The Key to Achieving Your Goals Could Be a Personal Contract

2024-10-04 ~ adminlife

We all have goals, big or small, that we strive to achieve. But how often do we find ourselves struggling to stay on track? Whether it’s sticking to a fitness routine, completing a long-term project or saving money, maintaining motivation can be a real challenge. What if the secret to staying motivated was as simple as writing down your commitment on a piece of paper? Believe it or not, creating a personal contract with yourself could be the game-changer you need.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

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Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

The concept of writing a contract to yourself is more than just a motivational gimmick. It’s a psychological strategy that leverages commitment and accountability. When you write something down — especially in the form of a formal contract — you are making a tangible commitment to yourself. This isn’t just a casual note or a fleeting thought; it’s a serious promise that you’re less likely to break. The act of writing it down solidifies your intention, making it feel more real and binding.

There’s a psychological principle at play here called the “commitment effect.” When we commit to something, particularly in writing, we’re more likely to follow through because we don’t want to face the cognitive dissonance that comes from breaking that commitment. Cognitive dissonance is the uncomfortable feeling we get when our actions don’t align with our beliefs or commitments. By creating a contract, you’re essentially setting a psychological trap for yourself: your mind wants to avoid the discomfort of breaking a promise, so it pushes you to stay on track.

But why does this work? Part of the effectiveness of a personal contract comes from the sense of accountability it creates. While you might be able to justify breaking a verbal promise to yourself, it’s much harder to ignore a written contract. The act of writing it down makes it feel more official and harder to dismiss. Plus, if you include a penalty — like donating to charity if you fail to meet your goal — it adds an extra layer of motivation. The thought of losing something, whether it’s money or pride, can be a powerful motivator.

To get the most out of this strategy, it’s important to approach it seriously. Start by clearly defining your goal. Be specific about what you want to achieve and set a realistic deadline. For example, instead of vaguely stating, “I will get in shape,” write, “I will lose 10 pounds by November 30th by working out three times a week and eating a balanced diet.” The more specific you are, the easier it will be to measure your progress and hold yourself accountable.

Next, consider adding a consequence for not meeting your goal. This could be something like donating a certain amount of money to a cause you care about — or one you don’t care about, which might be even more motivating! The key is to make the consequence meaningful enough to motivate you but not so harsh that it becomes a source of stress.

Some people even take this a step further by sharing their contract with a friend or accountability partner. This adds an extra layer of accountability because now someone else knows about your commitment. The thought of having to explain to someone else why you didn’t meet your goal can be a powerful motivator to stay on track.

Actionable Step: Write a contract with yourself for one specific goal you want to achieve. Include a clear and measurable objective, a realistic deadline and a meaningful consequence if you don’t meet your goal. Consider sharing this contract with a trusted friend or colleague to increase your accountability.

By formalizing your goals in this way, you create a powerful tool for maintaining motivation. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of setting goals, but the real challenge lies in sticking with them over time. A personal contract serves as a constant reminder of what you’re working toward and why it matters.

In the end, staying motivated is about finding what works for you. While a contract might seem like a simple or even trivial thing, its impact can be profound. The next time you feel your motivation slipping, try putting pen to paper. You might be surprised at how much more committed and motivated you feel with a formal contract in place.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

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Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

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Keeping Yourself on Track and Motivated by Using Rewards

2024-10-022024-10-02 ~ adminlife

Why do we work hard? What drives us to push through difficult tasks, meet deadlines, or pursue long-term goals? While the reasons might vary from person to person, one factor that often plays a significant role is the promise of a reward. Whether it’s a simple treat at the end of a tough day or a bigger incentive for achieving a major goal, rewards can be a powerful motivator. But how do you effectively use rewards to stay motivated without falling into the trap of relying on them too much?

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

The psychology behind rewards is rooted in a concept known as the “reward system.” This is a group of structures in the brain that is activated when we experience something pleasurable. When we anticipate a reward, our brain releases dopamine, which not only makes us feel good but also drives us to take action to achieve that reward. This is why the promise of a reward can be such a strong motivator—it taps directly into our brain’s natural reward pathways, encouraging us to stay focused and keep moving toward our goals.

One of the key benefits of using rewards is that they provide a tangible goal to work toward. This can be particularly effective when motivation starts to wane, or when the task at hand feels overwhelming. By setting up a reward system, you give yourself something to look forward to, which can make the process of working through challenges feel more manageable and even enjoyable.

But not all rewards are created equal. To use rewards effectively, it’s important to choose incentives that are meaningful and proportionate to the task. For smaller, everyday tasks, a small reward like a coffee break, a few minutes of relaxation, or a favourite snack might be enough to keep you motivated. For larger, more challenging goals, consider more significant rewards, such as a special outing, a new purchase, or even a day off.

The timing of rewards is also crucial. Immediate rewards are often more effective than delayed ones because the connection between the task and the reward is clearer. For example, if you complete a difficult assignment, treating yourself to something enjoyable right away can reinforce the positive behavior and make you more likely to repeat it in the future. However, this doesn’t mean that long-term rewards don’t have their place. For bigger goals, setting up a series of smaller rewards along the way can help maintain motivation over time, leading to a larger, more satisfying reward at the end.

It’s also worth considering how you frame your rewards. While it’s tempting to think of rewards as something external—a treat or a gift—you can also use intrinsic rewards, which are the internal satisfaction and pride that come from achieving something. For example, if you finish a project on time, the sense of accomplishment and the knowledge that you’ve done a good job can be a reward in itself. Cultivating an appreciation for these intrinsic rewards can help you stay motivated even when external rewards are less frequent.

However, it’s important to avoid becoming too dependent on rewards. If you rely solely on external incentives, you might find that your motivation falters when the rewards are no longer available or if the rewards lose their appeal. The key is to strike a balance between using rewards to boost motivation and developing the internal drive to achieve your goals regardless of external incentives.

Actionable Step: Identify a task or goal that you’ve been struggling to stay motivated about. Set up a reward system for yourself, choosing rewards that are meaningful and proportionate to the task. Make sure to include both immediate rewards for completing smaller tasks and a larger reward for achieving the overall goal. As you work toward the goal, pay attention to the intrinsic rewards you experience, such as the satisfaction of progress and the pride of accomplishment.

Using rewards effectively can make the difference between feeling stuck and finding the motivation to keep going. They provide a way to break down larger goals into manageable steps, each with its own incentive, which can help you maintain momentum and stay on track. Whether you’re tackling a challenging project at work, working toward a personal goal, or simply trying to get through a tough day, the promise of a reward can be a powerful tool in your motivational toolkit.

But remember, the ultimate goal is to cultivate a balance between external rewards and internal motivation. By learning to appreciate both, you can create a sustainable source of motivation that will carry you through even the toughest challenges.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Can a Simple Pose Change Your Life?

2024-09-25 ~ adminlife

Have you ever found yourself in need of a quick confidence boost, maybe before a big presentation or an important meeting? What if I told you that the solution might be as simple as striking a pose? It might sound ridiculous, but science suggests that our body language can influence our emotions and even our level of motivation. In fact, something as simple as standing tall in a “power pose” for a few minutes can have a profound impact on how we feel and perform. But how does this work, and why is it so effective?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

The idea of “power posing” was popularized by social psychologist Amy Cuddy, who presented compelling research showing that certain body positions can actually change the way we think and feel. When you adopt a power pose—think of a superhero stance with your hands on your hips and your chest puffed out—your body sends signals to your brain that increase feelings of confidence and reduce stress. This concept is rooted in the mind-body connection, a fascinating area of psychology that explores how our physical state can influence our mental state.

The science behind this is quite interesting. When you strike a power pose, your body experiences a boost in testosterone, a hormone associated with dominance and confidence, and a reduction in cortisol, the stress hormone. This hormonal shift can make you feel more powerful and less anxious, which in turn can improve your performance in high-pressure situations. Even though some aspects of the original research have been debated, the general consensus is that body language does play a significant role in how we feel and how others perceive us.

But there’s more to it than just the physical effects. Power posing can also change your mindset. When you adopt a powerful stance, you’re not just fooling your brain into feeling more confident—you’re actually reinforcing a belief in your own abilities. This is crucial because motivation often stems from self-belief. If you believe you can succeed, you’re more likely to take the actions necessary to make that success a reality. On the other hand, if you feel small and powerless, it’s much harder to muster the motivation to tackle challenges head-on.

So, how can you incorporate this into your daily life? It’s simple: whenever you need a boost, take a moment to stand up straight, roll your shoulders back, and adopt a powerful stance. Hold the pose for a minute or two, and notice how your mindset shifts. This can be especially useful before situations where you need to perform at your best, such as job interviews, presentations, or even difficult conversations. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel, and over time, you may find that you carry yourself with more confidence in all areas of your life.

Actionable Step: Try to integrate power posing into your daily routine, especially before high-stress situations. When you feel your motivation waning or anxiety creeping in, take a few moments to stand tall in a power pose. Hold it for two minutes, breathe deeply, and focus on the task ahead. Notice how your mindset and energy shift, making it easier to tackle challenges with renewed confidence.

It’s important to remember that while power posing can be a powerful tool, it’s not a magic bullet. It’s one piece of the larger puzzle of maintaining motivation and confidence. To get the most out of it, combine it with other strategies like setting clear goals, maintaining a positive mindset, and taking regular breaks to recharge.

In conclusion, the next time you’re facing a daunting task or just need a little extra push to get through your day, try striking a power pose. It’s a simple, yet effective way to tap into your inner strength and boost your motivation. By understanding and leveraging the mind-body connection, you can take control of your mental state and approach challenges with greater confidence. So go ahead—stand tall, strike a pose, and watch as your motivation and confidence soar.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

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Boost Your Motivation by Taking A Break

2024-09-18 ~ adminlife

When you’re in the thick of a demanding project or trying to power through a long list of tasks, the idea of taking a break might seem counterproductive. After all, how can you stay motivated if you’re stepping away from your work? However, the paradoxical truth is that taking regular breaks might be one of the most effective strategies to maintain and even enhance your motivation over the long haul.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

We live in a culture that often glorifies busyness and the hustle, but this relentless drive can lead to burnout. When you’re burned out, motivation is one of the first things to go. The key to avoiding this is to understand the importance of pacing yourself and giving your mind and body the time they need to recharge. This is where strategic breaks come in—they aren’t just about resting; they’re about resetting your mental state so you can return to your work with renewed energy and focus.

Research in cognitive psychology shows that our brains are not designed to work non-stop. We have a limited amount of cognitive energy, and when it’s depleted, our ability to concentrate and perform well diminishes. This is why you might notice that after hours of continuous work, your productivity slows down, and your quality of work begins to suffer. Taking a break allows your brain to rest and recover, which can actually make you more productive when you return to your tasks.

But it’s not just about productivity—taking breaks can also spark creativity and problem-solving. Often, when you step away from a problem and do something completely unrelated, your brain continues to process the information in the background. This is why some of the best ideas come to us in the shower or during a walk. By giving your brain a break from focused work, you’re giving it the space to make new connections and come up with creative solutions that you might not have thought of if you had stayed glued to your desk.

The type of break you take can also make a difference. A short walk outside, for example, can have a powerful impact on your mood and motivation. The combination of physical activity, fresh air, and a change of scenery can help clear your mind and boost your energy levels. Even just a few minutes away from your screen to stretch or grab a healthy snack can be enough to reset your focus.

It’s important to note that not all breaks are created equal. Mindlessly scrolling through social media, for instance, might seem like a break, but it can actually leave you feeling more drained. The goal of a break should be to refresh your mind and body, so choosing activities that promote relaxation or movement is key.

Incorporating regular breaks into your routine might require a mindset shift, especially if you’re used to pushing through fatigue in the name of productivity. However, the benefits of taking breaks are well-documented, and once you start to see the positive impact on your motivation and performance, you’ll likely find it easier to build this habit into your daily schedule.

Actionable Step: Schedule short, intentional breaks throughout your day. Aim for a 5-10 minute break every hour or so, where you step away from your work entirely. Use this time to stretch, take a walk, or engage in a relaxing activity. Notice how these breaks affect your energy levels, focus, and overall motivation.

Taking breaks might seem like a small thing, but the impact can be significant. By allowing yourself the time to rest and recharge, you’re setting yourself up for sustained motivation and long-term success. It’s a simple but effective strategy that can make a big difference in how you feel and perform throughout the day

So, the next time you find yourself hitting a mental wall or feeling your motivation wane, don’t be afraid to step away. Embrace the power of a well-timed break and give yourself the chance to return to your work with renewed energy and a fresh perspective. You’ll likely find that you’re not just more motivated, but also more creative and productive.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

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Think Happy Thoughts

2024-09-13 ~ adminlife

Have you ever tried thinking happy thoughts to lift your mood during a tough day? The power of positive thinking is real, and consciously focusing on what makes you happy can significantly improve your outlook on life. Let’s dive into how cultivating happy thoughts can help you become more optimistic and resilient.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Thinking happy thoughts is a simple yet effective strategy to enhance your mood and overall well-being. It involves intentionally focusing on positive memories, experiences, and aspirations to counteract negative emotions. This practice can shift your mindset from a place of stress or sadness to one of gratitude and joy, helping you navigate life’s challenges with a more positive attitude.

Imagine you’re having a stressful day at work. Deadlines are looming, and you feel overwhelmed. In moments like these, pausing to think about a happy memory—perhaps a recent vacation, a fun outing with friends, or a personal achievement—can provide a mental escape and remind you of the good things in your life. This mental shift can help reduce stress and make the challenges you’re facing seem more manageable.

One effective way to harness the power of happy thoughts is by creating a mental or physical list of your favourite things. This list can include anything that brings you joy, such as your favourite songs, books, places, or activities. Whenever you’re feeling down, revisiting this list can help boost your mood and provide a sense of comfort and positivity. Over time, this practice can train your brain to focus more on the positives and less on the negatives.

Happy thoughts are not just about reminiscing; they also involve visualizing positive future experiences. Envisioning your goals and dreams can create a sense of excitement and motivation. For example, picturing yourself succeeding in your career, enjoying a future trip, or achieving a personal milestone can generate positive emotions and drive you to take actionable steps toward those goals. This forward-thinking approach reinforces optimism and helps you stay focused on the good things ahead.

It’s important to recognize that thinking happy thoughts doesn’t mean ignoring or suppressing negative emotions. It’s about creating a balanced mindset where you acknowledge challenges but also make a conscious effort to focus on the positives. By doing so, you build emotional resilience and become better equipped to handle life’s ups and downs.

Actionable Step: Create a Happy List. Take a few minutes each day to write down things that made you happy. This could be anything from a kind word from a friend to a beautiful sunset you noticed on your way home. Writing these things down can alter your mood for the better by making you more aware of the positives in your life.

Another effective technique is to use positive affirmations. These are short, powerful statements that you repeat to yourself to reinforce positive thinking and beliefs. For example, affirmations like “I am capable and strong,” “I attract positivity and good energy,” or “I am grateful for all the good things in my life” can help shift your mindset. Repeating these affirmations daily can reprogram your subconscious mind to focus on positivity and optimism.

Gratitude journaling is another practical way to cultivate happy thoughts. Each day, write down a few things you are grateful for. This practice can help you focus on the positives, even during difficult times. Over time, gratitude journaling can increase your overall sense of happiness and well-being by reminding you of the good things in your life.

Surrounding yourself with positivity can also make a significant difference. Spend time with people who uplift and inspire you. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Create a living environment that reflects positivity, such as decorating your space with items that make you happy or playing music that boosts your mood. By immersing yourself in positivity, you create a conducive environment for happy thoughts and optimism.

It’s also beneficial to practice mindfulness and meditation. These practices teach you to be present in the moment and to observe your thoughts without judgment. Mindfulness can help you become more aware of your negative thought patterns and replace them with positive ones. Meditation, in particular, can reduce stress and increase feelings of calm and happiness, making it easier to focus on happy thoughts.

Regular physical exercise is another powerful tool for generating happy thoughts. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Whether it’s a brisk walk, a yoga session, or a workout at the gym, physical activity can help clear your mind, reduce stress, and boost your overall mood.

Incorporating humour into your daily life can also help. Laughter is a natural antidote to stress and negativity. Watch a funny movie, read a humorous book, or spend time with friends who make you laugh. Humour can lighten your mood and provide a fresh perspective on challenging situations.

In conclusion, thinking happy thoughts is a powerful and accessible way to enhance your optimism and overall well-being. By creating a happy list, using positive affirmations, practising gratitude, surrounding yourself with positivity, engaging in mindfulness, exercising, and incorporating humour into your life, you can cultivate a more positive mindset. Remember, the goal is not to ignore challenges but to balance them with an intentional focus on the positives. This balanced approach can help you navigate life with greater resilience and optimism.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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