Trust and Confidence Go Hand-in-Hand

2018-12-112018-12-10 ~ adminlife

If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Feel secure in your abilities and be strong in your convictions. But, know when you are wrong as well.

The above requires you to develop confidence. That may seem scary to you. However, it’s not as difficult as you think. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. It’s the same for you. Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.

Fear is the biggest detractor from confidence. When you give into your fears, you will diminish the chances of building up your confidence. That is something that deepens if you don’t handle it quickly. You need to face your fears head-on.

That doesn’t mean you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless. You should take chances but only if they won’t put your life or others’ lives in danger. You would not jump out of a plane without a parachute. Don’t make frivolous decisions, either. Confidence is about knowing the difference.

Start out with small tasks that you have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than you imagine. If you try to project what will happen, and it is always a negative outcome, you will never make any decisions. Take on those small tasks without thinking too much about what’s going to happen. That will build up your confidence as you’ve never seen before.

You should ask questions when you aren’t sure about the situations you face. Confidence is not about having all the answers. It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the knowledge that you need. It’s also about pulling the trigger when you have gathered enough information.

Confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you are doing, you can portray that belief to others affected by your decisions. You will come across as being weak if you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned. Once this happens, others will lose faith in you. That will cause your confidence to erode, and self-doubt will take over. When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out.

When you increase your confidence, you will automatically increase trusting yourself. Then, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined.

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “Maximum Confidence Transformation Package”. Afterwards we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Your Romantic Relationships May Fail If You Don’t Trust Yourself

2018-12-102018-12-09 ~ adminlife

You cannot have a stable romantic relationship if you don’t trust yourself. Any partner you hook up with will lose confidence in you over time. You will constantly be doubting yourself. You won’t be able to make decisions, and quite frankly, you may not perform very well when it comes to the bedroom.

Romantic relationships have a foundation of trust. While you may believe you trust your partner, it’s difficult to continue if you don’t trust yourself. You will likely put yourself down constantly in front of your partner. He or she may sympathize with you in the beginning, but the behaviour will get old after a while.

Contrast this behaviour with trusting yourself. You will have confidence that will exude to your partner. Most people find this attribute attractive and will bring about a more responsive partner. You will have your needs met both emotionally and physically. That is sure to make you happier in your relationship.

If you don’t trust yourself, it’s not likely you will share your feelings with your partner. Relationships build around communication as well as trust. If you cannot communicate to your partner, this will break you apart.

A lack of trust in yourself will not lead you to a positive attitude. You will project negativity to anyone you associate with, including your partner. Try to put yourself in his or her shoes. Would you want to hang around someone who is constantly negative? It’s quite likely you won’t. Over time, you will look for ways to avoid that person. The same will happen to you. People will avoid you if you are negative.

It is okay to share your feelings with your partner, even if those feelings are occasionally negative. It’s almost impossible to be positive 100% of your life. You just have to strike a balance and work towards being more positive than negative. That cannot happen if you doubt yourself and don’t have an internal trust.

It takes work, but you will have a better chance at having a great romantic relationship if you trust yourself than if you don’t. Your partner will be excited to be with you and will want to spend time with you. Your partner will be happier which will make you happier. You have the choice of remaining closed and lacking trust in yourself or opening up and gaining the confidence to have the best possible relationship.

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you are looking for a confidence program that can help you with your self-development. Send me an email at michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com to request a copy of my “MaximumConfidence Transformation Package”.Afterwards, we can arrange a discovery telephone call to discuss the package and how you can benefit further from developing your confidence level.

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Confidence and Motivation Podcasts

2018-12-06 ~ adminlife

If you are concerned that your confidence and motivation are not as high and solid as they should be; and you believe that these lower levels are having a negative impact on your life enjoyment, then you should listen to the “Confidence and Motivation Development Podcasts” on Podomatic and through iTunes.

The Podomatic link is:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/confidenceandmotivation

The iTunes link is:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/confidence-and-motivation-development/id1441880643?mt=2

These podcasts are short, usually not longer than 5 minutes, but they are packed with useful information on developing and maintaining your confidence and motivation so that you can better enjoy your life’s experiences.

Here are some of the titles of the podcasts already available:

Release Your Limiting Beliefs and Attract Abundance;
Why it is possible – Transforming Limiting Beliefs;
Believing in Yourself;
Break Out of Your Comfort Zone and Free Yourself from a Self Imposed Prison;
Change Your Life Today No Charge;
Choose to Have a Great Day;
Clarify Your Goals for Greater Success;
Could You Use an Attitude Makeover;
Discovering Inner Strength; and
Finding Your Confidence.

There are additional podcasts already published and new podcasts are added daily.

This is a great way to help you to improve your confidence and motivation to help you achieve more at work and in life.

Visit today and check out the podcasts that appeal to your requirements and help yourself to become a more confident and motivated person.

Again, the links are:

The Podomatic link is:

https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/confidenceandmotivation

The iTunes link is:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/confidence-and-motivation-development/id1441880643?mt=2

To your success

Michael W

P.S. If you would like to talk with me to further understand how we could work together to help you to continue to develop your confidence and motivation, contact me at: michael@youaresuccesslifecoach.com and we can set up a call to discuss your situation and future steps in your journey to greater confidence and motivation.

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5 Steps for Building Self-Confidence

2018-09-21 ~ adminlife

Self-confidence is an all important trait you need to acquire in today’s fast-paced world. For one thing, you must have confidence in yourself first to earn the confidence and respect of others.

The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life.

1. Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself.

Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special.

2. Remind yourself of past successes.

Confidence builds on past success. Because you had success before, you can (and will) have it once more. We strengthen our confidence in any interest when we remind or review ourselves of past successes.

If you are trying to develop confidence in a new aspect, past success can still be useful in strengthening your confidence. For instance, if you had success in doing something new in the past, recall those experiences when trying something else new – even if it is in a completely different part of your life.

3. Take risks.

Try doing things that you’ve never tried before. It’s always a little bit of a challenge in doing new things and just the act of accepting these challenges, some little and some big, whether we are successful or not, frequently improves our self-confidence.

Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose. Doing so brings you new opportunities and can improve your sense of self-acceptance. Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure, and inhibits self-growth.

4. Use self-talk.

Use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. Then, remind yourself to “stop” and replace more realistic assumptions. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can’t do everything perfectly, that it’s only possible to try to do things and to try to do them well. This also allows you to accept yourself while still working to improve.

5. Visualize your future success.

Corporate executives, Olympic athletes, and successful people in all types of undertakings see future success. Confidence will increase when we visualize ourselves succeeding. Think about it. If you know you will succeed, your confidence will soar, right?

Seeing future success does that very thing for us. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. So vividly visualize your success. What will it look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like to have succeeded? Who will be with you, what will you be hearing and where will you be? How will you be feeling at that instant? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence!

Apply these steps in your daily life and your confidence will soar!

To your success

Michael W

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Your Strengths Start Out as Weaknesses

2018-06-252018-06-25 ~ adminlife

Do you ever look back on something you thought was difficult, only to now believe it’s easy? The point is, we don’t start out in life with strengths set in stone. We start with an empty slate. Many people have natural abilities to some degree, but they still need to improve their weaknesses. It just doesn’t take them as long as others.

When you look at your strengths as something that was a weakness, you can take comfort in knowing your current weaknesses will someday be strengths. Of course, this is if you want to turn them into strengths. There may be reasons why you don’t want to put in the effort. There are only 365 days in a year, after all. We have other situations happening in our lives that cause us to put certain things on the back burner.

You should ask yourself how important are some of your weaknesses? Are they preventing you from obtaining your goals? If not, then ask if improving them would be nice to do, but not necessary. You can still live your life without getting better with those weak areas.

For instance, maybe you love the game of softball and have joined a league. But, you don’t have much time to practice, other than the two days per week the team meets up for that purpose. You are not a good player but enjoy the game. If you could become a stronger player that would be wonderful, but it isn’t something that’s going to change your life much.

On the other hand, if not having a certain skill is preventing you from getting a promotion, and that is important to you (it’s not for everybody), then you may want to focus on getting better at that skill.

This is when you use the strengths-once-were-weaknesses mindset. It helps you to figure out what steps you need to take to improve the current stage of your weakness. It can help you to determine the time needed to get it done. You will also need to understand what it will take to improve the weaknesses so that you can accurately measure your success. That’s not always as straightforward as we would like.

Talk to people who already have accomplished what you are trying to do. Ask questions about what they did to overcome those weaknesses, and see if they have any resources for you to take advantage of. This can get you where you want to be much quicker than going it alone.

To your success

Michael W

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