3 Tips to Increase Your Personal Power

2018-12-302018-12-30 ~ adminlife

Personal power is never fully developed. Like your body, it needs exercise. Not a couple of times a week. Instead, conscious training several times a day. To develop habits that ingrain beliefs, values and help you become at one with yourself. When you know yourself, value yourself and stay true to you, you’ll find meaningful purpose in all areas of life. At the core of the true you is the ability to bring the best out in those around you.

That’s the makings of a true leader. Leading from a place of wisdom and not using positional power alone.

You can have positional power and personal power, but you cannot be an effective leader without personal power. Nor do you need the positional power to be a driving force for good in your own life and those around you.

3 Tips to Boost Your Personal Power

1. Strive to learn more

Commit to consistent learning and be broad about the topics you study. Study life and attend seminars and workshops to build your expertise. Most important is to learn more about yourself continually. Try new things, experiment, take some risks and put yourself into situations that make you feel vulnerable. Go to the cinema after work instead of feeling the need to have drinks with your colleagues, just because you feel the need to fit in. Do what feels right by you.

2. Practice Mindful Gratitude

Practicing gratitude is among the most positive habits you can develop. Keeping a gratitude journal can serve you in multiple ways. You’ll feel better, sleep better, eat healthier, have stronger relationships with everyone important in your life, and you’ll feel happier for being grateful for everything you have surrounding you.

3. Own Your Authenticity

Authenticity is about being true to you. It is only possible when you have in-depth knowledge and know your strengths and weaknesses. You will begin to act with deliberate intentions that are in line with your moral compass. You will know your place and when to delegate and how to go about using your relationship skills to get people to do things for you that you know they’ll do a better job than you could if you were to try.

That’s where coming from a place of personal power to influence others will help push you toward reaching your goals faster, because you will have strong relationships with people who value your input, expertise, trust your credibility and will help you when you ask, without hesitation.

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Successful People Deal with Adversity

2018-12-242018-12-22 ~ adminlife

Did you know that successful people deal with adversity? It’s true. If you read the stories or profiles of most successful people, you will be surprised at just how adverse their situations were. They often tell the stories for others to learn and use to overcome adversity.

You should read the profiles of successful people. They contain gems of information and can act as a resource for everyone else. The story is one aspect of reading about them. However, how they dealt with the situations is often a source of inspiration. When you become inspired, you increase your chances of dealing with your problems.

Inspiration doesn’t last forever, unfortunately. You need to reinforce the message. If you can, try to set aside time to read one story of a successful person every month. It will help you with your inspiration, and it will feed ideas on how to use their stories to make your life easier or better.

The stories of some people are dated. However, their techniques may be timeless. A perfect example of this is Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. The stories themselves describe people and occupations of days long gone. But, his techniques are as valid today as they were back then.

You can read all about the stories of successful people and get inspired. But, if you don’t take action, it will be of little help to you. At that point, you become nothing more than a dreamer. Having dreams is good, but you need to make sure you take action on those dreams.

Reading the stories of successful people shows that they are just like the rest of us. There isn’t anything superhuman about them that led them to their successes. You will find a common theme among those facing adversity. They had persistence and kept a positive attitude. Those two attributes will take you far when facing any situation.

You can choose to read stories online or find material in your local library. You can also choose to find stories on the internet. Be careful of the resources you find online. Anyone can publish whatever they like and sound convincing on their authority. Make sure you check the resources and keep a critical eye out for people who don’t present qualified information.

When you get in the habit of reading material of successful people, you will shift to a successful mindset yourself. You will have a memory bank of stories to draw inspiration.

To your success

Michael W

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It’s Natural for People to Make Mistakes

2018-12-152018-12-10 ~ adminlife

Have you ever made a mistake? It’s not likely that you went as far in your life without making any mistakes. Most people (if not all) make them. Also, they will continue to make them. It’s part of the human experience.

Sometimes, people make mistakes that will put you in difficult positions. For instance, suppose you own a company and one of your workers mistakenly misrepresented your company. You know that your company is responsible for that misrepresentation. The person may not have known they made a mistake.

Your first reaction may be to fire the person. In some cases, you would be justified in doing so. However, did the person have the necessary knowledge to prevent him or her from misinforming others? If not, you need to consider that regarding the situation.

If people deliberately took adverse action, then that is a different situation. If they did know what they were doing, and they had malicious intent, then you are within your right to let them go. You should make sure that they were acting maliciously, however.

There are no easy answers when people make major mistakes. They may not be able to make it right, either. You will be left to deal with the consequences. It is easy to lash out at the person responsible. Of course, you should give them the opportunity to rectify it if they can.

The way some people deal with the situation of others making mistakes is to reflect on their own mistakes. This way, you can empathize with them. When that happens, you’ll be less likely to lash out at them and make the wrong decisions.

There are situations where people make the same mistakes repeatedly, even when you give them guidance on how not to make those mistakes. That is tough as these people may not be acting maliciously but may not have the ability to change. For instance, not everyone is cut out with their chosen vocations. In these situations, you need to weigh whether the mistakes they make have a serious impact. Even small impacts can add up when repeated.

When people make mistakes, and you forgive them, they will be appreciative. Many of these people will use your forgiveness as a means to grow. They become better people because of it. You will feel good knowing that these people have used the situation to their advantage.

To your success

Michael W

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Decisive Decision-making

2014-07-092014-07-07 ~ adminlife

“A weak man has doubts before a decision; a strong man has them afterwards.”

-Karl Kraus German philosopher (1781 – 1832)

If you want to be successful in today’s world you need to be able to make decisions easily and decisively.

The article below sets out some methods to make decisive decisions. A life coach can help you to overcome the problems that yo may have in this area of your life.

To discuss what a life coach can do for you and your motivation, and to schedule a session with Michael, use the contact form below.

Michael is a certified Life Optimization coach as well as a Law of Attraction and Law of Attraction Wealth coach.

Michael Wilkovesky

Success Demands Decisive Decisions – by Ken Keis

Every day we are all faced with numerous decisions. Some decisions are mundane, such what we are going to wear; other decisions are life-changing or life-threatening.

As a society we celebrate others’ abilities to make decisions quickly. Could you imagine having indecisive firefighters, police, doctors, and airline pilots? Of course not!

But every day, we meet individuals who not only frustrate us; they lose credibility with us when they can’t make a decision.

If you want to be successful and a leader individuals will follow and respect, you MUST have the quality and character of being decisive AND of making a decision, period. By the way, was that last statement written in a decisive manner?

Everyone reading this article is a leader. Yes, everyone! You are a leader at some level with someone. It could be at home as a significant other and/or parent. It could be at work, as a volunteer. And certainly, you are responsible for the leadership of your own life-fulfillment and your purpose. Your success is linked to your ability to make decisions. No exceptions!

In his classic book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill conducts analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced significant failure. Lack of decision was one of the major causes.

Procrastination, the opposite of decision, is something almost all of us must overcome.

And one more dynamic of decision-making must be mentioned:

“Successful individuals (everyone I reviewed) had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and changing these decisions slowly. People who fail to be successful, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions very slowly, if at all, and of changing these decisions quickly and often.” Napoleon Hill

Your success is dependent on your ability to make decisions and your ability to stand by them and not go back often to change them. This does not mean you will never reverse a decision but, if you do, frequently, you will not be respected or trusted by others. They will just wait for you to change your mind, again!

You cannot be a decisive decision-maker if your decisions are mostly based on public opinion. Yes, we all should seek feedback and others’ opinions at times, but if you can only make decisions when influenced by others, you will have no desire of your own.

Every group of individuals will have some kind of opinion. But opinions are a cheap commodity. If you run your life via committee, you are destined for disaster. Decisions in the end must always come from the decision-maker. You must be able to keep your own counsel and be clear about your values, be confident in your decisions, and be healthy mentally, emotionally, and physically to make decisive decisions.

Example. Just under a year ago I was elected to the board of our children’s private school. I must admit we inherited a mess. The previous board would not make any difficult decisions. They procrastinated. They wanted to be liked and popular instead of leaders called upon to make decisive decisions. The result was moral, emotional, and financial bankruptcy.

The new board (all but one of the previous board resigned) is a decisive decision-making group. To save the school meant making difficult and, in some cases, very unpopular decisions including laying off staff, firing incompetent staff, and changing the entire way the school was being lead. If we had listened to popular opinion, we would not have made those difficult decisions — and would no longer have a school.

Of course, the individuals with the loudest negative opinions left our school. But we stood by our decisions. No popular opinions were going to change what we felt was the right leadership decision. Our group did our research, gathered the facts and reviewed them, then decided, quickly.

The results have been miraculous. The atmosphere in the entire school has never been more positive. The staff communicates and cares for one another and is supportive and open. This week the Ministry of Education auditors did a complete review of our school and stated it is one of the best that they have ever audited.

The new school situation was achieved in less than six months of decisive decisions, which overcame more than five years of procrastination, decisions by popular opinion, and simple neglect.

Being indecisive drains your energy and leaves you weak, both emotionally and physically. A mind-made-up brings tremendous extra energy and power.

So how decisive are you? Has your success been compromised by your indecision or decisions that you make and change quickly?

If I asked your close colleagues and friends, what would they say about this characteristic in you?

Making decisions and being decisive is a choice. I have found in many years of coaching others that a significant percentage of individuals do not know where to start. Their whole life has been around reacting to others’ opinions and being burdened by their own lack of decisions.

If that is your case, your most important decision is to learn how to make decisions that fit you and your purpose and path.

To help you on this path, let me suggest three options.

Many individuals want to figure out the formula to make the right decision every time, but that is not a realistic objective.

You want to ensure that you limit and avoid the wrong decisions. To do this, you need to make value-based decisions, not content-based decisions. You first must establish, confirm, and own your core values. If you cannot verbalize or list the core values that influence your decision-making — at once, with absolutely no hesitation — you will not be able to make consistent, decisive decisions.
Your confidence level will highly influence your ability to make and keep your decisions. To maintain your position (decision), your self-worth must be strong and high.
Your stress and health level with affect your ability to make sound and grounded decisions.

Many years ago, when I was introduced to CRG, three powerful assessments helped me with my decision-making abilities. If you want to improve your decisiveness, those assessments can help you, as well.

The Values Preference Indicator will help you determine your top values and assist you to compare the values you might think are important to those that are really important.
The Self-Worth Inventory will help you determine your confidence and self-esteem in six primary categories. Confidence is situational; there can be areas in your life where you are very decisive and other areas where you are not. The SWI will help you to determine this.
The Stress Indicator and Health Planner with take you through an evaluation of five critical health and stress areas in your life. If you can’t decide whether or not to take these assessments, what does that tell you about your decision-making?

Successful individuals, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions quickly.

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This Week’s Action Steps

Demanding Decisive Decisions

Lack of decision-making is one of the major causes of failure.
How do you make decisions: slowly or quickly?
After you make a decision, do you keep it or do you constantly change or reverse your decisions?
Do you rely on others’ opinions to make your decisions or do you keep your own counsel?
Are you able to make unpopular decisions and feel comfortable when you do so?
Are you clear about your core values, required for decisive decisions? If not, take the Value Preference Indicator to confirm your core values.
Do you doubt your decisions and constantly second-guess yourself? If so, take the Self-Worth Inventory to establish you confidence level, in six categories. Also review where you hold your ground and where you do not — and why.
Is your overall health and stress level effecting your decision-making? To confirm this, take the Stress Indicator and Health Planner to establish your health and stress in five areas of your life. Determine whether your physical and mental condition is affecting your decision-making.
Own the fact that your success is determined on your ability to make decisive decisions.
Develop the habit of making decisions, establish your core guidelines, take your own opinion seriously, and take others; opinions second — or not at all. If you are already thinking about excuses why you can’t, I think you have a clear outline of your condition.
Just do it! Get started now. There is absolutely no honor or value in procrastination.

Until next time, keep “Living On Purpose”,

Ken Keis

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Ken Keis is an internationally known author, speaker, consultant, & President of CRG. Many professionals herald CRG as the # 1 global resource center for Personal/Professional Development.

For information on CRG Resources, please visit http://crgleader.com

For information on Ken’s Training and Speaking Programs, please visit http://kenkeis.com

Leadership Skills You Must Possess

2014-07-062014-07-05 ~ adminlife

“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” —Jack Welch

Being a leader takes some skills and a willingness to learn. A life coach can help you to understand the leadership skills you need.

The article below discusses leadership and the skill set required.

To discuss what a life coach can do for you and your motivation, and to schedule a session with Michael, use the contact form below.

Michael is a certified Life Optimization coach as well as a Law of Attraction and Law of Attraction Wealth coach.

Michael Wilkovesky

The Good Leadership Skills A Leader Must Possess – by Amy Twain

There are so many things that a leader should need to improve or develop; he needs to be able to deal and understand other people’s problems and help them. We’re all born and raised from different places, countries, cultures and traditions; thus we have to accept them, learn from them, adjust and respect other people. A leader should be communicative, adjust with his peers and colleagues, he should have the capacity in influencing and persuading individuals to do things positively. We have to bear in mind that leaders are not born, they’re made. A leader must be able to see the big picture so that he should be able to have a clear idea about what his team want to do and what kind of achievement or outcome they will expect.

If you’re the leader of a team, even if your team has only one other person, you have to quickly develop a brand new set of skills in order to establish or resolve what these skills are, and you have to consider the beginning of these high performing teams. Leaders should always need to set a good example for their followers. Both leadership training and leadership skills are very significant; and it is necessary for today’s youths to develop and enhance their leadership skills. But these days, only quite a few of our youths take up training programs in leadership skills and such leadership training would help you in understanding and adjusting things in both workplace and even at our homes.

Opportunities for developing and enhancing your leadership qualities and leadership skills are not only limited to certain youth groups. You can also improve your leadership skills even at places such as social service organizations or your local churches. The best thing about being a leader either in your relationships or work life is that you would be able to practice or make use of your skills and persuade and influence other people towards a common goal. As a team leader, you would be able to teach individuals some essential morals and values and promote the excellent and best principles of team work.

Good leaders must always be enthusiastic and interested about the cause or work. He is someone who will never hesitate to roll up his sleeves and get messy if the work or situation calls for it! An effective leader has exemplary character and integrity, and should be dependable, thus he has to be trusted and he must certainly be polite, truthful, honest and also approachable. Only a confident leader would set the direction and guide or lead the group or team in the right path. If you act or do things purposeful and orderly, your team or your followers would look for reassurance and security.

A considerate leader never tries to compare himself with others, but he compares with what he has achieved, his goals and triumphs. And last but definitely not the least, a great leader must remain calm and be tolerant during tough and problematic circumstances in trying to solve it.

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The author of this article,Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Let Amy help you find Happiness in Your Work Place. Learn How to become a Happy WorkerHERE.