The Journey Matters More Than the Destination

2024-01-10 ~ adminlife

We’ve all dreamt of winning the lottery, or maybe being granted three wishes by a magic genie. But let’s be honest, wouldn’t that take away the thrill of the chase? Sure, we’d love a bigger house, a swanky car, or maybe even to conquer Mount Everest. But wouldn’t these achievements feel hollow if we didn’t have to lift a finger to attain them?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The crux of the matter is that our goals are more than just shiny trophies or fancy titles. They represent a journey of self-discovery, growth, and resilience.

The Thrill of the Chase

Imagine this: A magic genie grants you all your wishes. You’re now rich, can play the piano like a pro, have a successful business, and are married to your dream partner. Sounds perfect, right? But hold on a minute. Don’t you feel something’s missing?

The thrill of working towards these goals, the joy of overcoming obstacles, the satisfaction of personal growth – all of these are missing from this picture. Simply put, things we don’t work for don’t hold the same value.

The Post-Goal Blues

Ever felt a strange sense of emptiness after achieving a long-pursued goal? Whether it was landing your dream job, graduating from university, or finally visiting Hawaii, the euphoria soon gave way to a surprising ‘blah’ feeling.

This might seem strange. After all, you got what you wanted, right? But it’s the journey towards the goal, filled with challenges, learning, and growth, that gives us a sense of purpose and satisfaction.

The Struggle is Real (And Rewarding)

The real kicker? It’s not just about winning. It’s about the blood, sweat, and tears that go into the journey. The thrill of overcoming a challenge, the satisfaction of pushing past your limits, the joy of surprising yourself – these are what make the journey worthwhile.

Personal Growth: The Unsung Hero

Sure, having a successful business is exciting. But isn’t it the journey that truly matters? Learning new skills, perfecting your sales pitch, and becoming a better version of yourself – these are the real rewards.

The path to achieving big goals forces us to grow and evolve. And isn’t that the real appeal?

The Learning Curve

When we struggle, we learn. If a new car is simply handed to you, you lose the chance to learn how to earn, save, and invest. Challenges force us to learn, whether through study or through trial and error.

The Magic Wand vs The Sweat of Your Brow

Picture this: You’ve achieved all your goals, but without any effort. They were simply handed to you. How does that make you feel? Would you still be the same person if you could lose 50 pounds by waving a magic wand instead of changing your diet and working hard at the gym?

Achieving goals gives us more than just the end result.

Our goals give us a chance to struggle, grow, and feel accomplished. They boost our self-confidence and self-esteem.

While having things handed to us might be nice, it lacks meaning. So, ditch the wishes for good luck. Instead, wish for strength and determination. Remember, the goal isn’t the end game. It’s the journey that truly matters!

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

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Live Your Best Life in 6 Steps

2021-07-04 ~ adminlife

Everyone is different. It’s not reasonable to expect that everyone wants to live the same life. But, to step outside the options that society deems to be acceptable can be a little scary. Our need to impress and be accepted can be very strong.

Perhaps you’ve never really considered what your dream life would be. It’s hard to hit a target that you’ve never identified.

Follow these steps to imagine the best life you could possibly have and then live it:

Be true to yourself. You can’t live your best life if you’re pretending to be someone or something that you’re not. The first step in living your best life is to admit to yourself who you really are. Be honest about your likes, dislikes, and dreams.
- Maybe you would like to live in a cabin in the woods and grow all of your food.
- Or do you love the idea of minimalism and frugality?
- Do you prefer animals to people?
- Would you like to live in a commune?
- Do you love to play the accordion?
- Would you like to travel the world like a nomad without a home base?
- Do you want to spend all of your time and resources saving the planet?
- Does the idea of having children horrify you? Or would you like to try for 13 kids?
- Choose what appeals to Any admiration or scorn you receive from others won’t last long enough for your cup of coffee to get cold.
Make a plan. Relying on chance or luck is a losing game in the long run. If you want a specific life, it’s important to choose it and then make a plan to get there. Make a long-term plan that begins with something you can do today.
Execute your plan. Many people love to dream and plan. That’s the easy and fun part. Unfortunately, few people ever take the first step in their plan. They never get started.
- Take some sort of action each day outlined by your plan. You don’t have to do an amazing amount of work each day to make significant progress over time. A little each day eventually grows into substantial results.
- The hardest part is getting started, so ensure that you get started as soon as possible. There will never be a perfect time to begin. Begin now and make the best of it. Everything changes once you actually begin.
Learn from your mistakes. Neither you nor your plan is flawless. You will make mistakes and try things that don’t work. That should be expected. Decide that you’re going to learn from your mistakes, adjust your approach, and try again.
Keep your attention on those things that are relevant regarding your plans. Reject nearly everything else.
- Why are you gossiping about your coworkers or neighbours?
- Still upset about how your ex cheated on you 13 years ago?
- Annoyed by the price of gasoline?
- What do any of these sorts of things have to do with achieving your goals and attaining your dream life? (Nothing.)
You can’t live your best life if you give up on your quest to attain it. Keep going until you’ve arrived where you want to be.

Your best life is out there ready for you to claim it! Be completely honest with yourself, make a plan, and stick with it until you’ve arrived. The life you desire is attainable and within your reach. Do you have the courage to make it happen?

Take a chance on feeling happy and fulfilled. Chase after your dream life.

You need to move to make your dreams and your life better. Just having dreams isn’t enough.

Book a 15-minute “Get to know you” call by clicking on the blue button below

and we can talk about how you can move your dreams to reality and live the life you desire.

To your success

Michael

P.S. if you have always thought that you should have a Life Coach on your personal team to help you create the best year of your life but were put off by the cost and the time requirement, I have created a Self-paced course that covers what we would do when working together.

While not the same as working one-on-one with a Life Coach, this self-paced course can help you to understand your present situation, how you got there and how to set goals that will move you forwards to success.

Click on the logo below to find out more about the course

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Someone is Knocking at the Door

2021-01-11 ~ adminlife

Someone is Knocking at the Door,

Somebody is Ringing Your Bell!

…Do Yourself a Favor, Open the Door,

Let Them In!

Have you ever felt that you are in a place, that although it’s good, and you are doing okay, you just KNOW it’s not where you’re supposed to be? Not what you were designed for? It’s not your destiny?

Frustrating isn’t it? And all the while the clock is ticking, time is passing, you’re getting older, and STILL you have that feeling.

What are you to do? Surely you can figure it out. You’re smart. You’ve got a good handle on life, so why can’t you figure it out? Why is it that although you can see clearly what you are NOT supposed to be doing, you have no idea what you ARE destined to do?

What if there were a simpler, more direct way of knowing what you should be doing with your life that required nothing more than for you to pay attention to just TWO things as you go about your daily routine?

These are those two things…

#1. AWARENESS

Thinking isn’t the answer. If it was, you would have found the solution a long time ago. So, avoid spending your time trying to come up with the answer. Just pay attention to what and who shows up in your life with monotonous regularity.

The longer you pay attention the easier it becomes to identify what you should be doing. This is because it has been showing up in your life, most likely for years.

However, you’ve been either setting it aside or dismissing it, because you cannot see how it can be done, how it can make enough money, or maybe you don’t have the experience for it.

For example:

When you’re on social media, what stories are you drawn to? What do you read the most? What do you comment on the most?
What about TV? When you’re scrolling the channels, which ones do you stop at the most, go back to the most, and watch the most?
If you go to a bookstore, what sections do you visit the most? What books do you reach out for the most? What books do you read the most?
When you meet people, either in person or over the internet, what topics of conversation do you find the most engaging?
What interviews do you enjoy the most on YouTube? What Podcasts do you find that you relate to the most?

If you pay attention, you’ll see a pattern emerge about what and who you resonate with. You’ll soon identify what it is that draws your attention. You’ll notice what intrigues, fascinates, or inspires you.

Start taking notes about what continues to show up in your life that you can relate to, or what you keep coming back to.

The penny will drop that these same things have been showing up for years. They have been knocking on your door for a LONG time!

Make a list of all the topics that show up in your life on a regular basis. Put the most compelling at the top. These are the ones that are knocking at your door AND ringing your bell.

Maybe it’s TIME – time to let them in.

Which brings us to….

#2. FEELINGS

Next, seek clarity. How do you feel about those topics that show up with regularity?

Ask yourself these questions:

What is it about (topic) that gets to me?
Why does it get to me?
How long has it been getting to me? (Much longer than you thought, right?)
If I got fully engaged in THAT, how would that make me feel?
What action can I take RIGHT NOW that would move me closer to that feeling? DO IT! …and do it immediately. Make that call, write that email, and search on YouTube or Google. Join a forum of like-minded people. Take a step forward, and it will move a step closer to you.

What about the people you meet, engage with, or listen to?

Notice how you feel about your connection with them. If possible, tell them how you feel about that interaction. Ask if you can talk further.
Find out what it is that draws you, intrigues you, or makes listening or engaging with them so compelling. Write it down and see what pattern emerges from your feelings.

Then, ask yourself these questions:

What is it about (Name) that makes me feel good?
What is it about (Name) that inspires me?
Why does it make me feel that way?
What action can I take RIGHT NOW that would move me towards feeling that way all the time? DO IT! …and do it NOW. Don’t wait. Act immediately on things that make you feel good if you want to live a fulfilling and compelling life.

You may have a lengthy list of things that move you. But you will soon see that certain items draw more of your attention than others.

Those are the ones you should follow up on first. Action is key. Why? Because INACTION has been your default for a very long time on some of these most compelling topics, hasn’t it?

Time to Change All That and Change It TODAY

If you want to cut the fluff, wasted time, and wasted energy from your life, AND the people who suck the life out of you, repeat this exercise often.

Take action often and you will soon find that everything you think, do, and say will become part of a whole new you.

A YOU that has the most fulfilling and compelling life imaginable! And along with it will come time you never thought you had and money you never thought you would earn to LIVE IT!

There you are, finding your life purpose is an important step in living the life you desire and deserve.

If you would like to find out even more about the things that you need to do to live the best year of your life, you can contact me at michael@coachmichaelw.com and we can talk about methods that we could use to help you with your life’s purpose and make you more successful.

To your success

Michael

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Successful People Deal with Adversity

2018-12-242018-12-22 ~ adminlife

Did you know that successful people deal with adversity? It’s true. If you read the stories or profiles of most successful people, you will be surprised at just how adverse their situations were. They often tell the stories for others to learn and use to overcome adversity.

You should read the profiles of successful people. They contain gems of information and can act as a resource for everyone else. The story is one aspect of reading about them. However, how they dealt with the situations is often a source of inspiration. When you become inspired, you increase your chances of dealing with your problems.

Inspiration doesn’t last forever, unfortunately. You need to reinforce the message. If you can, try to set aside time to read one story of a successful person every month. It will help you with your inspiration, and it will feed ideas on how to use their stories to make your life easier or better.

The stories of some people are dated. However, their techniques may be timeless. A perfect example of this is Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. The stories themselves describe people and occupations of days long gone. But, his techniques are as valid today as they were back then.

You can read all about the stories of successful people and get inspired. But, if you don’t take action, it will be of little help to you. At that point, you become nothing more than a dreamer. Having dreams is good, but you need to make sure you take action on those dreams.

Reading the stories of successful people shows that they are just like the rest of us. There isn’t anything superhuman about them that led them to their successes. You will find a common theme among those facing adversity. They had persistence and kept a positive attitude. Those two attributes will take you far when facing any situation.

You can choose to read stories online or find material in your local library. You can also choose to find stories on the internet. Be careful of the resources you find online. Anyone can publish whatever they like and sound convincing on their authority. Make sure you check the resources and keep a critical eye out for people who don’t present qualified information.

When you get in the habit of reading material of successful people, you will shift to a successful mindset yourself. You will have a memory bank of stories to draw inspiration.

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Do You Know Your Purpose In Life?

2017-05-26 ~ adminlife

Discover the Purpose of Your Life

If you’re like most people, you might not have figured out what you’re supposed to do with your life. What is your purpose?

What is a life purpose anyway? For our uses, we’re going to define it as something that you love to do that also has a great impact on the world. It’s that sweet spot where you’re having a great time and doing something wonderful for as many people as possible.

Most of us leave our lives up to chance. We slide into a profession that we don’t hate and stay there or in a similar situation until we’re ready to retire. Living your purpose usually requires taking action with the intention of finding it.

There are several ways you can attempt to discover the purpose of your life:

Describe your ideal day. Project yourself several years into the future and imagine that your life is essentially perfect. What would your life look like? Are you working? What type of work are you doing? What do you do all day? Who is in your life?

- Now that you know what the end looks like, what can you do today to take the first step in that direction?

Try austerity. Go camping in a remote place. Leave the food at home, but bring plenty of water. Limit your sleep and just sit with yourself. When you’re miserable, bored, lonely, and tired, sometimes the answers become obvious.

Volunteer. Find an organization in your community that interests you. Doing something worthwhile can be a good way to discover your purpose. Even if you come up short, at least you’ll have done something important.

Assume you can do the impossible. When anything is possible, what would you do? Take action to bring your dreams to life.
Write. Perhaps the most effective way to discover your life’s purpose is to spend an hour writing. At the top of your paper write, “My life’s purpose.” Now spend the next 60 minutes writing whatever pops into your mind.

When you find something that stirs strong positive feelings within you, you’re probably on the right track.

Investigate a new hobby. We all have at least one activity we’ve been putting off until a more convenient time. Doing something new exposes you to new ideas and thoughts. Now is the time to jump in and get started. You might be surprised what you discover.
Do something that terrifies you. Skydiving? Public speaking? You might find your life’s purpose during the process of conquering this fear.

This can be challenging and it might take some time, but get started today.

Spend a day being totally inspired. From the time you wake up until the time you go to bed, attempt to spend every moment inspired. The right books, music, and movies can help you maintain an inspired mental state.

You’ll believe you can do anything. What would you do?

Ask yourself what you would do if you had $10 million. How would you spend your time? What would your life look like? Can you figure out a way to make a living doing one of the activities you would be willing to do for free if you had the time?

Keep trying the above tips until you’ve found something that really excites you. When you find your purpose, there will be no doubt. Avoid spending all of your life thinking and planning. Get busy living.

Finding your life’s purpose will make life exciting and meaningful!

To your success.

Michael W

P.S. Are you frustrated that you are not reaching your ultimate level of success? Do you desire to be more confident and successful? Fantastic. Let me help you.

I have set myself a goal of hitting 50 hours of coaching before mid-summer and so I am offering 2 free coaching sessions to the first 8 people that put their hand up. Only do so if you are ready to make the shifts in your life that you desire.

Simply email me at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to get started now.

Are you ready to reach the level of success that you know you desire?