Finding Your Drive and Ambition When None Is Present

2023-02-22 ~ adminlife

For success, critical components are drive and ambition. Successful people are constantly looking to improve themselves as well as their skills and their circumstances. When life is hard or things aren’t going as expected, a person needs to have a lot of drive and ambition to keep themselves working.

If you are bored and get discouraged easily by any obstacles, you may have no drive. You see little point in the struggles of life. You may even try to destroy yourself with drugs or alcohol or spend too much time watching television and never really accomplish anything of value.

Take control of your success

There are many things in your life that can hold you back from being successful.

Some are external and there isn’t much you can do about those. But the ones that do the most damage are the internal ones.

Your self-talk and limiting beliefs are the two main things that can hold you back.

You can try to fix these by yourself or you can work with a Life Coach.

This short video talks to these points and offers you a solution.

Self-talk video

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These may be examples of extreme cases of no drive and ambition, everyone loses motivation from time to time.

There are some things that you can do to regain your motivation and help to increase your drive.

Develop a growth mindset. If you have a growth mindset, you believe that with time, effort and practice you can grow. If you have a fixed mindset, you think that you are limited and can’t grow or change even with hard work and practice.

Reading books and articles about successful people and how they overcame the obstacles confronting them can help you to build a growth mindset.
Even if you make mistakes and are criticized you can still practice thinking positively about yourself.
Your motivation can be boosted with a growth mindset which helps you improve with time and effort and practice.

Don’t procrastinate. For many people, a major cause of low motivation or a lack of success is procrastination. You may have some tasks that you put off because you dread doing them. Procrastination is self-destructive. It stops you from seeing the opportunities to achieve your life goals.

You can stop procrastinating by writing down all of the tasks you want to achieve and then rank them. Start with the highest priority task. Before moving on, complete the first task. Keep doing this until all of your priority tasks for the day are completed.
To get yourself started if you are finding it difficult, set a timer for 20 minutes. You then start on the highest priority task.
When you feel motivated, you will feel a lot less stressed about accomplishing your goals.

Thinking you are motivated. It seems counterintuitive to artificially create motivation since it is a feeling. This could be through wearing clothes that boost your confidence or listening to motivational music before an important meeting.

Thinking that motivation is a feeling may enable you to trick yourself into behaving motivated. This can boost how you feel so that can be more productive and driven.

Think of why you are struggling. If you are lacking motivation, you may spend more time focusing on why you can’t do something instead of why you can succeed.

If you feel unmotivated to exercise, you could be telling yourself that after work, you have no energy, so you shouldn’t bother as you wouldn’t enjoy it anyway.
You believe that you shouldn’t work out as there is no point since you won’t enjoy it.
You should reframe the situation. Think about the reasons you should work out even though you don’t feel motivated right now. Exercise has always helped you to think and your results have always been positive. You need to push yourself to get yourself to the gym.

To be successful in life you need drive and ambition. Like most of us, you have trouble maintaining a high level of these two attributes.

You can increase your productivity and bring your dreams to life. You can do this by cultivating your growth mindset. You also can trick yourself into being motivated and avoid procrastinating. Think of the counterintuitive arguments for your poor motivation as well.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 45-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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Why Other People Stop You From Being Successful

2022-12-28 ~ adminlife

There will be people who try to stop you from making changes in your life. Some may believe that they are actually trying to help you because they want you to stay as you are. This means that they feel comfortable because they are not improving themselves.

If you want to succeed, it can be very frustrating to find out that a lot of people are not actually on your side. You have to manage this if you do want to succeed.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts atThese are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

How others can derail your path to success.

Your past failures are always mentioned. In the past, we have all failed. In an attempt to sabotage your success efforts, these people will bring up those past failures.

- Your goal is to climb all of the 14,000+ high peaks in the US. A friend may remind you that at a past summer camp you couldn’t climb the 2,000 foot peak. They may tell you that you should change your goal to something more reasonable.

They want you to feel guilty. Another weapon they use is to make you feel guilty. Using the mountain climbing goal, they may tell you that travelling is expensive and you should save the money for your child’s education. They could also tell you to spend the time required with your family.

Distraction. They may tell you that you should take a vacation with them and forget the mountains.

These are the least devious ways that the people try to sabotage your efforts. Why do they do this? They may present it as a way that is supportive even though it is not.

Why do those people close to you sabotage your efforts toward success?

They are comfortable with being mediocre. They have to deal with the facts that they have not done something amazing like you. This makes them feel that they are life losers. It is a lot easier to hold you back than to deal with their own fear, insecurity and laziness.

They are jealous. Some people are jealous of your success. Others may be happy to see you achieve success, like winning a lottery or lose weight. People will try to stop you and if they can’t stop you they will try to make your success feel diminished.

They may say that they could lose weight if they had as much free time as you do.

They don’t like changes. People are getting something from you or else they wouldn’t associate with you. Any changes you make threatens the status quo. If you change and become something different what does that leave them.

If you stay the same, it is easier for them.

What you need to do, in the face of all of these objections is to commit yourself to bring successful. You may want to remove the worst of the offenders from your life. Life is difficult enough without having your own friends and family trying to make it even more difficult.

Make sure that you commit to your goals for the right reason. Achieving them to impress others is a shallow reason. You have to do it for yourself.

You should consider keeping your bigger goals to yourself so that you. Will get less push back and resistance from others. You don’t have to wait for the approval of others, just choose what is best for you and go after it.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S You can get a free for life subscription to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

This free offer expires on January 1^st 2023. After that there will be monthly subscription fee.

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New habits to keep you motivated

2022-11-16 ~ adminlife

Your success or failure in life will be determined by your habits. Your habits will dictate a lot about your life. You can for instance, expect to have physical consequences if you eat too much and don’t exercise. You reach your fullest potential when you form good habits.

You can also stay motivated to reach your goals with these good habits you are developing.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Here are some good habits to develop.

Stay healthy and take care of yourself. When you are sick you know that it is difficult to be productive or even to keep a positive attitude. You must take care of your health. Your energy levels and your productivity are affected when you are overweight. When you develop healthy habits and go to the gym a bit more and modify your meal plan, this can help you to stay motivated longer because you are feeling better about your body. When you have improved health, you are in a win-win situation.

Review your reason why. You have an initial rush of enthusiasm for the project when you initially set the goal. Over time, this enthusiasm is reduced. You need to develop a habit that will let you review your goal to bring your motivation level higher. This could be setting up a monthly review of your goal.

Keep being proactive. You get a dopamine rush when you get the jump on things with the right habit. Your habit can be arriving early or letting you think ahead on a project. Keeping a list of what you need to do in a task will keep you ahead of the game and on task.

Watch the small stuff. If your goal is large, like losing a lot of weight, you can lose your motivation when it looks like your progress has stalled. By having small goals that you can celebrate, you can build up your motivation. For the weight loss goal, the smaller goals could be eating a little differently or taking the stairs.

Be around motivational people. Choose your company carefully so that this can be an easy habit to build. You could meet with these people regularly to keep you motivated and build up the relationships.

Staying on track to achieve your goals is easier with good habits. Motivation will be an automatic part of your life when you create the habit and do it often enough.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S You can get a free for life subscription to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

This free offer expires on January 1^st 2023. After that there will be monthly subscription fee.

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Get What You Want Using Visualization

2022-10-19 ~ adminlife

How do you intend to get what you want out of your life?

You probably have many wants, some simple like losing a small amount of weight, while others may be a lot more complex, like changing careers. You can use the same techniques whether you have large or small goals.

The technique is visualize what you want. You need to picture, in detail, in your mind your goal so that you can manifest this change. Doing this may look and sound difficult, but it is fairly easy. There really are only five simple steps to follow.

Get fully engaged in the vision. You have to be fully engaged in the vision and put yourself into it as much as possible. This involves using all of your emotions so that you can experience the vision that makes it real to you. You can’t hold back.

Use different point of view. How does this visualization feel? First connect the emotions to the actions by experiencing it as yourself. Feel every part of the visualization. After, step back and watch it as though you were watching yourself in a movie. Doing this will enable you to see some details you might have missed.

Live your success. You now need to start to live your success after you have done the visualization. You have to behave, think, move and act like the person at the end of your vision.

The message needs to be reinforced. To be successful, your visualization needs back-up. The world is full of negative influences that can take root in your mind. By keeping your self-talk positive and using affirmations, you will be constantly reinforcing your vision of success instead of destroying it.

Make your vision real to you. Create a vision board or some other method to remind yourself of your vision. Put this somewhere where you will be constantly reminded of the experiences you felt when you visualized. Your resolve to achieve your goals will be reinforced by seeing the board over and over.

When you follow these steps, your dream will be becoming a lot more solid. There is work required to actually achieve what you want. You do get a clear idea of where you want to be and the path to take when you visualize.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

P.S You can get a free for life subscription to my new biweekly newsletter: “Helping You to Live A Better Life” by visiting and registering at Newsletter.

This free offer expires on January 1^st 2023. After that there will be monthly subscription fee.

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Build Your Success Desire

2022-07-21 ~ adminlife

Everyone has a different idea of what success is and this means that the strategy that you choose to achieve your success will be different from someone else’s. The process that you use may also differ depending on your success definition. This could mean a successful career or a good salary.

If your version of success is only related to your professional achievements, you may leave other areas of your life to chance. These areas could be family life, sports and athletics, school and learning and your relationships.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Even though your definition of success may be different, it is likely that you will feel successful when you have feelings of fulfillment, safety, health and being loved.

But what is success? This is your ability to achieve your goals, no matter what type of goal you set.

If you are struggling to achieve the important personal things, you may also struggle to find fulfillment. When you feel that you are lacking in any of the areas mentioned, you will likely feel that you are not as successful as you want to be. This can lead to your success desire to falter.

There are methods that you can use to build a more powerful desire for success.

Develop your growth mindset. The idea that your abilities are related to your choices and effort is your growth mindset. You have specific skills but you also see that you can make improvements to those skills.

If you have a fixed mindset, you believe that your skills can not be improved, it is impossible to learn new skills or improve your old ones. People with a growth mindset will achieve more success than those people that have a fixed mindset.

Emotional Intelligence increase. The ability to identify, understand and to manage your own emotions is Emotional Intelligence. You are also sensitive to the feelings of other people in your life and are effective at managing relationships.

If you are still thinking that you are not achieving success but your EI is high, you probably have self-defeating thoughts and beliefs. They could be putting limits on your options to achieve success.
To achieve more success in life, you have to pay attention to your emotions. You also need to learn how to manage them.

Commit to your goals publicly. You create a sense of accountability when the public knows your plan. You will feel a commitment to follow through and it will be more difficult to give up.

If you want to succeed, your family, friends and colleagues must know about your goals and they also must want you to succeed.
If you have to give up a habit to succeed, they will need to stop you from relapsing.

Encourage yourself and keep positive. You can be your own worst enemy. We are our harshest critics and this can make you give up without even trying. Your past failures and other negative thinking can make you believe that you cannot succeed.

If you have experienced this, get rid of the thought and use positive affirmations to encourage you. Things like “I am capable” or whatever appeals to you. It isn’t necessary to say them daily but it does help you to stay motivated.

Focus on your known strengths. Successful people are successful, not because they are perfect but they can focus on their known strengths.

Many of these successful people will run their business with no knowledge of certain aspects of the company. They get help when they realize that they don’t have the necessary skills. When you use this approach, you can build a more powerful desire to achieve success.

These small, powerful steps are easy and can help you to establish a positive relationship towards success. Becoming the person you want to be can help you to find success.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach to remove your pain points, can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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