Can You be Too Positive?

2023-04-07 ~ adminlife

One piece of advice that is given about the power of positive thinking is “Look on the bright side.” There is no denying that bad things will happen to you. Your life experiences are not always in your control.

What is under your control is your reaction to the situation or event. The simple five word saying above is telling you to choose positive thinking over becoming swamped in negative emotions when life doesn’t go your way.

That can be good advice but taken to an extreme, it can also be dangerous.

Your self-talk and limiting beliefs are the two main things that can hold you back.

You can try to fix these by yourself or you can work with a Life Coach.

This short video talks to these points and offers you a solution.

https://vimeo.com/800646997

You can contact me to book the call mentioned in the video at

https://calendly.com/michael-coach/strategy-session

If you want to find out more about the Self-talk Program, and register before talking to me, you can do so at the website Self-talk Program

Usually, positive thinking is a good thing. Successful people became successful and didn’t get to where they are now by thinking negative thoughts consistently. The danger from positive thinking comes when it becomes a zero-sum game.

When this happens, it is called toxic positivity. You don’t accept any painful or difficult experiences; you just think positive and keep going. You are told to keep a positive mindset no matter how tough the situation is that you are in. Following are some reasons why this toxic positivity, as opposed to empowering, rational, positive thinking can cause you to experience serious problems in your life.

You ignore reality when you have toxic positivity.

Imagine, somehow, you have fallen into a deep hole. It doesn’t matter how this happened, just that you are now in the bottom of a really deep hole.

You are in the middle of nowhere and your plan of experiencing Mother Nature has turned bad. No matter how hard and loud you scream, no one can hear you.

You sit and console yourself that you were on a nature trail when the ground gave out. Because of your toxic positivity, you believe that someone will be along soon to rescue you.

You know that there are wild animals in the area and that this is not a well-travelled trail. You chose it because of that fact. You wanted to spend some alone time in the wild. You also, unfortunately, didn’t bring any food, water or other equipment.

Despite all of this, you settle down comfortably and wait patiently for the rescue that will inevitably come for you.

In this situation, your ignorance of the dire circumstance you are in could lead to your demise. With toxic positivity, you will probably have a smile on your face as well.

Instead of toxic positivity, choose positive and realistic thinking.

If you are a positive thinker, you say that you can get out of the situation. You tell yourself that it may look difficult right now, but by using your head and keeping your wits about you, you will figure a way out.

The person with this way of thinking begins to dig, climb and do whatever he can to make the situation better. He thinks positively and realistically. He knows that he can’t just sit back and hope for the best but he has to attack the situation aggressively right away.

Embracing negative thinking is not what is being advocated. Negative thinking is a very quick path to living a life full of self-doubt, failure and resentment. This is just an alert to point out to you the dangers of toxic positivity. When negative events and emotions occur, you must embrace them, deal with them and then move on. You will not have the best outcome when you ignore reality or negative situations.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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Mistakes That Limit Your Success

2023-03-01 ~ adminlife

All the struggle stress and possible disappointment may make it seem that success is not worth the effort. Success, while not easy can be simple. The first thing you need to do us to avoid the mistakes that limit your success. By understanding and avoiding these mistakes you can reach new levels of achievement.

Take control of your success

There are many things in your life that can hold you back from being successful.

Some are external and there isn’t much you can do about those. But the ones that do the most damage are the internal ones.

Your self-talk and limiting beliefs are the two main things that can hold you back.

You can try to fix these by yourself or you can work with a Life Coach.

This short video talks to these points and offers you a solution.

https://vimeo.com/800646997

You can contact me to book the call mentioned in the video at

https://calendly.com/michael-coach/strategy-session

If you want to find out more about the Self-talk Program, and register before talking tome, you can do so at the website Self-talk Program

These success limiting mistakes need to be avoided.

Habits that aren’t effective. There are habits that you have that can help you to achieve success and habits that can stop your success no matter what your definition of success is. Are you living in a way that daily moves you closer to success? To guarantee success, what habits do you need to have?

Success takes time. Little things done over a long period of time makes the difference for great success.

Goals that aren’t clear. You won’t know if you are successful if you don’t have a goal. You need a target to aim for. Successful people have goals that are reviewed on a regular basis. Unsuccessful people don’t really know what they want.

No plan. Are you living by default without a plan or direction? If so, you may struggle and be living reactively. You are constantly putting out fires or are passive. You need to put a plan in place that will move you forward.

Being busy not productive. If your thinking is flawed, you may mistake working or being active for 8 hours as being productive. You will find that, as stated by the Pareto Principle, 20% of your options will contribute to 80% of your success. People will move to the easier and more comfortable activities. These will only provide a limited return on the time you spend on them.

Busy is not progress. You need to choose those activities that will provide you with the greatest effect.

No consistency. Champions are extremely consistent. While you may not want to plan your day down to the minute, and live the same day over and over, but being successful requires that you be much more consistent than most people will actually demonstrate. You need to spend time every day on reaching your goals.

Not dealing with discomfort. To make progress you need new behaviours. On some levels, new behaviours are uncomfortable. You are only comfortable when you repeat your past behaviours. But this will keep your life at a standstill. To be successful you need to be able to deal with any discomfort and move yourself forward.

To get past discomfort, you can use various methods like breathing exercises, prayer or meditation or yoga. Just because you are uncomfortable doesn’t mean that you can’t do something.

Failure to learn from mistakes. To be successful you need to fail. The most successful people have failed the most. While it is common to want to avoid failure, this is a mistake. While it isn’t an objective to fail, to attain any success, it is expected. The first attempt is only the starting point. To make improvements, failure is necessary.

While failure is an undesired result, it allows you to make a better attempt when you try again. When you constantly improve you will be successful.

Concerned with things that can’t be changed. Many things in life can’t be changed or altered. This is true of things in the past. Let go and focus on those things that you can change or alter.

While success can be elusive, when you can avoid the more common mistakes it is a lot easier to find. A main part of success is avoiding mistakes. Create your goals and then build the habits that will support those goals. Success can be simple when you can deal with your discomfort and learn from any mistakes.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S You can subscribe to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live a Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

P.P.S To enable me to provide the level of guidance that will ensure that you are reaching the desired level of success in the Self-talk Program. I am limiting the number of people who can register to 8 per month. The information and registration page is at Self-talk Program

P.P.P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Staying Positive When Everyone Around You Is Negative

2023-01-25 ~ adminlife

You are surrounded by negativity. It isn’t any wonder though. Social media and reality television tell you how to think and act. You can easily get caught up in all the doom and gloom.

You feel drained and negative thoughts will fill your mind when you are immersed in negativity daily.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

You can consciously decide to eliminate or reduce the negativity. You can take practical steps each day to immerse yourself in positivity.

When there is negativity all around you, there are some strategies that are available to keep you staying positive.

Don’t take things personally. It is very easy to get yourself wrapped up in what other people think of you or say about you. That is their opinion, nothing more. It is a reflection on them if they are hostile towards you. Don’t let it bring you down.

When you find that you are taking things personally, observe what you are thinking. When you observe your thoughts, you can catch yourself before you get yourself too caught up in them.
Look at the situation from both sides and see if you can understand the other person’s actions.
Is there a way to challenge your beliefs to see if they are true?
Don’t worry about what others think, just focus on yourself.

Don’t compare yourself. You will destroy your mood when you compare yourself. Your talents and your gifts are unique to you so it is pointless to compare yourself to others.

You need to embrace what makes you unique and then take advantage of those distinctive traits and features.
Focus on what you want to achieve and focus on the journey.
Everyone has different backgrounds, stories and experiences. Even if it looks like someone has it all together, they may be fighting their own personal battles.

Be with positive people. People who are negative are contagious. Their negativity will rub off on you if you stay around them long enough. Positive people are also contagious. To uplift your mood, you need to spend time with them.

Find people who will make you feel good and will uplift you. You should feel happy and positive when you are around them.
When you have things in common and similar interests, your conversations and experiences will be more enjoyable.
Going to events, seeking out new hobbies and volunteering will help you to find new friends.
Just because people seem different from you, don’t write them off, be open-minded. Embrace people’s differences and keep an open mind.

Look after your physical and mental health. It is crucial that you take care of your physical and psychological health. It is hard to stay positive if you are not taking care of yourself. Ensure that you are eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising regularly.

Ask for professional help if you are struggling with mental health issues.
Eat a balanced diet and consult a nutritionist to get a comprehensive diet plan.
You should try to get around eight hours of sleep a night. At least one hour before bedtime, disconnect from your electronic screens. You are more susceptible to stress and anxiety if you are not getting enough sleep.
Get exercise as exercising releases mood boosting endorphins. Small amounts of exercise can make a big difference in your mental health. Try for at least 30 minutes of daily exercise. Walking, swimming, cycling or any activity that you enjoy is good.

What is your passion? It is much easier to stay positive when you are passionate about something. Pour yourself into something that you are passionate about.

You are more likely to remain engaged and see the world in a positive light when you are passionate about something.
You will have a sense of purpose which is linked to feelings of happiness and well-being. When you immerse yourself in your passion, you have more purpose.
Your resilience increases when you are passionate about something. It is a lot easier to bounce back when you suffer a setback. This gives you a powerful reason to keep going even when things are rough.

Practice gratitude for what you have. The good things in your life are easy to take for granted. When you take time to think about your blessings, it is hard to stay negative. Reflect on the good things each day, no matter their size.

Life is appreciated more
You will be a lot more happier as gratitude and happiness go hand in hand. Grateful people are 25% more content than people who don’t practice gratitude.
You are more resilient when you practice gratitude. It is a lot easier to bounce back from difficult times when you are grateful for all the good things in your life.

Don’t despair if you are surrounded by negativity. There are lots of things that you can do to keep yourself positive. Take things slowly and be grateful for all the good things in your life. Seek out positive people to be around. Keep an open mind when you follow these tips, with just a little effort on your part, you will feel better in no time.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

P.S You can subscribe to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

P.P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Successful People Characteristics

2022-11-02 ~ adminlife

Typically, people associate success with money, power and fame. If you have all of these things you could still be unsuccessful. If you do not have wealth, power and fame, people could still consider you as being successful.

A person may have a very solid business and career, which gives him a great job and be well-respected by his coworkers but still not be in the top 10% of successful money earners. All of this does not mean that the person is not successful.

There are many ways that a person can achieve success in their lives. They don’t have to have a high income or a prestigious job.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts atThese are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Here are some personal success traits to consider.

Forgiveness is important to successful people. A truly successful person knows that forgiveness is not just something they should do. For them forgiveness is natural. If they are offended by someone, they know that to keep moving forward, they know that forgiveness will help them.

They will forgive the offender and continue to move forward with their lives rather than hold a grudge or let the offence affect them negatively.
By forgiving others, they no longer have many negative emotions which enables them to focus on getting closer to their goals which makes them more successful.

They understand when they need to stay with or leave an endeavour. They know when to continue doing what they are doing or when to try something new.

A successful person stays with the projects that they are passionate about. They don’t become frustrated or feel burned out due to boredom. They move on when they no longer enjoy what they are doing.
They will determine which projects to continue and which ones to abandon using their intuition and gut instinct.
This method is usually correct because of their experience in recognizing when the work they are doing is no longer worthwhile for them to continue.

Failure is not feared, it is welcomed. Failure is understood not to be harmful by a successful person. Failure of giving up is the only type of failure to be avoided. They understand that failure means that they are not doing something right. It helps them to continue to learn and to grow.

They figure out what is needed to improve and continue with their progress when they experience loss.
Being an overnight success is impossible. It requires hard work, patience and time to become successful.

Their habits help them to succeed. Living a balanced life of eating nutritious food, exercise and sleep is essential. A successful person has healthy habits that help them to keep their health and vitality.

The work they are doing now is necessary to be successful later. They understand that it isn’t necessary to overwork and burn out in the drive to succeed.

While having money and power is very helpful, they aren’t necessary to achieve success. You don’t have to make a lot of money or be famous to be successful.

Having good habits and positive behaviours are the key to success. Doing this, whether you are rich or poor and you will achieve success.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

P.S You can get a free for life subscription to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

This free offer expires on January 1^st 2023. After that there will be monthly subscription fee.

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Signs You Are Actually Doing Better Than You Think

2022-10-06 ~ adminlife

Many people think that they are doing a lot worse than they actually are. Many people are just more pessimistic than others. Unless you are looking for it, progress can be hard to see.

You are probably mistaken if you think you are working really hard with very little to show for your work. You are really doing a lot better than you think you are.

There are some positive signs that you can look for to see how good you are doing.

You are learning from every mistake and failure. You will become very successful in a short period of time when you learn something from every mistake and failure.

A lot of people keep making the same errors. They keep repeating their behaviours. You can make the choice to act differently when you find yourself in a situation that is similar to past situations.

You know what it is that you want. This is half of the battle. If you know what you want, you have a huge advantage over others. Many people just float through life aimlessly.

You make good use of your time. Good things happen when you spend your time wisely. If you spend your time poorly, it can lead to a train wreck of a life.

Ask yourself what the best use of your time is before deciding on doing something, then do what is best.

Your progress is constant. A great sign is making regular, consistent progress. You may feel that you are still very far from your goal, but you only need to make regular progress. While you may have been on a diet for years and haven’t lost any weight, just losing a pound a week is progress and becomes meaningful over time.

You are consistent. If you are successful, you put in some work daily. You can’t be successful by working hard for a day occasionally.

By being consistent, you are also sticking to your goals. You are going nowhere when you work on one goal for a short time then change your mind and work on something else.

You are not alone. Some people are alone in the world. You are doing a lot better than others if you are not alone.

Be optimistic. There is hope when you are optimistic. When you are optimistic, you will take action towards achieving your goals.

You become stuck very quickly when you have low expectations. You think that you are wasting your time to put in any effort.

You are determined. A good sign that you are going places is showing commitment. When you are determined, good things happen.

Other people’s opinions don’t worry you. You won’t do anything significant when you care too much about what other people think of you. You will want to play it safe. You need to leave their opinions behind you.

You have a warm and dry place to sleep. You know how nice this is when you have had to go without it. You are doing better than you think if you don’t have to deal with this situation.

You are working. It is a great thing to have a steady income. It is difficult for some people to find a source of steady employment. While you may be earning less than you would like to, earning anything is a lot better than earning nothing.

You have your health. If you are healthy, you are better off than a lot of people. Having good health is a huge blessing.

Today, our society is easy in many areas but it can be challenging in many others. There is a high priority on being successful, but other things are important as well. Having friends, a warm bed and a job are also relevant.

You are doing well when you know what you want to achieve and you are wisely spending your time. Even if you haven’t seen the results you want, have faith and keep going.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S You can get a free for life subscription to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

This free offer expires on January 1^st 2023. After that there will be monthly subscription fee.

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