How To Change Your Life: The Magic of Goals and Measure

2024-01-17 ~ adminlife

Let’s face it. Change is a tough cookie to crack. Haven’t we all seen our friends or family members start a new diet or workout routine, only to throw in the towel within a few weeks? So, what makes changing our lives such a Herculean task? Well, it all boils down to two magic words: goals and measurement.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

The Magic Wand of Goals

Goals are the compass that guide your life’s journey. Without them, you’re like a ship adrift at sea. Goals give you a target to aim for, a reason to get up in the morning, and a roadmap to follow. They’re the secret sauce that can turn your life around.

Imagine wanting to shed some pounds. You’re more likely to stick to your diet and workout routine if you’ve got a clear goal, like losing 10 pounds by summer. It’s like having a finish line in sight during a marathon. It gives you the drive to keep going, even when the going gets tough.

Ever heard of SMART goals? They’re Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. Instead of vaguely wanting to “work out more”, set a SMART goal like “work out for 30 minutes, three times per week.”

James Clear, a best-selling author, says it best: “The most effective way to achieve long-term goals is to break them down into small, manageable steps that you can complete today.” So, start small, and build up. It’s like climbing a ladder, one rung at a time.

The Power of Measuring Goals

If goals are the magic wand, then measurement is the spell that brings the magic to life. It’s like the yardstick that shows you how far you’ve come and how far you’ve got to go.

Why measure your goals? Here’s why:

It keeps you on track and lets you tweak your plan if needed.
It motivates you to keep going when you see results. Research backs this up – people who set and track progress are more likely to achieve their goals.
It helps you focus your efforts. When you set a measurable goal, you know exactly where to channel your energy.
It holds you accountable. If you’re not seeing results, it’s a wake-up call to reassess your strategy.

How often should you measure your progress? Well, that depends on your goals. If you’re trying to lose weight, a weekly weigh-in might be a good idea. If you’re saving money, a monthly check-in could work. The key is consistency.

The Joy of Small Wins

Let’s be honest. Who doesn’t love a good pat on the back? Celebrating your achievements, no matter how small, is like giving yourself a high-five. It boosts your confidence, keeps you motivated, and makes the journey to your big goals a lot more fun.

So, how can you celebrate your small wins?

Share your progress on social media. Let your friends and family cheer you on.
Write about it in a journal. It’s a great way to see how far you’ve come.
Treat yourself! Lost five pounds? Buy that pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing.

Remember, every step forward, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.

Wrapping Up

Goals and measurement are the dynamic duo of transformation. Goals give you a direction, and measurement keeps you on track.

When you set attainable goals and measure your progress, you’re setting yourself up for success. Small steps lead to big leaps over time. So, celebrate every win, no matter how small, and keep moving forward.

Changing your life around might seem like a mammoth task, but when you break it down, it’s just a series of small, achievable steps. So, set your goals, measure your progress, and celebrate your wins. With a bit of grit and a lot of determination, you can turn your life around. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day, was it?

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. I am offering a free, no obligation Wheel of Life consulting and exercise session for three people each day. You can book the session at https://calendly.com/michael-coach/focused-program-45-minute

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Bouncing Back Stronger: Mastering the Art of Overcoming Regrets

2024-01-15 ~ adminlife

Let’s be real, we’ve all messed up at some point, right? And who’s to blame? Well, us, of course. But here’s the kicker, we’re not supposed to just sit there, wallowing in our mistakes. Instead, we need to learn from them, dust ourselves off, and keep moving forward.

But, what happens when you’re stuck in a rut, constantly replaying past mistakes in your head? It’s like being on a never-ending roller coaster of regret, shame, and self-blame. Sounds familiar? Don’t worry, you’re not alone, and it’s not a life sentence. After all, we’re only human, and to err is human, right?

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Dwelling on past mistakes won’t get you anywhere. It’s like trying to drive a car while constantly looking in the rearview mirror. You won’t get far before you crash! Instead, it’s time to adopt an attitude of forgiveness, and start focusing on the road ahead.

So, how do we shift gears and stop focusing on our mistakes? Here’s a roadmap to help you navigate this journey:

Embrace the Lessons from Your Mistakes

Regret isn’t all bad, you know. It’s like a compass, guiding you towards self-improvement. It nudges you to think about what you could’ve done differently and motivates you to try again. So, instead of sinking in a sea of regrets, jot down the lessons you’ve learned from your mistakes. Reflect on how you’ve grown since then. It’s like keeping a scorecard of your personal growth!

Grant Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness

Regret is a sign that you hold yourself to high standards. But guess what? You’re human, and you’re bound to trip up sometimes. When you stumble, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, dust yourself off, forgive yourself, and keep moving. Sure, forgiveness isn’t a magic wand that instantly lightens your burden, but over time, it’ll help you feel better.

Divert Your Mind from Regrets

Constantly brooding over past mistakes is like running on a treadmill of misery. It’s exhausting and gets you nowhere. Instead, find ways to distract yourself with things that bring you joy. Spend time with loved ones, immerse yourself in music, or binge-watch your favorite show. Break the monotony by trying something new each day. It could be as simple as visiting a new café or as adventurous as exploring a new city.

Accept Your Mistakes and Embrace Yourself

Nobody’s perfect, and you can’t time travel to undo past mistakes. So, instead of dwelling on the “could’ve, should’ve, would’ve”, accept your past actions and embrace who you are now. Apologize if you’ve hurt someone, and most importantly, forgive yourself. Remember, self-acceptance doesn’t mean letting your mistakes off the hook. Instead, it’s about using them as stepping stones to a better future.

Pour Your Heart Out in a Grief Journal

Expressing your feelings can be therapeutic, and writing them down can help you process your emotions better. So, grab a pen and start journaling. You don’t have to keep it forever, but be honest with your feelings. It might be hard to see the silver lining when you’re feeling low, but writing about your struggles can help you regain your lost energy and perspective.

Look, we all make mistakes, and we all have regrets. But wallowing in them only drags us down. It’s like being stuck in quicksand, the more you struggle, the deeper you sink. So, instead of feeling like a failure, forgive yourself, and focus on the good things in your life. Remember, you’re a work in progress, and your past mistakes have shaped you into the amazing person you are today. So, chin up, and keep moving forward!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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How Positive Delusions Can Help You to Reach Your Goals

2024-01-12 ~ adminlife

The Art of Overestimating

Picture this: You’re standing on the edge of a cliff, staring down at the sparkling blue ocean below. You’ve never dived off a cliff before, but you’ve seen others do it, and you’re convinced you can do it too. You’re not a professional diver, but you believe in your ability to pull it off. That’s a positive delusion.

You might be thinking, “Isn’t that just being overly optimistic or even self-deceptive?” Sure, you could see it that way. But the fascinating thing is, science backs up this seemingly irrational behaviour.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Research shows that people who overestimate their abilities, who dive headfirst into new endeavours with a ‘can-do’ attitude, actually perform better than those who approach the same tasks with a more realistic or pessimistic mindset.

So, if you believe you can nail that presentation, learn to play the guitar, or even dive off a cliff, you’re more likely to succeed than if you were filled with self-doubt.

The Magic of High Expectations

Here’s the deal. If you expect the best, you’re more likely to roll up your sleeves and get stuck into learning that new skill. With high expectations – even unrealistically high ones – you’re boosting your chances of success.

Doesn’t that sound like a good deal?

Let’s look at some ways you can harness the power of positive delusions to your advantage:

Positive delusions kindle hope. When you tell yourself, “I can do this. Things will get better,” you fuel the hope needed to keep going. Yes, there’s a chance things might not improve, but if you believe they will, you’re stacking the odds in your favour.
- If you were a pessimist, you’d be stuck in a rut, right? Would that make you more likely to succeed?
High expectations spur action. Whether you’re keen to learn salsa or start a conversation with someone you fancy, you can only take the first step if you believe something good will come of it.
- Would you be as motivated if you expected failure?
Remember, we all harbour delusions. Our understanding and interpretation of past experiences are far from perfect. Much of what we believe to be true is, in fact, a delusion. So why not make it a positive one?
Curb your negative self-talk. Negativity is a dream killer. It squashes your spirit, motivation, and future prospects. Don’t let it gain momentum. The moment it rears its ugly head, shift your focus.
Envision your future self. Think about your goals and the person you need to become to achieve them. What qualities do you need to cultivate? Now, visualize yourself already possessing those traits.
Visualize success. Picture yourself overcoming every hurdle and achieving your goals with confidence. This is one of the most effective ways to use positive delusions to your advantage.
Believe in the power of positive delusions. Being practical and realistic has its place, but it can also be limiting. Overestimating your abilities and being optimistic can yield incredible results in the long run.

There’s a time and place for realism, but it might not be as frequent as you think. Overestimating your abilities and the likelihood of your success can significantly improve your results.

So, why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt more often and see how it transforms your life? If it doesn’t work out, you can always revert to your old ways.

Choose what works over what makes logical sense. Conduct an optimism experiment on yourself and see the results. You might just surprise yourself.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. I am offering a free, no obligation Wheel of Life consulting and exercise session for three people each day. You can book the session at https://calendly.com/michael-coach/focused-program-45-minute

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The Journey Matters More Than the Destination

2024-01-10 ~ adminlife

We’ve all dreamt of winning the lottery, or maybe being granted three wishes by a magic genie. But let’s be honest, wouldn’t that take away the thrill of the chase? Sure, we’d love a bigger house, a swanky car, or maybe even to conquer Mount Everest. But wouldn’t these achievements feel hollow if we didn’t have to lift a finger to attain them?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The crux of the matter is that our goals are more than just shiny trophies or fancy titles. They represent a journey of self-discovery, growth, and resilience.

The Thrill of the Chase

Imagine this: A magic genie grants you all your wishes. You’re now rich, can play the piano like a pro, have a successful business, and are married to your dream partner. Sounds perfect, right? But hold on a minute. Don’t you feel something’s missing?

The thrill of working towards these goals, the joy of overcoming obstacles, the satisfaction of personal growth – all of these are missing from this picture. Simply put, things we don’t work for don’t hold the same value.

The Post-Goal Blues

Ever felt a strange sense of emptiness after achieving a long-pursued goal? Whether it was landing your dream job, graduating from university, or finally visiting Hawaii, the euphoria soon gave way to a surprising ‘blah’ feeling.

This might seem strange. After all, you got what you wanted, right? But it’s the journey towards the goal, filled with challenges, learning, and growth, that gives us a sense of purpose and satisfaction.

The Struggle is Real (And Rewarding)

The real kicker? It’s not just about winning. It’s about the blood, sweat, and tears that go into the journey. The thrill of overcoming a challenge, the satisfaction of pushing past your limits, the joy of surprising yourself – these are what make the journey worthwhile.

Personal Growth: The Unsung Hero

Sure, having a successful business is exciting. But isn’t it the journey that truly matters? Learning new skills, perfecting your sales pitch, and becoming a better version of yourself – these are the real rewards.

The path to achieving big goals forces us to grow and evolve. And isn’t that the real appeal?

The Learning Curve

When we struggle, we learn. If a new car is simply handed to you, you lose the chance to learn how to earn, save, and invest. Challenges force us to learn, whether through study or through trial and error.

The Magic Wand vs The Sweat of Your Brow

Picture this: You’ve achieved all your goals, but without any effort. They were simply handed to you. How does that make you feel? Would you still be the same person if you could lose 50 pounds by waving a magic wand instead of changing your diet and working hard at the gym?

Achieving goals gives us more than just the end result.

Our goals give us a chance to struggle, grow, and feel accomplished. They boost our self-confidence and self-esteem.

While having things handed to us might be nice, it lacks meaning. So, ditch the wishes for good luck. Instead, wish for strength and determination. Remember, the goal isn’t the end game. It’s the journey that truly matters!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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15 Distractions You Can’t Afford When Chasing Big Dreams

2024-01-03 ~ adminlife

I’m going to give you a bit of a reality check. When it comes to chasing big dreams, it’s not just about the hustle and grind. It’s also about what you’re willing to give up. You see, the road to success is paved with sacrifices. It’s about cutting out the fluff and focusing on what truly matters. Let’s dive into it, shall we?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The Great Distractions

Worrying about what you can’t control. Seriously, what’s the point? It’s like trying to hold back the ocean with a broom. It’s not going to happen, so why waste your energy?
Fretting over others’ opinions. Newsflash: People aren’t thinking about you as much as you think they are. Don’t let their opinions derail your journey.
Wasting time. Time is your most precious resource. Don’t squander it on trivialities. You wouldn’t throw your money down the drain, so why would you do the same with your time?
Internet surfing. It’s a vast, endless ocean out there. Before you know it, you’ve wasted hours watching a cat playing the piano. Is that really the best use of your time?
It’s a black hole of productivity. Many successful people don’t even own one. Maybe it’s time to consider doing the same?
Playing on your smartphone. It’s a pocket-sized distraction device. Try going a day without it. You might be surprised at how much time you’ve been wasting.
Engaging in world noise. Arguing about politics or the latest celebrity scandal isn’t going to get you closer to your goals. Keep your eyes on the prize.
Taking the easy way out. The path of least resistance rarely leads to success. Do the hard things. They’re usually the most rewarding.
Fear of failure. Failure isn’t fatal. It’s a stepping stone. Embrace it, learn from it, and keep moving forward.
Listening to naysayers. If you wouldn’t trade places with them, why would you listen to their advice? Surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you.
Trying to please everyone. It’s an impossible task. You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay.
It’s the thief of time. Don’t let it rob you of your dreams.
Letting emotions rule. Emotions are like the weather, they change. Don’t let them dictate your actions. Stick to your plan.
Repeating mistakes. It’s like banging your head against a brick wall. Learn, adjust, and avoid making the same mistakes.
Chasing pleasure instead of progress. Instant gratification is a trap. It feels good in the moment, but it won’t get you closer to your goals.

The Bottom Line

Achieving big dreams isn’t just about the hustle. It’s about what you’re willing to give up. Look at how the average Joe squanders his time and steer clear of those pitfalls. Remember, you don’t have time for unsupportive behaviours when you’re aiming for the stars!

So, what are you waiting for? Let’s get out there and make those dreams a reality!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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