Self-Blame and Self-Criticism Is Not Healthy

2024-07-29 ~ adminlife

Self-blame refers to a person’s tendency to consider themselves at fault, especially when things don’t go as well as planned, even if the cause or events were beyond their control. A pattern of self-blame leads a person to feel constantly guilty and inferior.

Although the tendency to self-blame can make a person seem humble and unassuming, it can also inhibit them in becoming more creative and wanting to strive to do better.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

People who have a persistent habit of blaming themselves for anything that goes wrong will usually avoid taking the initiative. This is because they prefer to stay inconspicuous so they won’t receive extra (negatively perceived) attention, and in doing so, hope that others will have similar expectations of their capabilities.

Self-blame is also correlated with being self-critical

Being self-critical is the act of telling ourselves negative and destructive thoughts, such as being inadequate, shameful, or a failure. We almost all have a tendency to be self-critical to some degree.

However, the problem begins when this becomes a habit; a negative, self-reinforcing loop. This is because constant self-criticism causes a person to become stuck with negative thoughts and emotions about themselves. They feel guilt and shame to the extent that they no longer feel any desire to achieve. If left unaddressed, this inaction can lead to depression or other mental health issues.

Self-criticism deprives an individual of being able to look at their own efforts or abilities objectively. It robs them of being able to engage in healthy self-reflection, which would allow them to be more accepting of any past mistakes.

A little bit of self-blame and self-criticism is okay

We can get away with a little bit of self-blame and self-criticism occasionally. However, if we continually beat ourselves up and start to do it more often than not, then we may not be able to stop and do an objective reality check.

Remember, your mind is incredibly powerful. If you continually feed it with self-blaming and self-criticizing words, those words will get louder and more believed and ingrained. In turn this can increase your risk of developing anxiety or depression.

Self-blame and self-criticism can be beneficial to some degree

They do help us ‘get real’ about ourselves. Sometimes we may be a little guilty of believing our own press. Some critical self-evaluation allows us to identify and accept our imperfections and take conscious steps to improve them. However, if self-blame and self-criticism become the norm, it can paralyze us into inaction.

Consequently, you will be hindered from achieving your full potential. Therefore, it’s important to keep self-blame and self-criticism within healthy levels. Simply, it should be a feedback mechanism, not a tool for consistent self-deprecation.

Steps To Keep Your Self-Blaming and Self-Criticism In Check

Focus your criticism on your behaviour

Behaviours can be changed. This is why when your inner voice starts to be critical, it is time to address your behaviours. Be careful not to criticize your attributes, as you can’t always change them, or need to. Your attributes are a part of your uniqueness.

If you blame yourself for not being super-intelligent, you run the risk of drowning in frustration and depression. If instead you more correctly blame or criticize your habit of spending too much time on your smartphone instead of studying, then chances are you can find ways to rectify the behaviour, and therefore change the result.

Know the difference between taking responsibility and self-blaming

Instead of being quick to blame or criticize yourself, try to assess the situation first. It is important that you look into every aspect of yourself, and see how your actions, inactions, and the words you have left unspoken, affected the entire outcome of the situation. Accept your mistakes and come up with ways on how you can improve yourself as well as the situation in the future.

Challenge your self-critical inner voice

When your inner voice tells you that you are lazy, not worthy or inadequate, challenge these thoughts. Start by creating a journal of the things that you like about yourself, and your strengths. Creating this type of journal will help you appreciate yourself more and criticize yourself less.

If you work on improving yourself, your skills, abilities, and behaviour you will find it easier to get rid of your negative self-critical inner voice.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 45-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P. P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Photo by Marvelous Raphael on Unsplash

Enhance Your Self-Confidence with These 8 Actions

2024-07-26 ~ adminlife

Self-confidence is a crucial attribute that can significantly impact your personal and professional life. When self-confidence wanes, it is essential to take proactive steps to restore it. This article outlines eight effective actions to boost your self-confidence and regain control over your life.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Steps to Boost Self-Confidence

Create and Complete a Short To-Do List

Start with manageable tasks. While some experts suggest tackling the most challenging task first, this may not be the best approach when your self-confidence is low. Begin with easier tasks to build momentum.
Demonstrate productivity. Each time you plan and execute tasks, you reinforce your ability to be productive and successful, thereby enhancing your self-confidence.

Keep Your Major Goals Private

Avoid premature disclosure. Sharing your significant goals with others can expose you to negative feedback, which may undermine your confidence and commitment.
Focus on your journey. Concentrate on your objectives without external distractions.

Improve Your Posture

Adopt confident body language. How you carry yourself affects how you feel. Stand and sit tall to project and feel more confident.
Observe and emulate. Watch confident individuals or characters in movies and mimic their posture and movements to boost your own confidence.

List Your Positive Qualities

Acknowledge your strengths. Compile a list of your positive attributes. If necessary, seek input from close friends or family members.
Use as a reference. Keep this list accessible for moments when you need a confidence boost.

Reflect on Past Accomplishments

Revisit your successes. Take time to recall and document your past achievements. This practice can remind you of your capabilities and enhance your self-assurance.

Eliminate What You Are Just Tolerating

Remove irritants. Identify and eliminate elements in your life that you have been tolerating, such as unneeded items, annoying habits, or negative influences.
Assert your worth. Tell yourself that you deserve better and take action to improve your environment and circumstances.

Engage in Activities You Excel At

Leverage your strengths. Spend time each day doing something you are proficient in. This will naturally boost your self-confidence.
Reinforce positive experiences. Regularly engaging in activities where you excel can provide a steady source of confidence.

Exercise Regularly

Boost physical and mental health. Exercise not only improves physical health but also enhances willpower, stamina, and self-belief. It reduces anxiety, which can further bolster self-confidence.
Incorporate daily exercise. Aim to include at least some physical activity in your daily routine.

Conclusion

While it may not be feasible to feel confident at all times, these strategies can help you significantly increase your self-confidence. By taking these actions, you can uncover the self-confidence that is always within you. Remember, self-confidence is attainable through deliberate and consistent effort.

Take control of your confidence today and unlock your full potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

Photo by Brigitte Tohm on Unsplash

The Power of the Mind: How Focus Can Change Your Life

2024-07-24 ~ adminlife

The mind’s power is immense, and you can use it to achieve anything you want. Here, we will show you how to tap into the power of your mind and zoom in on the things you want in order to transform your reality. We will also cover how to stay focused and motivated while avoiding distractions.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

How to Use Your Mind to Change Your Reality

Learn How to Use Your Mind Positively

The mind is a powerful tool that can help you manifest your desires. Focusing on your goals and taking inspired action are the first steps toward turning abstract thoughts into reality.

Get Clear About What You Want: Understand your goals. What do you want to achieve? Once you are clear about your objectives, focusing on them becomes easier.
Visualize Your Success: See yourself achieving your goals and living the life you desire. Imagine taking inspired action every day.

Believe in Yourself

Self-belief is crucial for achieving your goals. Doubts can stifle your progress, but believing in yourself can propel you forward.

Make a Firm Decision: There is redemptive power in making a steadfast decision to change your life. You can save your life when you make a firm decision to transform it.

Take Action

Taking inspired steps toward your goals will yield results and change your life.

How to Stay Focused

Distractions are ubiquitous, making it essential to stay focused if you want to progress. As world-renowned film director George Lucas said, “Always remember, your focus determines your reality.”

What you focus on will determine the quality of your life. If you concentrate on the problematic aspects of your life, they will grow. Conversely, focusing on the positive aspects will multiply them.

Steps to Stay Focused

Simplify Your Goals
- Strip Down to the Essentials: Having several life goals is beneficial, but focusing on multiple goals simultaneously can be overwhelming. Analyze your goal list and prioritize the most important ones.
Prioritize Your Objectives
- Make a List: Identify your objectives and pick the essential ones. For instance, if improving your finances is a priority, get clear on how much you need to make and the actions you will take to achieve this goal.
Reduce Your Task List
- Focus on Three Vital Tasks: Successful entrepreneurs like Alex Hormozi focus on three essential tasks each day. Instead of creating extensive task lists, they prioritize the most critical activities.

The Importance of Taking Action and Making Progress

Taking action and making progress toward your goals helps keep you motivated. Progress is essential for maintaining high motivation. It could be small steps or large ones; the key is to keep moving in the right direction. Albert Einstein said, “Life is like riding a bicycle; to keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

Tips for Taking Action and Making Progress

Avoid Overthinking
- Just Start: If you overthink, take a deep breath and begin. It does not have to be perfect; starting is the most crucial step.
Break Down Your Goals
- Small, Manageable Steps: Breaking down significant goals into smaller, manageable steps can make them less daunting and more achievable.
Focus on the Process
- Enjoy the Journey: Concentrate on the process rather than the destination. For example, if your goal is to write a book, focus on writing a set number of words each day.

The Benefits of a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset can significantly impact your ability to achieve success.

Take More Risks
- See Possibilities: A positive outlook allows you to see opportunities instead of obstacles, making you more willing to take risks.
Increased Resilience
- Persevere Through Setbacks: A positive mindset helps you view setbacks as temporary, encouraging you to keep pushing forward.
Attract Better Opportunities
- Positive Attraction: A positive mindset attracts positive people and opportunities.
Focus on Achievements
- Avoid Dwelling on Failures: A positive mindset helps you focus on your goals rather than past failures or negative thoughts.

The power of the mind is unfathomable. When you focus on what you want, you can achieve anything. The key is to take action and make progress towards your goals. A positive mindset is essential for success.

So, if you want to achieve your goals, start by making a conscious effort to change your perspective. Set small goals, reduce your daily workload, and zoom in on the process. When you do this, success will follow.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

Photo by Anmol Rattan on Unsplash

Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

2024-07-222024-07-22 ~ adminlife

In today’s fast-paced world, the concept of changing your mindset to achieve what you desire is increasingly popular. But how do you know when it’s time for a change? Your mindset, which you’ve developed over the years, might be hindering your growth and happiness, especially if you’ve been going through a rough patch. When negative days outnumber the positive ones, it’s a clear sign that it’s time for a mindset shift. Here are some key indicators that it might be time to change your mindset.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Understanding Mindset

Our mindset shapes our thoughts, attitudes, and ultimately our actions and feelings. A negative mindset leads to blaming and pessimism, whereas a positive mindset fosters a healthier and more productive environment. Recognizing when your mindset needs a change is crucial for your well-being and success.

Six Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

Constant Focus on Failure

You find yourself dwelling on failures rather than celebrating successes. Each setback feels like a personal indictment, reinforcing a negative self-image.

Solution: Start a success diary. Document and acknowledge every success, no matter how small, to shift your focus from failure to achievement.

Victim Mentality

You perceive yourself as a victim of circumstances, holding onto past hurts and traumas.

Solution: Practice forgiveness and let go of the past. This mental shift can free you from the shackles of previous experiences and open the door to new opportunities.

Social Media Envy

You compare your life to the seemingly perfect lives presented on social media, leading to feelings of inadequacy and envy.

Solution: Cultivate gratitude. Focus on the positives in your life and appreciate what you have. Remember, many would love to have what you take for granted.

Viewing Work as a Chore

Work feels like a burden, something you dread and complain about rather than an opportunity.

Solution: Reframe your perspective on work. See it as a means of contributing value to others and as an opportunity for personal impact and growth.

Obsession with the Uncontrollable

You spend a lot of time complaining about things you can’t control, like the weather, traffic, or other people’s actions.

Solution: Shift your focus to what you can control—your actions and thoughts. Take proactive steps to improve your situation and find a sense of accomplishment.

Lack of Gratitude

You focus on what’s wrong with your life and the world, often overlooking the good.

Solution: Make it a habit to identify and appreciate the positives in your life every day. Recognize that everyone is imperfect and continuously learning.

Conclusion

When you recognize that a negative mindset is the root cause of your unhappiness and discontent, it’s time to make a change. By addressing these signs and implementing the suggested solutions, you can shift your mindset to foster a more positive, abundant, and fulfilling life.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.P.S Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books and many more at

https://www.smashwords.com/shelves/promos/

Photo by Maxim Berg on Unsplash

Mastering Procrastination: A Pathway to Success

2024-07-19 ~ adminlife

Success is often perceived as the result of extraordinary ideas or seemingly impossible feats. However, it is predominantly the outcome of consistently executing mundane tasks. Success is achieved by doing the things that many are unwilling to do. Whether the goal is weight loss, career advancement, academic excellence, or financial prosperity, the journey is frequently unenjoyable.

In most situations, the necessary actions are evident. The true challenge lies in motivating oneself to undertake these actions.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Effectively managing procrastination involves compelling oneself to perform tasks that are undesirable. This practice is invaluable for cultivating success. Overcoming procrastination equips you with the ability to achieve virtually any goal.

Understanding the Procrastination Process

Initial Thought: The process begins with the contemplation of a task. This is the starting point of any activity.
Emotional Response: Each thought elicits an emotional response. Positive emotions facilitate task initiation, whereas negative emotions hinder it. For instance, it is easy to get off the couch for a snack but challenging to do so for a less enjoyable task like painting the gutters.
Avoidance: If the task evokes negative emotions, it is avoided. Each individual has consistent procrastination habits. Identifying these habits can be insightful. Make a list of activities you engage in to avoid tasks.
Action Trigger: Eventually, the discomfort of procrastination outweighs the discomfort of the task itself, prompting action. Tasks such as paying taxes, taking out the trash, applying for jobs, or completing assignments are eventually addressed.

This procrastination cycle is common but counterproductive for those striving to advance or maintain order in their lives.

An Alternative Approach to Unpleasant Tasks

Reframe Your Perspective: When a task feels daunting, view it as an opportunity to develop success skills. This mindset differentiates the highly successful from the habitual procrastinators. Successful individuals tackle challenging tasks head-on.
Acknowledge Your Feelings: Take a moment to sit with your emotions. Close your eyes and breathe slowly. Identify where you feel discomfort in your body-whether it is in your head, chest, or stomach. Focus on relaxing that area and releasing tension.
Commit to Five Minutes: Dedicate just five minutes to the task you wish to avoid. Starting is often the most difficult part, so become proficient at initiating tasks. Frequently, you will find yourself continuing beyond the initial five minutes. Acknowledge your effort and persistence.
Practice Self-Forgiveness: Accept that some days will be more productive than others. Developing the skill to overcome discomfort and procrastination is challenging. When setbacks occur, forgive yourself and resolve to keep trying.

Procrastination is an intrinsic human behaviour, likely beneficial in our evolutionary past when poor decisions could be catastrophic. Our brains required substantial convincing before taking action.

In contemporary times, delaying unpleasant tasks may seem logical, but it is counterproductive.

Decide that the present moment is the right time to act. Utilize your procrastination tendencies as a catalyst for learning and achieving success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program.

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

Now is your best chance to find my entire ebook collection for a promotional price at @Smashwords as part of their Annual Summer/Winter Sale! Find my books at

https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/Michael_W

Photo by cottonbro studio