Write the doubt down

Write the doubt down

 

How often have you found yourself lost in a swirl of negative thoughts, unsure of how to escape? One of the best ways to start clearing your mind is to write those thoughts down. Journaling your doubts might sound like a simple exercise, but it can be incredibly effective in helping you confront and overcome the doubts that hold you back. When you put your thoughts on paper, you create a physical space where you can examine them more objectively, helping you understand the patterns and triggers that fuel your self-doubt.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.


The act of writing down your doubts does more than just get them out of your head—it allows you to externalize them, making it easier to assess whether they are rational or simply a result of fear. Self-doubt often thrives in the chaos of our minds, where it can grow unchecked. But when you write your doubts down, you force them into the light, making them more tangible and less intimidating. It’s like turning on a light in a dark room; suddenly, those shadowy fears lose their power over you.

Moreover, journaling helps you identify patterns in your thinking. You might notice that certain situations or people trigger your self-doubt more than others. Perhaps every time you’re about to start a new project, you’re plagued by the same fear of failure. Or maybe there’s a particular person whose criticism always makes you question your abilities. By recognizing these patterns, you can start to anticipate when self-doubt might arise and prepare yourself to counter it.

Journaling also provides a space for reflection. Once you’ve written down your doubts, you can revisit them later with a clearer mind. This can be particularly enlightening because it allows you to see how your perspective might have changed over time. What seemed like an insurmountable challenge a few weeks ago might now appear more manageable. This process of reflection helps you build confidence, as you begin to see how you’ve grown and overcome similar doubts in the past.

Actionable Step: Start by setting aside a few minutes each day to journal about your thoughts and feelings, especially when you notice self-doubt creeping in. Don’t worry about writing perfectly or making sense of everything immediately. The goal is simply to get your doubts out of your head and onto paper. As you write, try to identify any recurring themes or triggers. Over time, you’ll start to see patterns emerge. Once you’ve identified these, think about how you can address them. For example, if you notice that you doubt yourself most when taking on new challenges, you might try reminding yourself of past successes in similar situations. This way, your journal becomes not just a record of your thoughts but also a tool for overcoming the very doubts you’re writing about.

Writing down your doubts is more than just a therapeutic exercise; it’s a practical strategy for managing and reducing self-doubt. It helps you take control of your thoughts, turning them from abstract fears into concrete problems that you can address. This practice can be incredibly empowering, as it allows you to see your doubts for what they really are—temporary and often irrational thoughts that do not have to dictate your actions or your future.

When you make journaling a regular habit, you create a safe space where you can explore your thoughts without judgment. This can be especially valuable during times of stress or uncertainty when self-doubt is likely to be at its peak. By taking the time to write down your doubts, you give yourself the opportunity to process them in a way that’s both constructive and empowering. Over time, this practice can help you build resilience, making it easier to face future challenges with confidence and clarity.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Book the call now buttonDon’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life. 

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) 

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

 

 

 

 

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Talk it out with your support network

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Have you ever found yourself burdened by a problem that seemed too heavy to carry on your own? It’s during these moments that talking it out with a friend can make all the difference. Self-doubt can be isolating, but sharing your thoughts with someone you trust can help lighten the load and offer a fresh perspective. Sometimes, all you need is a caring ear and some reassurance to help you see things more clearly and regain your confidence.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


When you’re caught in the throes of self-doubt, your mind can become a maze of worries and fears. These thoughts can spiral, making it difficult to see a way out. But when you talk to a friend, you bring those thoughts out into the open, where they can be examined more objectively. Friends often have the ability to see things we can’t, offering insights or encouragement that can break the cycle of doubt.

A trusted friend can offer a different perspective, one that’s not clouded by your own fears or insecurities. They can remind you of your strengths, achievements, and the times when you’ve overcome similar challenges in the past. This can be incredibly reassuring, especially when you’re struggling to see your own capabilities clearly. Sometimes, just hearing someone else say, “You’ve got this,” is enough to push self-doubt aside and motivate you to take action.

Beyond offering perspective, talking with a friend also allows you to release the tension that self-doubt creates. Keeping your doubts bottled up can make them feel bigger and more overwhelming. But when you talk about them, you often realize they’re not as insurmountable as they seemed. The simple act of voicing your concerns can make them feel more manageable. It’s as if saying them out loud diminishes their power over you.

Moreover, friends can offer practical advice or solutions that you might not have considered. When you’re deep in self-doubt, it can be hard to think clearly or come up with strategies to move forward. A friend, however, can offer suggestions, share their own experiences, or even help you brainstorm ways to tackle the issue at hand. This collaborative approach not only helps you find solutions but also reinforces the idea that you don’t have to face challenges alone.

Actionable Step: The next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by self-doubt, reach out to a trusted friend or confidant. Start by explaining what’s been on your mind and how it’s been affecting you. Be open and honest about your feelings, even if it feels uncomfortable. Then, listen to their feedback without dismissing it. Often, our first instinct is to downplay or reject positive feedback, but try to take in what they’re saying. If they offer advice or solutions, consider them carefully and think about how you might apply them to your situation. Remember, the goal is not just to vent, but to gain a fresh perspective and actionable insights that can help you move forward.

While it’s important to be self-reliant, there’s no shame in seeking support from those who care about you. In fact, asking for help when you need it is a sign of strength, not weakness. It shows that you’re proactive about managing your self-doubt and that you value the insights and experiences of others. Plus, these conversations often strengthen your relationships, as your friend will appreciate being trusted and valued.

It’s also worth noting that you don’t always need to wait until you’re feeling overwhelmed to talk to a friend. Regularly sharing your thoughts and feelings with those you trust can help you stay grounded and prevent self-doubt from building up in the first place. By maintaining open lines of communication, you create a support system that can help you navigate challenges as they arise, rather than dealing with them alone.

Talking it out with a friend is a powerful tool in the battle against self-doubt. It helps you gain clarity, receive support, and find practical solutions to the challenges you’re facing. So, the next time self-doubt starts to weigh you down, don’t hesitate to reach out. You might be surprised at how much lighter you feel after a good conversation with someone who genuinely cares about your well-being.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Book the call now buttonDon’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

 

 

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Seek A Moment of Solitude

solitude

Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed by a difficult situation, with so many voices in your head and around you that it’s impossible to think straight? When life throws you into chaos, it’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of opinions, advice, and emotions. But sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself is to step back and seek a moment of solitude.

In challenging times, it’s natural to reach out to others for advice and support. While this can be helpful, there’s also value in finding some quiet time to be alone with your thoughts. Solitude allows you to clear your mind, process your emotions, and reflect on the situation without external influences. It’s in these quiet moments that you can often find the clarity and inner strength needed to face your challenges head-on.


Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance


When you’re constantly surrounded by others, it can be hard to hear your own thoughts. People mean well, but their opinions and advice can sometimes add to the confusion rather than help you find a solution. This is especially true if the situation involves other people with strong opinions or if you’re dealing with conflicting advice from different sources. In these cases, solitude gives you the space to think things through on your own terms, without feeling pressured or overwhelmed by external input.

Taking a moment of solitude doesn’t mean isolating yourself completely or shutting out those who care about you. It’s about creating a space where you can reconnect with yourself and your own intuition. Often, the answers you’re looking for are already within you, but you need quiet and stillness to hear them. By stepping away from the noise and distractions, you can gain a fresh perspective on your situation and begin to see things more clearly.

Solitude also provides an opportunity for self-reflection. When you’re alone, you can take the time to examine your feelings and reactions to the situation. Are you feeling angry, sad, or scared? What are the underlying reasons for these emotions? By exploring these questions in a quiet space, you can gain a deeper understanding of your own emotional landscape, which can help you make more informed decisions about how to move forward.

In addition to emotional clarity, solitude can also be a source of inner strength. When you spend time alone, you give yourself the chance to recharge and build resilience. This is especially important during challenging times, when your energy and mental resources may be stretched thin. Solitude allows you to regroup, gather your thoughts, and prepare yourself for whatever lies ahead.

Actionable Step: If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a difficult situation, schedule some time for solitude. Find a quiet place where you can be alone, whether it’s a room in your home, a park, or even your car. Turn off your phone and other distractions, and spend at least 15-30 minutes simply sitting with your thoughts. Don’t force yourself to come up with solutions—just allow yourself to be present in the moment. Afterward, you might find that you feel calmer, more centred, and better equipped to tackle your challenges.

One common pitfall when seeking solitude is letting your mind race with worry and anxiety. This can turn what should be a peaceful moment into one filled with stress. To avoid this, try focusing on your breath or practising mindfulness during your time alone. Simply paying attention to your breathing or noticing the sensations in your body can help quiet your mind and bring you back to the present moment.

While solitude is valuable, it’s important to strike a balance. Too much time alone can lead to isolation and exacerbate feelings of loneliness or despair. The key is to use solitude as a tool for reflection and rejuvenation, not as an escape from the world. Once you’ve taken the time you need to think things through, you can re-engage with others, feeling more grounded and clear-headed.

In those quiet moments of solitude, you might discover insights or ideas that you hadn’t considered before. You might realize that a solution is within reach or that your situation isn’t as dire as it seemed. Or perhaps you’ll simply find a sense of peace that helps you move forward with more confidence and clarity. Whatever you discover, solitude can be a powerful ally in navigating life’s challenges.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Book the call now buttonDon’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P. P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

 

 

Photo by Tony Detroit on Unsplash

Achieving Balance: Essential Strategies

laptop and coffee

 

In the fast-paced corporate world, maintaining balance can often seem like an insurmountable challenge. However, achieving a harmonious lifestyle is not only possible but also crucial for sustained success and well-being. Here, we present six indispensable tips to help you create equilibrium in your professional and personal life.

Understanding Life Balance

First and foremost, it is essential to understand that balance does not mean allocating equal time to every aspect of your life. Instead, it is about recognizing when to exert more effort, when to step back, and when everything aligns perfectly.


As part of finding how balanced your life is, you should complete a Wheel of Life exercise. This exercise goes well with the “Finding Balance in Life articles” in the downloadable PDF that I am offering.

You can find the Wheel of Life exercise information and a downloadable Wheel of Life PDF at:

https://coachmichaelw.com/wheel-of-life/

There is a collection of articles “Finding Balance in Life” PDF collection available at:

https://coachmichaelw.com/sdm_downloads/finding-balance-in-life/


Six Tips for Creating Balance

  1. Prioritize Personal Time

Recognize your importance and value. Taking care of your happiness and mental health is a fundamental part of achieving a balanced life. Dedicate at least two hours each week solely to yourself.

  • Relaxation Activities: Consider taking a candlelit bubble bath with a glass of wine while catching up on your favourite literature. Alternatively, a serene walk in the park with your pet can help you unwind and achieve a state of relaxation.
  1. Commit to a Healthy Lifestyle

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle through regular exercise and a balanced diet is essential for both physical and mental well-being. Allocate 30 minutes each week for physical activity.

  • Healthy Eating: To avoid unhealthy temptations, refrain from bringing junk food into your home. This practice not only benefits your health but also sets a positive example for your children.
  1. Separate Work from Personal Life

Adhere to your work schedule and resist the temptation to bring work home. Your employer compensates you for a specific number of hours each day; respect that boundary.

  • Enhance Productivity: If you struggle to complete tasks within the allotted time, seek ways to improve your productivity. Should this prove ineffective, communicate with your employer about adjusting your workload or extending your work hours.
  1. Foster Romantic Relationships

Nurture your romantic relationship by making thoughtful gestures. Small acts of kindness, such as bringing home a scented candle or sending flowers, can reignite the spark.

  • Quality Time: Watching television together is insufficient. Arrange for the children to stay with relatives for a weekend and plan a romantic getaway. If budget constraints are a concern, a camping trip can offer an intimate and memorable experience.
  1. Live Within Your Means

Financial stress can significantly disrupt your balance. Reevaluate your budget and make necessary adjustments to achieve your financial goals.

  • Budget Adjustments: Eliminate non-essential expenses such as premium cable packages and expensive cell phone plans. Reduce your energy bill by lowering the thermostat and doing laundry during off-peak hours.
  1. Maintain Social Connections

Socializing with friends is vital for relaxation and mental health. Aim to meet with friends at least once a month, whether for dinner or a gathering at home.

  • Inclusive Socializing: If your spouse feels excluded, consider double dating to integrate them into your social circle.

Conclusion

An unbalanced lifestyle is a leading cause of stress among professionals, potentially resulting in health issues such as weight gain, migraines, and heart complications. By implementing these strategies, you can mitigate stress and cultivate a balanced life.

Empower yourself with these practices and experience the harmony of a well-balanced life.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Book the call now buttonDon’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S. The “Finding Balance in Life” articles PDF collection is available at:

https://coachmichaelw.com/sdm_downloads/finding-balance-in-life/

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

 

Photo by zeinab mazhari on Unsplash

 

The Key to Achieving Your Goals Could Be a Personal Contract

contract

 

We all have goals, big or small, that we strive to achieve. But how often do we find ourselves struggling to stay on track? Whether it’s sticking to a fitness routine, completing a long-term project or saving money, maintaining motivation can be a real challenge. What if the secret to staying motivated was as simple as writing down your commitment on a piece of paper? Believe it or not, creating a personal contract with yourself could be the game-changer you need.


Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.


The concept of writing a contract to yourself is more than just a motivational gimmick. It’s a psychological strategy that leverages commitment and accountability. When you write something down — especially in the form of a formal contract — you are making a tangible commitment to yourself. This isn’t just a casual note or a fleeting thought; it’s a serious promise that you’re less likely to break. The act of writing it down solidifies your intention, making it feel more real and binding.

There’s a psychological principle at play here called the “commitment effect.” When we commit to something, particularly in writing, we’re more likely to follow through because we don’t want to face the cognitive dissonance that comes from breaking that commitment. Cognitive dissonance is the uncomfortable feeling we get when our actions don’t align with our beliefs or commitments. By creating a contract, you’re essentially setting a psychological trap for yourself: your mind wants to avoid the discomfort of breaking a promise, so it pushes you to stay on track.

But why does this work? Part of the effectiveness of a personal contract comes from the sense of accountability it creates. While you might be able to justify breaking a verbal promise to yourself, it’s much harder to ignore a written contract. The act of writing it down makes it feel more official and harder to dismiss. Plus, if you include a penalty — like donating to charity if you fail to meet your goal — it adds an extra layer of motivation. The thought of losing something, whether it’s money or pride, can be a powerful motivator.

To get the most out of this strategy, it’s important to approach it seriously. Start by clearly defining your goal. Be specific about what you want to achieve and set a realistic deadline. For example, instead of vaguely stating, “I will get in shape,” write, “I will lose 10 pounds by November 30th by working out three times a week and eating a balanced diet.” The more specific you are, the easier it will be to measure your progress and hold yourself accountable.

Next, consider adding a consequence for not meeting your goal. This could be something like donating a certain amount of money to a cause you care about — or one you don’t care about, which might be even more motivating! The key is to make the consequence meaningful enough to motivate you but not so harsh that it becomes a source of stress.

Some people even take this a step further by sharing their contract with a friend or accountability partner. This adds an extra layer of accountability because now someone else knows about your commitment. The thought of having to explain to someone else why you didn’t meet your goal can be a powerful motivator to stay on track.

Actionable Step: Write a contract with yourself for one specific goal you want to achieve. Include a clear and measurable objective, a realistic deadline and a meaningful consequence if you don’t meet your goal. Consider sharing this contract with a trusted friend or colleague to increase your accountability.

By formalizing your goals in this way, you create a powerful tool for maintaining motivation. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of setting goals, but the real challenge lies in sticking with them over time. A personal contract serves as a constant reminder of what you’re working toward and why it matters.

In the end, staying motivated is about finding what works for you. While a contract might seem like a simple or even trivial thing, its impact can be profound. The next time you feel your motivation slipping, try putting pen to paper. You might be surprised at how much more committed and motivated you feel with a formal contract in place.


To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Book the call now buttonDon’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

Michael W

 

 

 

 

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

 

 

 

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