How to Define and Strengthen Your Personal Values

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Understanding Personal Values

Personal values are the core principles that shape our beliefs about what is meaningful, good and important in life. They serve as our moral compass, guiding our decisions and influencing how we conduct ourselves. Whether interacting with others or reflecting alone, our values show up in our personality and behaviour.

Most personal values are formed unconsciously during childhood, shaped by our surroundings and early experiences. However, not all values stem from these influences — some come from a conscious rejection of negative early experiences, as individuals choose to build a different path forward.

Values such as love, honesty, kindness and integrity are examples of moral ideals that can shape priorities and drive behaviour. Knowing our values helps us better understand ourselves, enabling more intentional decisions aligned with our principles.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.


Steps to Define and Embrace Your Core Values

1. Practice Awareness in Daily Actions

Each day, we encounter situations that require a response, whether through words or actions. Instead of reacting instinctively, pause and consider your response carefully. Using intellect and judgment rather than raw emotion allows you to act in alignment with your values, fostering thoughtful and consistent behaviour.

Trusting “gut feelings” alone can be unreliable, as they’re often fuelled by immediate emotions. In contrast, values are shaped through deliberate thought and reasoning, representing a higher level of self-guidance.

2. Identify Your Motivations

Understanding why you do certain things can help clarify your values. For example, is your motivation to be honest rooted in childhood lessons or a sense of personal fulfillment? Reflecting on the reasons behind your actions strengthens your values and brings them to the forefront, providing a clearer understanding of what truly matters to you.

3. Train Your Conscience

Feelings of guilt are signs of a sensitive conscience, urging us to correct mistakes. Listen to these signals — they help reinforce positive traits and remind us to act in ways that reflect our values. Over time, a well-trained conscience supports the development of character and moral strength.

4. Consider the Consequences of Your Actions

Defining values involves learning to identify choices and understanding their potential outcomes. When faced with options — such as being honest versus dishonest — consider the advantages of taking the high road and the consequences of doing otherwise. Values are built not just by knowing right from wrong but by acting in alignment with your understanding.

5. Reflect on Past Experiences

Reflecting on past mistakes offers valuable life lessons, highlighting areas for growth. For example, a youthful experience of missing curfew may have led to consequences at home, just as tardiness as an adult can impact job performance. Learning from these moments encourages us to adopt values like punctuality, respect and accountability, helping us to grow and improve.

Why Defining Your Values Matters

In a world where social values can seem to shift over time, having clearly defined personal values provides a stable foundation. While societal trends may change, strong personal values remain steadfast, helping you stay grounded and authentic.

Your values represent your commitment to yourself, supporting both personal growth and resilience. By staying true to principles like honesty, courage and resilience, you foster a character that can adapt without sacrificing core beliefs. Embracing well-defined values helps you build a life of integrity, purpose, and fulfillment.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

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Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

 

 

 

 

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Embrace Self-Promotion: Unlock Your Potential

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Is Self-Promotion Really That Uncomfortable?

Claiming credit for your achievements may feel challenging, yet it often costs nothing while creating valuable opportunities. Many, however, find self-promotion uncomfortable and worry it might come across as boasting. This reluctance often links to self-worth, but also stems from upbringing and cultural expectations. Families or societies that value humility might unknowingly discourage even healthy expressions of pride, making self-promotion feel foreign or difficult.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


What Does Self-Promotion Entail?

Self-promotion means confidently recognizing and sharing your accomplishments. Far from “showing off,” self-promotion is a valuable leadership skill that enables others to see your contributions clearly. This art can be learned and refined, allowing anyone to promote themselves without seeming self-centred or egotistical.

Signs of Reluctance to Self-Promote

If you avoid self-promotion, you might recognize these tendencies:

  • Underplaying Your Role: You work hard and deliver exceptional results but avoid taking credit, especially around senior colleagues.
  • Always Using “We” Instead of “I”: Sharing credit excessively might keep you feeling humble, but it can also prevent personal recognition crucial for career advancement.
  • Hoping Hard Work Will Speak for Itself: Believing that your effort alone will gain attention can be counterproductive, especially if you depend on others noticing you.
  • Brushing Off Compliments: If you attribute your success to luck or external factors, you may inadvertently downplay your skills and effort.

How to Promote Yourself Effectively

Successful self-promotion doesn’t mean becoming overly self-focused. Here are practical ways to elevate your self-promotion skills without feeling uncomfortable:

  • Practice Self-Awareness: Understand your own strengths, values and beliefs through self-reflection. Recognizing what might be holding you back allows you to promote yourself thoughtfully and authentically.
  • Tell Compelling Stories: Share stories about your achievements that add value and avoid exaggeration or self-deprecation. Make sure they match the accomplishment, and let them reflect your contributions accurately.
  • Deliver Consistently on Promises: Earn respect by doing what you commit to. Fulfilled promises speak volumes, enabling others to see your achievements without you having to oversell them. Consistency makes self-promotion credible.
  • Acknowledge Others’ Contributions: Genuine gratitude toward others who helped you along the way highlights your leadership qualities and makes your achievements even more admirable.

Embrace Self-Promotion to Maximize Opportunities

Self-promotion may feel daunting, but effective self-promotion can reshape your professional journey. For many, it’s the key to standing out, realizing untapped potential, and overcoming challenges. Are you ready to let your achievements speak more confidently on your behalf?


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

 

 

 

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Are You Open-Minded or Stuck in Your Ways?

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Understanding Narrow-Minded vs. Broad-Minded Thinking

Are you narrow-minded or broad-minded? Most people would likely describe themselves as broad-minded, but are they really? It’s easy to assume we’re open to new ideas, yet many may unknowingly display signs of narrow-mindedness.

Narrow-minded behaviour can impact others negatively — causing discomfort for family, friends and colleagues, often resulting in strained conversations and social distance. On the other hand, broad-minded individuals attract others with their welcoming, approachable demeanour, making them natural connectors.

If you recognize any narrow-minded traits in yourself, it’s possible to change. Personalities aren’t fixed, but flexible. With intention and effort, you can foster greater openness and develop into a more emotionally balanced, positive individual.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


Indicators of a Narrow-Minded Perspective

Imagine you’re brainstorming at work, planning a trip with a partner or making big decisions with family. Do you believe your ideas are the best and feel baffled when others don’t agree? It might seem like you’re simply confident, but pushing your ideas without openness to others’ input is a narrow-minded habit.

Sometimes, this behaviour stems from an “I know best” mindset, where differing ideas are dismissed. This approach often appears as arrogance, even if it’s unintentional. In other cases, it might come from a “me-first” attitude, where self-interest overshadows empathy, leaving little room to genuinely consider others’ needs.

Narrow-mindedness can also include judging others based on race, culture or status. Such biases can be subtle yet harmful, and they often go unacknowledged. By asking, “How would I feel in their position?” you can begin to assess your biases and take the first step toward change. Embracing self-reflection is an essential part of shifting toward a more open-minded perspective.

Signs of Broad-Mindedness

Broad-minded people see diversity as a strength. They value differences in opinion and recognize that different perspectives can lead to more creative and effective solutions. Broad-minded individuals avoid judging others based on superficial traits and appreciate everyone’s unique potential.

These individuals are also willing to listen to alternative ideas and adapt to new approaches. They welcome change and understand that cooperation and collaboration lead to better outcomes for everyone involved. Broad-mindedness is about inclusivity, respect and a willingness to grow through shared experiences.

Advantages of Being Broad-Minded

Broad-mindedness brings many benefits, starting with greater success. Being open to new possibilities — whether that’s a career shift, higher education or a move — allows for personal and professional growth. This adaptability leads to better decision-making and resilience in life’s changes.

Additionally, a broad-minded outlook helps manage expectations, reducing the stress that comes from demanding too much of oneself or others. This realistic approach prevents undue strain, which can lower health risks associated with stress, such as hypertension, diabetes and depression.

Socially, broad-minded people tend to have more fulfilling relationships, both personal and professional. Their positive outlook fosters a relaxed and enjoyable lifestyle, attracting meaningful friendships and connections. In short, a broad-minded attitude can lead to a happier, more successful life.

Embracing a more open-minded approach is an achievable path to personal growth, healthier relationships and greater happiness.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

 

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Don’t Let Circumstances Define Your Self-Worth

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Understanding Self-Worth Beyond Circumstances

Imagine if you could instantly transport yourself away from difficult situations. Inspired by the iconic “Star Trek” transporter, this concept reflects how we often wish to escape uncomfortable or challenging environments. In reality, however, we don’t have a transporter to physically remove us from our circumstances. But we do have the power within our minds to maintain a consistent sense of self-worth, regardless of the environment around us.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.


The Power of Mental Resilience

Our sense of self often fluctuates with changing experiences. When things are going well, it’s easy to feel confident. Yet, during tough times, we can quickly start to feel inadequate, allowing external circumstances to chip away at our self-worth. This pattern is common but unnecessary. True resilience lies in holding on to an inner, unchanging sense of worth. Recognizing that you are inherently valuable — no matter what happens — can transform your perception and boost your confidence.

Self-Worth vs. Situational Challenges

People with high self-worth don’t need to “escape.” They understand that circumstances are temporary and don’t define who they are. They maintain a steady appreciation for themselves, staying grounded in their self-image regardless of external factors. Self-worth isn’t dependent on the opinions of others or what’s happening around you; it’s rooted in self-acceptance and a deep understanding of your value. When you internalize this concept, you become less reactive to life’s challenges, building confidence and inner peace.

Practising Self-Worth Awareness

1. Acknowledge Your Value: Appreciate the unique strengths, skills and qualities that make you who you are. You’re an individual unlike any other, and that alone is worthy of respect.

2. Embrace Your True Self: Cultivate an honest relationship with yourself. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses without judgment. Self-acceptance forms the foundation of authentic self-worth.

3. Stay Consistent: Remember that external situations change constantly, often beyond your control. Rather than letting them define you, ground yourself in an unshakeable sense of self-respect.

4. Reject Limiting Beliefs: Refuse to allow setbacks or the opinions of others to alter your view of yourself. Your self-worth should be steady and independent of external events.

By valuing who you are — unconditionally and deeply — you empower yourself to face any circumstance with confidence. Maintaining this steady perspective ensures you are rooted in a positive self-image that is resistant to the ups and downs of life. You are unique, irreplaceable and worthy, just as you are.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

 

 

 

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Redefining Success and Overcoming Self-Doubt

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How do you value effort. It’s easy to fall into the trap of equating success with results. Our culture often celebrates achievements and outcomes, but rarely does it give the same attention to the hard work, persistence and effort that led to those results. This focus on end goals can fuel self-doubt, particularly when your efforts don’t immediately yield the desired outcome. However, by shifting your mindset to value effort itself, you can break free from this cycle of doubt and fear of failure. Instead of fearing the result, you start to recognize that consistent effort is the true marker of progress — and, in time, this effort will lead to success.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


One of the reasons self-doubt thrives is that we tend to measure ourselves based on outcomes alone. If we don’t achieve the exact result we were hoping for, we see that as failure. But what if we shifted our focus away from the end result and instead paid attention to the process? What if we started valuing the effort we put into reaching our goals, regardless of the immediate outcome? By doing this, you start to see effort as valuable in its own right, and this mindset makes it easier to persevere even when things don’t go exactly as planned.

Effort is something you can control, whereas outcomes often depend on various external factors. When you base your self-worth solely on results, you give control over to circumstances that may be out of your hands. For example, you might study intensely for a test but still not get the grade you hoped for, or you might pour your heart into a project, only for it to not receive the recognition you expected. In these cases, it’s easy for self-doubt to rear its head, making you question your abilities and whether your efforts are worth it.

But when you start valuing effort, you regain a sense of control. You understand that success is not solely about the outcome — it’s about the consistent effort you put in along the way. Effort leads to improvement, growth and learning, even if the results aren’t immediate. This mindset helps you maintain motivation and resilience because you’re no longer fixated on short-term success. Instead, you’re invested in the long-term process of becoming better, and that’s where real progress happens.

Another benefit of valuing effort is that it takes the fear out of failure. When you define success as putting in your best effort, you start to see failure not as a reflection of your worth but as an opportunity to learn and grow. Failure becomes less intimidating because it’s no longer something to be avoided at all costs. Instead, it becomes a part of the journey — a necessary step in the process of improvement. This shift in perspective helps to reduce the paralyzing effect that self-doubt can have, allowing you to take more risks and embrace challenges with a growth mindset.

Actionable Step: The next time you’re working on a task or project, focus on the effort you’re putting in rather than the result you’re aiming for. Acknowledge the work you’re doing, the time you’re investing and the progress you’re making, even if the final outcome isn’t immediately visible. After completing a task, take a moment to reflect on the effort you put in and what you learned from the process, regardless of the result. This practice will help you build a habit of valuing effort over outcome, which in turn will diminish feelings of self-doubt.

A common pitfall is believing that effort is only valuable if it leads to immediate success. This is a limited way of thinking because effort often pays off in ways that aren’t immediately apparent. For example, the effort you put into learning a new skill may not result in instant mastery, but it builds a foundation that will serve you in the future. Similarly, the effort you put into a project that doesn’t succeed can still teach you valuable lessons that will improve your performance next time. By recognizing that effort contributes to long-term success, even when the short-term outcome isn’t ideal, you empower yourself to keep going.

Valuing effort also helps to build resilience. When you focus on effort, you develop a mindset that can withstand setbacks because your self-worth isn’t tied to a single outcome. You understand that failure is not the opposite of success but rather a part of the process. This resilience makes it easier to bounce back from disappointments and try again, which is crucial for long-term success. The more effort you invest in something, the more you learn, and the closer you get to achieving your goals.

This focus on effort also ties into the concept of a “growth mindset,” which was popularized by psychologist Carol Dweck. People with a growth mindset believe that abilities and intelligence can be developed through hard work, dedication and learning from mistakes. This contrasts with a “fixed mindset,” where people believe that talents and intelligence are static and unchangeable. When you value effort, you adopt a growth mindset because you recognize that improvement comes through perseverance and learning, not through innate talent or ability alone. This mindset is incredibly effective at reducing self-doubt because it shifts the focus from “Am I good enough?” to “What can I learn and how can I grow?”

One important aspect of valuing effort is understanding that progress doesn’t always happen in a straight line. There will be times when you feel like you’re putting in a lot of effort but not seeing much in terms of results. This can be frustrating and is often where self-doubt creeps in. But progress is often slow and gradual, with breakthroughs coming after periods of sustained effort. By valuing the work you’re doing, even during times when progress seems slow, you keep yourself motivated and on track. The key is to trust the process and believe that your efforts will eventually lead to success.

Effort also fosters a sense of satisfaction and pride that goes beyond the outcome. When you know you’ve given something your best effort, there’s a feeling of accomplishment that comes from within. This internal sense of satisfaction is far more sustainable than relying on external validation or specific outcomes for your sense of worth. It allows you to find meaning in the work itself, rather than in the result, which is a powerful antidote to self-doubt.

Another important aspect of valuing effort is that it encourages you to embrace challenges rather than shy away from them. When you value effort, you’re more willing to take on difficult tasks because you know that the process itself is valuable, regardless of the outcome. This mindset shift can lead to greater personal and professional growth because you’re not limiting yourself to only those things you’re already confident in. You’re willing to step outside of your comfort zone and take on challenges that will push you to grow and improve.

Ultimately, valuing effort is about recognizing that the journey is just as important as the destination. It’s about understanding that success is not defined by a single outcome but by the persistence, hard work and dedication that you bring to the process. When you learn to value effort, you free yourself from the paralyzing grip of self-doubt because you know that, regardless of the result, your efforts are leading you in the right direction. You begin to trust yourself more and become more resilient in the face of setbacks, which in turn makes it easier to achieve your long-term goals.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

 

 

 

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