Poor Decision Making Reasons

2022-05-04 ~ adminlife

What would your life look like if you could go back in time and change your choice on five major decisions you made. The differences could be stunning.

Some of the poorer decisions you made 10 years ago or longer have led to your current situation in life.

You can lead a more satisfying life by making wise decisions. You can avoid making unwise decisions that would have a negative impact on your life.

Some of the reasons for making poor decisions are:

You don’t have all the right information. You may make a rash decision because you may not have the opportunity to find out all the facts. Taking a few minutes or even days to ask the right questions and do some research can help make your decisions much more effective.

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Your decisions are influenced by fear. Poor decisions are often based on fear. You may do anything to avoid feeling the physical sensations of fear.

You make the best decisions when you are moving towards something, not just trying to avoid something. When you find yourself trying to avoid something, any thing that moves you away from feelings of fear are appealing. That is like picking a direction to move by closing your eyes and spinning around.

You don’t have a defined objective. You need an objective to make wise decisions. What do you need to consider when choosing your next meal? There are a variety of goals you can use.

Convenience – what do you have available?
Cost – how expensive are the choices?
Health – what are the nutritional values?
Appearance – what foods will help me look leaner?
Comfort – what would feel good?
Taste – what foods would be the best tasting?

What are you trying to accomplish with your decision? From your options, what are the possible outcomes? How is your objective affected by those possible outcomes? Will you be helped or hindered in attaining your goals?

You let emotions control. A combination that rarely works are strong emotions and skilful decision-making. Your brain processes information and makes its decisions differently when under intense emotions. If you are going to make an important decision, it is best that you are calm, cool and collected.

You put comfort first. Our brains natural target is comfort. You tend to gravitate to unhealthy foods, sitting on the couch, watching TV or surfing the Internet.

You will usually make poor long-term decision when comfort is your goal. If you know someone who lives life this way, you can see what is wrong with making immediate comfort the main goal.
Progress and comfort are direct opposites. You will make quick progress in your life if you can bear a lot of discomfort. When you think of highly successful people, you see that each day they do things that the average person will pass on.

You don’t learn from your past mistakes. You can use all of your past mistakes to learn how to make wiser future decisions. Every poor decision you have made can teach you something.

What was your worst decision and what impact did it have on your life? You can see that making a few wiser decisions in the past could have made your life much different now.

It is not too late to start making wiser decisions. You can have a brighter future when you make beneficial decisions now.

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P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

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5 Ways to Tell You’re Headed in the Right Direction in Life

2022-03-09 ~ adminlife

People tend to wonder if their life is headed in the right direction when things aren’t going well for them. That presupposes that people enjoy a sense of ease when life goes well for them. They don’t feel the need to question their life when things are going well.

They flow with events and don’t hesitate because things work.

A life without direction is like a ship without a rudder. If rudderless ships can go in circles, then who’s to say people won’t follow the same journey?

But whether you’re steering a little or a lot in life, some key indicators tell you without a doubt that you have the right direction.

How can you tell your life is in the right direction? Here are five signs:

Things fall in place for you. When you’re going in the right direction, it seems as if the universe is sending you everything you need to get to your destination.

- People come into your life at just the right moment, opportunities come your way, and you get accepted to programs or schools that you never thought you’d ever be able to join. Sometimes, these coincidences even look kind of magical.

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Things that happened in the past don’t bother you anymore. Significant life changes can make us feel like giving up on our dreams. Losing a job or breaking off a relationship can be enough to make us feel like we’ve made the worst mistakes of our lives.

- But when you’re heading in the right direction in life, the past doesn’t bother you anymore. You feel like the mess of your life was worth it, even if it took years for you to perceive it that way.
- Things that don’t interfere with your life don’t seem to matter to you. And old grudges create no pain at all. You easily let go.

You don’t let setbacks hold you back. You bounce back quickly from failure or rejection. You keep going, even when it seems like everyone else has given up.

- Life will have its ups and downs. The difference is, you don’t get tied down with the emotional turmoil of setbacks. Instead, you learn from them and carry on for the good times ahead!

What other people say bothers you less. It bothered you when your friends would tell you that you were making a mistake. But now you don’t care what they think. You’re on your life path, and you expect to find like-minded people there.

- When you’re on the right track, you don’t feel a strong desire to seek others’ approval. You don’t strive to receive confirmation from others to ascertain the validity of your actions.
- You may allow feedback from others, but you’re not overly interested in their opinions and preferences. You are more invested in what you know works and what feels right to you, and you’re more confident in your choices and decisions.
- You are likely to take more risks and adopt more unconventional approaches to pursue your dreams. You strive to be deliberate in your pursuit of success instead of simply reacting to the circumstances in your life.

You tend to build things up instead of destroying them. When your life is in the right direction, you experience a more significant presence and intensity to your purpose. You dream bigger and bolder, pursuing those dreams with more enthusiasm and desperation.

- You are more comfortable owning up to your failure and figuring out what to do next.

When people make significant changes in their lives, they often resort to nitpicking their flaws to grow at a faster pace. They scour their past and scrutinize everything they have ever done in hopes of finding something to apologize for or second-guess. But when you’re on the right track, you don’t need to second-guess yourself.

You simply plow forward, focused on what’s in front of you and on growing closer toward your goals. It’s the pursuit of your purpose—not your perfection—that matters most. And that’s precisely how you know you’ve gone in the right direction.

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Don’t Forget to Declutter Your Mind

2022-01-02 ~ adminlife

One of the things you notice when you start decluttering is how so much of the clutter in your house reflects the clutter in your mind. If you’re hanging onto to clothes that don’t fit, or the ugly vase your mother gave you for Christmas or the exercise bike you might get around to using, you don’t just have a problem with too much stuff. You have a problem letting go. Chances are you’re also hanging onto a whole bunch of bad feelings, ill-founded assumptions, old grievances and future worries.

If it feels good to declutter your house, it feels even better to declutter your mind. Here are some useful expert tips to make some space in your mind.

Use some meditation techniques

You don’t have to do the full sitting on a cushion in a darkened room thing to benefit from meditation techniques. If you’re feeling overwound, some simple breathing techniques can help you calm down and focus. For a few minutes, focus only on your breathing and nothing else. If your mind wanders or gets back into the worrying groove, you must put that aside and come back to focus on your breath.

Write it down

It can help to write down anything that’s on your mind. Once all those worries are down on paper, you can prioritize them and work out a plan to deal with them. You can also assess them to identify what’s essential and what isn’t. When you can see what’s important, you can focus your energy and free up some of that mental space!

Stay in the present

Brooding over the past and worrying about the future take up a lot of space in your mind and achieve precisely nothing. Let go of regret over past mistakes or resentment of past slights and move on. Keep your focus on what you can influence right here, right now.

Do one thing at a time

Multitasking is not only overrated (it’s very inefficient), it also leads to greater anxiety, and you never do any one thing properly. Focus on doing things methodically and thoroughly. As you finish one task, move onto the next.

Control all the incoming data

We talk about being available 24/7 and the 24-hour news cycle, but there is only one person who can control that. You. You can choose to switch off your computer, smartphone, and tv and control the amount of data your brain is trying to process.

Decluttering your mind will pay off in all sorts of ways you hadn’t imagined. You will be more productive, less stressed and more motivated.

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To your success

Michael

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Learn to Achieve More, Even When You’re Unmotivated

2021-12-22 ~ adminlife

Motivation can be an issue for many of us. While motivation is great, there are many things in our lives that need to be done, regardless of whether motivation is there to propel us. Most of us need to go to work, brush our teeth, pay our bills, and more. It really doesn’t matter whether we’re motivated. These things still have to be done.

Unfortunately, the tasks listed above are usually done from a place of negative motivation. We do them because the consequence of not doing them is so uncomfortable. But it works.

However, negative motivation usually won’t work when there isn’t an immediate negative consequence. For example, it’s easy to put off exercising and to sit on the couch instead.

What’s important is to create a system that makes your challenging activities more appealing. It’s also important to make it easy to get started. Thinking too much makes it easy to talk yourself out of taking action.

Try this system to achieve more of what you want, regardless of your motivation:

Accept the fact that you might not “feel” like taking action. The best athletes in the world don’t always feel like training. The most successful business people in the world don’t always feel like going to the office.
Create a compelling future. Think about how much you’ll gain by taking action and moving toward your goals.

- Think far into the future and then bring it back to the next few months. Imagine how great it will feel when you’re really making significant progress.

Consider what will happen if you don’t take action. Most of us keep living the same day over and over. If you want your life to change, it will take some new actions.

- Imagine how you’ll feel if your life is exactly the same next year.

Make a list of the most important actions. What activities will create the greatest results? Frequently, these are the actions that are less than enjoyable. But if you can get yourself to do these things, nothing can stop you.
Create a schedule. What are you going to do each day to make your compelling future come true? When are you going to do the activities you identified in the previous step? During what part of the day are you the most productive? Make it easy to get started.
Reward yourself. When you successfully stick to your schedule, reward yourself. You could go get a massage at the end of the week or head out to your favourite restaurant. Choose something that appeals to you and makes you want to get busy.
“Punish” yourself. Create some additional motivation by setting up a punishment if you come up short. Maybe you’ll have to clean all the toilets in the house. Maybe you’ll go run a mile.
Re-evaluate at the end of the day. What did you do well? What could you have done better? Start over tomorrow with your analysis to guide you.

Motivation is great, but if we all waited to be inspired by motivation, little would ever get accomplished. Commitment will usually result in greater accomplishment than motivation. Learn to get started and be “self-motivating.” All anyone really needs is to get busy. Avoid waiting for inspiration. Get things done and your success can serve as inspiration.

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Michael

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8 Reasons Why Getting Started is So Critical

2021-12-19 ~ adminlife

Did you ever have dreams of a project that you really wanted to do, but you just never got around to it?

For example, what if you always wanted to write a book? But then life always got in the way and you kept putting it off and putting it off and putting it off again. Every time you thought about it, you found a reason not to get started on it.

How might your life be different now if you had just taken action – taken that first step – gotten started on your masterpiece?

Do you see something familiar in projects you always wanted to do? Even with the best plans, nothing happens until you actually get started!

Consider these reasons why being able to get started is a critical life skill:

Nothing actually happens until you get started. All the planning, scheming, and visualizing in the world won’t move the needle. At some point, you have to start doing something that will actually produce results. You don’t receive any results until you finally take action and begin.
Getting started can be challenging, but the progress builds with time. Once you begin, things start happening. As you continue, the magnitude of your results grows exponentially. But you have to get over the hump of getting started.
You learn while doing. Studying is good but learning on the job is better. You’ll never learn more about writing, internet marketing, sales, or playing the piano than you’ll learn by actually doing it.
Too much planning leads to inaction. It’s easy to fall into the trap of planning. The deeper you plan, the more detailed and tedious it becomes. You quickly reach a point where you can’t find a definitive answer because things become too vague as you look further and further out.
- Begin before you become trapped by your planning habit.
It makes the future easier. Getting started with something new becomes a habit. If you can get started today, the next project will be that much easier to start.
Your self-esteem will get a huge boost. We silently loathe ourselves when we procrastinate for too long. We know that we’re simply too scared to begin and to risk failure. You’ll be much more pleased with yourself after you get started.
You reach your goals faster. This seems obvious, but few people consider it. If you had started chasing your goal a year earlier, you’d be successful a year earlier, too.
You change how you see yourself. When you take action, you begin to see yourself as someone that takes action. This perception of yourself will eventually lead to creating a habit of getting started quickly.

Now that you see all these reasons why getting started is so important, you’ll likely want to get started on something! But how? Starting is often the hardest part!

To get yourself over that hump, break your project down into small, achievable steps. If those steps look too hard, break them down even further until you get to one small action you can take to get started.

Then do it! Take that one small action! You’ll be glad you did!

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To your success

Michael

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