-01 ~ adminlife

Today, let’s talk about a common pitfall many people face: reliving past mistakes. We’ve all been there, right? Going over and over past missteps, feeling like a broken record stuck on repeat. But what if I told you, there’s a way out of this loop? You bet there is!

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The Root of the Problem

Before we dive into the solutions, let’s take a look at what’s causing this issue. You see, factors like perfectionism, low self-esteem, anxiety, guilt, shame, and learned behaviour from our upbringing often play a part. Now, don’t get me wrong, a little perfectionism can be a good thing, but when it leads us to focus solely on our perceived failures, it becomes a stumbling block.

The Road to Recovery

So, how do you break free from this cycle? Here are some strategies that just might do the trick:

Self-compassion: Treat yourself like you would a good friend. We all stumble and fall, it’s part of the human experience. So, cut yourself some slack, alright?
Change your perspective: Remember that old saying, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”? Well, it’s time to squeeze the heck out of those lemons! See your mistakes as stepping stones, not stumbling blocks.
Healthy coping mechanisms: Find your zen. Whether it’s running, yoga, meditation, or simply hanging out with friends, find what helps you unwind and stick to it.
Realistic expectations: Let’s face it, nobody’s perfect. So why do we expect ourselves to be? Ease up on those expectations and you might just find yourself breathing a little easier.
Live in the now: Past is past, future is uncertain, all we’ve got is now. So, let’s make the most of it!
Professional help: If things get too heavy to handle, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. There’s no shame in asking for a helping hand.

Conclusion

Remember, reliving past mistakes is a habit we can break. It might not be easy, but it’s definitely worth it. So, let’s stop dwelling on the past, and start focusing on the present. After all, the best way to predict your future is to create it, right? So, go ahead, unleash your inner self, and watch as your future unfolds.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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9 Lightning-Fast Ways to Break Free from a Rut

2023-12-29 ~ adminlife

We’ve all been there. You wake up, and it feels like you’re stuck in the movie Groundhog Day. Every day is just a carbon copy of the one before, and frankly, it’s about as enjoyable as watching paint dry. If you’re stuck in a rut, don’t panic. It’s a common feeling, and it’s not a life sentence. It’s like being stuck in the mud – you need a bit of a push to get moving again.

Here’s a roadmap to help you rev your engine and get back on the highway of life:

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Embrace the Discomfort

Feeling uncomfortable? That’s your signal that change is knocking on your door. It’s like the growing pains you had as a kid – a bit uncomfortable, but a sure sign you’re on your way to something bigger and better.

Discover Your Passion

Ever wanted to learn how to salsa dance? Or maybe you’ve been dreaming about writing that novel? Now’s the time to dive in. When you’re engrossed in something you love, your worries and concerns take a back seat. So, jot down all those things you’ve been itching to try and pick one or two to tackle.

Prioritize Your Passion

Once you’ve found your new hobby, don’t just squeeze it in when you can. Treat it like a hot date – schedule it, and make it non-negotiable.

Consider a Career Change

If your job feels like a chore, it might be time for a change. After all, we spend a significant chunk of our lives at work, so why not do something that lights your fire? If your current gig is more of a wet blanket, it might be time to explore new horizons.

Get Moving

Ever feel like a hamster on a wheel, running but not getting anywhere? It’s time to shake things up. Get your blood pumping with some physical activity. It doesn’t have to be a marathon – even a brisk walk can do wonders for your mood and energy levels.

Check in with Your Doctor

If you’re feeling stuck in multiple areas of your life, it might be worth checking in with your doctor. Just like a car needs regular maintenance, your body might need a tune-up to get back on track.

Baby Steps

Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. If you try to overhaul your entire life in one fell swoop, you’ll likely end up overwhelmed and back in your rut. Instead, make a list of what you want to change and tackle one thing at a time.

Set a Goal

Feeling lost? A goal can be your North Star. It gives you a clear direction and something to strive for. Just make sure it’s a goal that will add value to your life, not just another box to tick.

Change Your Scenery

Ever noticed how different the world looks from an airplane window? Sometimes a change of scenery is all it takes to shift your perspective. It could be a vacation or even just a day trip to a nearby town.

So, are you ready to kick that rut to the curb? Remember, change starts with you. You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results. So, give these strategies a shot, start small, but start now. You’ve got this!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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9 Things Mentally Strong People Do That Mentally Weak People Don’t

2023-12-20 ~ adminlife

The Distinctive Traits of Mentally Resilient Individuals

The human species is diverse and can be categorized in numerous ways. One such categorization is based on mental strength. We all know people who are mentally strong, and those who are not. But have you ever contemplated the actual disparities between these two groups? The differences are tangible and significant.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Mentally resilient individuals consistently exhibit certain behaviours that their less resilient counterparts often fail to demonstrate. This article will explore these behaviours and offer insights into how you can cultivate mental resilience.

Key Behaviours Exhibited by Mentally Resilient Individuals

Initiation: Mentally resilient individuals excel at initiating tasks. They are assertive starters. Conversely, mentally fragile individuals often excel at planning but falter when it comes to taking the first step towards action.
Completion: Initiating a task is only part of the challenge. Mentally resilient individuals are also adept at seeing tasks through to completion. If you find yourself consistently giving up before completing significant tasks, it could be an indication that you need to build mental resilience.
Tackling Difficult Tasks: Success often requires undertaking challenging tasks. These tasks might necessitate multiple attempts, acquiring new knowledge, or stepping outside one’s comfort zone. Mentally fragile individuals often shirk from such tasks.
Embracing Change: Mentally resilient individuals leverage change for growth and progress. In contrast, mentally fragile individuals either resist change or are paralyzed by it.
Risk-Taking: Mentally resilient individuals are adept at striking a balance between taking calculated risks and avoiding reckless behaviour. Mentally fragile individuals, on the other hand, either succumb to impulsive tendencies and risk excessively or are overly cautious.
Celebrating Others’ Success: Mentally resilient individuals are comfortable with, or even celebrate, the success of others. Conversely, mentally fragile individuals often harbour resentment or jealousy towards successful individuals.
Perseverance: Mentally resilient individuals persist until they achieve their goals. Mentally fragile individuals, however, often give up too quickly and easily to achieve substantial success.
Assertiveness: Mentally resilient individuals have the ability to assertively decline requests that divert them from their goals. They can say “no” without remorse or regret.
Delayed Gratification: The most successful individuals can delay gratification for extended periods. The inability to delay gratification is a significant weakness. If you need immediate rewards, you may struggle to accomplish significant goals.

Mentally resilient individuals are more effective at overcoming obstacles, staying focused on their goals, and leveraging change to their advantage. They accomplish more and are generally more successful. In essence, they are willing to do what mentally fragile individuals are not.

Examine the list above and assess your mental resilience. You can develop mental toughness, and as your resilience improves, so will your life outcomes.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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