Break Free from Fear and Thrive

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Fear is part of every person’s journey. Whether you’re starting a business, entering a relationship or making a major life decision, fear tags along. But the difference between those who struggle and those who succeed isn’t about eliminating fear — it’s about taking action in spite of it.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program


Success is not a straight line. It’s messy, uncertain, and full of moments where your confidence is tested. But what sets high achievers apart is that they act, repeatedly, even when they’re afraid. This post outlines how to face fear directly, take meaningful action and build confidence by doing the hard things.

1. Decide That You Will Succeed

Success begins with a decision — a real one. Not “I’ll try this and see what happens,” but “I will succeed no matter what.” The Latin root of “decide” means “to cut off.” When you decide to succeed, you cut off all other possibilities — including failure, excuses and fear-based hesitation.

This kind of mental commitment makes fear irrelevant. Fear thrives on uncertainty. When there’s no room for negotiation, fear has nowhere to hide. Your decision becomes your anchor.

2. Face Risk, Don’t Avoid It

Most people back away when things feel risky. But successful people run toward risk because they understand this truth: everything you want is on the other side of fear.

Pick up the phone and make the uncomfortable call. Send the pitch. Raise your hand. Speak your truth. Risk isn’t something to be feared — it’s a sign you’re growing. And if something scares you, it probably matters.

You don’t need to be reckless. You need to be bold.

3. Prepare for What You Can

Fear often shows up in the form of worry — especially about things we suspect could go wrong. Instead of letting that turn into paralysis, use it as fuel. If you anticipate challenges, prepare for them.

Build your skillset. Create backup plans. Talk to people who’ve done it before. Do the mental rehearsal. The more prepared you are, the less room fear has to run the show.

Preparedness builds confidence, and confidence reduces fear.

4. Live in the Moment

Fear lives in the future — in the “what ifs” that haven’t even happened yet. When you live in the present, you take away fear’s power.

Stop reliving mistakes. Stop pre-living disasters. Be where your feet are. The present moment is manageable. Fear thrives in imagination, not reality.

Let go of resistance and focus on what you can do right now. Action is grounded in presence. Anxiety is rooted in the unknown.

5. Expect Good Outcomes

Most people brace for the worst. They picture everything going wrong before they even start. But that mindset guarantees hesitation.

Flip it.

Start expecting things to work out. Visualize success. Think through the best-case scenario. Sure, obstacles might appear — but you can deal with them. If you’re expecting the worst, you’ll freeze. If you’re expecting success, you’ll act.

Mindset sets the tone for performance.

6. Use Your Breath to Stay Calm

When fear takes over, the first thing to change is your body. Your breath becomes shallow. Your muscles tense. Your heart rate spikes.

You can’t always control your emotions, but you can control your breathing — and your breath influences your entire nervous system.

Slow, deep breaths signal safety to your brain. Breathe in for a count of four, hold for four, out for four. Repeat. This small habit can keep you grounded in high-stress moments.

7. Disengage from Negativity

Your environment affects your mindset. If you’re constantly exposed to negativity — especially through the news, social media or toxic people — fear becomes your baseline.

You don’t need to be uninformed. But doom-scrolling and dwelling in negativity won’t help you grow. Choose experiences that build you up. Play music. Get outside. Try something new. Learn something just for fun.

Confidence grows when your days are filled with meaningful, uplifting activity.

8. Know That You Are Enough

This one is simple but powerful: You are enough.

Even if you don’t have all the answers or experience yet, that doesn’t mean you’re not capable. Confidence doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from progress.

Work with what you’ve got, right now. Then build from there. Every successful person started with limited knowledge. But they believed they could figure it out — and they did. So can you.

9. Start Small, Build Fast

You don’t need to conquer your biggest fear today. You just need to take the first small step.

Make a list of the tasks you’ve been avoiding — from least intimidating to most. Then do the easiest one. Once it’s done, do the next. Momentum creates confidence.

Break your fear down into manageable pieces. Focus only on the step in front of you. By the time you reach the scarier items, you’ll already be stronger.

Fear Doesn’t Get to Win

Fear doesn’t have to disappear for you to succeed. It just has to take the passenger seat. You can be scared and still act. You can be uncertain and still move forward.

That’s how freedom works — not by waiting for fear to leave, but by moving forward anyway. Action is the cure. Decide to win. Chase risk. Prepare wisely. Expect the best. Stay grounded. And most of all — never forget that you are more capable than your fear wants you to believe.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

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Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program

 

 

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Develop a Powerful Mindset for Growth and Success

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Your mindset determines how you perceive the world and respond to challenges. It shapes your thoughts, behaviours and outcomes. The way you think influences your self-perception, relationships and achievements. Understanding your mindset helps you recognize limiting beliefs and take steps to develop a more empowering way of thinking.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program

 

The two primary mindsets — fixed and growth — define how individuals approach life. A fixed mindset sees abilities as static, while a growth mindset embraces learning and adaptability. Each has a profound impact on personal and professional development. Let’s explore these mindsets in depth and discover how shifting to a growth-oriented perspective can transform your life.

Fixed Mindset: A Roadblock to Success

A fixed mindset is characterized by the belief that intelligence, abilities and talents are unchangeable. People with this mindset think that success is based on innate talent rather than effort, leading them to avoid challenges and fear failure.

Subtypes of a Fixed Mindset

Several variations of a fixed mindset exist, each presenting unique obstacles:

  1. Fear Mindset – Paralyzed by fear of failure, rejection or criticism, leading to inaction.
  2. Lazy Mindset – Lacking motivation or the drive to push beyond comfort zones.
  3. Envy Mindset – Focused on others’ success rather than personal growth.
  4. Greed Mindset – Always wanting more without appreciating what is already achieved.
  5. Short-Term Mindset – Prioritizing immediate rewards over long-term success.
  6. Angry Mindset – Reacting to setbacks with frustration and blame instead of learning from them.
  7. Follower Mindset – Conforming to external expectations instead of forging a unique path.

Characteristics of a Fixed Mindset

  • Blames Others – Deflecting responsibility rather than acknowledging personal shortcomings.
  • Lack of Initiative – Avoiding new challenges due to fear of failure.
  • Addictive Habits – Seeking distractions rather than addressing problems.
  • Obsessed with Validation – Concerned with how others perceive them rather than personal growth.
  • Negative Outlook – Viewing obstacles as threats rather than opportunities.

A fixed mindset keeps individuals stuck in a cycle of doubt and limitation. However, the good news is that mindsets are not permanent — they can be reshaped with conscious effort.

Growth Mindset: The Key to Personal and Professional Transformation

A growth mindset embraces the idea that intelligence, skills and talents can be developed through effort, learning and perseverance. People with this mindset are more likely to take on challenges, persist through failures and continually seek improvement.

Subtypes of a Growth Mindset

  1. Social Mindset – Prioritizing meaningful connections and relationships.
  2. Business Mindset – Focused on innovation, resilience and success in professional endeavours.
  3. Dreamer Mindset – Thinking big and pursuing ambitious goals.
  4. Gratitude Mindset – Appreciating what one has and cultivating positivity.
  5. Confident Mindset – Believing in oneself and taking decisive action.
  6. Creative Mindset – Embracing innovation and thinking outside the box.

Characteristics of a Growth Mindset

  • Seeks Challenges – Views obstacles as opportunities to learn.
  • Embraces Failure – Uses setbacks as lessons for future success.
  • Develops New Skills – Constantly improving and refining abilities.
  • Shows Dedication – Willing to put in the effort needed for growth.
  • Thinks Long-Term – Focusing on sustained progress rather than quick wins.
  • Grateful and Positive – Finding joy in achievements rather than dwelling on shortcomings.

By shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, individuals unlock their full potential, leading to greater success in all aspects of life.

How to Shift from a Fixed to a Growth Mindset

Transitioning to a growth mindset takes effort, but it is achievable with the right approach. Here are key strategies:

  1. Reframe Challenges as Opportunities

Instead of seeing obstacles as roadblocks, view them as chances to grow. Each setback provides valuable lessons that contribute to long-term success.

  1. Embrace Continuous Learning

Adopt the belief that skills and intelligence can be improved. Read, take courses, seek mentorship, and explore new experiences.

  1. Practice Self-Compassion

Recognize that failure is part of the learning process. Instead of self-criticism, practice self-encouragement and focus on solutions.

  1. Develop Resilience

Perseverance is essential for growth. When facing setbacks, remind yourself that persistence leads to success.

  1. Surround Yourself with Growth-Oriented People

Your environment influences your mindset. Engage with individuals who encourage and inspire progress.

  1. Adopt a Gratitude Mindset

Appreciating what you have fosters a positive outlook and reduces the tendency to compare yourself to others.

  1. Set Goals and Take Action

Clearly define what you want to achieve, break it into actionable steps and remain consistent in your efforts.

Conclusion: Your Mindset Shapes Your Future

Your mindset dictates how you navigate life. A fixed mindset keeps you stuck, while a growth mindset empowers you to achieve greatness. The choice is yours. By embracing a mindset of learning, resilience and self-improvement, you can create a life filled with success and fulfillment.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program

 

 

 

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The Key to Growth and Respect Is Taking Responsibility

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Mistakes are inevitable. No matter how skilled, careful or experienced you are, you will make errors. What truly defines a person is not the absence of mistakes but how they handle them. Owning up to your mistakes is one of the most powerful ways to build trust, strengthen relationships and grow as an individual. Yet, many people struggle with this, resorting to blame-shifting or denial to avoid the discomfort of admitting fault.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


By taking responsibility, you not only demonstrate integrity but also position yourself as a leader and role model. This article explores why owning up to mistakes matters, how to do it effectively, and how to deal with the consequences constructively.

Why People Avoid Admitting Mistakes

Many people fear admitting mistakes because they associate it with failure or weakness. In reality, refusing to take responsibility can cause more damage than the mistake itself. Here are some common reasons people struggle with owning their mistakes:

1. Fear of Judgment

Nobody likes to be seen as incompetent. People worry that admitting a mistake will make them look weak, unqualified or unreliable.

2. Fear of Consequences

Mistakes can have real consequences — lost opportunities, damaged reputations or disciplinary action. The fear of facing these outcomes leads many to cover up their errors.

3. Knee-Jerk Reactions

In moments of stress or panic, people sometimes instinctively blame others before even processing what happened. This immediate reaction can cause long-term trust issues.

4. Pride and Ego

Some people simply don’t want to admit they’re wrong. A strong ego can make it difficult to acknowledge mistakes, even when the truth is obvious.

5. Workplace or Social Pressure

In environments where mistakes are harshly punished, people feel pressured to hide them rather than address them honestly. A culture of blame discourages accountability.

The Consequences of Blame-Shifting

When you refuse to take responsibility for your mistakes, the consequences can be more severe than the mistake itself. Here’s why:

  • Loss of Trust: People will see you as unreliable and dishonest if you consistently shift blame.
  • Damaged Relationships: Blaming others erodes friendships, partnerships and professional relationships.
  • Increased Stress: Knowing you’ve lied or misled others can lead to guilt, anxiety and sleepless nights.
  • Reputation Damage: A single dishonest moment can define how people see you for years.
  • Missed Growth Opportunities: Every mistake carries a lesson. If you refuse to acknowledge your errors, you miss out on learning and improving.

How to Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

Owning up to your mistakes is not just about saying “I was wrong.” It requires action, reflection, and a commitment to improvement. Here’s how to do it effectively:

1. Pause Before Reacting

When a mistake happens, resist the urge to react impulsively. Take a moment to process the situation before responding. This prevents knee-jerk reactions like blaming others.

2. Acknowledge the Mistake Clearly

Be direct. Avoid vague apologies or excuses. Say, “I made a mistake, and I take full responsibility for it.” Acknowledging the error openly prevents speculation and confusion.

3. Avoid Making Excuses

It’s tempting to soften the blow by offering excuses, but this weakens your accountability. Instead of saying, “I messed up, but it wasn’t really my fault,” simply admit the mistake without justifying it.

4. Make Things Right

Whenever possible, take corrective action. If your mistake caused harm or inconvenience, find ways to fix it. Whether it’s apologizing to someone, correcting an error or offering a solution, making amends shows sincerity.

5. Learn From It

Every mistake is a learning opportunity. Reflect on what went wrong and how you can prevent it in the future. Demonstrating a willingness to improve turns your mistake into a stepping stone for growth.

Dealing with People Who React Negatively

Not everyone will respond to your honesty with kindness. Some people may use your mistake against you, and others may be unwilling to forgive. Here’s how to handle difficult reactions:

1. Stay Calm and Professional

If someone tries to shame or embarrass you for your mistake, don’t react emotionally. Stay composed and focus on resolving the issue rather than defending yourself.

2. Accept That Some People Won’t Forgive

No matter how sincere you are, some people won’t let go of your mistake. That’s their burden to carry, not yours. If you’ve done everything possible to make amends, move forward.

3. Avoid Being Defensive

When someone criticizes you, it’s easy to become defensive. Instead, acknowledge their perspective and shift the focus to what can be done to fix the situation.

4. Know When to Move On

In some cases, your mistake may have long-term consequences, like needing to find a new job or repairing a damaged relationship. While this can be difficult, remember that mistakes do not define you — how you respond to them does.

The Long-Term Benefits of Taking Responsibility

Although admitting mistakes can be uncomfortable, the long-term benefits far outweigh the temporary discomfort.

  • Increased Trust: People respect honesty. Admitting mistakes builds credibility.
  • Stronger Relationships: Owning your mistakes fosters open communication and deeper connections.
  • Improved Problem-Solving Skills: Facing mistakes head-on teaches resilience and adaptability.
  • Greater Self-Confidence: The ability to admit and correct mistakes leads to personal growth and a stronger sense of integrity.

By taking ownership of your actions, you set a positive example for others. Leaders, in particular, benefit from modeling accountability. A team that sees their leader taking responsibility will be more likely to do the same.

Final Thoughts

Mistakes are part of life. They don’t define you, but how you handle them does. Avoiding responsibility may feel easier in the moment, but in the long run, it damages trust, relationships and personal growth. By owning up to your mistakes, making amends and learning from them, you not only build integrity but also create opportunities for success.

Taking responsibility is not a weakness — it’s a sign of strength, maturity and confidence. So the next time you make a mistake, face it head-on. You’ll be respected more for it, and more importantly, you’ll respect yourself.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

 

 

 

 

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How to Use Your Ego for Good

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Is having an ego good or bad? It’s a simple question with a complicated answer.

The ego gets a bad rap — think arrogance, selfishness or the need to dominate. But ego isn’t inherently bad. Like most things, it depends on how it’s used and managed.

Ego is part of your identity. It drives ambition, fuels confidence and helps you assert yourself. But it can also distort reality, block growth and hurt relationships if left unchecked.

Let’s unpack what ego really is, where it helps, where it hurts and how to keep it in balance so it serves you instead of running the show.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


What Is Ego, Really?

At its core, your ego is your self-image — how you see yourself and how you want others to see you. It’s tied to your sense of worth, your identity and your desire to feel important or validated.

Everyone has an ego. It’s what makes you push for that promotion, speak up in a meeting or take pride in a job well done. But when ego becomes inflated or fragile, problems arise.

When Ego Works in Your Favour

Let’s start with the upside. A healthy, confident ego can be a powerful tool for achievement and resilience. Here’s how:

1. Ego Can Drive Big Success

People with strong egos often set massive goals and go after them hard. They want to prove something — to themselves and the world. That kind of internal fire has fuelled world leaders, CEOs, athletes and entrepreneurs.

When you believe you’re capable of extraordinary things, you’re more likely to pursue them. Ego can help you push through resistance, rise above competition and demand more from yourself.

2. Ego Helps Overcome Obstacles

A big ego can convince you that you’re unstoppable. It may sound delusional, but in tough situations, that mindset can actually be helpful. If you believe in your ability to power through, you’re less likely to give up when things get hard.

Confidence — even if slightly inflated — can be a serious asset when you’re under pressure.

3. Ego Supports Self-Belief

Confidence is often rooted in ego. You need some belief in yourself to step up, take risks and assert your value. If your ego is reasonably healthy, it acts like a built-in support system: “I can do this. I’ve got what it takes.”

This can help you perform better, handle criticism more constructively, and stay grounded in your goals.

The Dark Side of Ego

Of course, ego can also derail you. When it becomes too big or too fragile, it starts working against you.

1. Craving External Validation

Some egos feed entirely on other people’s opinions. If you’re obsessed with being liked, praised or admired, your ego will never be satisfied. It turns into a bottomless pit of need.

The problem? You’re outsourcing your self-worth. You chase approval instead of doing what’s right for you. And when the praise stops, your confidence crashes.

2. Never Feeling Fulfilled

The ego always wants more. More attention. More power. More followers. More wins. No matter what you accomplish, it’s not enough. This leads to chronic dissatisfaction — even when you’re objectively successful.

If you tie your happiness to feeding your ego, you’ll always feel like something’s missing.

3. Hurting Relationships

When ego takes over, people become tools to serve your goals instead of individuals to connect with. You stop listening, stop empathizing and start dominating.

This can damage friendships, romantic relationships and workplace dynamics. People avoid egotistical individuals because they feel used, unseen or disrespected.

4. Blinding You to Reality

A bloated ego distorts your view of yourself and the world. You stop recognizing your weaknesses or mistakes. Feedback feels like an attack, and you dismiss anything that doesn’t confirm your greatness.

This not only stalls growth — it sets you up for big crashes when reality doesn’t match your inflated self-image.

5. Avoiding Failure at All Costs

Ironically, the ego that believes it’s untouchable is often terrified of failure. Because failure feels like ego death. It threatens the image you’ve built of yourself.

This fear can hold you back from trying new things, taking risks or admitting when you’re struggling. You play it safe to protect your ego — at the cost of growth.

Signs Your Ego Might Be Running the Show

  • You take things personally — even small critiques.
  • You constantly compare yourself to others.
  • You feel threatened by other people’s success.
  • You have to “win” every conversation or argument.
  • You need recognition to feel valuable.
  • You resist asking for help, even when you need it.

These are indicators that your ego might be taking up too much space in your head — and getting in the way of your well-being.

The Middle Path: Confident, Not Conceited

The goal isn’t to destroy your ego. You need it. But you need it in balance.

A healthy ego looks like this:

  • You believe in your abilities — but stay open to learning.
  • You take pride in your work — but don’t need constant validation.
  • You’re confident — but don’t need to prove your worth.
  • You know your value — but still value others.

This kind of ego leads to quiet confidence, resilience and inner peace.

How to Keep Your Ego in Check

1. Practice Self-Awareness

Catch yourself in ego-driven behaviour. Are you arguing to be right, or to be helpful? Are you chasing status, or purpose? Are you being honest, or protecting your image?

Reflect often and get curious about your motives.

2. Take Feedback Seriously, Not Personally

Feedback isn’t an attack — it’s a tool. Use it. Even if it stings, look for the truth in it and grow from it. Your ego doesn’t like discomfort, but your future self will thank you for facing it.

3. Learn from Failure

Don’t let your ego avoid failure. Let it learn from it. Failure doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It means you’re human, trying and learning. Keep going.

4. Celebrate Wins Without Overinflating

Enjoy your accomplishments. Own your success. But don’t let them define you. You are more than your wins. Celebrate, then keep it moving.

5. Serve, Don’t Just Shine

True confidence isn’t about standing above others — it’s about lifting others up. Use your strengths to help, not just to shine. This keeps your ego grounded in purpose.

Final Thought

Your ego is not your enemy. It’s a tool — and like any tool, it can help or hurt, depending on how you use it.

A healthy ego gives you strength, clarity and drive. An unchecked ego creates blind spots, insecurity and isolation.

The key is balance. Be proud, but stay humble. Be confident, but stay open. Let your ego push you to grow — but don’t let it make the world all about you.

Your best self isn’t ego-less. It’s ego-aware. And that awareness is what turns potential into real power.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Book the call now button

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

 

 

 

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How Fear of Success Silently Sabotages You

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Most of us recognize the fear of failure. It’s the voice in your head that says, “What if I fall flat?” But what about the fear of success? It sounds counterintuitive — why would anyone be afraid of achieving what they’ve worked so hard for?

And yet, this fear is surprisingly common. People sabotage themselves, delay progress or stay stuck in the same place — not because they’re afraid to fail, but because they’re afraid to succeed.

Let’s break down what the fear of success really is, what it looks like in everyday life, and how to start moving past it.


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What Is the Fear of Success?

The fear of success is a subconscious resistance to achieving your goals. On the surface, you might want to be promoted, launch that business, lose the weight or become financially secure. But underneath, something pulls you back.

It’s not because you think you’ll fail. It’s because you’re worried about what will happen if you succeed.

Why Would Anyone Fear Success?

Success isn’t just the reward — it’s also responsibility, change and visibility. That can feel like a lot to take on, especially if you’re used to flying under the radar or staying in your comfort zone.

Here are some real reasons people fear success:

1. Success Demands Growth

Success doesn’t come from doing what you’ve always done. It asks more of you — more discipline, more focus, more risk. That threatens your comfort zone, and the brain doesn’t like that.

Your brain is wired to keep you safe. And “safe” often looks like “the same.” So even if a goal is exciting, your default response might be to slow down or back off as soon as things start to get real.

2. Success Brings Attention You May Not Want

With success comes visibility. You go from private to public. People notice you more, talk about you more and some will ask for things — money, time, advice, favours.

If you’re someone who avoids the spotlight or values your privacy, this new exposure can feel intrusive. The fear here isn’t about the success itself, but what it brings: expectations, attention and pressure to perform.

3. The Unknown Is Uncomfortable

Let’s say you’re used to living paycheck to paycheck. It’s not ideal, but it’s familiar. You know the drill. Now imagine making six figures, moving to a new neighbourhood or managing a team. Suddenly, you’re navigating unknown territory — and that can be scary.

The fear of the unknown can keep people stuck in familiar, unsatisfying situations because the thought of changing everything is overwhelming.

4. You Worry About Losing Yourself

You might have internalized the idea that success changes people — for the worse. Maybe you’ve seen someone who “made it” and became arrogant, selfish or fake. If you associate success with negative personal changes, it makes sense you’d avoid it.

But the truth is, success doesn’t have to make you someone you’re not. In fact, it can give you more freedom to be your authentic self — if you let it.

5. You’re Afraid It Won’t Be Worth It

You’ve probably experienced letdowns. That vacation you planned for months? Meh. The new phone you were so hyped about? Underwhelming.

The fear that success might not feel as great as you imagine can keep you from pursuing it at all. “What if I do all this work and still feel empty?” It’s a valid fear — but it’s also a mindset you can shift.

6. Criticism Comes With the Territory

Successful people attract critics. The more visible you are, the more opinions you’ll draw. Some people won’t like you just because you’ve achieved something they haven’t.

If you’ve been taught to fear judgment or if you’ve been hurt by criticism before, this can be a serious block. The key is understanding that criticism isn’t about you — it’s about them. And you don’t need to take it personally.

7. You Fear Becoming Unlikable

There’s a cultural narrative that successful people are selfish, greedy or egotistical. If you hold that belief, you may avoid success because you don’t want to become “that person” — even if it’s unconscious.

But success doesn’t turn you into someone else. It gives you more choices. If you’re generous and kind now, you can be even more so with greater resources.

Signs You Might Be Afraid of Success

  • You procrastinate when things are going well.
  • You downplay your accomplishments or fear talking about them.
  • You feel guilty when you do better than people around you.
  • You start strong but lose momentum just as you get close to your goal.
  • You self-sabotage — missing deadlines, skipping interviews, ghosting opportunities.

These are clues that something deeper is going on. And it’s not laziness — it’s fear in disguise.

How to Overcome the Fear of Success

1. Identify the Root Fear

Ask yourself: What am I really afraid will happen if I succeed?

Be honest. Are you scared people will leave? That you’ll change? That you’ll still feel empty? Naming the fear is the first step to managing it.

2. Redefine What Success Means

Success doesn’t have to be flashy or stressful. You get to decide what it looks like for you — balance, peace, impact, income, growth. Clarify your version of success so it feels aligned, not threatening.

3. Challenge the Beliefs Holding You Back

If you believe success ruins people, look for examples of those who became more generous, more grounded, more fulfilled. What you look for, you’ll find.

4. Start With Small Wins

You don’t have to leap into the deep end. Build trust with yourself by achieving small goals consistently. Over time, your brain will stop seeing success as danger.

5. Practice Being Seen

Share your wins with people you trust. Learn to sit with the discomfort of attention until it becomes more normal. Being seen doesn’t have to mean being judged.

6. Get Support

A coach, mentor, or therapist can help you unpack fears and rewire your mindset. You don’t have to do this alone.

Final Thought

The fear of success is sneaky. It looks like hesitation, procrastination or staying small — but at its core, it’s just fear of change. Once you understand what’s really holding you back, you can move through it.

You deserve the version of success that feels good to you. Not someone else’s definition — yours. Don’t let fear keep you from finding out what that looks like.


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To your success.

Michael

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P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

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