How Positive Delusions Can Help You to Reach Your Goals

2024-01-12 ~ adminlife

The Art of Overestimating

Picture this: You’re standing on the edge of a cliff, staring down at the sparkling blue ocean below. You’ve never dived off a cliff before, but you’ve seen others do it, and you’re convinced you can do it too. You’re not a professional diver, but you believe in your ability to pull it off. That’s a positive delusion.

You might be thinking, “Isn’t that just being overly optimistic or even self-deceptive?” Sure, you could see it that way. But the fascinating thing is, science backs up this seemingly irrational behaviour.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Research shows that people who overestimate their abilities, who dive headfirst into new endeavours with a ‘can-do’ attitude, actually perform better than those who approach the same tasks with a more realistic or pessimistic mindset.

So, if you believe you can nail that presentation, learn to play the guitar, or even dive off a cliff, you’re more likely to succeed than if you were filled with self-doubt.

The Magic of High Expectations

Here’s the deal. If you expect the best, you’re more likely to roll up your sleeves and get stuck into learning that new skill. With high expectations – even unrealistically high ones – you’re boosting your chances of success.

Doesn’t that sound like a good deal?

Let’s look at some ways you can harness the power of positive delusions to your advantage:

Positive delusions kindle hope. When you tell yourself, “I can do this. Things will get better,” you fuel the hope needed to keep going. Yes, there’s a chance things might not improve, but if you believe they will, you’re stacking the odds in your favour.
- If you were a pessimist, you’d be stuck in a rut, right? Would that make you more likely to succeed?
High expectations spur action. Whether you’re keen to learn salsa or start a conversation with someone you fancy, you can only take the first step if you believe something good will come of it.
- Would you be as motivated if you expected failure?
Remember, we all harbour delusions. Our understanding and interpretation of past experiences are far from perfect. Much of what we believe to be true is, in fact, a delusion. So why not make it a positive one?
Curb your negative self-talk. Negativity is a dream killer. It squashes your spirit, motivation, and future prospects. Don’t let it gain momentum. The moment it rears its ugly head, shift your focus.
Envision your future self. Think about your goals and the person you need to become to achieve them. What qualities do you need to cultivate? Now, visualize yourself already possessing those traits.
Visualize success. Picture yourself overcoming every hurdle and achieving your goals with confidence. This is one of the most effective ways to use positive delusions to your advantage.
Believe in the power of positive delusions. Being practical and realistic has its place, but it can also be limiting. Overestimating your abilities and being optimistic can yield incredible results in the long run.

There’s a time and place for realism, but it might not be as frequent as you think. Overestimating your abilities and the likelihood of your success can significantly improve your results.

So, why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt more often and see how it transforms your life? If it doesn’t work out, you can always revert to your old ways.

Choose what works over what makes logical sense. Conduct an optimism experiment on yourself and see the results. You might just surprise yourself.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. I am offering a free, no obligation Wheel of Life consulting and exercise session for three people each day. You can book the session at https://calendly.com/michael-coach/focused-program-45-minute

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15 Distractions You Can’t Afford When Chasing Big Dreams

2024-01-03 ~ adminlife

I’m going to give you a bit of a reality check. When it comes to chasing big dreams, it’s not just about the hustle and grind. It’s also about what you’re willing to give up. You see, the road to success is paved with sacrifices. It’s about cutting out the fluff and focusing on what truly matters. Let’s dive into it, shall we?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

The Great Distractions

Worrying about what you can’t control. Seriously, what’s the point? It’s like trying to hold back the ocean with a broom. It’s not going to happen, so why waste your energy?
Fretting over others’ opinions. Newsflash: People aren’t thinking about you as much as you think they are. Don’t let their opinions derail your journey.
Wasting time. Time is your most precious resource. Don’t squander it on trivialities. You wouldn’t throw your money down the drain, so why would you do the same with your time?
Internet surfing. It’s a vast, endless ocean out there. Before you know it, you’ve wasted hours watching a cat playing the piano. Is that really the best use of your time?
It’s a black hole of productivity. Many successful people don’t even own one. Maybe it’s time to consider doing the same?
Playing on your smartphone. It’s a pocket-sized distraction device. Try going a day without it. You might be surprised at how much time you’ve been wasting.
Engaging in world noise. Arguing about politics or the latest celebrity scandal isn’t going to get you closer to your goals. Keep your eyes on the prize.
Taking the easy way out. The path of least resistance rarely leads to success. Do the hard things. They’re usually the most rewarding.
Fear of failure. Failure isn’t fatal. It’s a stepping stone. Embrace it, learn from it, and keep moving forward.
Listening to naysayers. If you wouldn’t trade places with them, why would you listen to their advice? Surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you.
Trying to please everyone. It’s an impossible task. You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay.
It’s the thief of time. Don’t let it rob you of your dreams.
Letting emotions rule. Emotions are like the weather, they change. Don’t let them dictate your actions. Stick to your plan.
Repeating mistakes. It’s like banging your head against a brick wall. Learn, adjust, and avoid making the same mistakes.
Chasing pleasure instead of progress. Instant gratification is a trap. It feels good in the moment, but it won’t get you closer to your goals.

The Bottom Line

Achieving big dreams isn’t just about the hustle. It’s about what you’re willing to give up. Look at how the average Joe squanders his time and steer clear of those pitfalls. Remember, you don’t have time for unsupportive behaviours when you’re aiming for the stars!

So, what are you waiting for? Let’s get out there and make those dreams a reality!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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9 Things Mentally Strong People Do That Mentally Weak People Don’t

2023-12-20 ~ adminlife

The Distinctive Traits of Mentally Resilient Individuals

The human species is diverse and can be categorized in numerous ways. One such categorization is based on mental strength. We all know people who are mentally strong, and those who are not. But have you ever contemplated the actual disparities between these two groups? The differences are tangible and significant.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Mentally resilient individuals consistently exhibit certain behaviours that their less resilient counterparts often fail to demonstrate. This article will explore these behaviours and offer insights into how you can cultivate mental resilience.

Key Behaviours Exhibited by Mentally Resilient Individuals

Initiation: Mentally resilient individuals excel at initiating tasks. They are assertive starters. Conversely, mentally fragile individuals often excel at planning but falter when it comes to taking the first step towards action.
Completion: Initiating a task is only part of the challenge. Mentally resilient individuals are also adept at seeing tasks through to completion. If you find yourself consistently giving up before completing significant tasks, it could be an indication that you need to build mental resilience.
Tackling Difficult Tasks: Success often requires undertaking challenging tasks. These tasks might necessitate multiple attempts, acquiring new knowledge, or stepping outside one’s comfort zone. Mentally fragile individuals often shirk from such tasks.
Embracing Change: Mentally resilient individuals leverage change for growth and progress. In contrast, mentally fragile individuals either resist change or are paralyzed by it.
Risk-Taking: Mentally resilient individuals are adept at striking a balance between taking calculated risks and avoiding reckless behaviour. Mentally fragile individuals, on the other hand, either succumb to impulsive tendencies and risk excessively or are overly cautious.
Celebrating Others’ Success: Mentally resilient individuals are comfortable with, or even celebrate, the success of others. Conversely, mentally fragile individuals often harbour resentment or jealousy towards successful individuals.
Perseverance: Mentally resilient individuals persist until they achieve their goals. Mentally fragile individuals, however, often give up too quickly and easily to achieve substantial success.
Assertiveness: Mentally resilient individuals have the ability to assertively decline requests that divert them from their goals. They can say “no” without remorse or regret.
Delayed Gratification: The most successful individuals can delay gratification for extended periods. The inability to delay gratification is a significant weakness. If you need immediate rewards, you may struggle to accomplish significant goals.

Mentally resilient individuals are more effective at overcoming obstacles, staying focused on their goals, and leveraging change to their advantage. They accomplish more and are generally more successful. In essence, they are willing to do what mentally fragile individuals are not.

Examine the list above and assess your mental resilience. You can develop mental toughness, and as your resilience improves, so will your life outcomes.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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6 Deep Questions to Help You Understand Why You’re Stuck

2023-12-13 ~ adminlife

Discovering the Roots of Your Stagnation

Feeling stuck is like being in a pitch-black pit. You’re yearning to scramble out, but there’s no sign of a rope or a ladder. Fear, anxiety, and confusion creep in, overwhelming you. The world keeps spinning, but you’re stuck in a standstill.

You’re aware you need to escape this rut, but the urge to maintain the status quo seems to have you in a vice-like grip.

But don’t worry Here are six thought-provoking questions to help you understand why you’re feeling stuck and how to break free:

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Am I Setting the Bar Too High?

Take a step back and reassess your expectations. Nobody’s perfect, and expecting to be can set you up for disappointment. Comparing yourself to others or setting unrealistic expectations can rob you of your happiness, leaving you feeling inadequate and stuck in a rut.

What Are My Goals?

Living aimlessly is a surefire way to feel stuck. Without a sense of direction, you’re bound to feel lost. But remember, when you’re at the bottom, the only way is up.

How do you get there? Try creating a vision board. Fill it with images and words that inspire you. Jot down your goals, big or small. This visual representation of your aspirations can make them feel more attainable.

How Much Time Do I Dedicate to Self-Improvement?

Are you stuck because you’re not making an effort to expand your horizons? There’s always something new to learn. Think about how much time you spend scrolling through social media. Imagine if you used that time to read a book, learn a new skill, or pick up a hobby. Choose one thing to improve upon and stick with it. You’ll be amazed at the progress you make.

Are My Friends Motivating Me?

The company we keep can significantly impact our lives. Expanding your social circle can open up new opportunities and perspectives. Look at your vision board and pick a goal. Try to connect with someone who shares that goal or can introduce you to others who do. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people can be a powerful motivator.

How Willing Am I to Step Out of My Comfort Zone?

When was the last time you did something that excited you? Sometimes a change of scenery can do wonders. We often feel stuck because we’re too comfortable with our current circumstances. So, shake things up a bit. Apply for that job, put yourself out there, or take that trip you’ve been dreaming of. If that’s not feasible, try something new or spontaneous. It can be a refreshing break from the monotony.

Do I Show Gratitude for the Things I Enjoy?

Keeping a gratitude list can be incredibly beneficial. Jot down the things you’re thankful for, no matter how small. This practice can help you find the silver linings in your life, those tiny sparks of light that brighten up your darkest days.

You’re Not Stuck, You’re Just Preparing to Soar

Remember, feeling stuck doesn’t mean you are. You’re the master of your destiny. Take action, no matter how small, and you’ll see that you’re not stuck, you’re just preparing to soar.

Discover your true desires and start working towards them. The more you try, the more likely you’ll find your place in this world.

Remember, you’re not stuck; you’re just getting started!

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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Mastering Goals, Nixing Temptation, and Tackling Biases

2023-12-04 ~ adminlife

Today I want to give you some information on how to make better decisions and live a more fulfilling life. We will look into the importance of long-term goals, the power of removing temptation, and the need to address biases in decision-making.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize

Imagine you’re at a crossroads. One path leads to a fast-food joint, the other to a health food store. You’re hungry, and that burger and fries are calling your name. But remember, you’ve got a long-term goal in mind: getting fit. So, you march on to the health food store, picking up some fresh veggies and lean protein. This, my friend, is the power of keeping your long-term goal at the forefront of your decision-making process.

Sure, it’s tough. There will be challenges, obstacles, and a whole lot of temptation. But keeping your eye on the prize can help you navigate these hurdles, making choices that align with your goals, and ultimately, leading to a more successful and fulfilling life.

Temptation Be Gone!

Let’s talk about temptation. It’s like that pesky mosquito buzzing in your ear, constantly testing your resolve. But what if I told you there’s a way to swat that mosquito away for good?

Instead of summoning all your willpower to resist that tub of ice cream in the fridge, why not just remove it altogether? Out of sight, out of mind, right? By making it harder to give in to temptation, you’ll be more likely to make healthier choices.

This isn’t just about diet, though. It applies to all aspects of life, from sticking to a workout routine to making sound financial decisions. Plus, it’s a lot easier on your mental well-being. After all, who needs the added stress of constantly resisting temptation?

The Courage to Make Smart Choices

Now that we’ve tackled temptation, let’s talk about making smart decisions. It’s not just about avoiding the bad; it’s also about actively choosing the good.

Here’s a roadmap to help you out:

Develop self-awareness.
Set clear goals and priorities.
Create a plan of action.
Build a support system.
Practice self-discipline.
Learn from mistakes.
Celebrate successes.

By following these steps, you’ll be well on your way to leading a more courageous and fulfilling life.

Confronting Your Biases

We all have biases. They’re like those invisible strings that subtly pull us in certain directions, often leading us to make decisions based on convenience rather than what’s truly right.

The key is to recognize these biases and confront them head-on. Strip away the excuses, spend more time pondering your decisions, and remember that the right choice isn’t always the easy one.

Wrapping It Up

In the grand scheme of life, focusing on your long-term goals, nixing temptation, and addressing your biases are the golden tickets to making better decisions.

So, are you ready to win at life?

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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