Stop Overthinking and Make Decisions Confidently

2024-07-31 ~ adminlife

Do you find yourself spending too much time pondering and not enough time getting things done? Overthinking is common, especially when making decisions. Overthinking wastes time and lowers your confidence.

The most successful people make decisions quickly and stick with them. The less successful take too long to decide and quickly change their minds afterward. You might think that you are being responsible and cautious by taking your time to decide, but you are shooting yourself in the foot. There is no evidence to suggest that ruminating excessively on a decision results in a better outcome.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Make Up Your Mind and Get on With Your Life

List the Advantages and Disadvantages

Write them down. There is something magical about taking pen to paper when making decisions. By the time you are done, you will have a better idea of the right direction to take.

Be Aware of Your Core Values

Decisions are more quickly and easily made when you know your core values. When you consider a choice, test it against your core values. Often, these choices are not the easiest, but are in your best interests.

Remember That You Can Always Change Your Mind

There are few, if any, decisions you must stick with until your funeral. Just knowing that you can change your mind later can give you the comfort needed to decide. It is not possible to predict the future with 100% accuracy anyway.

Avoid Paralysis by Analysis

Overanalyzing does not lead to better results. It leads to inactivity and confusion. The Special Forces have a rule that you only need to be 70% certain to act. You might not be in the military, but the same general concept applies.

Often, the window of opportunity closes before the last 30% of the information can be gathered.

Think Both Short-Term and Long-Term

Ideally, an option exists that satisfies both criteria. Ask yourself if you will be happy with your decision in 15 minutes and in 15 years. Any decision that meets both requirements is a great decision.

Stay Busy

Those that overthink often have the luxury of too much free time. Busy people make decisions quicker because they do not have the time to brood over every decision. Be more active in general. You will find it easier to make decisions in a timely fashion. Exercise is one way to stay busy. You do not overthink when your body is tired.

Use Your Experience to Your Advantage

You have made plenty of poor choices over the years. It would be a shame to allow them to go to waste. Consider whether you have been in a similar situation in the past. You might gain some great insight.

Use a Timer to Make Decisions

Most decisions do not require weeks, or even days, to make. A couple of hours is more than sufficient most of the time. Use a timer and put some focus on the issue. When you hear the alarm, it is time to decide. A timer is an effective way to narrow your focus.

A Good Decision Now Beats a Great Decision Later

What are you waiting for? Success is more about making decent decisions and working hard than it is about making awesome decisions. Avoid overestimating the value of perfection and underestimating the value of activity.

Avoid overanalyzing every little decision. You are limiting your results in life if you spend too much time making decisions. Be clear on your values and consider using a timer. You do not make better decisions by overthinking them. You just waste time. Use that time to execute your decisions. You will be more successful.

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Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

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Self-Blame and Self-Criticism Is Not Healthy

2024-07-29 ~ adminlife

Self-blame refers to a person’s tendency to consider themselves at fault, especially when things don’t go as well as planned, even if the cause or events were beyond their control. A pattern of self-blame leads a person to feel constantly guilty and inferior.

Although the tendency to self-blame can make a person seem humble and unassuming, it can also inhibit them in becoming more creative and wanting to strive to do better.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

People who have a persistent habit of blaming themselves for anything that goes wrong will usually avoid taking the initiative. This is because they prefer to stay inconspicuous so they won’t receive extra (negatively perceived) attention, and in doing so, hope that others will have similar expectations of their capabilities.

Self-blame is also correlated with being self-critical

Being self-critical is the act of telling ourselves negative and destructive thoughts, such as being inadequate, shameful, or a failure. We almost all have a tendency to be self-critical to some degree.

However, the problem begins when this becomes a habit; a negative, self-reinforcing loop. This is because constant self-criticism causes a person to become stuck with negative thoughts and emotions about themselves. They feel guilt and shame to the extent that they no longer feel any desire to achieve. If left unaddressed, this inaction can lead to depression or other mental health issues.

Self-criticism deprives an individual of being able to look at their own efforts or abilities objectively. It robs them of being able to engage in healthy self-reflection, which would allow them to be more accepting of any past mistakes.

A little bit of self-blame and self-criticism is okay

We can get away with a little bit of self-blame and self-criticism occasionally. However, if we continually beat ourselves up and start to do it more often than not, then we may not be able to stop and do an objective reality check.

Remember, your mind is incredibly powerful. If you continually feed it with self-blaming and self-criticizing words, those words will get louder and more believed and ingrained. In turn this can increase your risk of developing anxiety or depression.

Self-blame and self-criticism can be beneficial to some degree

They do help us ‘get real’ about ourselves. Sometimes we may be a little guilty of believing our own press. Some critical self-evaluation allows us to identify and accept our imperfections and take conscious steps to improve them. However, if self-blame and self-criticism become the norm, it can paralyze us into inaction.

Consequently, you will be hindered from achieving your full potential. Therefore, it’s important to keep self-blame and self-criticism within healthy levels. Simply, it should be a feedback mechanism, not a tool for consistent self-deprecation.

Steps To Keep Your Self-Blaming and Self-Criticism In Check

Focus your criticism on your behaviour

Behaviours can be changed. This is why when your inner voice starts to be critical, it is time to address your behaviours. Be careful not to criticize your attributes, as you can’t always change them, or need to. Your attributes are a part of your uniqueness.

If you blame yourself for not being super-intelligent, you run the risk of drowning in frustration and depression. If instead you more correctly blame or criticize your habit of spending too much time on your smartphone instead of studying, then chances are you can find ways to rectify the behaviour, and therefore change the result.

Know the difference between taking responsibility and self-blaming

Instead of being quick to blame or criticize yourself, try to assess the situation first. It is important that you look into every aspect of yourself, and see how your actions, inactions, and the words you have left unspoken, affected the entire outcome of the situation. Accept your mistakes and come up with ways on how you can improve yourself as well as the situation in the future.

Challenge your self-critical inner voice

When your inner voice tells you that you are lazy, not worthy or inadequate, challenge these thoughts. Start by creating a journal of the things that you like about yourself, and your strengths. Creating this type of journal will help you appreciate yourself more and criticize yourself less.

If you work on improving yourself, your skills, abilities, and behaviour you will find it easier to get rid of your negative self-critical inner voice.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P. P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Tired of Missing Great Opportunities?

2024-07-17 ~ adminlife

Are you frustrated with constantly missing out on opportunities due to procrastination? Like many, you might find yourself delaying tasks until the last minute, only to realize you’ve lost a valuable chance to succeed. Whether it’s a job opportunity, career advancement, or a personal goal, procrastination can hinder your progress and prevent you from reaching your full potential.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Procrastination can cause missed deadlines, overlooked chances to showcase your abilities, and lost opportunities for career or personal growth. For instance, if you have an interview for your dream job but procrastinate on preparation, you might miss the chance to impress and secure the position. Similarly, delaying a significant work project until the last moment can result in subpar performance, missing an opportunity to impress your boss and colleagues.

Personal growth and development also suffer from procrastination. If you have a goal to learn a new skill or start a new hobby but keep postponing it, you miss the opportunity to challenge yourself and grow in exciting ways.

Ultimately, procrastination leads to wasted time and missed opportunities. By overcoming procrastination, you can take control of your life and seize the opportunities that come your way.

Here are some tips to help you combat procrastination:

Identify Your Triggers: Understand what causes your procrastination. It might be fear of failure or feeling overwhelmed. Recognizing your triggers can help you develop strategies to overcome them.
Set Goals: Focus on what you want to achieve by setting clear goals. This provides you with a roadmap to follow.
Break Tasks into Smaller Steps: Tackle tasks by breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps.
Create a Schedule: Allocate specific times for your important tasks and adhere to your schedule as much as possible.
Seek Support: Find a coach, mentor, or therapist who can keep you accountable, offer guidance, and encourage you to keep moving forward.
Celebrate Your Progress: Reward yourself when you achieve your goals. Establish a system of rewards to keep yourself motivated.

By implementing these strategies, you can start taking control of procrastination and begin taking advantage of the opportunities around you. Whether you’re aiming for career advancement, achieving a personal goal, or simply seeking a more fulfilling life, overcoming procrastination is crucial for success. So, why wait? Start taking action today and reach for the stars.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.P.S Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books and many more at

https://www.smashwords.com/shelves/promos/

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Do You Worry Too Much About What Others Think?

2024-07-10 ~ adminlife

Everyone worries, but some people worry excessively about what others think. They spend time with people they don’t like or avoid others out of fear of repercussions. They struggle to make even simple decisions, constantly adjusting their stance in response to criticism. They hesitate to share their thoughts or assume others are upset with them when it’s not true. Does this sound familiar to you? If so, you might be worrying too much about others’ opinions.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

How to Stop Worrying About Others’ Opinions

Focusing too much on what others think can hinder your personal and professional success. If you find yourself trapped in this cycle, here are some steps to help you break free:

Accept that people will have opinions about you: Everyone makes judgments, some accurate and some not. Accepting that people will form opinions, even if they’re wrong, helps you let go of their critiques more easily.
Remember that people care less about you than you think: It may sound harsh, but it’s true. Most people are more focused on their own lives than on your mistakes or awkward moments. They likely have fewer opinions about you than you imagine.
Understand that hurt people hurt people: Life’s circumstances impact everyone differently. Someone’s judgment of you often reflects their own issues and beliefs. Realizing this can help you be more compassionate toward others.
Own up to mistakes but don’t dwell on them: Shame can make us ignore our errors, but it’s better to face them and move on. Admit your mistake, deal with the embarrassment, and continue with your life.
Find your heroes and look to them for inspiration: Identify people you admire who have overcome similar fears. Learn about how they faced challenges and obstacles. Their stories can inspire and guide you through tough times.
Surround yourself with supportive people: Look for those who love and support you, recognizing both your strengths and weaknesses. Build and strengthen these relationships. If something feels off, don’t hesitate to ask about it. This can help improve your connections.

Don’t let worrying about others’ opinions keep you from the success you deserve.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

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Which type of mindset do you have?

2024-07-05 ~ adminlife

Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, in her insightful book *Mindset: The New Psychology of Success*, explains that there are two types of mindsets: a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. These mindsets shape how we view our abilities and personality.

A fixed mindset is the belief that our character, creative abilities, and intelligence are static traits that cannot change. People with this mindset think their basic abilities are inherent and will not improve beyond a certain point.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Individuals with a fixed mindset strive to appear intelligent because they do not believe their intelligence can grow. They fear looking unintelligent, thinking that once labelled as such, they will always be seen that way. Common fixed mindset thoughts include:

Either I’m good at something, or I’m not.
I can’t learn now; it’s too late.
There’s no point in trying if I’m going to fail.
I always struggle with…
I’m a procrastinator.
I’m not creative.
It’s hard for me to lose weight.

In contrast, a growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can develop with time and experience. People with a growth mindset think they can become smarter, and that their efforts directly impact their success. They understand that persistence is key to learning.

Those with a growth mindset see their basic abilities as just the starting point for their potential. This mindset fosters a love of learning rather than a constant need for validation. Common growth mindset thoughts include:

I can always become better at something through practice.
I can learn whatever I want or need to, exactly when I need to learn it.
I see failures as opportunities to learn, reassess, and improve.
I can always do better if I put in the effort.
Determination and effort determine my outcomes.
I enjoy learning and growing and see it as a lifelong pursuit.

A key difference between these mindsets is how they handle challenges. A person with a fixed mindset will often avoid challenges out of fear of failure and may shirk responsibilities. Conversely, someone with a growth mindset embraces challenges, finding them engaging and valuable for learning. They overcome obstacles and move on to greater achievements.

Another important difference is in handling mistakes and feedback. A person with a fixed mindset is embarrassed by mistakes, often blaming others or becoming defensive when criticized. In contrast, someone with a growth mindset views mistakes as learning opportunities. They are open to criticism, seeing it as a way to improve and do better next time.

If you recognize a fixed mindset in yourself and want to change, you can. It requires practice, determination, awareness of your thoughts, and anticipating your reactions to situations. With effort, you can develop a more open, growth mindset that leads to success in all areas of life.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

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