Build a Support System for Lasting Success

2024-10-28 ~ adminlife

Success is rarely a solo journey. Having a support system can make all the difference, providing encouragement, guidance and perspective when you need it most. A well-developed support network not only strengthens your self-belief but also empowers you to tackle challenges confidently. In this post, we’ll explore ways to build and nurture a support system that enhances both personal and professional growth.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

Advocating for Yourself: The First Step to Building Support

To create a meaningful support system, start by ensuring that you feel empowered to express your needs and boundaries. Knowing when and how to advocate for yourself builds the foundation for healthy, mutually supportive relationships.

1. Set Boundaries and Communicate Openly

Boundaries help maintain healthy relationships, enabling you to connect with others on terms that work for you. When you openly communicate your needs — whether for space, assistance or clarity — you create a dynamic of mutual respect. Learning to advocate for yourself reminds you of your own worth and strengthens your confidence in sharing it with others.

2. Be Honest and Vulnerable

Trust and honesty go hand in hand. When you’re authentic and open about your challenges and successes, it encourages others to be honest with you as well. Vulnerability allows you to forge deeper connections, fostering a support system where everyone feels valued and understood.

3. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences

While family, friends and colleagues play an essential role in your support system, aim to surround yourself with people who encourage positivity, growth and resilience. Positive influences can motivate you, remind you of your strengths and help you stay focused on your goals.

Networking Actively: Expand Your Circle with Intent

Networking doesn’t just happen at professional events; it can occur in any setting where you engage with new people. Active networking builds a broader support system, connecting you with individuals who can offer fresh perspectives, valuable knowledge and encouragement.

1. Seek Out Groups and Communities with Similar Interests

Joining groups, clubs or professional organizations related to your field or hobbies can expand your circle and introduce you to people with shared values. When you connect with others over shared interests, it often leads to stronger, more supportive relationships. These communities can offer camaraderie, resources and insights that enhance both your personal and professional life.

2. Keep In Touch and Invest in Relationships

Building a network requires consistency. Staying in touch with people — whether through regular check-ins, social media or attending events — demonstrates that you value the relationship. By nurturing connections and investing in others’ lives, you solidify a network of trusted supporters who are there when you need them most.

3. Join Professional Networking Events

Attending conferences, workshops or seminars related to your career or goals introduces you to people with valuable expertise and similar ambitions. These connections can be sources of mentorship, advice and motivation. Networking events also offer opportunities to practice self-advocacy, as you communicate your skills and aspirations to others in a supportive environment.

Finding a Mentor: Gain Guidance from Experienced Advisors

Mentorship can be transformative, offering a blend of support, feedback and inspiration that can guide you through both challenges and milestones.

1. Identify a Mentor Within Your Circle or Field

A mentor can be anyone who has experience in an area you wish to grow in. If there’s someone in your field whom you admire, don’t hesitate to reach out respectfully to ask if they’d consider a mentoring relationship. Having a mentor provides you with personalized guidance, insights and accountability, reinforcing your self-belief and helping you set actionable goals.

2. Approach Mentorship with Respect and Clear Goals

When seeking mentorship, be clear about your goals and be respectful of your mentor’s time and knowledge. Have a few questions prepared or specific topics you want to discuss to maximize each meeting. This level of respect and preparation shows your commitment to growth and makes the mentorship experience mutually beneficial.

3. Learn from Their Experience and Apply Their Insights

Mentors offer wisdom based on personal experience, which can save you from common pitfalls and expand your understanding. Make it a point to apply their advice and keep them updated on your progress. Learning from a mentor’s guidance not only enhances your skills but also strengthens your confidence in achieving your own goals.

Giving Back: Generosity as a Source of Strength

While building a support system often focuses on receiving support, giving back can be equally empowering. Acts of generosity nurture self-worth, reinforce your strengths and deepen your relationships.

1. Volunteer Your Time and Skills

Volunteering is a powerful way to affirm your sense of purpose and value. When you give your time and skills to a cause you believe in, you gain a sense of accomplishment and pride. Volunteering in your community also introduces you to new people, further broadening your support system and connecting you with like-minded individuals.

2. Offer Support to Friends and Family

Supporting those close to you fosters a sense of reciprocity. When you show up for friends, family or colleagues, you strengthen your relationships and demonstrate that you’re a reliable part of their support system. Acts of kindness build mutual trust and connection, reinforcing your self-worth.

3. Be Generous with Encouragement and Positivity

Sometimes, a kind word or a few words of encouragement can make all the difference. Offering positivity and support helps others feel valued and appreciated. When you uplift those around you, it also reinforces a sense of purpose within you, enhancing your confidence and showing that you have the power to make a positive impact.

Embracing a Support System for Lifelong Success

Creating a support system isn’t a one-time effort; it’s an ongoing process that evolves over time. By advocating for yourself, actively networking, finding mentorship and practising generosity, you build a robust network of support. These connections enhance your self-worth, provide motivation and give you the resources you need to pursue your goals confidently.

Start Building Your Support System Today

A strong support system is one of the most valuable assets in any journey to success. Begin by fostering healthy relationships, advocating for yourself and giving back where you can. As you build this network, you’ll find yourself feeling more confident and empowered. Your support system will remind you of your potential, uplift you in challenging times and celebrate your successes alongside you. Take the first steps today to create a network that sustains and inspires you.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Harnessing Positive Delusions to Achieve Your Goals and Drive Success

2024-10-25 ~ adminlife

In the high-stakes corporate world, and in other areas of life, maintaining an edge over the competition is paramount. One highly effective strategy is the cultivation of positive delusions. While the term “delusion” might carry negative connotations, in this context, it refers to an unwaveringly positive attitude that can significantly enhance performance and results. This article explores how you can harness positive delusions to achieve your goals, supported by scientific evidence and compelling examples.

While the examples are referencing senior executives, the strategies will work for anyone interested in reaching their goals by using positive delusions outlined here.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

The Science Behind Positive Delusions

Studies have consistently shown that individuals who overestimate their skills, abilities, and talents perform better than those who are more realistic or pessimistic. This phenomenon is rooted in the psychological principle that high expectations lead to increased motivation and engagement. When people believe in their ability to succeed, they are more likely to take the necessary actions to achieve their goals.

Case Study: The Power of Positive Delusions

Consider the story of John, a senior executive at a leading tech firm. John was tasked with spearheading a major project that many believed was doomed to fail. Instead of succumbing to doubt, John adopted a positive delusion, convincing himself and his team that success was not only possible but inevitable. This unwavering belief drove the team to work tirelessly, innovate, and ultimately deliver a groundbreaking product that exceeded all expectations. John’s positive delusion transformed a potential failure into a monumental success.

Strategies

To harness the power of positive delusions, the following strategies can be implemented:

Cultivate Hope

Positive delusions provide hope, a critical component for perseverance and resilience. By telling yourself, “Things will improve if I just hang in there,” you create a mental framework that encourages continuous effort and determination.

Example: During a challenging merger, a CEO might remind themselves and their team that the integration will ultimately lead to greater market dominance and profitability.

Assume the Best to Take Action

High expectations foster a proactive mindset. When you believe that positive outcomes are likely, you are more inclined to take bold actions.

Example: A senior executive considering an international expansion might proceed with confidence, believing that the move will open new revenue streams and enhance the company’s global presence.

Acknowledge the Delusional Nature of Beliefs

Recognize that many of your beliefs are inherently delusional. By accepting this, you can consciously choose positive delusions that serve your goals.

Example: An executive might remind themselves that their belief in the team’s ability to innovate is a constructive delusion that drives performance.

Limit Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk can undermine your spirit and motivation. Actively counteract it by focusing on positive thoughts and possibilities.

Example: During a financial downturn, an executive might focus on the company’s strengths and opportunities rather than dwelling on challenges.

Envision Your Ideal Self

Visualize the type of person you need to become to achieve your goals. See yourself as already possessing the necessary qualities and characteristics.

Example: An executive aiming for a promotion might visualize themselves as a confident, strategic leader, already excelling in the new role.

Visualize Success

Regularly imagine yourself overcoming obstacles and achieving success. This mental practice reinforces your positive delusions and prepares you for real-world challenges.

Example: Before a critical presentation, an executive might visualize delivering a flawless performance and receiving enthusiastic feedback.

Embrace Positive Delusions

Remind yourself that being overly practical can be limiting. Embrace optimism and overestimate your abilities to unlock your full potential.

Example: An executive might adopt the belief that their company can become an industry leader, driving innovation and growth through sheer determination and vision.

Conclusion

Positive delusions can be a powerful tool for anyone striving to achieve their goals. By cultivating hope, assuming the best, acknowledging the delusional nature of beliefs, limiting negative self-talk, envisioning your ideal self, visualizing success, and embracing positive delusions, you can significantly enhance your performance and results.

Perform an optimism experiment on yourself and review the results. You might find that positive delusions are the key to unlocking unprecedented success in your professional journey.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address)

Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

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The Power of Goal Setting: How to Turn Aspirations into Achievements

2024-10-19 ~ adminlife

Have you ever set a goal, only to find it slipping away as time passes? You’re not alone. Many people have dreams and aspirations but struggle to achieve them simply because their goals are not well-defined or actionable. In contrast, successful people make goal-setting a foundational habit. They don’t just think about what they want; they set clear, tangible goals and make them part of their daily routine.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Goal setting might seem straightforward, but it’s a powerful habit that many overlook or underestimate. Successful individuals understand that vague aspirations won’t cut it. It’s not enough to say, “I want to be successful,” or “I want to be healthier.” These are hopes, not goals. Goals are specific, measurable and written down. Research has shown that people who write down their goals are significantly more likely to accomplish them. Why? Because writing crystallizes thought and turns ambition into something real.

One of the key reasons goal-setting is crucial is that it provides direction. Without clear goals, you’re like a ship sailing without a map — drifting wherever the current takes you. Sure, you might stumble upon something good, but you’re just as likely to end up nowhere. Goals give you something to aim for and create a roadmap to get there. They help clarify what’s important and, just as crucially, what’s not.

For instance, let’s say someone wants to be a successful entrepreneur. Just wanting it won’t make it happen. The successful entrepreneur doesn’t just dream about success; they set a series of clear, achievable goals to reach that point. They break it down: research the market, develop a product, build a customer base, secure funding and so on. Each goal brings them one step closer to their larger aspiration.

Breaking down goals into actionable steps is another part of the process that separates success stories from the rest. It’s not enough to set big, lofty goals without knowing how to get there. A goal without a plan is just a wish. Successful individuals break their goals down into manageable steps, creating a clear pathway to achievement. This could involve setting daily, weekly or monthly milestones. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by the enormity of the goal, they tackle it one step at a time, making it much more achievable.

Take, for example, someone who wants to run a marathon but hasn’t run a mile in years. The thought of running 26.2 miles might seem impossible. However, breaking the goal down into smaller steps, like running a mile without stopping, then gradually increasing the distance, makes the goal more feasible. Before they know it, they’re well on their way to reaching that marathon finish line.

There’s also something highly motivating about having a goal to work toward. Every time you check off a milestone, you get a psychological boost. It creates a sense of accomplishment and builds momentum. This momentum is key because it helps push you through the tough times when progress feels slow or non-existent. In contrast, without goals, it’s easy to feel lost or aimless, and when challenges arise, giving up seems like the only option.

Actionable Step: To avoid the common pitfall of setting vague goals that never materialize, start by writing down one specific goal you want to achieve in the next six months. Then, break it down into smaller, actionable steps. For instance, if your goal is to improve your grades, you could break it down by scheduling daily study time, setting weekly grade targets or seeking help in areas where you struggle. The key is to make the steps concrete and manageable, so you’re consistently moving forward.

Another common hurdle in goal setting is the tendency to give up too early. It’s easy to be enthusiastic at the start, but as time goes on, motivation can wane. Successful people understand that perseverance is just as important as setting the goal in the first place. They know that setbacks are part of the process and that sticking to the plan, even when it’s tough, will eventually yield results. This is where discipline comes into play — staying committed, even when the excitement fades.

Additionally, setting deadlines for your goals is another key practice. Without a timeframe, it’s easy to keep pushing things off, thinking, “I’ll get to that later.” Deadlines create a sense of urgency and accountability. When you know you have a set amount of time to accomplish something, you’re far more likely to take action. Successful people don’t just set goals; they set deadlines and work diligently to meet them.

It’s also worth mentioning that successful goal setters often regularly revisit and adjust their goals. Life is dynamic, and so are our goals. You may find that your initial plan isn’t working as expected, or perhaps you achieve your goal faster than anticipated. In these cases, rather than abandoning the goal or coasting, successful individuals tweak their action plan and set new challenges. This flexibility ensures they’re always growing and pushing toward success.

The power of goal-setting goes beyond just achieving material success. It’s a habit that cultivates self-discipline, focus and resilience. Whether the goal is professional, personal or financial, the practice of setting, working toward, and achieving goals creates a sense of purpose and direction in life. Each small victory builds confidence and makes future goals seem even more achievable. Over time, this habit of goal-setting becomes second nature, and success follows.

The takeaway here is that goals are not just a tool for successful people — they are an essential part of the process. If you’re serious about achieving success, start by writing your goals down. Be specific, break them into smaller steps, and set deadlines. Then, stay disciplined, even when the going gets tough, and be willing to adjust your goals as needed. This isn’t just a one-time exercise; it’s a habit that will serve you throughout your life.

Setting goals is the first step toward turning your dreams into reality. It’s the bridge between where you are now and where you want to be. While it may seem simple, it’s a habit that, when consistently practised, can have a profound impact on your life. Once you master the art of goal-setting, you’ll find yourself on a path to success that feels more deliberate and achievable.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and reagister at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Living Your Purpose

2024-08-15 ~ adminlife

You might be working tirelessly to achieve your dream life, whether as an entrepreneur, aiming for a promotion, or trying to launch your business. If success feels elusive, perhaps finding your life’s purpose can shift your perspective from struggle to achievement.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Discovering your purpose acts like a magic key, aligning your efforts and helping you focus on achieving your best life. Here are five steps to guide you in the right direction.

Look Within

Many people seek answers from others, following paths that aren’t truly theirs. Your dream life is unique to you, and the key to your purpose lies deep within. Techniques like journaling, meditation, or brainstorming can help uncover your truth. The crucial part is to explore your own heart.

Trust Your Intuition

It’s vital to trust that inner voice that tells you when conventional methods aren’t right for you. Whether it’s a college degree or a sales technique, if it feels wrong, you don’t have to follow it. Carving your own path will lead to greater contentment and success.

Get Friendly with Fear

Living a safe, conventional life often stems from fear of the unknown. It’s normal to feel scared, but facing your fears and embracing challenges is essential. Choosing to live according to your values and passions means confronting fear and stepping out of your comfort zone.

Don’t Be Bound by Your To-Do List

It’s easy to become a slave to endless tasks before you can live your purpose. Examine your current list of tasks and identify which ones truly move you closer to your best life. Delegate or eliminate tasks that don’t serve your purpose.

Realize that You Already Have What You Need

The most crucial realization is that you don’t need expensive courses, workshops, or the perfect suit or car. Everything you need to live your purpose is already within you. The key is to act on it, and today is the best day to start.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Keeping Yourself Motivated When It Matters Most

2024-08-09 ~ adminlife

Think back to the last time you felt completely overwhelmed by everything you needed to do. Your mind was probably racing, trying to keep track of all the tasks, big and small, that were demanding your attention. In moments like these, it’s easy to feel paralyzed by the sheer volume of work ahead. But what if the key to cutting through that overwhelm and staying motivated was as simple as making a list?

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Lists are more than just a way to organize your thoughts—they’re a powerful tool for managing motivation. When you write things down, you clear mental space and create a tangible plan of action. This simple act can transform chaos into clarity, helping you stay focused and motivated even when you’re facing a mountain of tasks.

The psychological benefits of list-making are well-documented. When you jot down your tasks, goals, or priorities, you reduce what’s known as “cognitive load”—the mental effort required to keep all that information in your head. This reduction in cognitive load frees up mental resources, making it easier to concentrate on the task at hand. Instead of trying to remember everything, you can focus on doing the things that matter most.

But the power of a list goes beyond just reducing mental clutter. It also provides a sense of accomplishment. Each time you check off an item, your brain releases a small amount of dopamine, the “feel-good” neurotransmitter. This dopamine hit not only makes you feel good but also reinforces the behaviour, making you more likely to continue working through your list. In this way, a simple to-do list can become a self-reinforcing cycle of productivity and motivation.

To get the most out of your lists, it’s important to use them strategically. Start by writing down everything you need to accomplish, but don’t stop there. Prioritize the tasks on your list, focusing on what’s most important or time-sensitive. This helps you tackle the most critical tasks first, which can provide a sense of momentum and make the rest of your list feel more manageable.

Another effective strategy is to break down larger tasks into smaller, more manageable steps. This not only makes big projects feel less daunting but also gives you more opportunities to experience that dopamine-fueled sense of accomplishment. For example, instead of writing “finish project,” break it down into specific steps like “outline project,” “draft section one,” and “review final draft.” This way, you can track your progress more clearly and stay motivated as you move from one step to the next.

Lists can also be a powerful tool for reminding yourself why your tasks matter. If you’re struggling to stay motivated, try adding a short note next to each task explaining why it’s important. For instance, if one of your goals is to exercise regularly, write down why this matters to you—perhaps because it improves your health, boosts your energy, or helps you manage stress. By connecting your tasks to your larger goals and values, you give them greater significance, which can help you stay motivated even when the going gets tough.

Actionable Step: Start each day by making a list of tasks, prioritizing them by importance and breaking down larger tasks into smaller, actionable steps. Include a brief note next to each task that explains why it’s important to you. Use this list to guide your day and check off items as you complete them, enjoying the small dopamine boost that comes with each checkmark.

The simplicity of list-making is part of its charm. It’s a low-tech, straightforward strategy that doesn’t require special tools or a steep learning curve—just a pen and paper, or a digital note, and a few minutes of your time. Yet, despite its simplicity, the impact can be profound. A well-crafted list can provide direction, reduce stress, and keep you motivated, helping you to achieve your goals one step at a time.

In a world full of distractions and competing demands, lists are a way to cut through the noise and focus on what truly matters. They’re a reminder that no matter how overwhelming things may seem, you can always take control by breaking down your tasks into manageable steps and tackling them one by one.

The next time you feel your motivation waning, don’t underestimate the power of a simple list. It might just be the tool you need to regain your focus, build momentum, and keep moving forward toward your goals.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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