Unleash Your Inner Confidence: Master the Art of Assertiveness

2023-06-30 ~ adminlife

Are you tired of feeling like a doormat? Want to stand up for yourself and take charge of your life? It’s time to embrace assertiveness and boost your confidence! As a Confidence and Life Coach, I’ve seen firsthand how being assertive can transform your personal, professional, and social life. Let’s dive into some simple yet powerful ways to be more assertive and reap the benefits of knowing your worth.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations

Ever find yourself glued to your work phone after hours or running errands for friends and family on weekends? It’s time to draw the line!

Establish working hours with your boss and let them know when you’re not available.
Politely inform friends and family that your time is valuable and they should respect it.
Don’t be afraid to say no and avoid taking on too many tasks just to please others.

Remember, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy work-life balance and preserving your sanity.

Believe in Yourself

The key to assertiveness lies in trusting your own voice and opinions. Don’t shy away from expressing your thoughts, even if they differ from others.

Stand up for yourself and voice your opinion when necessary.
Remember that you have as much right to speak your mind and say no as anyone else.
Embrace the power of your words and let your confidence shine.

Make Eye Contact

Feeling assertive starts with looking the part. A friendly yet steady gaze can work wonders in conveying confidence.

Maintain eye contact when speaking to someone, whether it’s your boss or a friend.
Keep the encounter relaxed and engaging by blinking and smiling.
Remember that eye contact is a powerful tool for demonstrating assertiveness.

Be Aware of Your Body Language

Assertive body language goes hand in hand with confidence. Practice these tips to project an air of self-assurance:

Stand tall with good posture and avoid crossing your arms.
Steer clear of slouching, crossing your legs, or fidgeting with clothing or jewellery.
Adopt a friendly yet firm approach in your interactions.

Just remember, being assertive doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your warm and friendly personality. It’s all about striking the right balance!

The Bottom Line

Assertiveness is a game-changer when it comes to setting boundaries, recognizing your worth, and taking control of your life. So go ahead, be bold, be proud, and be the best version of yourself!

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.
Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael.

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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Why Do Some People Have More Courage Than Others?

2023-06-022023-06-02 ~ adminlife

When you are in a meeting there are always people who tend to dominate the conversations. You find that most people will just sit there and listen and not participate. Why do some people not speak out but others easily speak up?

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

A lot of this can be related to their upbringing. If they were raised in a dynamic family where there were strong personalities, they will have these characteristics as well. If their upbringing was more relaxed they will be more laid back as well.

Some family members will even have stronger personalities than others. Generally speaking, older siblings are more dominant over younger ones. When parents ask older children to watch over younger children, it might put them in a position of dominance. This persists throughout the life of each sibling.

Your development is as shaped by your school environment. Early in your schooling the more dominant people will lead while the more quiet personalities will follow. There are levels of leading. Some people will lead in all areas while others will lead in some situations and be more laid back in others. Unless you make changes, the role you take in school will follow you throughout life.

If you have a tendency to be reserved and laid back, you can learn to be more adventurous. You might need to adopt a more dominant position for it. People who are not accustomed to your behaviour may find this shocking. You can even feel surprised by the shift.

Take things slowly if you intend to alter and be more brave. This will assist you in adjusting to internal changes. Additionally, it will be simpler for others to accept the new you. If you try to overwhelm them with your improvements, you can encounter resistance that makes progress more difficult.

Start spending time with people who already act in this way if you wish to be more adventurous. They will give you indications, so pay attention to how they behave. When you feel comfortable doing so, make an effort to combine those qualities. Strong personalities can be questioned and probed as to how they came to be the way they are once you get close enough. These are the people who are willing to brag about their lives. This class is a fantastic opportunity to learn how to be more adventurous.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael.

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

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Victim of Circumstances or of Your Own Thinking

2022-10-12 ~ adminlife

Your circumstances are impacted by your inner world. Your thoughts, emotions and actions are affected by your beliefs. Your life is created by your actions. Many of your thoughts and your emotions are habitual and some of your beliefs may be unfounded. You can affect your experiences when you change any of your internal components.

Your inner world is under your control but it can still be challenging to make changes.

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When you make changes in your mind, changes in your life will follow.

Experience gratitude at the start and end of your day. You can easily focus on those things you don’t have, but you should spend some time in the morning and before going to bed thinking about the blessings in your life.

You will brighten up your mood and increase the good things that will come into your life when you focus on the positive.

Look for solutions. You make a mistake if you focus too much time on your problems. You feel helpless and terrible. This also doesn’t help you to solve the challenges that you are facing. When you find something going wrong in your life you should move to solution-finding mode.

You have many options available to help you make a positive change.

Take care of yourself. A common cause of depression has been identified as undiagnosed heart disease. You look at the world differently when your body is not right. Your feelings guide your life. Your emotions can mislead you when your health is compromised.

Keep yourself grounded in reality. Many people are living in a fantasy world. You may be thinking about your past or you may be speculating about your future. By living wisely and well in the present moment, you will have a joyous future you are hoping for.

Life is going by 24/7 and the actions that you are taking now will determine your life in the future. If your mind is somewhere else, you can’t act today.

Positive affirmations should be used. Throughout the day give yourself a great gift by using positive self-talk and having positive thoughts. Negative emotions come from negative thoughts while positive emotions will fill you when you have positive thoughts. You can change your world when you have positive thoughts.

Know your beliefs. List the beliefs that you believe are holding you back and question them. Where did this belief come from? Do you know it is accurate? Could this belief be false? What information do you have to support this belief?

Keep track of your thoughts. Set an alarm for 60 minutes and when it goes off, go over how you were using your mind over that hour.

What were you thinking about during that hour? Did you remain focused on your work? Were you focusing on a personal item? Were you using your mind to help you plan a better future?
You can help yourself to stay focused by measuring yourself every hour. If you only check yourself once a day, it is very easy to get back into your old patterns.

Meditate. There are many physical and mental benefits to meditating. Meditation can reduce your stress and strengthen your health. It can also help to correct your false beliefs and let you focus and gain clarity. There is a huge and positive effect on your life when you meditate. Each day you should schedule some meditation time.

Many people think that they are victims of circumstances whereas they are actually victims of their own thinking. It doesn’t matter how bad your life is now, there is someone who was in an even worse position at the start and ended up leading an incredible life. You can change your outer world by changing your inner world.

When you learn what is controlling you it is possible to change your world. You must take control of your inner thoughts.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 30-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

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To your success

Michael

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Build Your Success Desire

2022-07-21 ~ adminlife

Everyone has a different idea of what success is and this means that the strategy that you choose to achieve your success will be different from someone else’s. The process that you use may also differ depending on your success definition. This could mean a successful career or a good salary.

If your version of success is only related to your professional achievements, you may leave other areas of your life to chance. These areas could be family life, sports and athletics, school and learning and your relationships.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Even though your definition of success may be different, it is likely that you will feel successful when you have feelings of fulfillment, safety, health and being loved.

But what is success? This is your ability to achieve your goals, no matter what type of goal you set.

If you are struggling to achieve the important personal things, you may also struggle to find fulfillment. When you feel that you are lacking in any of the areas mentioned, you will likely feel that you are not as successful as you want to be. This can lead to your success desire to falter.

There are methods that you can use to build a more powerful desire for success.

Develop your growth mindset. The idea that your abilities are related to your choices and effort is your growth mindset. You have specific skills but you also see that you can make improvements to those skills.

If you have a fixed mindset, you believe that your skills can not be improved, it is impossible to learn new skills or improve your old ones. People with a growth mindset will achieve more success than those people that have a fixed mindset.

Emotional Intelligence increase. The ability to identify, understand and to manage your own emotions is Emotional Intelligence. You are also sensitive to the feelings of other people in your life and are effective at managing relationships.

If you are still thinking that you are not achieving success but your EI is high, you probably have self-defeating thoughts and beliefs. They could be putting limits on your options to achieve success.
To achieve more success in life, you have to pay attention to your emotions. You also need to learn how to manage them.

Commit to your goals publicly. You create a sense of accountability when the public knows your plan. You will feel a commitment to follow through and it will be more difficult to give up.

If you want to succeed, your family, friends and colleagues must know about your goals and they also must want you to succeed.
If you have to give up a habit to succeed, they will need to stop you from relapsing.

Encourage yourself and keep positive. You can be your own worst enemy. We are our harshest critics and this can make you give up without even trying. Your past failures and other negative thinking can make you believe that you cannot succeed.

If you have experienced this, get rid of the thought and use positive affirmations to encourage you. Things like “I am capable” or whatever appeals to you. It isn’t necessary to say them daily but it does help you to stay motivated.

Focus on your known strengths. Successful people are successful, not because they are perfect but they can focus on their known strengths.

Many of these successful people will run their business with no knowledge of certain aspects of the company. They get help when they realize that they don’t have the necessary skills. When you use this approach, you can build a more powerful desire to achieve success.

These small, powerful steps are easy and can help you to establish a positive relationship towards success. Becoming the person you want to be can help you to find success.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach to remove your pain points, can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

P.S. you know that living a life that is in balance is important. When you can balance your work, family, health, relationships, fitness and money, you feel better and can achieve your goals. You have the support of your family and friends which makes life worth living.

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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Top 10 Ways to Make a Huge Leap Forward in Life

2022-05-11 ~ adminlife

Everyone has those days when you could use a little help. Perhaps it’s not looking forward to your next presentation, or you don’t know where to start with your latest business idea.

Maybe it’s not feeling motivated enough to start that project you’ve been thinking about for months or find that perfect client. The bottom line is: sometimes we need the right push in life and the right person to give us that nudge.

So, what can you do to make that giant leap forward? Try these strategies:

Take one step back to move forward. Often, the first thing to do when you need to move forward but feel stuck is to step back. Stop. Avoid trying to force something to happen.

- Then, you can see what needs to be done and break it down into smaller steps. The more you do, the quicker you’ll start to feel better and be in a position to take the next step.

If you would like to listen to these types of articles, you can visit my podcasts at

These are short, usually under 5 minutes but they can enable you to listen to confidence and motivation advice and tips while driving or relaxing.

Monitor your state of mind. When life gives you lemons, it can be hard to see the positive. It’s so easy to see the negative situation and feel overwhelmed. Try to stick your head in the sand for a while.

- Try to block out circumstances you can’t change and focus on the things you can change. Before long, you’ll have a much more positive outlook and will end up making more progress than you ever imagined possible.

Identify the details of what’s going on. Sometimes we don’t realize how many pieces are involved. It’s easy to think you’re facing one problem when it’s a combination of things.

- Be honest with yourself. Which aspects can you change, and what elements can you influence? Also, which parts could you let go?

Let the past go. Just because you had a terrible experience in the past with no chance of a positive outcome doesn’t mean the past has to define you.

- Embrace the mistake or pain as a chance to learn and grow. Who knows, the negative experience could be the catalyst for future success.

Consider your options. Look beyond your current circumstances and examine all the choices and possibilities. Don’t get caught up in your present feeling and give up your power. You always have a choice about your next move.

- When you look at all the options at your disposal, you feel hopeful, motivated, and empowered.

Devise a plan and stick to it. At this point, you have all the information you need. You’ve worked to change your mindset, taken a step back, let the past go, and considered your options. Now, it’s time to take action.

- Set some goals and realize your dreams. Get out of your way, follow your heart, and seize the moment.

Remind yourself of your “why.” There’s no time like the present. Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way and most importantly, always remember your core values.

- Remember why you started this journey and what you ultimately want. This attitude will help you stay strong and focused.

Start small. Building momentum is crucial to your success. Take small steps each day and gradually build momentum toward your goals.

Discard what no longer works, even if it worked in the past. Use past experiences as a guide, but don’t be afraid to try something new if it works better.

- Sometimes, people fail because they’re scared to let go of the systems that brought them to their current stage. Don’t let that happen to you!

Always be grateful. Your attitude has a significant impact on your life. Gratitude is the best attitude to have because it takes you away from what you don’t want and focuses you on what you do want.

- An example of gratitude is feeling thankful to your parents for all they’ve done for you. Another is feeling thankful for your health and not being afraid to go to the doctor when you have a health issue.

Motivation is not always constant, but you can find your way back to it. All you have to do is relax, take it easy, and consider what you’re trying to accomplish.

Even when things seem impossible, there’s always a chance for you if you have the patience, determination, and enlightenment to persevere.

To work together to help you get moving in the right direction in your life, click on the blue button below to book a 15-minute, no obligation “Get to know you” call.

Going alone on creating a better life is difficult. Find out how working with a Life Coach can make the journey to success and a better life easier.

Book the call now.

To your success

Michael

Check out my programs at Confidence and Life Coaching by clicking on the logo below:

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