Finding the Right Moment to Speak Matters

2025-01-23 ~ adminlife

Have you ever hesitated to say something important, only to realize that the perfect moment had passed? Waiting too long to speak up can often result in missed opportunities. The longer you remain silent, the harder it becomes to break through the mental barriers that hold you back. Finding an early opening to share your thoughts can be the key to ensuring your voice is heard when it matters most.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

I have a program that can help you to discover what is holding you back from achieving your goals as well as help you set an attainable goal related to where you are in your life and where you are trying to be.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

The hesitation to speak up is often fuelled by overthinking. You may find yourself second-guessing whether your point is valid or fearing how others might react. This delay gives your mind time to construct excuses, making the task seem even more daunting. The longer this internal debate goes on, the more likely you are to convince yourself that staying silent is the safest option. This cycle can quickly become a habit, leaving you frustrated and unheard.

Recognizing an early opportunity to contribute can help you avoid this spiral. By speaking up early, you not only establish your presence in the conversation but also set the tone for your participation. Early contributions don’t need to be groundbreaking. Even asking a clarifying question or agreeing with a point made by someone else can create a natural opening for you to express more complex ideas later. Taking this step signals to others — and to yourself — that your input is valuable.

When you wait too long, the conversation may shift, and the relevance of your thoughts may fade. Finding an early moment ensures your ideas remain timely and connected to the discussion. Timing plays a crucial role in how your message is received. Sharing your perspective when it aligns with the current focus keeps the conversation fluid and positions you as someone engaged and thoughtful.

Actionable Step: Set a Personal Speaking Goal

At your next meeting or group discussion, challenge yourself to speak within the first five minutes. This doesn’t mean you need to have a perfectly crafted argument ready. Start small by contributing a simple comment, such as agreeing with a point or asking a question. The act of participating early will help you overcome the mental resistance that builds with prolonged silence.

If you’re unsure when to jump in, listen actively and look for natural pauses in the conversation. These moments often signal an opportunity to speak without interrupting. Practice framing your thoughts concisely to ensure your input fits seamlessly into the discussion. If nerves get the better of you, take a deep breath and remind yourself that your contribution doesn’t need to be flawless — it just needs to be authentic.

By finding an early opening, you not only increase your chances of being heard but also reduce the stress that comes with waiting. Speaking early can set a positive precedent for the rest of the conversation, making it easier for you to chime in again as the discussion progresses.

Overcoming the fear of speaking up starts with breaking the habit of silence. Finding an early opportunity to share your thoughts can prevent hesitation from taking over and help you build confidence in your voice. Each time you practice this, you’ll discover that expressing yourself becomes less intimidating and more empowering. Every early contribution reinforces the idea that your perspective matters and deserves to be part of the conversation.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S Don’t forget to visit Confidology to learn more about the program. If you are not ready to commit to a full program, I have a self-paced course on Udemy that may be of interest. You can find out about the course and register at Confidence and Motivation Development and Maintenance

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Written Words Can Sharpen Your Spoken Voice

2025-01-22 ~ adminlife

Have you ever left a meeting or conversation thinking, “I wish I’d said that differently”? It’s a common feeling, especially for people who find it challenging to express their thoughts on the spot. For those who prefer time to reflect, writing down what you want to say can be a game-changer. By organizing your ideas beforehand, you not only clarify your message but also build confidence in your ability to communicate effectively.

Confidence in your abilities to go after your goals can sometimes be difficult to find or keep.

It can sometimes take time to discover the confidence you have inside you. This can be especially true if you are trying something new.

This program also works with you to build up your confidence in being able to reach your goal.

You can find out more about this program at Confidology, a funny name but a serious program.

You can contact me to talk about this or any other aspect of confidence and success at michael@coachmichaelw.com

Visit the site and read through the program description.

Putting thoughts into words gives you a sense of control over what you want to convey. Writing allows you to explore and refine your ideas without the pressure of real-time reactions. For people who tend to freeze in the moment or struggle with nervousness, this approach transforms speaking into a manageable task rather than an overwhelming hurdle. A clear, written plan serves as a roadmap, guiding you toward a focused and impactful delivery.

One of the most significant advantages of writing down your thoughts is the opportunity to practice. Think of it as rehearsing for an important performance. Reading your words aloud helps you identify areas where your tone or phrasing might need adjustment. It also prepares you to handle interruptions or questions, as you’re already familiar with your key points. When it’s time to speak, the words feel natural because you’ve already practised them.

Writing can also help combat the fear of blanking out during a critical moment. Having a written outline or even a few key phrases on hand provides a safety net. Instead of worrying about forgetting your message, you can focus on delivering it with clarity and confidence. This sense of preparedness can be particularly helpful in high-stakes situations, such as job interviews, presentations or negotiations.

Actionable Step: Write and Review Your Key Points

Choose an upcoming situation where you know you’ll need to speak up. It could be a team meeting, a conversation with a mentor or even a casual discussion with friends. Take a few minutes to jot down the main ideas you want to express. Be concise but specific. If you’re preparing for a work meeting, structure your points around the topic being discussed. If it’s a personal conversation, focus on the emotions or outcomes you want to communicate.

Once you’ve written your thoughts, practice saying them out loud. Pay attention to your tone, pacing and emphasis. Adjust your phrasing if anything feels awkward or unclear. If possible, record yourself and listen to the playback. This process helps you refine your delivery and ensures that your message comes across as intended.

In addition to practising, bring your notes with you if the situation allows. While you don’t want to rely on them entirely, having a written reference can be reassuring. If you lose your train of thought, a quick glance at your notes can help you get back on track without missing a beat.

Writing down your thoughts also forces you to think critically about your message. Are your points relevant to the audience? Are they concise and easy to understand? By answering these questions during the writing process, you save time and prevent misunderstandings later. A well-prepared speaker is more likely to capture attention and inspire confidence.

Some people worry that relying on written preparation might make them sound rehearsed or inauthentic. However, the opposite is usually true. Preparation frees you to focus on connection rather than scrambling for the right words. It shows that you respect the time and attention of those you’re speaking to, which enhances your credibility and impact.

Over time, the habit of writing down your thoughts can improve your overall communication skills. The process trains you to think clearly and articulate your ideas with precision. Even in situations where you don’t have time to write, you’ll find that your practice has sharpened your ability to organize and express your thoughts quickly.

Every conversation or presentation is an opportunity to build trust and understanding. By taking the time to prepare through writing, you increase the likelihood that your voice will be heard and your message remembered. Whether you’re advocating for an idea, resolving a conflict or simply sharing your perspective, preparation turns potential hesitation into confident expression.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

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Small Steps Build Big Confidence in Speaking Up

2025-01-21 ~ adminlife

Have you ever felt paralyzed by the thought of speaking up, even when you had something important to say? The fear of being judged or rejected can be overwhelming, especially if you’re not used to asserting yourself. The good news is that building the courage to speak up doesn’t require a giant leap. It starts with small, manageable steps that help you build confidence over time.

Before you can start to plan your success goals, there are many things that you need to understand before you can be sure that the goals you set are really the ones you want.

One of those things is to determine if there are any Limiting Beliefs that can stop you from actually achieving those goals.

I have a self-study Limiting Belief Program that you can go through to determine what your Limiting Beliefs are and how you can remove them.

You can read more and register for the program at Limiting Beliefs Program on my Confidence and Life Coaching website.

Start your journey on your path to success by identifying and removing your Limiting Beliefs so that you make the journey a lot easier.

You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

When faced with the idea of expressing yourself, it’s natural to want to avoid the discomfort altogether. Many people fall into the trap of waiting for the “perfect moment” to start speaking up, only to realize that the moment never comes. By starting small, you remove much of the pressure and make the process of finding your voice more approachable.

Speaking up in one-on-one situations is one of the easiest ways to begin. Whether it’s sharing an idea with a trusted colleague, expressing your preferences to a friend or politely correcting a small mistake, these interactions provide a safe space to practice. They’re less intimidating than addressing a group and allow you to experiment with different ways of expressing yourself. Over time, these small victories add up, giving you the confidence to tackle more challenging scenarios.

Starting small also helps you build a positive feedback loop. The more you speak up, the more you realize that most people value your input. This realization encourages you to continue sharing your thoughts. You may even notice that people begin to seek out your opinions more frequently, reinforcing the idea that your voice has value.

Another advantage of starting small is that it helps you develop the skills necessary to handle larger, more complex situations. Just as a musician practices scales before performing a symphony, practising small interactions prepares you for the demands of public speaking or high-pressure discussions. With each step, you become more comfortable organizing your thoughts, maintaining eye contact and using a confident tone of voice.

Actionable Step: Start with One Low-Stakes Conversation

Identify one situation this week where you can practice speaking up. It could be something as simple as asking a question in class, sharing an idea during a team meeting or voicing your opinion about a movie choice with friends. Approach the conversation with the mindset that it’s okay to feel a little nervous. Focus on delivering one clear message, and remind yourself that this is a step toward a larger goal.

To make the process even smoother, plan what you want to say in advance. Write down a sentence or two summarizing your main point. If you’re worried about how the other person might respond, prepare a follow-up comment that shows you’re open to discussion. For instance, you might say, “I see your point, but I think this approach could also work because…” Practicing these phrases will help you feel more prepared and less likely to freeze in the moment.

While small steps are important, it’s equally crucial to be kind to yourself along the way. There will be times when you feel awkward or stumble over your words, and that’s okay. Growth rarely happens without a few missteps. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, celebrate the fact that you made an effort. Reflect on what you can improve next time, and keep moving forward.

As you build confidence, you’ll notice that speaking up becomes less about overcoming fear and more about sharing your authentic self. The more you practice, the less intimidating it feels to express your thoughts, even in situations where you might once have stayed silent. This shift in mindset opens up new opportunities for connection, collaboration and personal growth.

Starting small is about more than just easing into the habit of speaking up. It’s about proving to yourself that you have the courage and ability to be heard. Each time you take a step forward, you’re rewriting the narrative that kept you silent in the past. You’re building a new story — one where your voice matters and your contributions make a difference.

To talk about any aspect of success or working with a Life Coach to help you to achieve success, you can book a 30-minute call by clicking on the blue button below.

Don’t try to do all of this by yourself, ask and receive the guidance that can get you moving towards your own success.

Working together can help you overcome personal and professional barriers, ensuring you reach your highest potential.

Nothing happens until action is taken.

To your success.

Michael

P.S if you want to find out more about my programs just check out the site Confidence and Life Coaching

P.P.S. If you enjoy reading these articles on my blog, I have more books that have more of this type of information that you can find out more about at Books to Read. You can buy these ebooks at many on-line book stores. The links to the bookstores are at the link above.

If you have an Amazon Kindle account, there are different books at Amazon – Michael W (author)

P.P.P.S. You can download a free PDF containing five articles on Limiting Beliefs and how to overcome them and achieve things in your career and personal life.

The PDF can be downloaded here (and you don’t have to register or provide an email address) Limiting Beliefs Download

Download the file and go over the other material that you can find on the Confidence and Life Coaching website.

P.P.P.P.S. If you are ready to move even further into the process of Identifying and removing and replacing your Limiting Beliefs, you should consider my short Limiting Belief’s Coaching Program.

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Preparation Unlocks Confidence in Speaking Up

2025-01-20 ~ adminlife

Have you ever walked away from a conversation or meeting thinking, “I should have said something”? The regret of staying silent often stems from feeling unprepared to speak up at the moment. While spontaneity has its place, trying to “wing it” when it comes to advocating for yourself or your ideas can be daunting. Preparation is the key to breaking through this hesitation and ensuring your voice is heard.