Category: confidence

Your Romantic Relationships May Fail If You Don’t Trust Yourself

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You cannot have a stable romantic relationship if you don’t trust yourself. Any partner you hook up with will lose confidence in you over time. You will constantly be doubting yourself. You won’t be able to make decisions, and quite frankly, you may not perform very well when it comes to the bedroom.

Romantic relationships have a foundation of trust. While you may believe you trust your partner, it’s difficult to continue if you don’t trust yourself. You will likely put yourself down constantly in front of your partner. He or she may sympathize with you in the beginning, but the behaviour will get old after a while.

Contrast this behaviour with trusting yourself. You will have confidence that will exude to your partner. Most people find this attribute attractive and will bring about a more responsive partner. You will have your needs met both emotionally and physically. That is sure to make you happier in your relationship.

If you don’t trust yourself, it’s not likely you will share your feelings with your partner. Relationships build around communication as well as trust. If you cannot communicate to your partner, this will break you apart.

A lack of trust in yourself will not lead you to a positive attitude. You will project negativity to anyone you associate with, including your partner. Try to put yourself in his or her shoes. Would you want to hang around someone who is constantly negative? It’s quite likely you won’t. Over time, you will look for ways to avoid that person. The same will happen to you. People will avoid you if you are negative.

It is okay to share your feelings with your partner, even if those feelings are occasionally negative. It’s almost impossible to be positive 100% of your life. You just have to strike a balance and work towards being more positive than negative. That cannot happen if you doubt yourself and don’t have an internal trust.

It takes work, but you will have a better chance at having a great romantic relationship if you trust yourself than if you don’t. Your partner will be excited to be with you and will want to spend time with you. Your partner will be happier which will make you happier. You have the choice of remaining closed and lacking trust in yourself or opening up and gaining the confidence to have the best possible relationship.

To your success

Michael W

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self-development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “MaximumConfidence Transformation Package”.Afterwards, we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Confidence and Motivation Podcasts

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If you are concerned that your confidence and motivation are not as high and solid as they should be; and you believe that these lower levels are having a negative impact on your life enjoyment, then you should listen to the “Confidence and Motivation Development Podcasts” on Podomatic and through iTunes.

The Podomatic link is:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/confidenceandmotivation

The iTunes link is:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/confidence-and-motivation-development/id1441880643?mt=2

These podcasts are short, usually not longer than 5 minutes, but they are packed with useful information on developing and maintaining your confidence and motivation so that you can better enjoy your life’s experiences.

Here are some of the titles of the podcasts already available:

  • Release Your Limiting Beliefs and Attract Abundance;
  • Why it is possible – Transforming Limiting Beliefs;
  • Believing in Yourself;
  • Break Out of Your Comfort Zone and Free Yourself from a Self Imposed Prison;
  • Change Your Life Today No Charge;
  • Choose to Have a Great Day;
  • Clarify Your Goals for Greater Success;
  • Could You Use an Attitude Makeover;
  • Discovering Inner Strength; and
  • Finding Your Confidence.

There are additional podcasts already published and new podcasts are added daily.

This is a great way to help you to improve your confidence and motivation to help you achieve more at work and in life.

Visit today and check out the podcasts that appeal to your requirements and help yourself to become a more confident and motivated person.

Again, the links are:

The Podomatic link is:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/confidenceandmotivation

The iTunes link is:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/confidence-and-motivation-development/id1441880643?mt=2

To your success

Michael W

Michael W

P.S. If you would like to talk with me to further understand how we could work together to help you to continue to develop your confidence and motivation, contact me at: michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com and we can set up a call to discuss your situation and future steps in your journey to greater confidence and motivation.

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5 Steps for Building Self-Confidence

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Self-confidence is an all important trait you need to acquire in today’s fast-paced world. For one thing, you must have confidence in yourself first to earn the confidence and respect of others.

The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life.

1. Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself.

Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special.

2. Remind yourself of past successes.

Confidence builds on past success. Because you had success before, you can (and will) have it once more. We strengthen our confidence in any interest when we remind or review ourselves of past successes.

If you are trying to develop confidence in a new aspect, past success can still be useful in strengthening your confidence. For instance, if you had success in doing something new in the past, recall those experiences when trying something else new – even if it is in a completely different part of your life.

3. Take risks.

Try doing things that you’ve never tried before. It’s always a little bit of a challenge in doing new things and just the act of accepting these challenges, some little and some big, whether we are successful or not, frequently improves our self-confidence.

Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose. Doing so brings you new opportunities and can improve your sense of self-acceptance. Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure, and inhibits self-growth.

4. Use self-talk.

Use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. Then, remind yourself to “stop” and replace more realistic assumptions. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can’t do everything perfectly, that it’s only possible to try to do things and to try to do them well. This also allows you to accept yourself while still working to improve.

5. Visualize your future success.

Corporate executives, Olympic athletes, and successful people in all types of undertakings see future success. Confidence will increase when we visualize ourselves succeeding. Think about it. If you know you will succeed, your confidence will soar, right?

Seeing future success does that very thing for us. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. So vividly visualize your success. What will it look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like to have succeeded? Who will be with you, what will you be hearing and where will you be? How will you be feeling at that instant? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence!

Apply these steps in your daily life and your confidence will soar!

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

author:Arina Nikitina
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Copyright 2005 Arina Nikitina

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Your Strengths Start Out as Weaknesses

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Do you ever look back on something you thought was difficult, only to now believe it’s easy? The point is, we don’t start out in life with strengths set in stone. We start with an empty slate. Many people have natural abilities to some degree, but they still need to improve their weaknesses. It just doesn’t take them as long as others.

When you look at your strengths as something that was a weakness, you can take comfort in knowing your current weaknesses will someday be strengths. Of course, this is if you want to turn them into strengths. There may be reasons why you don’t want to put in the effort. There are only 365 days in a year, after all. We have other situations happening in our lives that cause us to put certain things on the back burner.

You should ask yourself how important are some of your weaknesses? Are they preventing you from obtaining your goals? If not, then ask if improving them would be nice to do, but not necessary. You can still live your life without getting better with those weak areas.

For instance, maybe you love the game of softball and have joined a league. But, you don’t have much time to practice, other than the two days per week the team meets up for that purpose. You are not a good player but enjoy the game. If you could become a stronger player that would be wonderful, but it isn’t something that’s going to change your life much.

On the other hand, if not having a certain skill is preventing you from getting a promotion, and that is important to you (it’s not for everybody), then you may want to focus on getting better at that skill.

This is when you use the strengths-once-were-weaknesses mindset. It helps you to figure out what steps you need to take to improve the current stage of your weakness. It can help you to determine the time needed to get it done. You will also need to understand what it will take to improve the weaknesses so that you can accurately measure your success. That’s not always as straightforward as we would like.

Talk to people who already have accomplished what you are trying to do. Ask questions about what they did to overcome those weaknesses, and see if they have any resources for you to take advantage of. This can get you where you want to be much quicker than going it alone.

To your success

Michael W

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Are Your Closest Relationships Supporting Your Personal Satisfaction?

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Sometimes, we’re held back from achieving our goals by the people we least suspect: those closest to us. Although it might be hard to accept, the people you’re the most well acquainted with might be working against you, whether they realize it or not.

They act as obstacles, preventing you from doing the things you love or pursuing your dream job. They might say things that make you rethink the path you want to go down, or make you feel as if you won’t be good enough to make it to your goals – especially if you’re trying to launch a new career path for something like online entrepreneurial efforts.

However, it’s not always that clear. Your friends and family will have different ways of interfering with your personal satisfaction. Some might be very straightforward and blunt, telling you that your goals are unrealistic or that you’re not good enough to achieve them.

The most dangerous kind are the ones who disguise their blocking as an attempt to help you. They might tell you to not pursue your dreams in the name of job security or some other excuse.

They could try to steer you in another direction, assuring you it’s the best path for you. In reality, only you know what’s best for you. Even if your closest relationships are acting as obstacles, you can’t just cut out everyone who’s important in your life.

If you just started seeing someone and they wanted you to stop pursuing your dreams, then perhaps it’d be a good idea to stop seeing them. However, how could you cut out your own parents if they tried to steer you towards a different career?

You have to be able to set a certain boundary in which you consider their advice if they give it to you, and respectfully decline it if you don’t agree with it. However, if they began to insult your career choice or goals, then they would be crossing the boundary you set.

Once people cross your boundaries, you have to make the decision of whether or not you should keep them in your life or distance yourself from them. You should weigh their positive and negative benefits, and if they’re an overall drag on your happiness, there’s no reason to keep them around – at least not on a continual basis.

Let them know that they’re bringing you down, and you’re not going to associate with them until they change their ways. If you let these people stick around in your life and tell you how to live it, you’ll end up unhappy and dissatisfied.

To your success

 

Michael W

Michael W

 

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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