How Successful People Turn Fear into Fuel for Growth

2024-10-15 ~ adminlife

Have you ever passed up an opportunity simply because fear held you back? It’s a common experience. The fear of failure, rejection or the unknown can paralyze anyone. But here’s the thing — fear is a natural part of life, and even the most successful people feel it. The difference is how they handle it. While most of us shy away from things that make us uncomfortable or uncertain, successful people make it a habit to face their fears head-on.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

Think about the things you might have missed out on because you let fear dictate your actions. Maybe it was a job you didn’t apply for, a conversation you didn’t initiate or a goal you never pursued because you weren’t sure you could achieve it. Fear is one of the biggest barriers to success, but overcoming it is not as insurmountable as it seems.

Successful people aren’t immune to fear. They feel the same anxieties and doubts as everyone else. The key difference is that they refuse to let those fears stop them. They’ve developed the habit of facing their fears, understanding that growth happens outside their comfort zone. They know that staying in a safe, familiar space may feel good in the short term, but it won’t lead to progress or breakthroughs.

Facing fear doesn’t mean charging into every situation without hesitation or worry. It means acknowledging the fear, but not allowing it to control your decisions. The first step is understanding that fear is often a product of our own minds. We tend to imagine the worst-case scenario, even if it’s highly unlikely. For example, you might fear public speaking because you imagine yourself forgetting your words or being laughed at. In reality, most people are far more understanding and supportive than we give them credit for. The key is recognizing that fear is usually exaggerated and not based on actual events.

One strategy successful people use to combat fear is preparation. Fear often stems from uncertainty, and one way to reduce uncertainty is by being well-prepared. If you’re afraid of speaking in front of a group, for example, practising your speech multiple times can give you the confidence you need to perform well. If you fear failing a test, dedicating time to study and review can alleviate some of that anxiety. By taking tangible steps to prepare, you reduce the unknown factors that contribute to fear.

Another important habit is reframing how you think about fear. Instead of viewing it as something negative, successful people often see fear as a sign that they’re pushing their boundaries. If you’re not at least a little bit uncomfortable, you’re probably not challenging yourself enough. Fear, in this sense, can be an indicator of growth. When you start seeing fear as a stepping stone rather than a roadblock, it becomes easier to face.

There’s also the idea of failing forward, which is something successful individuals embrace. They don’t see failure as the end of the road. Instead, they view it as a learning experience. Every failure teaches you something valuable, whether it’s a better strategy for next time or a personal insight about your strengths and weaknesses. Instead of letting fear of failure hold them back, successful people take calculated risks and accept that failure is part of the process. They understand that each setback brings them one step closer to success.

Actionable Step: The next time you feel fear creeping in, take a moment to break it down. Ask yourself, “What exactly am I afraid of?” Often, just identifying the source of the fear can make it less intimidating. Then, take one small step toward facing that fear. For example, if you’re afraid of speaking up in meetings, commit to contributing one idea in your next meeting, even if it’s brief. By taking small, manageable steps, you build your courage and reduce the power fear has over you.

Another powerful tool for facing fear is visualization. Successful people often use this technique to mentally rehearse the situation they’re afraid of. By imagining themselves succeeding, they reduce anxiety and build confidence. If you’re afraid of a big presentation, for instance, you can mentally walk yourself through the experience — imagine standing confidently in front of the audience, delivering your message clearly and receiving positive feedback. This mental rehearsal can make the real event feel more familiar and less frightening.

Fear also loses its grip when you take action. Often, the anticipation of doing something scary is worse than the act itself. Think about how much energy you’ve spent worrying about something, only to find that once you actually did it, it wasn’t nearly as bad as you imagined. The more you confront your fears, the more you realize that action is the antidote. Successful people know that taking action — even if it’s imperfect action — is better than doing nothing at all.

It’s also important to recognize that fear doesn’t just go away with success. In fact, the stakes often get higher as you achieve more. But by making a habit of facing fear, successful people build resilience. They learn to operate in spite of fear, not because they’re fearless, but because they’ve learned that the rewards of pushing through far outweigh the temporary discomfort. This resilience is what allows them to take on bigger challenges and opportunities as they come.

Fear can be paralyzing, but it doesn’t have to be. By changing how you approach fear, you can turn it from an obstacle into a tool for growth. Every time you face a fear, you get a little bit stronger. You build the courage to tackle bigger and more challenging situations. And with each victory, no matter how small, you gain momentum that propels you forward.

There’s also something liberating about not letting fear control your life. Imagine how much more you could accomplish if fear didn’t hold you back. This doesn’t mean recklessly charging into every situation without thought. It means making informed, calculated decisions and stepping into opportunities even when they make you uncomfortable. Successful people trust that they will be able to handle whatever comes their way, even if it’s difficult or scary.

Facing fear is a habit that anyone can develop. It’s not about being fearless; it’s about being courageous enough to take action in spite of fear. Successful people don’t let fear stop them from going after what they want. Instead, they use it as a signal to push forward, knowing that on the other side of fear is the success they’re working toward.

The habit of facing fear isn’t something that only applies to big, life-altering decisions. It’s a practice you can apply to everyday situations, from speaking up in a meeting to taking on a new challenge at work or school. The more you practice, the easier it becomes to recognize fear for what it is: a temporary emotion that shouldn’t dictate your decisions.

Once you start consistently facing your fears, you’ll find that many of the things you once dreaded don’t hold the same power over you. You’ll become more confident in your ability to handle whatever life throws your way, and that confidence will spill over into other areas of your life, paving the way for even greater success.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Overcome Your Self-Imposed Limits and Unlock Greater Success

2024-10-11 ~ adminlife

In any self-development journey, it becomes evident that the most significant obstacle is often oneself. Between limiting beliefs and negative habits, there is seldom anyone else standing in your way.

We frequently underestimate our potential and doubt our ability to succeed based on past struggles.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

Techniques to Break Through Your Limits:

Decide What You Will No Longer Tolerate from Yourself

You tolerate a great deal from yourself, such as late-night snacking, procrastination, and making excuses for not maintaining a regular gym routine. When you accept poor behaviour from yourself, you will inevitably achieve poor results.

Action Step: Make a list of all the behaviours and attitudes you will no longer accept. To elevate yourself in any endeavour, it is crucial to eliminate the attitudes and behaviours that hinder your progress.

Define Your Goals

Set bigger and better goals, and commit to them. Identify the most challenging aspects of your life and start there. The lowest-rated parts of your life often create your limits and stifle your happiness.

Action Step: Raise your standards. Most people set goals that are too modest. Set ambitious goals and develop a plan to achieve them quickly. With a well-thought-out plan and diligent effort, you can accomplish a great deal in a short period.

Define the Five Most Important Behaviours for Your Future

Identify five daily behaviors that will transform your life. Use your goals as a guide. Examples include:

Cold call or email at least 10 potential clients each day.
Consume fewer than 2500 calories.
Perform 50 pushups.
Engage with one new person who could become a potential friend or partner.
Spend at least 30 minutes practising the piano.

The actions you take each day are crucial. By examining your average day, it becomes clear why your life is as it is. Determine what you can do each day to ensure that next year will be extraordinary.

Find a Quality Mentor

While good mentors can be challenging to find, they are one of the best ways to surpass your current limitations.

Action Step: Seek a mentor who can objectively identify your weaknesses and strengths. A mentor will provide valuable insights that you may not recognize due to your ego or blind spots.

Evaluate Each Day in Writing

At the end of each day, list the things you did right and those you did wrong. Commit to doing fewer of the wrong things and more of the right things moving forward.

Learn

Identify three things you need to learn this year to have a successful year. Determine where you are lacking and what skills you want to develop or strengthen. Continuous learning is essential, but ensure you are learning what will have the most significant impact.

Enhance Your Ability to Focus

The ability to focus is critical for achieving success. If you cannot focus, you cannot accomplish much. Consider using a timer, learning to meditate, making lists, or employing other methods to improve your focus. Focus is a skill that improves with practice.

You are capable of achieving more than you have been. While many hope for a secret trick to instant success, the reality is more challenging. It requires addressing your weaknesses and diligently working on yourself.

Raise your expectations and personal standards. Evaluate yourself daily and seek a mentor for guidance. You are your greatest adversary. Break through your self-imposed limits, and success will follow.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

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The Key to Achieving Your Goals Could Be a Personal Contract

2024-10-04 ~ adminlife

We all have goals, big or small, that we strive to achieve. But how often do we find ourselves struggling to stay on track? Whether it’s sticking to a fitness routine, completing a long-term project or saving money, maintaining motivation can be a real challenge. What if the secret to staying motivated was as simple as writing down your commitment on a piece of paper? Believe it or not, creating a personal contract with yourself could be the game-changer you need.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

The concept of writing a contract to yourself is more than just a motivational gimmick. It’s a psychological strategy that leverages commitment and accountability. When you write something down — especially in the form of a formal contract — you are making a tangible commitment to yourself. This isn’t just a casual note or a fleeting thought; it’s a serious promise that you’re less likely to break. The act of writing it down solidifies your intention, making it feel more real and binding.

There’s a psychological principle at play here called the “commitment effect.” When we commit to something, particularly in writing, we’re more likely to follow through because we don’t want to face the cognitive dissonance that comes from breaking that commitment. Cognitive dissonance is the uncomfortable feeling we get when our actions don’t align with our beliefs or commitments. By creating a contract, you’re essentially setting a psychological trap for yourself: your mind wants to avoid the discomfort of breaking a promise, so it pushes you to stay on track.

But why does this work? Part of the effectiveness of a personal contract comes from the sense of accountability it creates. While you might be able to justify breaking a verbal promise to yourself, it’s much harder to ignore a written contract. The act of writing it down makes it feel more official and harder to dismiss. Plus, if you include a penalty — like donating to charity if you fail to meet your goal — it adds an extra layer of motivation. The thought of losing something, whether it’s money or pride, can be a powerful motivator.

To get the most out of this strategy, it’s important to approach it seriously. Start by clearly defining your goal. Be specific about what you want to achieve and set a realistic deadline. For example, instead of vaguely stating, “I will get in shape,” write, “I will lose 10 pounds by November 30th by working out three times a week and eating a balanced diet.” The more specific you are, the easier it will be to measure your progress and hold yourself accountable.

Next, consider adding a consequence for not meeting your goal. This could be something like donating a certain amount of money to a cause you care about — or one you don’t care about, which might be even more motivating! The key is to make the consequence meaningful enough to motivate you but not so harsh that it becomes a source of stress.

Some people even take this a step further by sharing their contract with a friend or accountability partner. This adds an extra layer of accountability because now someone else knows about your commitment. The thought of having to explain to someone else why you didn’t meet your goal can be a powerful motivator to stay on track.

Actionable Step: Write a contract with yourself for one specific goal you want to achieve. Include a clear and measurable objective, a realistic deadline and a meaningful consequence if you don’t meet your goal. Consider sharing this contract with a trusted friend or colleague to increase your accountability.

By formalizing your goals in this way, you create a powerful tool for maintaining motivation. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of setting goals, but the real challenge lies in sticking with them over time. A personal contract serves as a constant reminder of what you’re working toward and why it matters.

In the end, staying motivated is about finding what works for you. While a contract might seem like a simple or even trivial thing, its impact can be profound. The next time you feel your motivation slipping, try putting pen to paper. You might be surprised at how much more committed and motivated you feel with a formal contract in place.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

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Keeping Yourself on Track and Motivated by Using Rewards

2024-10-022024-10-02 ~ adminlife

Why do we work hard? What drives us to push through difficult tasks, meet deadlines, or pursue long-term goals? While the reasons might vary from person to person, one factor that often plays a significant role is the promise of a reward. Whether it’s a simple treat at the end of a tough day or a bigger incentive for achieving a major goal, rewards can be a powerful motivator. But how do you effectively use rewards to stay motivated without falling into the trap of relying on them too much?

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

The psychology behind rewards is rooted in a concept known as the “reward system.” This is a group of structures in the brain that is activated when we experience something pleasurable. When we anticipate a reward, our brain releases dopamine, which not only makes us feel good but also drives us to take action to achieve that reward. This is why the promise of a reward can be such a strong motivator—it taps directly into our brain’s natural reward pathways, encouraging us to stay focused and keep moving toward our goals.

One of the key benefits of using rewards is that they provide a tangible goal to work toward. This can be particularly effective when motivation starts to wane, or when the task at hand feels overwhelming. By setting up a reward system, you give yourself something to look forward to, which can make the process of working through challenges feel more manageable and even enjoyable.

But not all rewards are created equal. To use rewards effectively, it’s important to choose incentives that are meaningful and proportionate to the task. For smaller, everyday tasks, a small reward like a coffee break, a few minutes of relaxation, or a favourite snack might be enough to keep you motivated. For larger, more challenging goals, consider more significant rewards, such as a special outing, a new purchase, or even a day off.

The timing of rewards is also crucial. Immediate rewards are often more effective than delayed ones because the connection between the task and the reward is clearer. For example, if you complete a difficult assignment, treating yourself to something enjoyable right away can reinforce the positive behavior and make you more likely to repeat it in the future. However, this doesn’t mean that long-term rewards don’t have their place. For bigger goals, setting up a series of smaller rewards along the way can help maintain motivation over time, leading to a larger, more satisfying reward at the end.

It’s also worth considering how you frame your rewards. While it’s tempting to think of rewards as something external—a treat or a gift—you can also use intrinsic rewards, which are the internal satisfaction and pride that come from achieving something. For example, if you finish a project on time, the sense of accomplishment and the knowledge that you’ve done a good job can be a reward in itself. Cultivating an appreciation for these intrinsic rewards can help you stay motivated even when external rewards are less frequent.

However, it’s important to avoid becoming too dependent on rewards. If you rely solely on external incentives, you might find that your motivation falters when the rewards are no longer available or if the rewards lose their appeal. The key is to strike a balance between using rewards to boost motivation and developing the internal drive to achieve your goals regardless of external incentives.

Actionable Step: Identify a task or goal that you’ve been struggling to stay motivated about. Set up a reward system for yourself, choosing rewards that are meaningful and proportionate to the task. Make sure to include both immediate rewards for completing smaller tasks and a larger reward for achieving the overall goal. As you work toward the goal, pay attention to the intrinsic rewards you experience, such as the satisfaction of progress and the pride of accomplishment.

Using rewards effectively can make the difference between feeling stuck and finding the motivation to keep going. They provide a way to break down larger goals into manageable steps, each with its own incentive, which can help you maintain momentum and stay on track. Whether you’re tackling a challenging project at work, working toward a personal goal, or simply trying to get through a tough day, the promise of a reward can be a powerful tool in your motivational toolkit.

But remember, the ultimate goal is to cultivate a balance between external rewards and internal motivation. By learning to appreciate both, you can create a sustainable source of motivation that will carry you through even the toughest challenges.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Can a Simple Pose Change Your Life?

2024-09-25 ~ adminlife

Have you ever found yourself in need of a quick confidence boost, maybe before a big presentation or an important meeting? What if I told you that the solution might be as simple as striking a pose? It might sound ridiculous, but science suggests that our body language can influence our emotions and even our level of motivation. In fact, something as simple as standing tall in a “power pose” for a few minutes can have a profound impact on how we feel and perform. But how does this work, and why is it so effective?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

The idea of “power posing” was popularized by social psychologist Amy Cuddy, who presented compelling research showing that certain body positions can actually change the way we think and feel. When you adopt a power pose—think of a superhero stance with your hands on your hips and your chest puffed out—your body sends signals to your brain that increase feelings of confidence and reduce stress. This concept is rooted in the mind-body connection, a fascinating area of psychology that explores how our physical state can influence our mental state.

The science behind this is quite interesting. When you strike a power pose, your body experiences a boost in testosterone, a hormone associated with dominance and confidence, and a reduction in cortisol, the stress hormone. This hormonal shift can make you feel more powerful and less anxious, which in turn can improve your performance in high-pressure situations. Even though some aspects of the original research have been debated, the general consensus is that body language does play a significant role in how we feel and how others perceive us.

But there’s more to it than just the physical effects. Power posing can also change your mindset. When you adopt a powerful stance, you’re not just fooling your brain into feeling more confident—you’re actually reinforcing a belief in your own abilities. This is crucial because motivation often stems from self-belief. If you believe you can succeed, you’re more likely to take the actions necessary to make that success a reality. On the other hand, if you feel small and powerless, it’s much harder to muster the motivation to tackle challenges head-on.

So, how can you incorporate this into your daily life? It’s simple: whenever you need a boost, take a moment to stand up straight, roll your shoulders back, and adopt a powerful stance. Hold the pose for a minute or two, and notice how your mindset shifts. This can be especially useful before situations where you need to perform at your best, such as job interviews, presentations, or even difficult conversations. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel, and over time, you may find that you carry yourself with more confidence in all areas of your life.

Actionable Step: Try to integrate power posing into your daily routine, especially before high-stress situations. When you feel your motivation waning or anxiety creeping in, take a few moments to stand tall in a power pose. Hold it for two minutes, breathe deeply, and focus on the task ahead. Notice how your mindset and energy shift, making it easier to tackle challenges with renewed confidence.

It’s important to remember that while power posing can be a powerful tool, it’s not a magic bullet. It’s one piece of the larger puzzle of maintaining motivation and confidence. To get the most out of it, combine it with other strategies like setting clear goals, maintaining a positive mindset, and taking regular breaks to recharge.

In conclusion, the next time you’re facing a daunting task or just need a little extra push to get through your day, try striking a power pose. It’s a simple, yet effective way to tap into your inner strength and boost your motivation. By understanding and leveraging the mind-body connection, you can take control of your mental state and approach challenges with greater confidence. So go ahead—stand tall, strike a pose, and watch as your motivation and confidence soar.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

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